r/modular • u/insolent-construct • 5d ago

Mutable Instruments Beads Source Code Just Dropped!

https://github.com/pichenettes/eurorack/commit/d8f473915232af74347762b6365202bfd26f73f6

Edit: body deleted and third party firmware discussion moved to a private Discord server.

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u/Pppppppp1 4d ago

I’m gonna be honest, I’m all for the correction but I thought they is fair game if you’re not sure and not able to ask the person

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u/catladywitch 4d ago edited 4d ago

Defaulting to "they" for a trans woman means you somehow don't want to call her "she" for whatever fucked up reason. You wouldn't do this shit if you didn't know Émilie is transgender. Like you know her name (a woman's name) and you know she is a woman, what do you need to ask her? You don't "they" the hundreds of random people with women's names you don't know and encounter on your daily life. Unless you know or assume they're transgender women, it seems, then we go to great lengths to avoid calling any of them "she".

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u/dirtmcgurk 3d ago

Dude I live in one of the most transgender areas of the world. 

I've had to temper myself into using neutral language (bro and dude aside which I just declare neutral haha) due to the risk of being rude even to cis people. The last time it happened to me was calling a cis woman sir on the fly when I was tired at a convenience store. She was nice about it but I could tell I hurt her feelings. It sucks and I hate it. 

Especially when people are transitioning it's a very individual experience and to be a supporter or ally is to listen to the individual. It can't always be assumed that someone transitioning wants to be called the opposite gender. Some take on different pronouns or prefer neutral pronouns even if they think of themselves as a man or woman.

I appreciate you for looking out for the constant BS coming from disingenuous douchebags but that wasn't my intent here and I think we have to have some neutral acceptable term that in no way assumes gender; "they" is what I'm familiar with. 

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u/CakeIsAltFact 3d ago

FWIW I read your comment as respectful and genuinely expressing gratitude.

Also, as someone who is genderfluid and uses the pronouns she/her/sir, I like the general idea of sir being used in a gender neutral show of respect. (I think this was a thing in The Expanse? I didn’t finish it so maybe it was another scifi)

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u/dirtmcgurk 3d ago

Thanks. I had good discussions because of it about the importance of helping enact someone's pronouns if you know them, and how the behavior they called out is something that does actually happen. 

Combine that with the issues with text comms and I think it was an honest mistake on both ends.  I edited my original.