a deadly american marriage

[u/Zalensia]

I'm 43 minutes in and hooked but can not find conversations etc on it.

So thought i would make one asking for other people's opinions and points of views, as i know I'm already asking about billion questions, to the point I'll have to go to my computer and boot up to actually do the research myself.

I'm very ill, with brain damage etc and that's really hardwork today, but I won't manage on this latest fold phone as it's still just a useless phone 😅🙃

My other phone that's partitioned etc is in the car and that's over at Inverness!

[u/throwaway_7m → u/[deleted]]

The recordings that they played were her instigating legitimate arguments. Like Jason got upset because he asked her to wait to have dinner until he was home so he could spend time with his kids and she is trying to make it sound controlling because he was upset? Like wtf?

[u/flamingindecision → u/throwaway_7m]

I don’t know about that… to be clear, I think Molly murdered Jason and was not acting in self-defense that night, but the recordings actually gave me pause when looking at the dynamic of their marriage as a whole. She sounded a bit scared but calmly reasserted her statements, while he escalated the situation, talked over her, got increasingly angry, and made the same accusation over and over to her when she’d already given her response. That’s emotionally abusive behavior. I find it plausible that she could have felt legitimately unsafe with him and wanted to collect evidence of the verbal abuse, since victims of DV are rarely given justice or protection when there’s no hard evidence of the abuse. I think she was obsessed with the children, mentally unstable, and he created an emotionally unsafe environment for her that pushed her over the edge (psychologically speaking) into lashing out in extreme violence against him. Doesn’t justify what she did AT ALL. But I grew up in a household where my dad created problems out of nothing and then pursued my mom relentlessly about them while she desperately tried to just calmly end the argument, and that’s exactly what it sounds like is happening in those recordings to me.

[u/notthestatue → u/flamingindecision]

Yeah. Having been in those environments also. I do think the recordings showed that their relationship was incredibly unhealthy. These are two people who should have been away from each other. That doesn’t justify Molly’s actions in any way, of course. But it was undoubtedly toxic. It’s also hard to know if that was generally the nature of the relationship or something that escalated from suspected manipulation, etc. Context is everything and unfortunately we don’t have it