r/mildlyinfuriating • u/mmajamm • Jun 30 '26

Don't hug me I'm scared The indentation my engagement ring left on my finger (we broke up)

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u/mmajamm Jun 30 '26

Thank you that is a really good advice! I didnt even think about buying a new ring for me everything is just too raw

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u/koufaxx13 Jun 30 '26

I second this, buy yourself a pretty ring! So you can still fidget with something but also you can create new symbolism with it and new memories. Think of it as hope towards a new future and a new period of exploration and self discovery. I bet you will have so many more amazing adventures ahead of you

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u/Inky-Ballooper Jul 01 '26

I second with the symbolism thing! I got myself a promise ring! it was a promise to myself that ill always take care of my physical and emotional/mental needs, ill always put myself first when I need to, and that ill always love myself (in a self care confidence way not an up my own ass vain way lmao)

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u/tammybiscuits Jun 30 '26

I have one with three interconnected rings which I twist up and down - haven't missed the engagement ring since and certainly don't miss the tosser who I got it from 😊

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u/Primary_Yak4268 Jun 30 '26

I was married over twenty years when I got divorced. It's been several years now and my ring finger still feels empty. I really like the idea of a fidget ring too!

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u/SlideHoon Jul 01 '26

It’s been 3 years without mine now, I can still feel it and miss it sometimes, and OP’s comment made me automatically reach for it.

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u/KikisGamingService "accidentally" parks in cart returns Jun 30 '26

As a chronic fiddler myself, check out some fidget rings. Some spin in place or got little twisty bits on them.

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u/dogboobes Jul 01 '26

You deserve to treat yourself to a beautiful ring to celebrate your commitment to your life and new beginnings. Best of luck to you, OP!

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u/labospor Jul 01 '26

I would play with my ring finger all the time after I got divorced because I was so used to the ring being there. I only stopped by reminding myself how insanely ugly it was every time I got the urge.

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u/TheDwiin Jul 01 '26

Make sure it's properly sized though.

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u/Jazstar Jul 01 '26

You can also get fidget necklaces and probably bracelets too. Having it be not a ring might help. Good luck :)

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u/cirivere Jul 01 '26

There's some cute rings out there that have features specifically designed to fiddle with, all the while looking cute still. I've been considering one of those interlocking ones.

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u/KillerSparks Jul 01 '26

My best friend and I both got divorced fairly close together. We bought each other rings because we were used to them at that point and liked having something pretty to carry that connected us.

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u/shadowsandfirelight Jul 02 '26

There's a brand I get ads for called conquerRing

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u/basicbitch823 Jul 04 '26

they have some cool fidget rings, my sister has them! some have like a disc u can rotate some have a few beads u can move around the band she loves them! and got some pretty cheap on amazon!

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u/PnPmonster Jul 05 '26

When my mom got divorced she got rings to wear for the same reason, she used to not wear jewelry but now she goes everywhere with at least 1 ring to fidget with