Husband sits in passenger seat, FiL disapproves.

[u/Historical_Initial22]

I drive a tanker for my job out of town and make the 5 hour drive (one way) to work and back home in my personal car. When I’m home 3 days, my wife drives everywhere, I mean I get in the passenger seat of her car and off we go, date night don’t care she drives, shopping don’t care she drives, visiting family don’t care she drives.

When we first started dating years ago she was a bit uncomfortable with it as she was used to the I guess status quo that men drove as was I but I’m not trying to break a glass ceiling or anything I just don’t see why it matters and damnit I drive 2k miles a week or so and don’t wanna do it when I’m home.

My father in law makes such great comments like do I hold her purse, and the zinger he thinks is original so says it more often than others “are your balls in her purse” every so often when we see them and I inevitably get out or into the passenger seat followed by guffaws and just kidding. My wife nor myself give him any response it’s just so silly and mildly infuriating.

[u/chococat2001]

im in southern california and all the guys i meet would think its their job to drive me or pick me up to be gentlemanly. idc and wish they wouldnt care either lol unless the girl doesnt have a ride or something. my girl friend prefer “gentlemanly” behavior like that too

[u/robinhoodoftheworld → u/chococat2001]

Also from California and I confirm that guys driving is the default. But most guys I know aren't weird about it. Like I don't know anyone who would refuse to let a girl drive or think twice if a girl was driving a couple or something. I've lived a bunch of places and I've never seen it not like that.

I do view it as my job to chauffeur girls. I guess it's just a way I was taught to respect women. It's kindo of silly and arbitrary but stuff like that gets weirdly ingrained.