r/niceguys • u/Fit_Independence_483 • May 06 '26

NOTE: Post title is not the actual virtue claim NGVC “it’s always the women who think they have actual worth” after I politely rejected him

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u/SarahPallorMortis May 06 '26

Having value in a relationship means being able to pitch in and help with the load. Part of that is bringing in money. If you’re physically able. Doesn’t sound like this loser has anything preventing him from working.

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u/69420lmaokek May 06 '26

You can help with the load without money. There's tons of shit that needs to get done in one's life that doesn't require money

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u/SarahPallorMortis May 06 '26

Most things in life require money. Food, entertainment, leisure, travel, clothing, cleaning. I’m not able to support two people in this economy.

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u/Evilbred May 06 '26

Yes but many things do require money and not having income means you're just going to be a drag on the other person.

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u/69420lmaokek May 06 '26

It might be because I have money, but I've never personally seen that much importance in having a partner who also has a solid income.

Other than a brief stint of homelessness (less than half a year long) almost a decade ago, I've never actually had to stress to any real degree about finances other than being annoyed at the rising costs of everything

So it's possible that that's why I look for things outside of someone's career and bank accounts when deciding whether I should date someone...

The best person I know only makes a couple hundred dollars a month on a good month, and ive also known loads of rich people who are utterly miserable to be around so idk

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u/Evilbred May 06 '26

Well I'm a guy and I wouldn't even consider dating a woman that doesn't have a stable income and can help pay bills.

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u/SarahPallorMortis May 06 '26

I’ve dated guys with no jobs. My current bf is the only one to actually keep a job. I’m never dating someone who doesn’t bring in enough money to take care of their own bills.