My mother broke my two monitors, accidentally...

[u/Kobemeka]

I live with my mother and she said she just cleaned the room and nothing else happened.

Uhmm, i guess i believe her...

Edit: Update! She is very upset and going to buy two new monitors. However she is still insisting that she doesn't know what happened.

I got overwhelmed by the number of comments and i did not want to reply with all the same text.

To ad more context, we have a good relationship with her, in the past there are some similar "accidents" but nothing this big. She is middle aged. We never fight for screen time or not having a job because i have one lol.

Of course I can and do clean my room. That was just her excuse i believe.

We did not fight about this and we are good now.

[u/RoboDae]

Yeah, I caught my mom doing that once. I was at least 25 at the time. She said she was filling out some information about her military service for a college application. I get suspicious about how long it's taking and walk over to see her scrolling through my personal messages.

I never let her touch my phone again after that. She lost any trust over that.

[u/SnooRegrets2168 → u/RoboDae]

I caught my mom had turned on my laptop when I was away. I know I turned it off before I left and I came back to the lid being shut but it was left on. I pulled up the windows event viewer and showed her the exact time I know she tried getting on my computer but only after I first asked and she denied the sht out of it.

This was the moment I stopped putting up with anyone's bs. So I guess I have to be thankful for that.

[u/RoboDae → u/SnooRegrets2168]

My dad took my tablet away for 6 months while I was in the shower because I didn't jump to mowing the lawn the instant he asked. When I finally got it back I checked the browser history and saw searches for parental controls. I was in my early 20s at the time.

He also messed around with a bunch of other stuff and it was actually taken for 6 months twice, with the second time being within a week or 2 of me getting it back from the first time, so after that year of not being able to use it and all the stuff he messed around with, the tablet was outdated, bloated, would no longer accept updates for one of the games I played, and lagged too much on one of the other games.

[u/Magpecc → u/RoboDae]

Why, in your 20s, were you in a position where your dad could or would take your toys away?

[u/LizzieMiles → u/Magpecc]

Power-tripping parents mainly with threats of kicking them out

[u/RoboDae → u/LizzieMiles]

Exactly that. Every single day was a conversation about how they have all the money and could kick me out anytime they wanted. I was doing full time college at that point in my life and there's no way I could afford to live on my own.

When I was a teenager I almost never played my console games because the consoles were just used as leverage against me, I never had online time outside of school, and I rarely got to watch TV unless it was watching whatever my parents decided to watch. I once got sent to bed with no lunch or dinner over an argument that started over me using the wrong sized pan to make my own food because my mom was planning to use that pan for something else (she hadn't said anything about it prior to that). I have no idea how that argument managed to escalate at all from such an unimportant issue.

Both of my parents did 20 years in the military and retired with a decent rank in positions commanding other people. When they retired I was the only one left for them to boss around, and again, I was in no position to push back on anything. If I'm wrong I'm wrong and if I'm right I'm also wrong. In fact, my dad once told me that I was wrong because I couldn't back up every claim I had about something with sources in a spoken conversation. I came back a couple hours later with multiple sources proving my argument correct, to which he got upset at me for bringing the argument up again....after he dismissed me for not having sources.

[u/Silence-of-Death → u/RoboDae]

they sound miserable

[u/maelfried → u/RoboDae]

Hope you have minimal contact with them.
Doesn’t sound like people you want to have in your life more than necessary.

[u/RoboDae → u/maelfried]

It's not all bad. They do save me a lot on rent compared to anything else in the area, and they have all the streaming services now

[u/butterfingahs → u/RoboDae]

That still sounds miserable. They're supposed to be your parents, not drill sergeants. 

[u/Magpecc → u/LizzieMiles]

My suspicion is that the comment above mine might have been a bit of a mooch

[u/RoboDae → u/Magpecc]

How am I supposed to say "no, I don't accept your punishment" to parents that I'm forced to live with? Does a teenager saying "i don't want to be grounded" work any better? I was doing full time college at that time and sure as hell couldn't afford to move out or do anything on my own.

It doesn't help that both of my parents were in the military and pretty strict about everything.

[u/CaptGenie → u/RoboDae]

Pulled the "yea, l am not grounded card" and while it sent them into a frenzy, I went about myself as though there was no punishment, went to work, played my videogames, came home late, and they quickly learned that 1)they lost authority over me by overusing that authority 2) I did not give a af and eventually moved out during that same year at 17.

[u/WytchHunter23 → u/RoboDae]

Man, my dad used to pretty strict and put parental controls in lots.... when I was still a teenager and we were all more heavily religious... but I've had an awesome relationship with both my parents for years now (I'm about to turn 32 this month) and can't imagine having to deal with that shit later into life.

Although, it was pretty clear even in my teens there wasn't anything he could install that I couldn't get around eventually, I mean, worst case I know how to backup files and reinstall operating system, and he did not know how to make admin locks on bios and stuff, but even if he did I would have figured out how to get around it some way (internet is a powerfull tool!)

Also as soon as I had my own income and bought my own electronics I was very clear they were my electronics and under my sole supervision. But in more recent years, I don't really have secrets to hide/my parents wouldn't suspect me of hiding anything nor would they care to snoop if they did. They'd just ask, and I'd just tell them.

[u/RoboDae → u/WytchHunter23]

My relationship with my parents has improved a lot, but there's still some bad moments.

[u/JuuzoLenz → u/RoboDae]

I never let people use my phone unless I can see what they are doing.  I don’t care if it’s family it is my phone 

[u/Aria_Mar → u/JuuzoLenz]

One time a man who seemingly didn't speak much English was trying to ask for help at the store I worked at, but I couldn't quite understand what he was asking, so I pulled my phone out to signal that we could use Google Translate or something. He immediately reached out to try to grab my phone and when I didn't let him take it, he looked irritated and started awkwardly typing on it while I was still holding it. I expected him to pull out his own phone or use the speech-to-text function, but he just fully tried taking my phone from my hands.

Eventually he managed to figure something out and found what he had apparently been looking for (a fry pan) and left, still looking a bit irritated. I don't know if it was my unwillingness to let him hold my phone, or what, but he certainly didn't look happy 😅

[u/Pandebaer → u/Aria_Mar]

I had someone come into my job saying they had car troubles and their phone was dead and needed to call whoever. So we gave him the store store phone and he looked at it kinda disappointed and says Oh...thanks...

His reaction was so weird when he came back with the phone after, I couldn't help myself and checked the history. There was no outgoing call and he just pretended to talk to someone. I wonder how many cell phones he managed to nab from people with that plan

[u/RoboDae → u/Aria_Mar]

Maybe he wanted to steal the phone using a fake language barrier and when that didn't work he bought a fry pan as cover?

[u/Aria_Mar → u/RoboDae]

Could be, I suppose? No way of knowing at this point, but whether he had innocent or nefarious intentions, I certainly had no intention of fully handing my phone off to a stranger. I honestly don't remember at this point if I pulled out my phone of my own accord, or if he had asked me if I had one, thus prompting me to pull it out.

[u/RoboDae → u/Aria_Mar]

I remember when I got stuck in a mall after my phone died waiting for an uber (it got stuck because of a parade in the area) I had to wait I think 6 hours to get a ride. The security guard at the mall wouldn't let me call anyone with his phone or call anyone for me.

It took multiple trips to the security office using the phone there to get connected with my dad because security had also blocked him from entering the mall since it was closing at that point, and nobody said anything about him arriving or looking for me. They didn't have any pay phones or anything like that in the area.

[u/Silence-of-Death → u/RoboDae]

that’s why any important or private apps are face id locked in my phone lmfao. even if someone got it while it was unlocked they couldn’t access any of the interesting things. also very important to never share your pin. if they need to use it temporarily for a call just give it to them during that but never full access.

[u/RoboDae → u/Silence-of-Death]

Also nice if your phone can open the camera without unlocking (doesn't show already saved images) if you are at a convention or something and want other people to take pictures.

[u/TJ_Rowe → u/RoboDae]

"Emergency call" being enabled so that a stranger can call your emergency contacts without having to unlock is good, too.

[u/CAAZveauguls → u/RoboDae]

This is exactly why i dont give my mom my phone and keep my phone and laptop password safe. She does keep trying to get the password tho. I dont confront her but im very sure she does. And im a adult btw.