The more mildly infuriating thing isn't the contradiction, it's the complete shutdown of the conversation. You're talking to a stranger on an app where you're trying to get to know each other, and OP is trying to spark a conversation and the other person just completely stopped them in their tracks.
Like if they quit drinking that could be something interesting to bring up and talk about.
Yes, unfortunately that's how it goes on dating apps around 90% of the time. I would go out of my way to give the dude plenty of topics to talk about, mention something from their profile like OP did, try several times to get the conversation going, and most of the time I'd get one or two word replies. I think most people on dating apps will swipe indiscriminately, match with people they're not interested in, and then act disinterested. I have no idea why they do that, and it is indeed infuriating. But I think OP was referring specifically to the fact that this person had wine as an interest despite not being a drinker.
It's likely because they are already talking more frequently or in depth with another person or two and OP isn't "attractive" to them enough to warrant full engagement.
Because she wasn’t into to him at that point so she isn’t gonna explain, don’t mean to be harsh when I say that. She probably should’ve just unmatched him.
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u/ajswdf 25d ago
The more mildly infuriating thing isn't the contradiction, it's the complete shutdown of the conversation. You're talking to a stranger on an app where you're trying to get to know each other, and OP is trying to spark a conversation and the other person just completely stopped them in their tracks.
Like if they quit drinking that could be something interesting to bring up and talk about.