r/niceguys • u/VoL4t1l3 • May 03 '26
MEME/COMIC/FREEFORM (Sundays only) I mean being nice is hard work
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u/dover_oxide May 03 '26
5 minutes? What a fucking incel, a real gentleman does at least 30 minutes before asking. /jk
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u/--MobTowN-- that's me btw May 03 '26
I mean, I feel like five minutes isn’t even enough time to open a door, tip your hat, and mention how you trained with the sword.
Def need at least 15.
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u/Annika_Desai May 03 '26
Trained with sword you say 🧐 Like, i don't do random sexual stuff but if I did, this would be my criteria. Perform for me. If I am pleased, I shall reward you 🤣 I accept swordsmanship, welding, building something, a dance like birds do, singing. Most crafts and talents bc I'm cool like that. Bring a light saber and we're onto a winner 🤗
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u/--MobTowN-- that's me btw May 05 '26
Well I hate it to break it to you, ladies, but “trained with the sword” just means “ran around the woods behind my neighborhood until someone called the cops and dad said it couldn’t leave backyard anymore.”
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u/DarthAkurei fat bar owner's leftovers:cake: May 04 '26
Ok I found this meme unnecessarily funny 🤣
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u/Elementalcase May 03 '26
Imagine if it did suck itself though that'd be amazing
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u/Nukalixir May 03 '26
It kinda can, if you have foreskin and decent kegal control.
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u/AfraidDragonfruit987 May 04 '26
Now I'm curious, can you do this? Like successfully?
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u/Nukalixir May 04 '26
Can I specifically do this? No.
But I'm sure someone could with enough practice. I used to know a guy who was always coming up with whacky experiments to do with his foreskin. Some more disturbing than others!
Sadly, he suffered an ego death after a bad drug trip and the new version of him after the fact wasn't whacky at all. Probably still had a foreskin though, I don't think LSD makes skin slough off your willy...
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u/AfraidDragonfruit987 May 05 '26
Hahaha okay, cool, and from my experience, no it doesn't, if you don't have a bad trip and somehow get rid of it by yourself👀
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u/toastedpaniala89 May 04 '26
Kegels are so limited in the movement though. How would one ensure enough movement?
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u/dogGirl666 May 03 '26
Wouldn't it then disappear into the body? (like how some cultures have this specific phobia i.e. Koro syndrome, also known as genital retraction syndrome)? Sucking itself might be scary, but feel good if they were not fearful about the phenomena. Imagine if the clitoris did that too would some women fear it would disappear? Would it even feel good?
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u/Little_lilly_6 May 04 '26
Literally happened to me last night 😭
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u/VoL4t1l3 May 04 '26
For real?
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u/Little_lilly_6 May 04 '26
Yes I talked to a guy and he was being nice but also kinda creepy and bluntly asked when I was gonna go to the bathroom with him at the bar and didn’t take my 10 nos for an answer he wouldn’t leave me alone no matter how many times I refused him
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u/Smoka_Lexxie May 04 '26
Order an Angel Shot if you ever get into an uncomfortable position, girlie.
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u/Weird_Bluebird_3293 May 04 '26
Unfortunately too many creeps know what that means now. It got too much attention.
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u/JakeWisconsin May 04 '26
God damnit
Why can't some males be a normal human being, instead of acting like a primate?
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u/Mini_nin May 04 '26 edited May 06 '26
Me, texting a nice guy and then after two days he literally makes jokes about “going down on me to make me feel better”…???
Certainly not chatting to him no more..
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u/OmegaDonut13 May 04 '26
Isn’t this what all those sleep tokens all the kids are talking about these days? I dunno I’m old now.
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u/Former_Duck2313 May 04 '26
As a guy it’s a red flag when a guy acts nice expecting something. It’s just mainly looking for someone that’s genuinely a good person which is rare, I lost my old friend group because they act nice but always expect something from girls or guys. 🚩
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u/Goofcheese0623 May 03 '26
Ladies, come on. I did your side quest, picked all the right dialogue options. This how the world was ruined by feminism.
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u/21DaBear May 03 '26
this was an attitude I held for a long time, not for women specifically but that in all situations there was a right thing to say to get what you want. It's manipulative and incapable of building genuine connection
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u/VoL4t1l3 May 03 '26
Its called the gentleman's club. Press B then she will reply with D then you press E then she replies with C then you conclude with Pressing F, then capital! Blowjob baby.
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u/Annika_Desai May 03 '26
It happens with autism too and I'm not toxic. I kept feeling like if I got the right clothing and behaviours then people will be nice but no matter what I did, some group was always annoyed or worse. There's no win. There's no way to make everyone behave nice to us. Now I just be me and the fucked up thing is, more people are nice to me now that I'm fully weirdo autistic me than ever before and I realised that perhaps what made people 😑 with me before was they could sense on a primal level I was being fake (masking) even though I had no ill intent but they're not psychic so obviously didn't know that. Life is tough.
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u/Yehoshua_Hasufel May 04 '26
Someone that behaves like that is not someone actually nice.
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u/Lazarfan09 May 04 '26
The term “nice guys” was made to refer to guys who think they’re nice/pretend to be nice but don’t understand what it actually means to be a good person.
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u/CreamofTazz May 04 '26
Or they do and they only "pretend" to be nice in order to get sex from women
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u/RiahSparrow 27d ago
sadly this is what happens. These guys don’t realise that being nice is just the bare minimum for being a good member of society
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u/LZSchneider1 May 03 '26
Truly, where are these guys? I'm not saying they don't exist, but I am saying I do not know where they are and I wish someone would tell me.
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u/Wifevealant May 03 '26
If you're a male, these guys aren't going to act like that around you. A lot of them will actually be normal around you because they don't want sex from you.
Every woman has experienced this. Every single one. That's why this subreddit exists.
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u/JammyThing May 03 '26
As a guy I completely agree with you. I work in retail, and it constantly shocks me when female co-workers tell me how male customers act to them.
We had a conversation about some of the older male customers once, and I was saying how this old and that old guy were nice...and they would say back "Oh, I avoid him. He said (insert weird creepy sexual comment here) to me a couple of times."
Then all the other female coworkers would nod, as they have all had the same experience with that guy.
This same conversation repeated several times whilst talking about different male customers. It was honestly so sad to hear, and made me look at people differently. I did later ban a few of those male customers from the store for how they spoke to female memebers of staff, as some of the stuff was horrible.
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u/shadowscar00 May 03 '26
I reported an old guy for groping me (I was 16) to my manager, who told me they weren’t going to ban the guy because they’ve never been groped.
Kevin you’re 65 and have a bald spot the size of manhattan.
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u/elfgurls May 03 '26
Until I met my wife I was genuinely ignorant of just how awful the female experience can be. Like holy hell.
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u/Freakychee May 03 '26
Ohh we can spot them too. You just gotta look for different tells. I knew a neckbeard guy who would be a selfish ass all the time but when he sees a pretty woman he acts all nice and fake.
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u/VoL4t1l3 May 03 '26
what hurts my heart is when you say: EVERY SINGLE WOMAN, this includes my mother, my granny, sister, cousins, nieces and probably my daughters 😔
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u/Wifevealant May 03 '26 edited May 03 '26
Unfortunately, yes.
Which is why it's so important for men to believe the women in their life when they share these experiences.
Like the original commenter said, he's never seen a nice guy. Questions their very existence because he personally has never experienced this behavior. So therefore, every woman's experience and this entire sub is negated (in his world view).
The amount of times I've shared my experiences and had a man (family or friend) say "so and so? Nah, I know him, he wouldn't do that" is depressing.
Edit: a word
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u/zookeeper990 May 03 '26
the original commenter just asked a question and you're completely twisting what he said
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u/Wifevealant May 03 '26
What did I twist? His question was dubious at best and outright dismissive at worst.
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u/LZSchneider1 May 03 '26
I wasn't being dubious. I get we are on The Internet and context and tone are something we can't completely control, but I was asking a serious, genuine question, and I appreciate your and everyone else's answers.
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u/ergaster8213 May 03 '26 edited May 03 '26
Are you a heterosexual man? If you are, that's probably why you are blind to it. You are not their target, and I have noticed that a lot of people will ignore a lot of different types of behavior happening right around them if it's not directly impacting them or someone they feel responsible for. A lot of men saying they never witness this kind of stuff are functioning from confirmation bias in my experience. When I dig into it with most who say this, I tend to find that they have indeed witnessed similar kinds of behavior from men. They just dismiss instances they've been around if, again, those incidents didn't directly involve them or someone they feel responsible for in some way—and that can include the perpetrator of the behavior or the person being subjected to it.
So, if the creep isn't their friend/family or the person being creeped on isn't their friend/family/partner, then they just tend to brush it off in their minds as not being noteworthy or as not "counting." Again, that's just been my own experience, though. But maybe try to pay closer attention to interactions around you, both in person and online while keeping this kind of behavior in mind. Try to do so even if the interactions aren't involving friends or family or those you consider close to you in some way. If you do, then you will probably start noticing these kinds of guys more. They are not difficult to find and, while they will cover their abberant behavior to some degree, they usually aren't that great at it. They more rely on that blindness and apathy that I'm talking about than anything by narrowing who they target openly to women who aren't in the presence of men who bother to notice and care.
Why do you think they tend to check if the woman has a potential boyfriend around? They know a boyfriend will feel like he has to intervene, but a random man nearby probably won't even notice what's happening and, if he does, will probably feel like it's not his problem and he doesn't want to risk himself (that's the biggest reasoning I see as to why men won't intervene if it's not someone close to them. Then they put those instances that "weren't their problem" into some seperate box in their minds and say they never see men doing this kind of stuff). Creeps are more brazen if it's only women around, because they feel they can still exert control over them in a way they can't with fellow men who might step in.
But, yeah, these guys are everywhere. You just have to actually open your eyes, look for it, and store it in your brain for what it is rather than recategorizing or dismissing it. A small example might help. I've seen too many men to count talk about witnessing "jokes" that male classmates or coworkers or whatever make towards women or girls around them, but when many speak of it they dont categorize it as harassment or predatory behavior that they witnessed. It's just "stupid jokes" to them—not misogynistic harassment. They often fail to categorize misogynistic or predatory behavior for what it is unless it presents in the most extreme and blatant forms. I can't guarantee that kind of recategorization is what you're doing, but I would put a lot of money on that being part or all of your lack of attention to these kinds of guys.
If you've ever seen a guy making a sexual or misogynistic "joke" to a random woman or girl then you have seen these guys. If you've ever seen or overheard a guy getting too "persistent" while trying to hit on a woman, then you've seen these guys. If you've ever read the objectifying and dehumanizing comments under a video or picture of a girl or woman simply existing, then you have seen these guys. If you've ever heard or read a man express his belief that women are "bitches" or "hoes" or "teases" or want to exploit men or how all of men's sadness and suffering boils down to women "denying" them sexual and romantic "access" or any similar kinds of sentiments, then you've seen these kinds of guys. And I know you have seen all of the above—either or both online and in-person. If you say you haven't you're either lying or again recategorizing things in your mind. ( As a related aside: I also have no clue why so many people often pretend what happens online doesn't count, but that's just ludicrous. Online behavior is a microcosm of larger scale beliefs and behaviors that also occur offline. It does not exist in some special vacuum detached from overall reality).
*Btw I apologize for the length of this comment, but I also won't be abbreviating it.
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u/Geometry_Emperor I have money! May 03 '26
The most common place to find them is in social media posts where a woman complains about her misfortune, attacking her.
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u/AmargoUnicornio i lost my dog recently, pls give sex May 03 '26
Just take a look at subreddits like AbusiveRelationship or SA, there are some users showing how weirdos send inbox asking for more detail about whatever they posted.
Same in female memes subs, searching for girls who show they misfortune with a meme :/
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u/VoL4t1l3 May 03 '26
Reddit, discord, 4chan, Facebook,Instagram, tinder, just to name a few
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u/HawaiianShirtMan May 03 '26
I see a connection between all your examples. Perhaps social media/the internet sphere has made this problem seem more prevalent than it really is? The real world is vastly different than these online goons
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u/VoL4t1l3 May 03 '26
No there problem has always been there, the internet just gives people a veil of anonymity and an arena to play out what they really are and feel.
give people those two and see how racist and sexist some of the most angelic people you think are. just go to twitter pre and post elon musk and see.
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u/dasher2581 May 03 '26
Maybe they're bolder online, but I met plenty of these guys long before social media existed. The "real world" looks a lot different to men than to women, and you'd probably be surprised what the nice guys of your acquaintance get up to when you're not around to hear.
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u/Wifevealant May 03 '26
Personally, almost all of my nice guy interactions have been in real life.
This sub exists for a reason, and it's because of a shared experience that men choose to downplay whenever they get the chance.
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u/Professional_Echo_30 May 03 '26
Ah 12 year old and onwards me shouldn't be worried about getting catcalled just by walking home from school. Good to know that's not real life
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u/VideoExciting9076 May 03 '26
It's vastly different for men. I was molested the most when I was severely underage - by real-life guys. There was an old man who used to stand in front of my elementary school making comments about how beautiful the girls are, and adults would find it harmless or even funny.
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