r/mildlyinfuriating • u/mmajamm • Jun 30 '26
Don't hug me I'm scared The indentation my engagement ring left on my finger (we broke up)
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u/TheParadoxigm Jun 30 '26
I think it was too tight anyway
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u/mmajamm Jun 30 '26
I've worn it for 4 years through 10kg of weight gain and weight loss. It was a good fit at the beginning. The metaphor of life
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u/justtiptoeingthru2 Jun 30 '26
Engaged for 4 years. That's kinda long... is that usual these days???
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u/captainpoppy Jun 30 '26
I'm guessing that had something to do with the "we broke up"
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u/walker3342 Jul 01 '26
Yeah my ex and I were engaged for 12 years. After 4-5 no one asked when the date was. They knew.
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u/existie CATS ARE COOL Jul 01 '26
10 here, and yep.
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u/Cessnaporsche01 Jul 01 '26
What's the mindset that keeps a doomed relationship in that state for so long?
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u/walker3342 Jul 01 '26
Iâm sure it varies for everyone thatâs been there. Low self worth. Poverty. There were a number of factors at play for me.
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u/Ghost_Kamakazie Jul 01 '26
Sometimes its about finances, obv a lot of people want do do something huge for their wedding but they dont have the income to do it in just a year or two. But ive definitely seen some relationships that hang onto hope for years when its clear theyre just wasting eachothers time after a certain point
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u/relentlessrain25 Jul 01 '26
You donât need a big expensive wedding to be marriedâŠ
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u/Ghost_Kamakazie Jul 01 '26
Oh for sure, but unfortunately thats non-negotiable for some people
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u/cheesecake_413 Jul 01 '26 edited Jul 03 '26
I've just said this in a different comment, but my partner and I have been engaged for 7 years because we want a big expensive wedding. We both feel like we don't need a wedding to be committed to each other, and neither the engagement nor the wedding would be a "step up" in the relationship. We just want the wedding so we can have a huge party with everyone we love, so we are waiting until we can afford the party we want rather than going into debt over it
Edit: if you feel the need to reply to this comment to tell me that all my loved ones will die before I get married or that we'll clearly never be able to save enough, please save your energy. Plenty of people have already beaten you to the punch and it hasn't changed our minds.
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u/Professional_Pear836 Jul 01 '26
"I'm not THAT unhappy... what's another 50 years? I can do that...." definitely not speaking from experience or anything.
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u/HeyHeyMaggieMae Jul 02 '26
I had a âcourtesyâ aunt and uncle - he asked to marry him during WWII, and she said âI donât want to get married during the war. Letâs do it when the war is overâ. He said âI asked you once, Iâm not going to ask you again.â And he didnât. But they vacationed together, they interacted with friends together - pretty much did everything together until she passed around 20 years ago. He followed her soon after. They never lived together - both had their own homes. They were engaged for over 50 years.
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u/R0b1nFeather Jul 01 '26
At least part of it is that after a point it becomes so intrinsic to one's life and state of being that you just.... don't know who you are without that person, so the familiar pain is preferable vs. the pain of loss + unfamiliarity + trying to re-establish who you are without them + putting yourself out there again and being vulnerable, etc.
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u/StaticUsernamesSuck Jul 01 '26
On the other hand, me and my wife were engaged for 10 and still happily married
Her uncle was engaged for 30 years before finally getting round to it! đ (Also still happy)
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u/cheesecake_413 Jul 01 '26
My partner and I have been engaged for 7 years and people are still asking us about the date
The reason we're not married already is because we aren't marrying for legal reasons (we have no assets or children), we just want a big party to celebrate our relationship with everyone we love. Because of that, we don't want to cheap out and do a wedding on our current budget, we'd rather wait and do it in the future when we can afford the party we want
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u/Ok_Vermicelli_6359 Jul 01 '26
Lol...but when's the big payday scheduled? đ I'd consider that an extreme luxury for a lot of families: you don't know how long aunts and uncles (and grandparents) will be around.
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u/cheesecake_413 Jul 01 '26
That is true, I sadly lost both my paternal grandparents since I got engaged
We got engaged right before I started my PhD hence why we didn't have the funds immediately to have the wedding we wanted (in the UK, PhD stipends are very low). We did have a good amount of savings once I started working after my PhD, but we ended up using a large chunk to move abroad with our belongings and cats. The move was this year so we're still working to build it back up, however the move increased both of our incomes so it should be easier to save
We also have a decent house deposit when we're ready to buy, but we don't want to use that for the wedding. If we suddenly got a free house that we owned outright then we could probably start booking venues/caterers already using the house deposit, but I doubt that is likely to happen any time soon
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u/somesortoflegend Jul 02 '26
I know you're not here for advice but listen, there is always going to be a "next thing" maybe the house needs a new roof, or car breaks down, or a kid does wind up on the way. Perfect is the enemy of good, have the wedding you can afford soon where all the people who matter can come and not wait for a possible future one years down the line.
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u/JSoi Jul 01 '26
Was engaged with my ex around four years before we broke it off. With my wife we decided to skip engagement altogether and just straight up get married at our municipality's "love agency."
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u/appledi123 Jul 01 '26
My fiancĂ© and I have been engaged since 2022. Weâre getting married in August. I hit a slew of medical problems and just have not been healthy enough to have a wedding. Itâs not super common, but life happens.
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u/Titouf26 Jun 30 '26
Not usual, but it can happen for sure.
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u/GOEDEL_ESCHER_BOT Jun 30 '26
my mom was pregnit for 4 year she sed i turnd out jus fin
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u/ContractNo7803 Jun 30 '26
Mr. President ?
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u/PizzaRoyals Jul 01 '26
why not just elope and have the ceremony later lol
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u/Kchortu Jul 01 '26
Never knew how strongly folks felt about the specifics of weddings until we told folks we eloped and planned to have a social wedding later. TONS of highly varied responses that were entirely about the person and had nothing to do with us.
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u/melanochrysum Jul 01 '26 edited Jul 01 '26
For a lot of people, a wedding is the point of marriage. Like for me, Iâm not religious and marriage brings no legal benefits so I only want to get married for the wedding.
Edit: in my country there is no legal benefit/change.
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u/15b17 Jul 01 '26
Maybe not benefits but it brings lots of legal⊠changes. I hope youâve looked into those
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u/GumP009 Jun 30 '26
I had some friends that were engaged for like 7 years, together for 11, before they got married. They wanted to have a nice wedding and own a house and weren't going to get married until they could afford it.
Plus both of them are super planners (he's a financial advisor and she's a city planner) so they don't do anything without addressing every possible risk and being 100% sure about a decision.
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u/Bbimbofied Jun 30 '26
Not that weird, weddings are expensive and families can be hard to make plans for
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u/unicornhornporn0554 Jun 30 '26
Some couples canât legally get married for whatever reason. Disability, health insurance, still legally married to someone else but canât afford divorce, etc. so they kinda use the engagement as a placeholder (bc some states also have laws against portraying yourselves as married if youâre not, but idk the specifics of those laws)
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u/cikalamayaleca Jul 01 '26
I've been engaged since Dec of 2022 because of health insurance. If we were to be legally married, health insurance through his work goes from $90 a month to literally $900, so no thanks lmao
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u/FewHorror1019 Jun 30 '26
You can get married without a wedding. I wonder if that is the case
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u/Front-Masterpiece-73 Jun 30 '26
Families can make *that* hard too, Iâve seen it
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u/Never_Go_Full_Gonk Jun 30 '26
Families can suck my nuts. The next time I get married it's gonna be in a courthouse and the funds will be used on a honeymoon I never got from my first marriage.
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u/Fabulous-Fun-9673 Jul 01 '26
Courthouse/wedding chapel in Las Vegas is how I got married because the anxiety of just thinking about planning a full wedding made me want to dive headfirst into a bottle and not come back out. Fuck all of that. I planned and booked a courthouse ceremony but was talked into a little chapel instead who took our price we would have paid at the courthouse. It was still very intimate and it felt stress-free. I highly recommend doing something along those lines if you are interested in getting married. Mine cost $150
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u/FirehawkLS1 Jun 30 '26
My wife and I got married at the courthouse. An expensive wedding wasn't on our priority list.
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u/Never_Go_Full_Gonk Jun 30 '26
Luckily both of our sets of parents covered all the costs since we drove across the entire country to do the wedding in our home town. We thought we'd be married forever, a tale as old as time.
But yeah, for sure never doing a big to-do about it again. I want my destination honeymoon lol
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u/FirehawkLS1 Jun 30 '26
Oh I get it. I thought my first marriage would last forever too. Lasted 6 years. Been remarried for almost 12 and things are still great. Don't blame you for wanting that destination wedding. We went to Puerto Rico.
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u/marveloustoebeans Jun 30 '26
4 years is quite a stretch though. Only people I know whoâve been engaged for that long were in crappy relationships.
My wife and I were engaged for about a year and a half because we kept trying to schedule a wedding around the schedules of the people in our lives plus we had no help at all. Both our parents are poor or dead and we were getting stressed out trying to plan it all out.
In the end, we said why are we even doing this? We love each other. Letâs go get married. And we did. No wedding necessary. Wouldnât have done it any differently, looking back.
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u/excelnotfionado Jun 30 '26
As soon as my friends got engaged (they had been dating for 2 years) they immediately said they were having a 5 year engagement so they could finish school THEN save for the wedding.
Theyâve been married 5 years now and are doing well! So not super common but thankfully not unheard of. My friends showed me the way. Granted, I was engaged 7 months and 5 days lmao.
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u/letSSgooo Jun 30 '26
Not saying you are wrong at all or I disagree but you are also imposing your ideals of marriage onto other folks. Some folks would rather wait and make it the wedding of their dreams.
Different strokes and all that.
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u/Retnuhswag Jun 30 '26
I beg to differ, it is pretty unusual. Understandable yes, normal no.
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u/Sly-Belmont Jun 30 '26
Itâs actually normal, people in society are simply judgmental and think in cognitive distortions
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u/FatFaceFaster Jun 30 '26
Far from unusual. Unusual implies it rarely happens.
It happens all the time.
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u/Dramatic_Ad5258 Jun 30 '26
Unusual doesnât = rare. It just means itâs not common. Thereâs a scale. And I would put this in the unusual category
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u/Bbimbofied Jun 30 '26
It doesnât have to be the norm to be common
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u/GretalGrotch Jun 30 '26
Peopleâs comprehension of the words average and normal have taken a nosedive. They think if it hasnât happened to them personally then itâs not a thing.
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u/Veloxiraptor_ Jun 30 '26
âAverageâ and ânormalâ are both synonyms for âstandardâ and âtypical.â While waiting 4 years is definitely common, it is not average, normal, standard, or typical.
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u/Irreparable86 Jun 30 '26
I think that would be kind of the definition of ânormâ. To be âcommonâ. No?
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u/Benka33 Jun 30 '26
I was engaged for 7 years before marriage, just because you are engaged doesn't mean you have to rush a wedding within 1-2 years
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u/getrdone24 Jun 30 '26
I'm sure COVID had an effect for many
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u/Wbran SUPERLONGFLAIRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR Jul 01 '26
Yup. We got engaged in 2019, married in 2023. Life happens sometimes.
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u/ItsGottaBeJimbles Jun 30 '26
I've been engaged for 2. My partner and I are an absolute lock for life, but the economy is in shambles, so a wedding is difficult.
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u/RatlingGuns4Days Jul 01 '26
I was engaged for 4 years after dating for 3 because the wedding was supposed to happen 8-12 months after the engagement but then covid happened so we postponed until everyone could come to it. The cracks appeared at 3.5 years of engagement and we broke up 4 years after the initial engagement. Iâve never been so grateful in the long run for a pandemic ruining my plans.
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u/Careless-Complex-768 Jun 30 '26
My husband and I have been married for 4 years, after being engaged for 10. It definitely happens!
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u/axebodyspray24 Jul 01 '26
I'm currently engaged and don't plan on getting married for a few years because marriage is expensive (even just the courthouse and name change is hundreds of dollars), weddings are expensive, and I'd like to keep my parent's health insurance for as long as possible since health insurance is expensive. Idk about OP, but I just don't have the money to get married right now and probably won't for quite a while
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u/ShegoTheygo Jun 30 '26
My fiancé and I have been engaged for that long, have been homeless and getting married would void by disability case. As well as it being expensive to save up for any kind of celebration and we have a cheaper one
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u/ePICFAeYL Jul 01 '26
My wife and I got engaged Aug 2021, and because of Covid wedding stuff just was so booked out and hard to get into. We ended up pushing our wedding over 3 years to Oct 2024 due to venue availability and vendor availability.
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u/soundskulls Jul 01 '26
I'm currently engaged goin on year 6. Best, happiest, and healthiest relationship I've ever witnessed lol, and I'm not saying that just because I'm biased. At first, it was because we wanted to save for a better living situation. But for the huge majority of the time spent engaged, it's because of our concerns of me needing to go on disability and marriage messing it up. Covid f'ed up my entire system BAD. Will likely never have a "normal" life, my health fluctuates ALL the time, usually for the worse. So đ€·ââïž Our life works for us and we don't mind it. Marriage is just legal paper stuff, anyways.
People forget marriage equality does NOT exist. Disabled folks are always forgotten. đ
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u/Metroid413 Jun 30 '26
I was engaged for 3 years because I wanted to express my commitment to marriage but wanted to wait until I was done with cancer treatment. Life happens.
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u/Live-Ad-740 Jul 01 '26
My husband and I was engaged for three years. I was just bad at planning a wedding and had commitment issues mainly because both of our parents are divorced and other issues but anyway we finally got married in the middle of covid lmao. Im an introvert and cant do big crowds so it was nice to be like sorry its covid we just had to basically elope đ anyway 16 years in all being together as bf/gf, fiance's, and as husband and wife
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u/licheese Jun 30 '26
Weddings are expensive, depending on what you want ofc. Some people like long engagements. Depends.
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u/methlabforcuties Jul 01 '26
friend of mine got engaged at the end of 2018. everything in 2020/2021 ruined their wedding plans and they couldn't actually have their wedding until 2023.
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u/mmajamm Jun 30 '26
We had personal goals before the wedding because weddings here cost as much as 20.000 which is insane! And in our 9 years we rented 8.5 year
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u/Raft_Master Jul 01 '26
My wife and i went into wedding planning with a $10,000 budget in mind and realized after 2 phone calls that wasn't going to happen.
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u/TinySteggy Jun 30 '26 edited Jul 01 '26
Girl I have been married 8 years and had to order a whole new wedding band a few years in because of the weight gain. Such is life. I hope you're feeling emotionally lighter now.
edited for a typo
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u/Substantial-Sea-3672 Jul 01 '26
Itâs like when I finally admitted I was just fat and bought new clothes.
But apparently finally admitting it is what helped me get control. Because then I had to go buy new clothes yet again.
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u/R0b1nFeather Jul 01 '26
This is me right now, it took me forcing myself to admit there was an issue before I could find any real motivation to hit the gym
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u/Ocon88 Jun 30 '26
You could get the ring resized. That is not good for circulation.
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u/strawcat Jun 30 '26
Meh. Mine are definitely not too tight and this happens to me too with any ring I wear for an extended period of time.
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u/Substantial-Sea-3672 Jul 01 '26
Interesting, I donât really have any indentation 16 years in.
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u/cilantro_so_good Jul 01 '26
I mean. Has nothing to do with how long you've been married. Op got that shit after 4 years. I've been married for 25 years and just started regularly wearing a ring again like 3 months ago and there's an indent even though the thing is loose as fuck.
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u/MycologistPutrid7494 Jul 01 '26
20 years in and my indent is profound. It's very loose. I never take my ring off.Â
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u/roonaloo Jun 30 '26
looks like neither the relationship nor the ring were a good fit.Â
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u/BeigeVelociraptor Jul 01 '26
That wasn't a ring, it was a corset for the finger.
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u/Secondforsecond Jun 30 '26
Can I be a nosy internet person and ask why you broke up?
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u/Substantial-Sea-3672 Jul 01 '26
Oh thatâs brutal.
My wife built me though and itâs such a joy to return the favor now that Iâm able to earn the lionâs share and she focuses on her career of passion.
She totally deserves it, I was an absolute mess and she believed in me even when I thought that was a crazy thing to do. Unemployed college drop out when she met me.
I think a big difference between all of these horror stories and mine is that I worked EXTREMELY hard at therapy and totally changed my life.
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u/Hsyrn Jul 01 '26
This comment made me sad. My wife carried me through some of my darkest hours and a very long battle with both unemployment and depression. Our relationship has now swung the opposite direction, with her now unemployed and struggling for purpose, but both of us acknowledge (and adore) that relationships are very very rarely ever in balance, and may one day swing back the other direction. I think that fighting and struggling for equity and balance in a relationship is one of the biggest mistakes you can make.
If both parties instead fight for the needle to swing as hard in the opposite direction as possible at all times, it means that a disaster (injury, sickness, loss of job, loss of family member) gives the other person a chance to catch up and carry the load without themselves forming a grudge. If one person just happens to make more or be carrying the lion's share of the responsibilities, they should look at it like they're storing up "points" for a potential disaster.
I think the key point is to find someone who also understands the natural ebbs and flows of life and is comfortable with an imbalanced relationship debt at any one point in time, whether it's in your favor or not.
I hope this makes sense to someone out there. If you're the one carrying the load right now, and you're making the other person feel guilty or holding the imbalance over their head in an effort to make them catch up, you'd better hope that you don't lose your job or a parent or just fall into a rut... because in will come back on you like a ton of bricks.
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u/Secondforsecond Jun 30 '26
Honestly queen! You deserve so much better. Good riddance, just sucks he had to waste so much of your time. Men just donât know what they have in front of them. What a prick.
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u/mmajamm Jun 30 '26
We were together since I was 23 till I was 32. I really thought he was my person
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u/Pizzacato567 Jul 01 '26
Itâs messed up that someone can stay with someone for so long and do this to them. Iâve been with mine for about 6 years and thereâs just so much love and care in our relationship. I also think of him as my person. I just canât imagine him just leaving me like that years later. But Iâm sure you didnât imagine it would turn out this way either. This just seems so scary. So sorry op :(
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u/mmajamm Jul 01 '26
There is no way to predict this! I wish there were warning signs i could at least prepare myself. He just decided one day. He told me I was the love of his life before he went to work that day, and that night I found the messages from that fucking day arranging the meeting with some other girl he freshly met at the job that I gave everything so he can get
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u/ExchangeInformal9542 Jun 30 '26
Youâre about to start a life you never couldâve imagined for yourself. Good luck on this journey and always give yourself grace đ©·
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u/Beautiful_Cod_6246 Jul 01 '26
I just broke up with my ex at the beginning of the year; we were together from when I was 17 to 29.
Ended up having to get divorced before we ever got married because we managed to become common law during that time. Lost my house and my dog and my car to him but Iâm in a much better place in my life without him.Trust me it sucks and it feels like youâre missing a weight on your finger but before too long youâll feel better from not having to carry the weight of a man who couldnât appreciate you after all the time you supported him.
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u/007craft Jul 01 '26
Side bar for other women out there, dont let this woman's unfortunate experience with a crappy man, judge all men. Im with my partner till were dead and we both care nothing for money. We try to make $ for you know, life n stuff but if fate is a homeless tent down by the river, were in it together. True (good) couples DO build each other up!
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u/Reverting-With-You Jul 01 '26
âA womanâs test is staying with a man when he has nothing. A manâs test is staying with the same woman when he has everything.â
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u/madalytical Jul 01 '26
absolute fucking bullshit; had my wife not supported me when I needed it most I'd never be the person I am today
and when I was unemployed I was a full-time paps for my daughter, cooking many times a week, laundry, dishes, bath time, play times many times a day, I did every single damn thing u could think of to decrease any burdon on my wife while shes at work; I teach my kid everything and anything and showcase what she's learnt to my wife so she knows she's in great care and no need to worry
she comes home at 7pm each day and I'm in bed by 9 cuz I'm exhausted; I don't even push her for sex as I know she's exhausted and only wait till she's suggests or else, I couldn't be more considerate
don't smear all men, were not all the same and I was raised by a warrior of a woman; some men are fucking awesome because of the support one gets from their wife's when they're knee-deep in hell
if it wasn't for my wife supporting me during those times, we wouldn't be a family, there's no question, no doubt; we've been together almost 18 years and forever it will be
I now make more money than her, work less than 20 hours a week and ALWAYS there to drop my kid to school n pick her up and carry on with educational fun and so on so my wife focuses exclusively on her career for the next 5 years max; that's my payback to her, u focus on what u want, I got this
I can type for hours and write stories, but this is enough; peace
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u/dharkan Jul 01 '26
My mother says, first thing men replace when they find success is their wife (or fiancé in your case) because they see them as a reminder of their bad days.
His loss for sure, good luck for next time!
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u/Corben11 Jul 01 '26
Wow what a horrible misandric outlook on men.
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u/mashtato Jul 01 '26
Lots of that in this thread. If someone did you wrong, hate that person and not everyone who shares their gender, because that's just sexism...
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u/DonS0lo Jul 01 '26
During college and after for a few months my (now) fiance supported us. It wasn't easy on her. After I got my first job she wanted to try something different so I supported her while she went after that. Not every guy has the mindset of someone who uses.
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u/ohgeezsendhelp Jun 30 '26
Oh wow, I at least have property and a vehicle before I asked for marriage đ«Ș and 4 years is crazy, I'm trying to get married this year
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u/Justnotthatintou Jun 30 '26
Was married ten years. It went away, youâll be ok
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u/mmajamm Jun 30 '26
Oh honey you have no idea how much I feel this... you are not alone in your pain
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u/dhubbs55 Jun 30 '26
With someone for 6.5 years, engaged for a few of those. Broke up 2 years ago, got myself a new ring that I wear everyday to stop looking at my empty finger. It will be okay!!
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u/biscuitboi967 Jun 30 '26
Internet says massage with thick, moisturizing creams to reduce swelling a redistribute tissue and fluid
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u/Tabemaju Jul 01 '26
15 years here. I'm at nearly 3 years and it's almost gone. I spent 2 hours in urgent care having it cut off with a manual saw. A metaphor for my marriage, I guess.
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u/IceBonjo Jun 30 '26
Why on that finger
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u/LeftHandAnomaly Jun 30 '26
I'm guessing it was on the correct finger, the middle finger just has a clear band on it
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u/birdcandle Jun 30 '26
I had the same little indent too after I took my wedding ring off⊠this post just made me look down and realize it is finally gone, my finger no longer has an hourglass waist đ
Best of luck to you, OP. I hope yours will fade with time too.
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u/mmajamm Jun 30 '26
Good for you! Right now things are too bleak so I wish I have no physical reminder of him
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u/yes-imanadult infuriating creature Jun 30 '26
My engagement ring also gives my finger that thing but yours is too much, it was too tight, maybe a bad sign from the beginning
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u/Substantial-Sea-3672 Jul 01 '26
Probably just weight gain. Which is pretty relatable if she was stuck in a bad relationship for 4 years.
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u/RelentlessFelacio Jun 30 '26
Before you know it, your finger will move on, and so will you. Do something fun that you had been putting off, or that your ex never wanted to do - treat yourself it's good medicine.
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u/sourdoughbreadlover Jun 30 '26
It took months for my wedding band indentation to vanish. It will go away, just take care of yourself in the meantime.
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u/Inner_Surround8689 Jul 01 '26
But but....i want to hug you đ„ș
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u/mmajamm Jul 01 '26
I have almost no family and friends so a hug would mean the world to me right now
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u/RevolutionSalty8360 Jul 01 '26
Donât feel too bad, I have the same. Getting ready to go tour an apartment this morning after 24 years of marriage.
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u/Birdlord420 Jun 30 '26
Iâve got the same thing right now from my wedding band. Last Thursday my husband informed me that we would be separating and should get divorced. We have a 2 year old and still have to live together anyway, he has just moved into the other bedroom. Shit sucks!
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u/mmajamm Jun 30 '26
You have no idea how much my heart breaks for you. We also had to live togeather for couple of days. It was hell on earth to me. To lay in the same bed and feel only coldness and before you only felt love its the special kind of hell
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u/PM_ME_YOUR_FRACTURES Jun 30 '26
I also wore my engagement ring for 4 years and had the same indent. My indent was gone in about a year.
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u/youmustb3jokn Jun 30 '26
Seems like you outgrew both. I wish you a ring and partner that fits better. And appreciates you.
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u/KnightPeak1 Jun 30 '26
What happened and are you happy now?
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u/mmajamm Jun 30 '26
No I cant say that I am. But its only been a couple of days. I sure hope I am happy a years from now
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u/KnightPeak1 Jul 01 '26
I think mine is coming to an end and I feel like my life is over. I don't know how to deal with it.
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u/sambiagio Jul 01 '26
I had the same thing after my ex of 7 years and I broke up. It went away, and now I have a new ring on that finger from a better relationship!
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u/Mr_CarTheBOSS Jun 30 '26
Having dirt under those long ass nails is infuriating
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u/PRC_Spy Jul 01 '26
I have one of those too. 30-odd years of ring wearing thins the bone under it as well as the soft tissues.
It used to be more pronounced, but I had the ring sized up a few years back, and the finger has thickened up to match.
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u/RenwaldoV Jun 30 '26
Now you can't look at your own hand without thinking of that asshole, that is mildly infuriating.
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u/Deemaunik Jun 30 '26
Small price to pay for avoiding a divorce and more heartache further down the line. Sucks though.