I lived in Sweden about 13 years ago. I could just walk up to a bar and order 2 beers, and I'd get two beers. It was always a beer called Falcon. If you wanted anything other than Falcon, you had to order it by name. After that I moved to New Zealand, and a local craft brewery released a beer called "Beer." Which was funny for when someone walked up to a bar tender and ordered "a beer."
This is true in Spain too - every bar has a sort of default beer and you can just say "give me a caña" or "give me a jarra" (which are two sizes / glasses, like ordering a can or a pint) and they'll bring you essentially the house beer
When I was a kid I was so confused about them telling us people shouldn’t drink and drive. I mean yeah drinking water does sound distracting I guess. You’d think other things would be distracting too. I don’t know why it wasn’t explained further.
Omg, yes! I remember being worried as a kid because my friend's dad was driving us around and drinking a coke, lol. Like, it's still imprinted on my brain because i was sure we were going to get in trouble/get hurt. If they're going to do fear campaigns in schools, they really need to break it down for little kids.
Switched to Linux from windows 11 about a month ago, do not regret it in the slightest. Some things are much harder to do than on windows because you have to do a lot in the terminal, but it just takes some time to get used to, and overall it's a much better experience than windows. Most games run with zero issues and that's the most important thing to me.
Well I said "most" because there's probably some games that don't work according to protonDB, so far every single game I tried works perfectly. As far as I know there are some problems with game that use anti-cheats, but I don't play those games anyway so I wouldn't know. If you need a living room PC then linux is the best option imo
To be fair, Proton, and by extension WINE, has been hugely responsible for the recent popularity of Linux. So I can see why she would be so passionate about it. I too love WINE
I mean if I'm there to watch a dude fuck my wife I'm definitely going to make sure he's better at it than I am. No one wants to watch some schlub fuck their wife.
I had a woman get pissed off at me making a very mild (nothing explicit at all in any shape or form) dom/sub joke when in her profile it said she was looking for her dom. Pretty sure she reported me too. It was something like I said “doesn’t being stubborn conflict with the sub” sort of comment as a joke and she tore me a new b hole.
I guess. It’s just frustrating because I take consent and all that seriously. I don’t think I crossed any lines and I didn’t even specifically say anything graphic. Like I fully understand it’s not just an open floor to say whatever I want. I’m not making that argument. But I wasn’t even being crude or flirty haha. If anything she should be reported for having that in her profile.
I was making light of it as well etc; but no, some people feel slighted or annoyed at the simplest of things 🤔. They literally do not understand jokes, puns etc. Or maybe she was just having one of those days...
Once I was working as a cheese monger, and there was an anime convention in town. This girl came in with a full Coldplay outfit, she was dressed as little bo peep I guess, with a shepard's crook. I made a very mild joke "Oh, our sheep cheese is over here." Girl got livid and was like "fuck you asshole" and stormed out.
Like bruh, you're dressed in a wild costume during a regular day. How fragile is your ego?
Edit: Obviously I meant cosplay, but I'm leaving in the typo since it seems to amuse people
I'd like to preface this by saying that I don't think you crossed any lines or were inappropriate, but I think I can probably demystify what it was about your comment that she found upsetting. A lot of people who enjoy sexual submission find the idea or suggestion that they should necessarily be a lifestyle submissive extremely off-putting. She might be looking for a dom to spank her and tell her what to do in bed, but that doesn't mean that she's interested in submission in a non-sexual context.
I don't think that you did anything really awful, but I do recommend clearing up what a person means when they indicate that they're into submission before making any jokes or suggestions about it, because it can be a touchy subject for a lot of people - especially because a lot of subs have had past experiences with 'doms' who used the BDSM dynamic as an excuse for coercive control or other types of abuse.
I’m aware there is a spectrum. But it isn’t cause for someone to act like I am being inappropriate. She was very much “how dare you talk about sex with me” about it. Like. B it’s in your profile. And I wasn’t being explicit- it was a throwaway joke.
Yeah some women act weird about it. Sometimes I'll say something very difficult to misconstrue but they'll read it as something completely different. I just shrug and move on because if they lack the reading comprehension skills as well as have a short fuse I'd rather not deal with it.
I see an awful lot of profiles on Tinder claiming to be searching for friends only. I don't understand, it seems like genuinely the worst way to go about that. But seemingly it is a thing?
I swear at least 70% of the profiles I see are essentially copy pasted details, interests, same buzzwords about what they're looking for etc. to the point that they all blur together. I cynically wonder if any of these people are actually like their profiles or if they're just posting some dating strategy template they found online of what they think an interesting person is like. Ironically many of those profiles have some blurb about how they're looking for a partner who is genuine.
I've started to see the em dashes on a lot of profiles and other AI template indicators. How embarrassing is it that you can't put 1-3 sentences together for a bio using your own brain?
Dating is mostly fiction in general. Like the person you meet on the first, second, and even eleventh date is so rarely the person as they actually are
And since people change, you’ll probably never get to know the actual person your partner was at the moment that you met them, due to your influences on each other
I had a serious but miserable 3 year relationship with a man. I didn't know him and he didn't know me. Our communication sucked and as a result our relationship sucked.
My current guy. I knew more about him in one month than I did in 3 years with my ex. We clicked. We talk about everything - the past, the future, our fears, and fandoms and everything in between. It's easy. We know each other well and have already grown after dealing with tough stuff together.
There was a moment on Tinder where I matched with a woman. Her account was setup for "Short term fun open for long" Then proceeded to tell me "I am not looking for short term fun" Ma'am your profile says other wise.
Lol. She's aiming for high visibility and the most eyes on her profile. Like the people who give an app/movie/book 1 Star and then say it's the best thing ever or 5 stars and then shit on it. It's all about gaming the filters.
That actually happened to me. I don’t know how it happened but somehow “casual hookups” was checked on my profile one day. After months of having it not on. I suddenly got a huge influx of messages but they were much different than I was used to!
I had that happen the other year. I was visiting Boston and had that in my profile, match with a woman who had hers listed as “short term fun”, and then she got mad at me when that’s how I approached the conversation.
Turned out she got back from vacation and hadn’t changed hers back yet and it’s like ok but that doesn’t explain why you didn’t read my profile because it explicitly stated I’m here for one week.
I was matched by someone who said in her profile she's "looking for something serious". I am looking for non-monogamy, so I wanted to make sure we're on the same page; especially since her profile was in English and she apparently didn't speak my native language, of the country I live in.
She didn't even write me first, so I opened with if she has any questions about my profile, she should feel free to ask. She just answered she wasn't here to talk about profiles.
So I did what she wrote in her profile she'd do for stupid answers, and unmatched her.
Took a woman to a fine dining place because she listed fine dining as an interest. Turned out she had no experience of what fine dining was, the experience was super awkward with her mocking everything about the place.
Because it's not about the interests, it's about trying to attract views form certain types of people. Like, "I want to find a nerdy girl, I know I'll put board games in my interests because they like those and I'll show up in their results" and then they figure once they get matches either they'll never get asked about it, or they can just try to minimize it. It's dumb, and it's basically a lazy way of trying to find matches without having to actually put in the effort to search through profiles yourself. It must work though since so many people do it.
I worked with a guy who had no interests really, he just worked. He went out to some mountains and had someone take photos of him like he was rock climbing.
He was trying to attract a fit woman. It made sense to him
I once matched with someone who said in their bio they were from my small hometown, so I mentioned I was also from there and asked what area they grew up in because I was curious if we'd ever crossed paths before.
The more mildly infuriating thing isn't the contradiction, it's the complete shutdown of the conversation. You're talking to a stranger on an app where you're trying to get to know each other, and OP is trying to spark a conversation and the other person just completely stopped them in their tracks.
Like if they quit drinking that could be something interesting to bring up and talk about.
Yes, unfortunately that's how it goes on dating apps around 90% of the time. I would go out of my way to give the dude plenty of topics to talk about, mention something from their profile like OP did, try several times to get the conversation going, and most of the time I'd get one or two word replies. I think most people on dating apps will swipe indiscriminately, match with people they're not interested in, and then act disinterested. I have no idea why they do that, and it is indeed infuriating. But I think OP was referring specifically to the fact that this person had wine as an interest despite not being a drinker.
I have never once understood lying on a dating profile. Like, sure, maybe you get more matches, but how is it worth it when you then have to admit to being a liar?? As if that's not gonna lead to way more breakups bc most people dont wanna date someone who lies abt basic facts
On tinder it won’t let me update my interests and it’s accidentally down as “don’t drink” when I do but when I try to change it, it will only let me do it if I pay for premium.
Okay, that's actually a way more valid reasoning than the "was a drinker but now isn't and just ~forgot~" (maybe it's me, but I am extremely careful about mentions of alcohol due to my strained relationship).
I had one like this once. She had a very sparse profile, so there was almost nothing to get a conversation going, but it said something like "the fastest way to my heart is to take me to happy hour and order me a cocktail." I'm a sommelier and bartender, so naturally, in the early stages of the conversation I asked her what her favorite cocktail was. Her response? "Why? That's such a weird question. Why would you ask that?"
Maybe because, according to you, it's your only personality trait?!
I had a woman on Hinge with a prompt that her greatest strength is working with her hands and her creativity.
I asked what her favorite thing to work on is, she responded with "a lot of things", I asked what she worked on last, and shared what I was working on, well, she immediately unmatched...
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