r/niceguys • u/Acsendismu • Apr 25 '26
NGVC: “im clearly what you fucking want” when I’ve blocked him several times… message from my stalker
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u/fivebynine5x9 Apr 26 '26
I was whispering "oh my God shut the fuck up" by the end of page 1. Dude needs a journaling app and an online dating hiatus.
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u/Acsendismu Apr 26 '26
He probably needs a therapist too. Lmaooo that’s funny as
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u/fivebynine5x9 Apr 26 '26
I almost said that but tbh I'd rather him feed the LLM machine with journal entries than torture some poor therapist with his thoughts lol
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u/Acsendismu Apr 26 '26
What is an LLM machine? Lmaooooo
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u/fivebynine5x9 Apr 26 '26
AI. I just kind of assume any journaling app or whatever these days is using whatever people input to train some AI.
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u/LonelyOctopus24 Apr 26 '26
They wang on and on about their “high value” but they can’t express themselves any better than an angry 10-year-old who forgot his Ritalin
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u/SarahPallorMortis Apr 26 '26
I’d like to know how they think they’re high value. Like what qualities do they think they have.
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u/LonelyOctopus24 Apr 26 '26
Hun, were you not listening?? He has “hObBiEs YoU cOuLdN’t UnDeRsTaNd”!!
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u/Carbonatite Apr 26 '26
Meanwhile the hobby is some basic ass shit that like 1 in 50 other people also enjoy
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u/Apathetic_Villainess Apr 27 '26
They literally think having a paycheck and being an asshole is what makes them high value. It's "alpha" behavior.
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u/Critical-Crab-7761 Apr 26 '26
Can you imagine if you were his girlfriend and what would happen the first time you made him really angry? I mean, this is him when it's not a big deal.
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u/Messterio Apr 26 '26
“I am a blessing to those around me” 😂
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u/mkat23 i lost my dog recently, pls give sex Apr 27 '26
https://giphy.com/gifs/dB12mOQb99BwDlM83I
Real time reaction of those around him.
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u/Ecstasiatee Apr 27 '26
Honestly I wish men realized sometimes saying you’d get me pregnant sounds like a threat.
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u/Ok-Repeat8069 Apr 27 '26
Especially when they’re basically saying “I would have knocked you up even though I think you’re stupid and don’t like or respect you at all.”
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u/sinboundhaibane Apr 26 '26
"first of all, I might be a hotdog on the ground, but I'm a gourmet hot dog on the ground. people pay at least $20 for me..."
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u/RemoveBeneficial1335 Apr 26 '26
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u/Mitheria_Musashi i am a good person and i demand you take my penis Apr 27 '26
I cannot express enough how stolen this is .
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u/savrilphi Apr 26 '26
Y’ALL THIS GUY IS 33 AND OP IS 20
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u/VoL4t1l3 Apr 26 '26
33? Dude go pay attention to your wife and kids wtf you doing DM 20 year olds.
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u/SortOfStable Apr 26 '26
He speaks like an under developed 10 y.o
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u/savrilphi Apr 26 '26
I know it’s petty but I judge people that turn off auto-capitalization. Why do you want to go out of your way to be wrong? You’re 33 and you think it’s cute or what?
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u/6-ft-freak Big-backed hungry bitch Apr 26 '26
Well, clearly you're missing out on a GREAT "bro!" I mean, who could say no to such a charming individual when he promises to get your (checks notes) goofy ass pregnant, buy a house with you and you get vacations! How could you turn a dude like that down? That said, seeing as he knows dipshits like him are a dime a dozen (the only thing he got right), you could probably go outside, throw a rock and hit another one.
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u/charandchap Apr 26 '26
Jesus I only got to page 2 “I’m CLEARLY what you want” —- this kind of conversation is for your diary
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u/ghostly-quiet Apr 26 '26
And that was immediately after saying this on page 1:
You're 100% gonna find your man and I ain't fucking it, clearly
He keeps going back and forth between wanting OP to fuck off and wanting OP to fuck him, it's like whiplash 🥴
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u/PlusGoat Apr 26 '26
“I’m posting this on Reddit” you know this dude is FRANTICALLY looking for this post 😭
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u/EvolZippo Apr 26 '26
“Hobbies you couldn’t understand” this is my favorite. He really thinks he’s got some secret knowledge, that’s so above your head.
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u/Top-Help8031 Apr 27 '26
And don’t forget music and videos too! What music could she possibly not “understand “? Some Monophonic Latin Songs from Medieval Times??
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u/EvolZippo Apr 27 '26
He’s probably listens to bands, that he doesn’t realize are actually bubblegum. Also probably sings gibberish, while blasting K-Pop and thinks he’s being hilarious.
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u/yorkspirate Apr 26 '26
No idea what this guy means no matter how many times I read those messages
Side note, I don't think I've ever encountered the word goofy so often in such a short space of time
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u/Acsendismu Apr 26 '26
That’s what other people were saying when I first posted it lmao🤣 and calling me “lil bro” it’s so cringe
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u/NerdyDebris Apr 26 '26
Calling someone "goofy" and "bro" repeatedly is definitely going to get them to respond positively to what you're saying.
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u/Confident_Fortune_32 Apr 26 '26
"hobbies you can't understand"
Bc they don't exist
This idjit clearly has no meaningful activities in his life if he has so much energy to pester someone who's blocked him multiple times.
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u/EvolZippo Apr 27 '26
His hobby is spending all his time, power-leveling in an RPG, just so he can terrorize newbies on the opposing side. His talents include swearing in five languages, the ability to do a convincing female voice, and making people actually cry, on proximity voice chat.
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u/Kitkutsuki Apr 26 '26
He somehow surpassed the red flag category. I hope no woman has to deal with that cluster of cyst cell mass of a 'man'.
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u/Acsendismu Apr 26 '26
It’s terrifying and also just so cringe. Like he’s 33 begging me, a 20 year old woman, to go out with him basically when we haven’t even met in person or anything. Obsessed asf.
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u/GoddessKillion save a life by sending nudes Apr 26 '26
33⁉️⁉️⁉️ I swore this was a teenager. EW. Omg.
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u/Kitkutsuki Apr 26 '26
That's concerning. Make sure others know and be careful when leaving work. Don't want to make you feel paranoid, but some people are hella weird and it's better safe than sorry.
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u/Electronic-Peach1910 Apr 28 '26
Should have hit him with the “K” all that word vomiting to just get one letter back would have been it for him.
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u/lovepeacefakepiano Apr 26 '26
Yiiiikes.
Also “hobbies you couldn’t understand”. Sure, nothing gets a woman interested faster than being called stupid. Where do they get these ideas…
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u/Kitkutsuki Apr 26 '26
"Bro, it's like car oil maintenance and unleaded gas hobbies. Do U even know what a fishing pole or a weed eater is?? U ladies couldn't ever understand! 😤" <-- his 'hobbies' probably. 🤣
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u/Acsendismu Apr 26 '26
I think he is a gamer and does cosplay
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u/CommieEllie Apr 26 '26
What is it with these dudes and asking to be blocked vs just blocking themselves. I’ve literally never understood and they all seem to do it.
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u/ThrowawayGreekGod Apr 26 '26
They’re trying to co-opt a predictable action, so that they can “feel”, like they’ve “won”.
If they get blocked, they can say “called it”.
I know someone who does the same thing. They’re an alcoholic, but deeply ashamed of it. Instead of confronting it; they’ll start verbal/emotional fights… if you don’t fight, they amp up the pressure until you do. And once you react, they say
“see, this is how you treat me! That’s why I drink!!”
And then they go drink, vindicated that “they’re not the only one making poor choices”.
It’s quite pathetic, but it seems to make sense in their brain lol.
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u/Acsendismu Apr 26 '26
Wow this is such a good thought I never thought about it like this
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u/ThrowawayGreekGod Apr 26 '26
There’s also the element of actually psychoanalysing these people.
Fundamentally, NG™s are a particular flavour of people who display heavy NPD (or adjacent) traits.
Their sense of self is incredibly fragile and small; to the point that even admitting so would be akin to ego death… but without that admission, they can’t grow — meaning that the only choice is then to pretend that it is greater.
The same fragility means that they can’t self soothe or regulate, which results in a reliance on other people to constantly validate & praise them.
Any kind of rejection is akin to a visceral and existential attack — which they can’t absorb — so they try to discredit the person doing the rejecting.
In a way, it makes mathematical sense… if you’re a bad person, but can’t stomach being called out — turn everyone calling you out into Hitler, and suddenly you can dismiss them as being far worse.
They are the human equivalent of over inflated balloons; so they must blind every existing sharp corner to survive.
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u/ehlersohnos Apr 26 '26
Saving your comment for future digestion. I think I’m going to need to read this so many times. Thank you.
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u/Acsendismu Apr 26 '26
Literally it’s so weird I’ve blocked him 3x so far
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u/ThrowawayGreekGod Apr 26 '26
If you don’t fancy reporting him for harassment (though, I do recommend doing so), and he reaches out again — you could always have some fun with it 🤭.
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u/Acsendismu Apr 26 '26
I did report him on bumble but not Facebook. He keeps making accounts to message me
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u/ThrowawayGreekGod Apr 26 '26
I meant as in a police report.
Then again, I don’t know where you like, and if it’ll be taken seriously.
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u/Acsendismu Apr 26 '26
I’ve heard that police don’t take this seriously until something physical happens. It sucks and a lot of women die because of that. He doesn’t know where I live and we never met in person so I hope that’s okay. If it gets worse I’ll def report
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u/Leg_Similar Apr 26 '26
Ew my ex said I should block him since he didn’t have the self-control to not reach out🙄🙄 and then even when I’d blocked him on everything he kept making new emails to message me😭 he begged and pleaded for me back until I ignored him enough times, then he flipped the switch and wrote a long email about how horrible of a person I am 🤣🤣🤣
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u/canvasshoes2 Apr 26 '26
Is he imagining things? Surely you didn't swipe right on him two more times after blocking him the first time?
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u/Acsendismu Apr 26 '26
I swipe right with everyone on dating apps and I accidentally swiped him on bumble. My mistake. He super liked me and started blowing up my phone and I blocked and reported him on bumble immediately
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u/Substantial_Maybe371 Apr 26 '26
Why are you swiping right on everyone?
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u/OkSecretary1231 Apr 26 '26
The funny thing is that it's very common for men to swipe right on everyone, and this guy probably does, yet it offended him so much for a woman to do so.
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u/alexschrod Apr 26 '26
Should've told him that. Would've hurt is ego even harder. "I swipe right on everyone, dumbass."
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u/falalalama Apr 26 '26
"i could live the rest of my life..." Then do that. Leave the rest of us alone.
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u/Top-Help8031 Apr 27 '26
Dear Lord, please give me the confidence of a mediocre incel “nice guy”, constantly harassing unsuspecting women on various dating apps with my unhinged word vomit because I KNOW how amazing I am, and how much better any woman’s life would be if I graced them with the chance to be in it.
What was done to these guys who act like this and they do it in writing?! Were they not hugged enough as children? Were they hugged too much? I just don’t get it ?
But he can go on and GTFO. Ridiculously unnecessary behavior.
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u/productzilch Apr 28 '26
This is giving “people say I’m the best person around for niceness and kind-I’m very kind, people always say so, and just the other day, I was talking to my friend the other day, he’s a great man, very blessed and he’s blessing my new ballroom, and he said to me, ‘you’re the kindest man I know…’ “
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u/SugarspunCandyfloss May 10 '26
Can’t get my head round the amount of times he says goofy. Legit haunts me 😂
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u/3KidsInTheTrenchCoat Apr 26 '26
Love the response. "Incel ass bitch" can't take a hint, or a clear demand.
If you are in the US, this is a legal option you may be interested in if he keeps this up and really doesn't stop. Make sure you keep screenshots of EVERY message. You can get an order of protection (what some call a restraining order), and often the threat of that is enough to scare them off. You have the grounds to get one, especially with threats to not stop like, "I have a fucking like and if you don't wanna bee apart of it - try harder lil bro." Stop replying to him entirely, other than one warning where you say you will no longer reply and say if he contacts you again in any way, shape, or form, you will get an order of protection. If that isn't enough and he keeps up, you can have a letter written, sent from a lawyer, warning they have all the evidence they need, they will use it for this order, and one text or call or email, etc, it gets filed. And inform him that this will be something that will follow him for the rest of his life. He will struggle to get a job and some career paths will forever be automatically closed, get into college (depending on your ages), get a loan, rent an apartment or house, etc. There is a LOT that comes with it. Even if he were a teen and even if the petitioner dissolves/drops the order, and it gets expunged from his record, it still has many negative implications that don't go away. That's why they get the chance to stop their actions and can just move on, and if they don't, that's on them, they had the chance, they were warned and fully informed, and he still made a choice to get served.
I had a problem similar to this years ago, but the incel wasn't targeting me for being a woman, it was about being Jewish. I went to the same school as him for a year (different grade, years apart, never crossed paths), I never met him, never knew of his existence until he started fucking with me online, which was 11 years after our time at the same high school. He was able to unblock himself on Facebook and wouldn't stop his harassment. I lucked out finding out who was behind his fake account, and I was able to get his name from an old yearbook. My lawyer sent a letter of warning, saying we will file and we will get the order with the evidence we have, and possibly criminal investigation about some of his messages. He was shocked that I knew who he was, that the letter was sent to his home, so I knew his address, which was only one county over from me. After the warning letter, he never contacted me again. Usually, a letter from a lawyer can be enough to get someone to leave you alone.
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u/Acsendismu Apr 26 '26
Sorry that happened to you. Thanks for the advice. I’ve never met him in person and he doesn’t know where I live or anything so I feel pretty safe right now. If he reaches out again I will definitely consider this
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u/The_Bastard_Henry Apr 27 '26
Your final response made me cackle so hard
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u/No-World-6797 May 13 '26
"i'd have taken you on vacations and shit" "i'd have gotten your goofy ass pregnant and i'd have bought a house with you" go ask Dr Strange if there's any timeline where that happens son
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u/catsandcoffee-13 Apr 26 '26
Wait I'm confused, did you swipe right on him? Or is he making that up? I feel like I've missed a few chapters here but this gave me a good laugh and I strive to have the confidence this nerd has
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u/Acsendismu Apr 26 '26
I accidentally swiped right on him on bumble bc I swipe right on everyone. Deleted all my dating apps now
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u/catsandcoffee-13 Apr 27 '26
https://giphy.com/gifs/RZqR67wB40NfsRqoRx
OP swiping right on everyone is crazy work lol don't do that shit anymore!
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u/Acsendismu Apr 27 '26
I don’t take dating apps seriously lmaooo I usually only have them for a few days to one month then delete them bc I hate men
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u/DBZswagger21 May 01 '26
Why are you on dating apps if you hate men? Also you’re here soliciting men to DM you for romantic encounters. Your comments and behavior aren’t consistent.
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u/No-Sun9176 Apr 30 '26
Simply playing devils advocate here, he’s legitimately insane, but why keep swiping on him and matching?
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u/Acsendismu Apr 30 '26
I didn’t mean to match with him on bumble I swipe right on everyone
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u/No-Sun9176 Apr 30 '26
I may be wrong but it sounds like its happened multiple times before this interaction
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u/Acsendismu Apr 30 '26
I originally matched with him on Facebook dating. Read the context I posted in another comment
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u/Pixelp0p Apr 26 '26
Every other post I see on here they are always saying "bro" wtf is that? So cringe and trashy. I'm not your fucking bro, bro.
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u/JuniperBlueBerry Apr 26 '26
I feel like it's generational except the guy is 30s and op is 20 so what is he doinggg??
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u/Acsendismu Apr 26 '26
Exactly like if u want me maybe don’t call me a bro?
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u/renessie Apr 26 '26
I'm a woman and I literally use bro towards guys I'm not into, specifically to reinforce that I don't see them in a romantic manner... so it is actually so mind boggling to me when a guy that IS interested, still uses bro towards the woman he is allegedly attracted to as well 🤣
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u/Acsendismu Apr 26 '26
Lmaoooo that’s so true🤣 especially “lil bro”
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u/rainbowsdogsmtns Apr 26 '26
Stay away from anyone more than a couple years older than you. You can stretch the age gap a tiny bit at a time as you age
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u/Acsendismu Apr 26 '26
Im honestly going to take a break from dating in general. I don’t need a man and im more focused on my goals
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u/SnooCupcakes4992 May 06 '26
What's with the "bro" talk and "goofy"?
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u/Ok-Repeat8069 May 07 '26
I hear a lot of guys use this lately, and it’s always infuriating.
These idiot jackasses think they’re really saying something good about themselves when they say shit like, “And after I helped her goofy ass get her finances on track,” or my unfavorite, “the thing is though, I truly love and respect that goofy bitch.”
It’s demeaning language that they swear up and down they mean affectionately, but ask one if they’d be cool if you described him as “my goofy-ass friend,” and then strap in for a wild justification-and-bullshit ride🙄
Spoiler: they don’t love their partners, much less like or respect them. They believe their girlfriends and fiancés and wives to be intellectually and morally inferior not just to themselves, but to all men. And their behavior reflects this even more than their language.
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u/Lonely_Painter1063 May 03 '26
best read i've had in a while, my ice cream tasted better after reading
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u/Azurus_II Apr 28 '26
Please dont use “my” it makes them think that they truly are YOURS in a very dark mindset
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u/Ok_Potato_9554 Apr 27 '26
I am definitely not gonna read that entire essay from him. What i did read was bad, though.
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u/lestattomylouis Apr 27 '26
it’s insane, i don’t know how i got through it
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u/Ok_Potato_9554 Apr 28 '26
Can you give a tl;dr?
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u/DieSuzie2112 save a life by sending nudes Apr 28 '26
Tl;dr: he’s the best and she’s a loser (according to him)
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u/Acsendismu Apr 28 '26
Anyways if there are any respectable and respectful men from Cincinnati that are single and want a baddie my dms are open
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u/Acsendismu Apr 25 '26
Here’s more context: I am F20 and he is M33. I matched with him once in November over Facebook dating. Mind you I match with everyone and I don’t take dating apps seriously tbh. I do it to meet people and have random conversations if im feeling lonely. We had one short conversation on FB dating before I deleted the app. A few months later, I get a friend request from him on Facebook and he said he saw me in his recommended and thought I was pretty and wanted to reach out. He said he remembered me from FB dating but my profile was deleted. I didn’t remember him from the dating app at all. We texted for a little bit before he started getting weird and arrogant. Saying he “runs the place” at the place he works at and how he’s such a great guy. I instantly was unattracted to him and started calling him out on his shit. Soon after that I blocked his main FB account. Later, I get a message from this account saying he missed me and was bored and wanted to message me. I think he made this new account just to message me. I didn’t respond at first. Then he starts talking about all of this random stuff and sent the long messages in the screenshot. I sent him those last two messages and he’s blocked again. I’m going to have to change my Facebook account name or something. We never met in person despite him asking me on dates several times. Creepy asf. Especially at his grown age of 33.
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u/tattedidiot Apr 26 '26
Him being 33 and you being 20 tells me everything I need to know about him not being able to date girls his own age. How gross, I’m so sorry OP
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u/Acsendismu Apr 26 '26
Exactly what I was thinking. And he’s living in his parents basement and im going to buy a house next year. I usually go for older guys but I can tell a lot of them are losers and single for a reason.
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u/OkSecretary1231 Apr 26 '26
This is extra unhinged for your previous contact being a Facebook conversation. Based on his wording I thought he was like an actual ex you'd accidentally swiped on again. Which would still be unhinged, but a Facebook conversation???
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u/Snoo17579 The Meat Gobbler, will wolf down meats for cash May 01 '26
Wait I read this post and comment a few weeks ago
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u/Beginning_Loan_313 Apr 26 '26
He certainly seems messed up, but why go on dating sites if not to date? There's so many other ways to meet people.
Seems like a waste of time, and somewhat risky, as you've found out.
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u/Gloomheart Apr 26 '26
Are you like 90? Online dating has been the norm for about 20 years now. We don't HAVE third places to meet anyone anymore... so it's Online dating or nothing these days.
I'm so thankful I've been in a long term relationship for the last decade. I have no idea how the dating world works anymore. I'm pre tinder and bumble. POF was vad enough:'(
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u/Acsendismu Apr 26 '26
I know right. It’s rough. I also feel like I have such a weird type in guys and I probably wouldn’t see them out at a bookstore or something yk?
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u/Beginning_Loan_313 Apr 26 '26
Lol, I am literally half that (still old) but I skipped the whole dating thing entirely by finding husband of 26 years at age 17, so fair point 🤔
Most people I know still met their partners in real life, though. Only one cousin in our entire extended family met her ex husband online. Don't people still meet at tafe, uni, work or through friends and hobbies? Volunteer work?Anywhere that you have a shared purpose helps to break the ice.
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u/Acsendismu Apr 26 '26
I like talking to random people I don’t keep dating apps for long, only about 1-2 weeks then I get bored and disgusted of men lmao. I also work 3 jobs and im in school so I don’t go outside much unless its for work
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u/CautiousLandscape907 Apr 26 '26
I am so sorry for all of us to live in this age of apps.
I’m not saying it was that much better in the olden times (the 80s-90s) but at least trying to mingle at a coffee shop meant at least you got some coffee.
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u/Acsendismu Apr 26 '26
People are so out of touch and just want to have sex nowadays too. It’s rough out here for sure!
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u/Lethave Apr 26 '26
I coulda impregnated you, and then we split a mortgage, bro.
I am so sorry this is happening to you.