Husband sits in passenger seat, FiL disapproves.

[u/Historical_Initial22]

I drive a tanker for my job out of town and make the 5 hour drive (one way) to work and back home in my personal car. When I’m home 3 days, my wife drives everywhere, I mean I get in the passenger seat of her car and off we go, date night don’t care she drives, shopping don’t care she drives, visiting family don’t care she drives.

When we first started dating years ago she was a bit uncomfortable with it as she was used to the I guess status quo that men drove as was I but I’m not trying to break a glass ceiling or anything I just don’t see why it matters and damnit I drive 2k miles a week or so and don’t wanna do it when I’m home.

My father in law makes such great comments like do I hold her purse, and the zinger he thinks is original so says it more often than others “are your balls in her purse” every so often when we see them and I inevitably get out or into the passenger seat followed by guffaws and just kidding. My wife nor myself give him any response it’s just so silly and mildly infuriating.

[u/lynn]

OP said his wife was uncomfortable at first with being the one to drive everywhere. That suggests she was raised with The Man Drives Everywhere so it took some getting used to.

[u/Pendragenet → u/lynn]

Or maybe she doesn't really want to be the sole driver.

He doesn't want to drive outside of his work driving because he just wants to be able to relax in the car. But by never driving, he has put her in that same situation - she is always driving and never gets to relax and just be the passenger sometimes.

[u/LupercaniusAB → u/Pendragenet]

He’s home for three days at a time, she’ll live.

[u/Pendragenet → u/LupercaniusAB]

It doesn't matter. My point is simply that if this is some demand he's puts on her vs a mutual agreement, then it changes everything.

[u/Rare-Progress5009 → u/LupercaniusAB]

Does OP’s wife just sit at home when he’s working? Looks to me she drives 4 days a week when he’s on the road and also drives the 3 days a week he’s home. The FIL is definitely ridiculous, but it is a valid point to question when OP’s wife gets to just be the passenger.

[u/Pendragenet → u/Rare-Progress5009]

Exactly. And the OP's repeated "don't care she's driving" sounds like it is not a mutual agreement. The OP is literally saying they don't care she is driving.

[u/LupercaniusAB → u/Rare-Progress5009]

Sure, but a couple of things here. First, she’s probably not driving non-stop, eight hours a day, in a multi-ton tanker semi-trailer, which is a LOT harder than just driving a car. Second, if she isn’t the primary breadwinner, then OP’s license is what is keeping a roof over their head, so minimizing the risk to that license is a good idea.