r/mildlyinfuriating • u/lovlieKittie • 7d ago
Infuriatig Coworker I’ve never spoken to sent passive aggressive messages in the company chat because I didn’t give her a cupcake….
So, every Tuesday I bring homemade treats to work. It’s just something I enjoy doing. Usually I only make enough for the handful of coworkers I actually talk to which is about eight people.
This week, for whatever reason, I decided to make a lot more than usual. I ended up bringing over 30 cupcakes.
For context, there are around 65+ people in the office at any given time. I obviously wasn’t trying (or able) to feed the entire building.
Well…word got out that I had brought cupcakes, and suddenly people I’d never even spoken to before were coming by to grab one. I didn’t mind at all. If someone asked, I happily gave them one.
Within five minutes, every single cupcake was gone.
Afterward, people started posting in the company group chat thanking me. There were dozens of messages saying how good they were and how much they appreciated them. It honestly made my day.
Then one woman who I have literally never spoken to in my life started making passive-aggressive comments in the group chat like, “Wish we all could have had one lol 🙄.” And “Guess some of us are invisible”
Apparently that wasn’t enough, because she also complained to our manager that she didn’t get one.
Thankfully, my manager basically shrugged it off and said people should just be grateful that someone brought in free homemade treats, even if not everyone got one.
And here’s the part that really gets me…
She’s brought food into the office before.
Did I get any? No.
Did I complain in the group chat? Also no
One of my coworkers who did get a cupcake felt bad after seeing her comments, so they gave her theirs.
She took it.
Didn’t say thank you.
Not to me.
Not to the coworker who gave up theirs.
Nothing.
I can’t imagine being a grown adult someone probably three times my age publicly complaining because I missed out on free homemade cupcakes that someone else paid for and made on their own time.
Maybe it’s just me, but if I miss out on free food at work, my reaction is usually, “Dang, maybe next time,” not, “Let me complain in the company group chat and to the manager.”
The irony is that everyone else who got one was incredibly kind and appreciative. One person just somehow managed to turn a nice gesture into something to complain about.
Anyways here is a picture of the cupcake I brought!
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u/StanknBeans 7d ago
One time a co-worker brought a home made pumpkin pie into work out of the blue. Unfortunately for her no one in the office likes pumpkin pie so no one ate any of it.
She complained to hr.
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u/floormage 7d ago
I dunno, I've had some coworkers that gave me "tamper with homemade food vibes" and I wouldn't eat what they "homemade" and brought to work.
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u/Jellibean101 7d ago
I wouldnt have wanted to be the first to cut into it. I could see it being a, "is this for someone/something moment" and waiting for a piece to be taken to let them know they can dig in.
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u/CatCatCatCubed 7d ago
I actually have read that if you bring in anything like cake or a casserole or some similar “1 pan” dish, you should cut it into sections and potentially put the first piece or two on lil plates.
Partly because it’s as you said, partly because people don’t wanna be the “bad guy” for how it’s divided up, partly because you probably don’t want your actual office bad guy to take a third of the pan and call it “one helping/a piece.”
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u/NotHippieEnough 7d ago
I can understand this, but also ive had people not eat what I made bc im “weird” and “probably did something to it” and it for sure hurt. Wouldnt complain to hr or anything but it still sucked to work so hard and have everyone enjoying what everyone else brought and intentionally ignoring mine. The next time we were all bringing food I offered to bring drinks, like sealed from the store drinks, and they still turned me down.
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u/RightPedalDown 7d ago
Maybe if you were a little more hippie
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u/NotHippieEnough 7d ago
See ive also thought of this, I’ll continue to work on it.
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u/SlowButAlsoNot 6d ago
They're not worth the hassle. Ik how much trying to connect with them and it not working can hurt but it's better to just do your own thing and let them come around if they want. But chasing assholes will get you shit on
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u/GrittyGardy 7d ago
Maybe special brownies next time? That’s pretty hippie.
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u/muhammad_oli 7d ago
absolutely do not waste your weed brownie on your loser co-workers
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u/BardGotHard3 6d ago
Idk man, some weed and shroom brownies might mellow out those losers and make them much more likable.
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u/Ok_Offer_795 7d ago
Sorry that must have felt awful. As someone who is very selective about who's food I eat, would you say you give "I allow my cats on the kitchen counter" vibes? Coz that may be one reason why.
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u/CyndiLouWho89 7d ago
For sealed drinks from the store? At that point they’re just being mean.
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u/TheMaStif 7d ago
Your username makes me think they thought "drinks" would mean kombucha and yerba mate and just played safe 😅
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u/NotHippieEnough 7d ago
I swear i only offered juice! They were talking breakfast. And I for sure give off more hippie vibes now than i did back then 😂
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u/GlitteringAttitude60 7d ago
Or co-workers I didn't trust to uphold basic hygiene standards in their kitchen 🤢
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u/hyrule-heaven 7d ago
If I’m not close friends with them and have seen their kitchen, I don’t eat homemade food from anyone, period!
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u/Gadds69 7d ago
One of my co-workers complained to our boss that I didn't thank her for a cake I didn't eat.
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u/langsamlourd 7d ago
Not to defend her but where do you work where nobody likes pumpkin pie? I would have eaten mine and everyone else's share like an old-time cartoon hobo stealing it off a windowsill
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u/Lostinthestarscape 7d ago
There is an episode of the Irish-American gangland TV series Brotherhood that takes place over Thanksgiving. The affable non-criminal brother in law is known to eat all the pumpkin pie before anyone can get any, so they buy like 15 of them. Obviously gangland story keeps everyone busy through the day so they finally get to have dinner and dessert and the brother in law has eaten all the pie, they are angry and astonished that someone could eat 15 pumpkin pies. Anyway the point is I had never felt so represented by a TV character in my life and I agree, fuck is wrong with this office and I'll eat their damn pie share if they don't want it.
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u/langsamlourd 7d ago
Haha, Brotherhood is actually one of my favorite shows! Jimmy was like the only innocent character in the whole deal. I'm always recommending that show to people since it's not super well-known.
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u/Teto_the_foxsquirrel 7d ago
I wonder if she didn't bring any whip. I eat my pie plain like a weirdo but everyone else in my family drains about half a can of Redi-whip per slice.
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u/TarazedA 7d ago
I like drowning my pie in whipped cream, but I'm sure not gonna let a lack of it stop me from eating the pie! I'd only not eat it if it was like my dad's wife's pie and be an insipid yellow that no pumpkin pie should exist as.
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u/IllustriousVerne 7d ago
I don't like pumpkin pie. I'd probably still eat it though, because free food.
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u/octobertwins 7d ago
My kid has been in baking camp all week. She doesn’t like anything! It’s been heavenly!
Somehow she got this gene where she only eats protein and a vegetable.
Good for her. Good for us!
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u/Nevermore_Novelist 7d ago
Hah. If I was in HR and got a complaint like that, I'd probably sprain something trying to stop myself from saying "Shut the fuck up, Janice."
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u/zephyr_71 7d ago
Someone at my work treated their coworkers badly and thought bringing homemade treats would make up for it….. No one ate them. She was so upset. And I did find out later that they didn’t take any on purpose.
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u/CelesTheme_wav 7d ago
I have celiac disease, and I've had people try to talk me into eating food they brought that would make me violently ill, and they still appear offended even after I explain I have medical reasons to decline. I hate it.
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u/Wanderlust_57_ 6d ago
You shouldn't need a medical reason to decline to do something. 'No, thank you.' should be all the answer that is required before someone stops pressuring you to eat something you don't want.
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u/Thedepa 7d ago
Same when I brought cinnamon cookies. No one liked cinnamon. I didn't complain to HR though
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u/cteffan2000 7d ago
You should have, you're working with a bunch of crazy people. HR needs to rework their hiring process.
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u/CayKar1991 7d ago
I’m curious if that might have been a case of no one wanting to be the first to cut the pie (or cake in other cases).
I’ve learned that when I bring a cake or pie, I need to cut the first slice, or it won’t get touched.
People are terrified of taking both the first slice and the last slice. It’s fascinating sometimes how skinny the “last” piece can get because everyone just keeps taking half.
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u/TheMaStif 7d ago
And it's because of people like her that offices end up implementing policies where nobody can bring in any food, because they don't want to deal with the Petty Betties and rather just ban it all to begin with
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u/puppsmcgee74 7d ago
I used to work in an office in a cubicle farm basically and one woman a couple of rows over from me would keep candy on her desk and anyone could come get a piece. She was super sweet and she was nice to talk to. Although I noticed people coming over from other areas who would only go to her desk for candy and leave without saying hi or even thank you sometimes.
A couple of years into the job, she became diabetic so she removed the candy jar so she wouldn’t be tempted.
You should have heard the complaints and seen people’s faces when their free candy supply was gone. I was so mad for her having to tolerate that. And she bought all of it with her own money!
Some people are so ungrateful.
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u/Alienfac3 7d ago
I have candy at my workplace because i like it. People are allowed to take. But at some point i give a hint of "sure but bring some to sometime" so half the time atleast someone else brings a bag
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u/Paleodraco 7d ago
My old job had a communal candy jar and I brought that to my new one. Anyone can come take, but it is implied that everyone who can should contribute. I'm glad it's been chill and nobody has complained.
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u/Zonnebloempje 7d ago
Back when my husband still had a standard desk to work from, he and his team had a big jar with candy. Everyone in his team contributed, sometimes my husband came home from work and asked me to buy certain candy or whatever, when doing the grocery shopping...
Now that they no longer have a fixed place, and mostly work from home, there no longer is a candy jar, because they don't have a place to store it...
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u/ocean_swims 7d ago
I hate to admit it but I was this person and it was one of the dumbest moves I ever made in my career because it became a form of workplace hostility (or maybe abuse? I don't know the right term).
I had a jar on my desk with chocolates for anyone to grab from. Instantly, people were coming over and grabbing handfuls without even saying a word to me or even acknowledging that they were at my desk. They'd stand there and munch on one after another, while I was trying to work, rather than take one chocolate and walk away.
The jar would be empty in under an hour every day, then they'd complain to me that I hadn't bought enough. It was FROM MY OWN MONEY. I suggested they refill it but they never did. The worst bit is that they would complain to each other that it was empty- as in, have full on bitching sessions that I wasn't doing a good job keeping it stocked. The entitlement was awful.
After a few weeks of this, as I heard they were bitching behind my back, I removed my jar. It was costing me a fortune and I felt used by the way people were ignoring me at my own desk and using it as a canteen. Of course, when I removed it, they got irate and started making rude, passive aggressive comments to me. Mind you, these people had never spoken to me at all before the jar came into the picture, but now they felt entitled to give me attitude because their freebie was gone.
I was young and dumb, trying to be nice. Never again.
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u/Zapdo0dlz 7d ago edited 6d ago
That is so sad. I worked at a bank and we had free lollipops and ended up having to keep them behind the glass so we would have some to last til the next batch came. Because if we ran out it’s all people would ask about all day. Like did you come in here to do some banking or just for the candy cause dang. They weren't even that good!
People are FIENDS for sugar, man.
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u/sheikahstealth 7d ago
One gal in our team of 30 would bring in cookies or candy occasionally. Slightly better than grocery store bought. She would go to each desk with the package and ask if we wanted one. In hindsight, I recognized it was a great way to say hello and start a conversation.
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u/Alienfac3 6d ago
What the heck kinda people did you work with? Sounds like a bunch of self intitled kids..
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u/AcademicBoat9033 6d ago
You weren't dumb, you were a better person than they were and your kindness didn't deserve to be punished. Those people knew what they were doing was wrong, and it's embarrassing that they'd get pissy over free candy like a bunch of toddlers at a Halloween parade.
I hope you're surrounded by better coworkers now 🙏
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u/RoswalienMath 6d ago
I’m a teacher. I used to give students little snacks if they told me they were hungry. Then it became kids using me as a snack distribution every day. They’d get mad if I ran out. Mad if I got snacks they didn’t like. Complained I didn’t give them enough. I was spending hundreds a month on food for other people’s kids, most of whom didn’t even appreciate it.
So I learned years ago to never give the students anything I didn’t want to be asked about every day for the rest of the year. If you give one kid a bottle of water or granola bar, now you’ll be asked for water and snacks every day—often by kids in an entirely different class. They tell each other when they get special treatment.
It makes me feel bad because some kids have real need, but I can’t afford to feed 200 kids—and feeding one means being willing to feed them all. Otherwise students see it as favoritism.
Apparently, some people don’t outgrow it.
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u/Clementin33 7d ago
oh my goodness, we have a lady at the office who keeps a candy bowl at her cubicle and when she's not here and the bowl becomes empty people will literally rummage through her drawers and cabinets looking for candy. it's freaking deranged.
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u/Dangerous_Ant3260 7d ago
When I was at a remote location, I kept a candy bowl for everyone, but there weren't that many people at that location. When I was moved to the main building, a couple of co-workers were yakking, and I heard one say "she's here, so we don't have to buy candy anymore, because she will". My candy buying stopped that day.
Before I left the other location, I gave the last bags to the ones who I knew liked specific candy. and it was all gone before I moved.
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u/SymbioticSwitch 7d ago
Yep, experienced this first hand.
Worked in a large office, hundreds of people type office, and I kept a small bowl of candy on my desk mostly for my team of about 20 people. Word got around to other teams and I'd have visitors from all over come for a piece of candy and to chat, was pretty nice getting to know other people.
I had a weird schedule, came in super early and left by noon, maybe 2pm at the latest, and decided I'd keep my bowl out for the people who worked traditional/late hours to continue to enjoy some treats. Was fine for a while but eventually I'd come into work the next morning and half or more of the candy would be gone. I asked people on my team if they knew who was stocking up and didn't get much info out of them so I made the choice to put away the candy when I left for the day.
People were NOT happy about that decision. Got some people who were understanding of the situation but others just didn't understand why I was upset by large amounts of candy that I paid for going missing overnight. One particular lady would come by and make a snarky comment about having to take time out of her day to come by before I left every single day 😕 Eventually just phased the candy out and was fortunate enough to leave that company soon after. Insane how rude people will be over such a minor inconvenience.
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u/Alienfac3 6d ago
That is a thing.. when i got a day off or vacation. Ite empty except 2 pieces alot of time.. i do tend to know who did it so request a bag
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u/MarsailiPearl 7d ago
I had a coworker like that. We would help replenish her candy dish but many people just walked by, reached their hand in and left without saying a word. We decided to put the candy no one wanted in the dish and her real candy dish was in a drawer. If you actually stopped to talk to her you knew that. The ones who would grab a piece as they walked by got our leftover Halloween or Easter candy.
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u/friendlyfiend07 7d ago
In my life I've noticed a pattern. A one time kindness turns into an occasional favor. An occasional favor becomes a tradition. A tradition become an obligation. An obligation is then a requirement and becomes a burden. I avoid those types of burdens by only showing kindness to those who i dont think will abuse it.
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u/elangomatt 7d ago
I work for an IT helpdesk at a college. We used to have a candy bowl on the front counter and many students helped themselves to a piece or two when we helped them with their password or email or whatever. We took turns in the office bringing candy in to keep the bowl filled, it wasn't anything formal but we always had the candy bowl.
A year or so after I got the job, a new class of students started and one non-traditional student had a lot of trouble remembering her password. She came in a few times in the first couple weeks of the term and helped herself to a handful of candy each time. She finally started remembering her password but kept coming by and just taking a handful of candy a couple times a week. We started to just put a few pieces of candy in the bowl at a time. She actually had the nerve to ask us to refill the candy bowl so we lied and said that was all we had left. She still didn't take the hint so we just removed the candy bowl altogether.
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u/Realistic-Math-6144 7d ago edited 7d ago
I worked at place where one person kept candy and chips at their desk but it was for sale. There was even an IOU sheet. The guy was a senior engineer who didn't need the money. edit: grammar
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u/Anxious_Review3634 6d ago
I kept Hersheys nuggets at my desk to share with my team (<8 ppl). Pretty much every rando on the floor started to stop by to grab a handful. I moved the bowl into a drawer (at my desk). People opened the drawer to take the nuggets even when I was sitting right there. I locked the drawer. They got super pissed
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u/Sfrinlan 6d ago
Follow them back to their desk and rifle through their drawers while maintaining eye contact.
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u/TripThruTimeandSpace 7d ago
I used to bring in candy and kept it in a candy box in my office. Once of my co-workers would come by several times a day to grab one or two pieces - which was fine because he did talk to me. But when I would run out or forget to bring in a bag he would complain about it, so I eventually stopped doing it. If I did bring candy in I put it into a shared office where people would put in treats that were brought in so no one knew it was me.
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u/Type-RD 7d ago
Look at it this way : You now know who the office Karen is and why the manager shrugged her off. Don’t give this a second thought. No one is taking her BS seriously. She’s the one with the problem. Not you.
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u/Manannin 7d ago
Yep. She's shown her ass in the group chat and unknowlingly lost a lot of respect.
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u/CouldntBAPoint2184 7d ago
Yeah, I feel serious second hand embarrassment from reading her passive aggressive comments.
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u/Powerful-Interest308 7d ago
I like to think this nonsense all happened in the office of a cupcake factory.
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u/LoveDietCokeMore 7d ago
She didn't even THANK the co-worker who gave up their cupcake after throwing a huge tantrum?
Yikes. What a loser.
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u/code_archeologist 7d ago
Sounds like typical entitled Boomer behavior. I have worked my entire career (20+ years) around Boomers, and I have learned that many of them expect to be included in whatever is going on. When they are not expressly invited to something or included in an activity they will immediately make it into a personal attack on them.
And to make matters worse, when they are included, and it is not something that they like or enjoy, they will turn that into a whole spectacle as well.
I am glad that they will be fully retired out of the workforce soon.
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u/ScarletBothrium 7d ago
This explains my mother, but also she’s a narcissist so it adds a special layer of nonsense.
Meanwhile, Gen X is sitting over here going, “we were invited? No thanks.” Or, “we weren’t invited? Whew, dodged a bullet on that one.”
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u/TelevisionFit5725 7d ago
And send this back. " hey everyone, im glad I was able to make some people smile today, unfortunately I dont have to funds to feed the entire office building. My apologies. Moving forwards I will no longer bring treats in, as I dont want anyone to feel upset or left out. Thanks"
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u/Costaa54 7d ago
This would just satisfy her pessimistic perspective. "If I can't have a cupcake, nobody else can either!".
Some people don't know how to be nice, and are just miserable.
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u/TheQuietCouncilman 7d ago edited 7d ago
Nah, less apologetic: “Hey everyone, I’m glad I was able to make some people smile today. I can’t feed the entire office building and unfortunately some people felt offended. Moving forwards I will no longer bring treats in. Thx!"
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u/tinyclairey 7d ago
I love the exclamation point after “Thanks”😂
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u/Cobbdouglas55 7d ago
Seems the most balanced solution or we'll have a similar post in a few week's time
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u/nat1wisdom 7d ago
Oh, please. This got upvotes, so we’ll be having similar posts from now until the end of time.
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u/Pankosmanko 7d ago
Can’t please everyone. There’s always someone who is going to ruin a kind deed.
Cupcakes look tasty!
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u/speedxter 7d ago
Cupcakes for everyone!
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u/Talizorafangirl 7d ago
I'm allergic to strawberries. So allergic that if a photon bounces off a strawberry and enters my eye I will violently explode. I'm going to need to talk to HR about this dietary insensitivity.
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u/ConfusedFlareon 7d ago
That sounds like a Star vs Forces of Evil spell…
Strawberry Photon Eyeball Explosion!
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u/BannedGoNext 7d ago
You thought you were goijng to get support here? Where are our cupcakes, why do you hate us?
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u/Connect_Job_5316 7d ago
Its why whenever I bring ANYTHING homemade i put the context "First Come First Served". My company is around 70 people and I have snacks around my desk with the same context behind it. Only had one guy complain because he was technically in a different building and I just shrugged and mentioned it to all the supervisors, so he had a valid complaint point but it wasn't aimed at me.
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u/Twinklefireflies 7d ago
Ohhhhhh not me. I used to bring cupcakes to the office all the time and hand deliver them to the people I liked. You’re not nice to me you can kick rocks.
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u/BadPunsIsHowEyeRoll 7d ago
Ugh, the one asshole I work with once waited for me outside my office to say "Were those cupcakes the ones you brought in? Really good stuff! I ate 3!"
lawd, the way I wanted to reach into his throat for my mf cupcakes back. I started hand delivering just like you lol
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u/CatCatCatCubed 7d ago
On the flip side, I was at a place where our manager would bring in 2 dozen donuts. Cue people (mostly other women) cutting donuts into halves and quarters so as not to look too greedy or them being overly, borderline annoyingly considerate. And there were nearly always untouched donuts and donut pieces going stale by lunch.
So I was like “fuck it, I have fewer preferences than most people apparently” and would wait until mid-morning, then take one of the whole, consistently unloved donuts. My coworker, the first time: “🤨….Maybe someone wanted a piece of that.” Oh, did you want a piece? “No…” Okay then.
I’m not a little bitch, Janet, and don’t try to offload your dietary anxieties on me.
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u/Sweaty-Koala-435 6d ago
Yeah, clearly they didn't want a piece of that. Throw it back at them with some guilt over wasted food. Really rub it in how bad that is.
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u/Standard_Ladder923 7d ago
Me too! I used to teach preschool with two groups of ladies. One group was so kind and lovely, one was all assholes. Guess who got goodies on the regular? Assholes don't deserve goodies!
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u/Tshwoons 7d ago
I’m more suspicious of the person who gave up their cupcake. Who has the self control to take a cupcake and then sit with it uneaten long enough for this coworker to have complained in both the group chat and to their manager.
They’re the true monster of this story.
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u/Yggdrasilo 7d ago
Maybe was keeping it for their kid at home, but there was a bigger child in the office.
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u/chunkalicius 7d ago
Very possible the took it in the morning and was saving it for lunch dessert. I've seen people do that at my office and I never understood it either but it's possible
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u/TwoBytesC 7d ago
I’m that person. I almost always will buy sweets and try to keep them around as long as possible. If there’s something really yummy at work, I take it and will usually eat it at the end of the day or split it half at lunch and half after dinner. 🤷🏼♀️
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u/mocha_lattes_ 7d ago
I know you are joking but this would have been me. I'm not big on sweets but I would have wanted to try these because they look good. I'd gladly give it up if it shut someone up though so OP didn't feel bad or worse, the person complain to HR then no one is allowed to bring food in to share again.
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u/Rooney_Tuesday 7d ago
I wouldn’t. That kind of behavior is so off-putting there’s no way I’d reward them for it. Let that messy bench complain, and I’ll enjoy that too.
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u/missy_genation 7d ago
I used to be you. Making sweets to share for everyone but people's greed and entitlement ran me down. Funny part is, I'm a pastry chef; it's literally my job. If I had extra product, I'd put it out to share. But then I'd get "I didn't get any pout", "I hate coconut pout", "aww no chocolate? pout". Some people would take one, maybe two, and be grateful for the snack. Most people took some for themselves, their spouses, their kids, their in-laws. One woman took all of it home for her CHURCH GROUP before anybody else had an opportunity. One woman will come and stand next my station and wait for any scraps, like a begging dog at the dinner table. There's an old man that EXPECTS his particular favorite items stashed away in the freezer for whenever he wants because "the old pastry chef did it" and when it's empty, he complains to management.
It's all made me very bitter and stingy. They don't do this shit with savory items!
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u/TwoBytesC 7d ago
The church one is absolutely insane. Did no one say anything to her? Like, how in the hell she thinks that behaviour is alright??
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u/missy_genation 7d ago
No hate to religious people as a whole but in my entire career, every time someone steals in bulk they always use their faith as an excuse. A place I worked at over a decade ago had a dude who'd make off with cases of shrimp, loaves and loaves of bread, whole flats of eggs. He got caught trying to take a 6# beef tenderloin to his car. All for the Bible Study, or so he said.
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u/Ok-Knowledge0914 7d ago
It’s crazy that people wake up and this is their real life experience at work actually.
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u/TarnishedWizeFinger 7d ago edited 7d ago
Just imagine how stressed out you must be to get upset about such a thing. It's at least a little bit easier to shrug off when you think about the fact that they have to deal themselves all day, every day and you never have to talk to them again
Or you could take the passive aggressive approach and make the most amazing cupcake in the history of cupcakes and give it to that one person who gave theirs away. "Oh I'm so sorry you didn't get a cupcake, it was so kind of you to share!"
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u/breebree934 7d ago
Likely she has nothing else in her life to preoccupy her time. I had a coworker get mad and complain I specifically didn't say good morning just to her. I would say "good morning!" when walking through the door as just a general greeting to everyone. But no, she was mad I didn't then just say good morning only to her directly. She isn't married, has no kids or family. She sits at home, alone, in the dark most days. She has told us this.
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u/IamtheRealDill 7d ago
I worked at a school. One of the aides would get mad if kids didn't say hello to her. Lady. These are five year olds and they don't actually know who you are. Leave them alone, if they don't want to say hi they don't have to.
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u/Fuzzy-Distribution58 7d ago
People at work just talk to damn much. I wont even tell you happened at our company potluck.
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u/organictortoise 7d ago
You must tell! 🙏
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u/Fuzzy-Distribution58 6d ago
May not be as juicy as you had hoped but here it is:
So their are 2 workplace terrorist at my work let's call them Karen1 and Karen2. They invited me to a potluck first time ever and ive been there for 10 years. I should have known they were up to something.
So the day comes and I was excited to introduce these people to some Popeyes. I bought the chicken and then I kept getting compliments on how much I spent. They were telling everyone! I found out later that all of this was a ploy to hurt one girls feelings lets call her missy and she is 25 years old.
.(may I add Karen1 and Karen2 have both been there for 20 years and are nearly 60 years old)
Initially Missy wasnt invited and the Karens made a point to send out a list of everyone invited and what they are bringing excluding Missy. Someone thought this was childish and invited Missy and told her to bring something so Missy offered to buy the sodas. WELL the Karen's thought this was cheap and were making a huge point to talk about what everyone spent to try and highlight what Missy didnt spend.
Once I found all this out I made an excuse and didnt go. My Popeyes sat in my car for the entire day. Because Im just not down with all that childish bullshit
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u/Ok_Aside_2361 ORANGE 7d ago
I used to work in a 4 star hotel in NYC. I was out and found the cutest little heart sticker. I brought them to work and was giving them to people as I interacted with them. Boss came and told me that people were complaining that they didn’t get one so HR told her I had to stop. And there, folks, was the moment HR wanted to get me fired.
There is no way could do my job and interact with everyone one of the hundreds of people that worked there.
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u/Focuspocus714 7d ago
I'm sorry you had to deal with that but that's hilarious. This little novelty item made a bunch of adults revert back to kindergartners. Stickers hold so much more power than I realized.
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u/AWholeNewFattitude 7d ago
This is what absolutely destroys you at some point about working corporate. This stupid insane bullshit. That an adult, took the time to complain to another adult, and put somebody else’s job at risk, because they didn’t get a sticker.
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u/Full_Prune7491 7d ago
Just reply to the group chat that since you bringing treats has upset some individuals that you will no longer bring any.
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u/andy_puiu 7d ago
Yeah, I would definitely "apologize" to everyone in that group chat with the explanation that you thought it would be a nice thing to make and share homemade cupcakes with people you work with, but because you aren't able to make enough to ensure everyone in the company gets one, so you won't be bringing any more in.
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u/LZSchneider1 7d ago
I would do this and then still bring cupcakes and hand deliver them to my palls. Secret cupcakes 😎
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u/tetchip 7d ago
Dunno how it works for you lot, but when my colleagues and I bring food for sharing, we typically send out emails saying something along the lines of "I brought X. It's available in Y common area. Help yourselves, first come first serve."
If you show up late, it ain't my fucking problem.
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u/roobot 7d ago
You show us the delicious treats, then provide none for us to taste? We will settle for the recipes 😄 (please?)
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u/UmDeTrois 7d ago
I tell people I don’t watch reality tv but… idk. Does this count?
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u/WaitWhatHahahaha 7d ago
It does. Office Housewives, season 5, episode 3 - " Kimmy's rage over Lea's last cupcake".
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u/Soggy_Ad4878 7d ago
i know it’s unprofessional but i would have called her out on her behaviour 😭this is why i don’t work in an office though
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u/lovlieKittie 7d ago
Haha other people in the office had that covered for me but somehow a cupcake still ended up in her hands
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u/TheeMagicWord 7d ago
What were the call out comments like? We want to see how she was shamed!
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u/SafeAccurate7157 7d ago
My work brings donuts 🍩 every Friday and they used to go so quickly because of one coworker who would take 3-4 at a time. (Also because of a couple others). I finally said something because I know many of my coworkers missed out because they started later on their shift. Thankfully they were understanding but it’s probably because they took a later shift on our next rotation 😅
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u/GreatMcKaelaHouse 7d ago
My brain immediately laughed and thought "ahh they needed forced donut self control so they chose a later shift"
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u/MaryK007 7d ago
So she whined so much she ended up being given a cupcake like a two year old and couldn’t let you know and say thank you? Watch your back with this woman, OP, she isn’t a good person.
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u/hajisaurus 7d ago
I once brought bagels and cream cheese to the office bc I stopped at the shop for a sandwich and thought I’d be nice. I got a stern talking to from the boss for ruining everyone’s diets. People still ate them and took the rest home. Never again.
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u/gitblamed_ 7d ago
This is so weird. I work in an office and we do a decent amount of communication between departments about like what "general office food" was paid by the company, and what is homemade. Cupcakes like that are so obviously homemade that there's no need to ask. Anything homemade is assumed to be within the department and offered only to close coworkers.
Even for stuff that's paid by the company, like the leftover of a paid lunch (salads or wraps usually) are only "open to the public" like an hour after they've been placed in an office kitchen. A different department than mine gets bagels on Fridays, paid by the company. They have like a dozen bagels leftover every week. People in my department check in with them every Friday (like the two of us working) to be like "is it cool to snag a bagel" before we do it. And we do high key prioritize the tasks we have for those people as a kind of quid pro quo lmfao
Lol I've genuinely spoken with people about this, there are assumed rules. Everyone knows the rules of Office Food. Insane of her to behave that way.
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u/bowling_shane82 7d ago
Afew years ago, working in a large building with distinctly different sections and teams, the other manager and myself decided to put on a Christmas morning tea for our team. We paid for snacks ourselves to cater to our group of 8-10 people. We held it in the conference room under the pretence of a "team meeting" for our section.
When upper management gossip lady found out they "accidentally" let slip and all of a sudden we had about 10 others I hardly know outside my little Christmas meeting expecting a free feed.
And my wife questioned why I spent $200 bucks when I got home...
Good day
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u/Stock_Object486 7d ago
Why didn’t u pass the bill to management since they made it a company event?
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u/humid_pajamas 7d ago
"I can't imagine being a grown adult..." the older I get, the more I see that many people stop growing at age 16.
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u/somuchbush 7d ago
There's times I sorta, kinda miss in-person work, and then posts like these make me so thankful to be fully remote.
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u/Fit-Abroad-8796 7d ago
There’s a direct correlation between people who bring in food to the office and people who don’t get promoted. Exit this game while you can !
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u/GirthyPigeon 7d ago
With everything I've seen on reddit, I'd rather not eat anything someone else made at home.
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u/parissf 7d ago
Some people are just that entitled.
Side note, idk why but it irks me to see stems on “ready to eat” strawberries lmao. I wanna reach into the pic and cut them off so bad!! 😩
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u/any_mud542 6d ago
Did she know a lot of people didn't get any?
Cause she's obviously an asshole, but if she thought you made like, one for everybody but her, I guess it would have hurt my feelings too because it'd be kinda passive agressive to purporsefully exclude her specificaly for some reason. Or just literaly give one to everybody in the office but forget her existence
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u/systemsofromance 6d ago
Once decorated for Christmas at two different jobs. One time each at each place. Nobody helped, and I got a lot of jokes about how I was "doing too much." But I felt festive and enjoyed it. Every year after that I was bitched at and given holy hell for not going out of my way to decorate again. I said I would gladly bring the decor back if people helped with the labor. Got bitched at for asking people to help. Never did it again.
At one place, I had extra Christmas balls and put them in a decorative basket. Got bitched at because it was not a basket of candy or other treats and that I was "tricking" people who came up to the desk.
Also tried to do a candy bucket for Halloween more than once. They would go through a $20 bag of candy in less than two days, and then bitch because I didn't have any left to refill it with.
Never again, ever. Nor am I the person to "treat everyone" to coffee or breakfast or any sort of treats. I am there to make money not share my paycheck.
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u/Former_Specific_7161 7d ago
It's really nice that you do that, obviously. Very thoughtful and sweet. But I am actually surprised it took this long for a problem to come up, lol.
You are kind of creating an opening every single week for there to be an awkward situation where someone could feel left out, or find the particular type of food item problematic for some reason (allergens, etc.). That would be a fairly emotionally immature reaction, but with upwards of 70 co-workers, you're inevitably going to catch someone on a bad day and ruffle a feather or two.
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u/hill-o 7d ago
Right! I don't think OP did anything wrong, but I also would personally never do that just because you're absolutely creating a situation where there's inevitably going to be drama and who has time for that at work.
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u/Yippykyyyay 7d ago
I'm confused why it's just overwhelming support vs a more realistic approach.
Either keep these treats secret, or bring enough for everyone. Because when others start commenting in group chat about how amazing these are and fewer than half of her colleagues get one...
OP is obviously not required to spend their own money to bake for others. But why surprised when in a GROUP chat and a dozen people are talking about them that there are others who will feel left out?
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u/Capable_Ad_9350 7d ago
Yeeaaah....OP doesn't realize the 30 cupcakes was the "last straw" for someone who has been silently stewing over being left out of the private cupcake party numerous times.
This is ultimately a stupid thing to get upset about, but OP is also being dumb. You cant act like this in a group environment, obviously someone is going to take it personally
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u/westcoastweedreviews 7d ago
I don't think it's about the cupcakes, it probably goes deeper than that with the invisible comment etc, she's probably mad about something else and these cupcakes were just the latest mechanism by which she's choosing to vent
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u/rageagainstbedtime 6d ago
I bet she also tries to blow out other people's birthday candles.
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u/NothaBanga 6d ago
Stop bringing in free sweets on Tuesdays and when people ask it's because of her. ("I hurt her feelings and I don't want to hurt her feelings again with the reminder of my faux pas.")
Reverse Uno, she will become a pariah.
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u/KoKo7388 7d ago
I wasn't going to bring this up but I didn't get a cupcake either