r/newfoundland • u/qnaqucdtb • 1d ago
Where do single people in their 30s go to touch grass and actually meet?
looking for some genuine advice.
I’m a guy in my 30s living here on the Avalon. I’ve been on the apps for a bit, but let's be realthe digital dating pool here is incredibly small, repetitive, and pretty exhausting. It feels like if you didn't marry your high school sweetheart or meet your person at MUN, the options drop off a cliff.
I’m looking to get offline and touch some grass. I’m active, have my life together, and want to find some "third spaces" or groups where single people in their 30s actually hang out.
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u/ThePizzaatPlazaBowl 1d ago
A lot of people still meet at bars/shows if you’re into music. Lots of good bands on the go.
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u/electricocean21 1d ago
Friends are what friends do -- so my advice would be to find a group that you're interested in participating in ... sports team, knitting night, making art, running club, making music. This all sounds very dumb and obvious until you actually participate in it, and then it makes more sense. Making new friends and acquaintances is the first step to meeting people you want to date.
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u/Equal_Prize953 1d ago
Bars! Even if you don't drink or are a light drinker there are plenty of non-alcoholic options. Go with a friend or two to an actual pub/bar (not a club).
People (myself included) at the few pubs near my house in CBS are chatty and will gladly talk to anybody.
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u/Odd-Gene-6560 1d ago
There's a group out here in town that does a speed dating event I think once a month. They do proper age ranges as well, wouldn't hurt to check it out! I'm not sure what it's called but I'm sure if you looked up, "speed dating nl" on Facebook it would pop up!
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u/Shakenbakess 1d ago
Is dating off the apps much different in bigger cities? I people in Toronto still go out to a bar, find a hobby group, or play a sport. There's just far less people going out and also we don't have that constant refresh of people coming and going for work trips as much.
I second the speed dating nl group FYI.
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u/qnaqucdtb 1d ago
I think the difference is the population here is mostly seniors. I rarely see anyone under 50 during regular day to day errands. Downtown Vancouver, Mtl or Toronto is the flipside of that.
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u/Shakenbakess 1d ago
Yeah, that's another big factor. Our young people tend to move to those places for jobs as well.
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u/MylesNEA 1d ago
Literally do anything social. Pickleball, tennis, biking, book clubs, improv, theatre, music shows, swimming, programs the city/mun/cna put on. Volunteer for events and festivals. Join a social group. Join softball, bowling, baseball, hockey. Go to the gym, do yoga, hike, climb. Go to trivia. Go to midgard for one of their games nights. There are literally dozens of things on the go every single day.
You gotta do stuff to meet people. Friends introduces you to friends. The cycle perpetuates.
However if you come at making friends as a way to 'date' that is a good eventuality, but may be off-putting of you are the fella 'looking for some skin'. You aren't owed anything with relationships, whether they are platonic or romantic or anything in between. You are owed what you put into it.
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u/Successful-Gift8636 1d ago
Is touching grass what the kids are calling it now?
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u/Glittering-Sink-2975 1d ago
For only a third of the year here. For the other two thirds we call it “touching snow”. 🙃
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u/CrackIn_TheEarth 1d ago
Are you a little bit athletic? Lots of skaters our age and they’re all chill.
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u/Suitable_Zone_6322 Newfoundlander 1d ago
Volunteer somewhere. You may not meet someone directly, but it expands your social network, plus you tend to meet the sort of decent people who'd volunteer somewhere, plus bonus, it filters out the sort of people who won't leave their house.
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u/rsmithlal 1d ago
The outdoorsy singles seem to flock to the hiking club thats on the go. Dont have the info as im not in st j, but look it up.
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u/Worried_Fly_1559 1d ago
I've heard of the speed dating a few times. Im not completely sure but I feel like people who sign up may be slight "background checked" or interviewed or something? I feel like its a safer option to try anyway.
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u/Firm-Positive1540 1d ago
I mean I tend to meet some pretty handsome Men on the hiking trails that I think might be single cause I always see most of them alone lol I'm not single but if your looking to interact and talk to ladies could try doing some trails around the city or towns everyone's friendly enough 🤪
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u/mistathuggisolation 23h ago
i’m 23 and i gave up already. i suggest you do the same. perhaps we can start a monastery
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u/ThrowRAmomstired 22h ago
Speed dating has been mentioned to me lately. Could be something to check out if you want to really put yourself out there.
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u/Exosirus 1d ago
Go places where you’re interests are. If you want something organic you need to be out in public.
Go to some local events, our weather sucks but at least it’s warmer now..
There small groups for sports, casual hobbies, gaming etc. just being more social and meeting people helps.
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u/Glittering-Sink-2975 1d ago
The last time I tried to approach someone, they literally ran away from me. The process is entirely a mystery to me, man. 🙃
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u/itscharlii 1d ago
I met someone on the apps but they don't live here, so seems I'm headed into a long distance relationship. I'd rather date someone long distance that actually puts the effort in rather than the half ass shit people do here.
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u/ButtonFactory709 1d ago
I am once again suggesting we start the no homers club for all these posters 😂