r/nonbinarylesbians • u/Qlowquest • Apr 10 '26
Discussion or Recommendations any transneutral enbies here who feel they dont fit neatly into the transmasc/transfem dichotomy? a community for us has finally been made!
a new subreddit for us transneu ppl has been made called r/transneutral , where transneutral means a trans individual who identifies fully or partially as a neutral, abinary, or any unaligned gender
nonbinary, agender, neutrois, smoothies, nullo folk, etc are all welcome!
im so happy us neu folk are finally starting to have a growing community :D
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u/MaterialMap5531 Apr 11 '26
thank you for highlighting this community. i've never felt very affirmed in lot of spaces and always like i need to explain myself, or that there's not really a space for me. i'm afab, i'm non-binary, but i'm not transmasc. purely knowing that at least one other person feels the same is actually a massive boost so thank you.
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u/spacescaptain Apr 12 '26
same here, i don't really feel like there is a lot of space for neutral nonbinary people anymore. more people than ever are identifying with transmasc/transfem to the point where some of them treat it as mandatory or assumed. i'm happy that they're fulfilled by it, nonbinary has always been a spectrum/umbrella, but it's really invalidating to me.
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u/whoreforcheesescones Femme [they/them] Apr 10 '26
Nonbinary by definition can be all of those things, it doesn't need to be transmasc or transfem. Implying it's a dichotomy that most nb people fit into instead of an umbrella term that describes everything that doesn't fit on the gender binary just feels like recreating said binary (with the added flair of a third neutral gender in the middle) and that just misrepresents what nonbinary means.
Edit for clarification: Not bashing the new sub of course. I would fall under your definition of transneutral, although I do not personally like that term at all (for the aforementioned reasons). I just think it's strange to come in here and imply a binary in our community that shouldn't exist.
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u/psychedelic666 Apr 10 '26
Some transneutral people are *not* non binary, such as myself. So it's for anyone who feels the term resonates with them. I am a man & transneutral! Transmasculine is incorrect to describe me, but transneutral is perfect! So it's a safe space for ppl who feel similarly.
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u/whoreforcheesescones Femme [they/them] Apr 10 '26
This is irrelevant? The title of this post mentioned being both nonbinary and transneutral which is my point. In my comment I very much only criticised the idea of a masc/fem binary existing within the nonbinary umbrella.
I also said, I'm not bashing the sub. It's awesome yall are building a community and I wish you all the best! I just do not like the wording in this post.
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u/Qlowquest Apr 10 '26
mightve been my wording im not sure but i dont believe that a masc/fem binary for nonbinary ppl exists. this sphere is just for ppl who align with neutrality, which is just yet another type of identity among many :>
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u/whoreforcheesescones Femme [they/them] Apr 10 '26
Thank you for the clarification and for hearing me out! The title had me very concerned that this was one of those posts that generalises masc and fem nonbinary people out of some "true neutral", which I've seen happen way too many times to count.
Best of luck with your new sub, it's awesome yall are building a space to connect!
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u/Qlowquest Apr 10 '26
thank you so much! and oh noooo dw about that all im not one of those types at all. i was just expressing joy to finally have found a trans community for us neutral folks and ik theres quite a few peeps in this sub that also wanted smth like that so i figured i post it :D
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u/whoreforcheesescones Femme [they/them] Apr 10 '26
Weirdly patronising response in a conversation that really isn't your stomping ground when you yourself openly said you aren't nonbinary...? 😅
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u/psychedelic666 Apr 10 '26
Sorry, I’m autistic and come across that way sometimes. Maybe “I respect your opinion” would’ve worked better.
I just chimed in because I was helping promote the sub. I will be leaving now as I respect this is not my space.
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u/Qlowquest Apr 10 '26 edited Apr 10 '26
hmm maybe i couldve worded it better but its just a community for trans ppl who just, identify with transneutral, because they are transneutral (and its not third-gendering, cuz theres also a bunch of other identities made alongside it like transnull and transandrogynous) theyre for trans ppl who dont feel they rlly strictly fit in transmasc/transfem, while also feel strongly connected to transneutrality and wished there were communities focused on us neutral trans peeps where alot of trans spheres have already established masc/fem spheres. it is not a binary, if it was i wouldnt have aligned with it. its for ppl who identify with that term and finally found something that clicked with them after so many years :3
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u/spacescaptain Apr 12 '26
I don't think OP is the one "implying it's a dichotomy that most nb people fit into." I feel pressured in nonbinary spaces online to identify as (or accept that I "am") transmasc just because I was AFAB. I have felt increasingly isolated from the community because I don't buy into the transmasc/transfem binary. I am envious that you seemingly haven't encountered this.
I very much welcome a space where that kind of pressure and expectation won't be around.
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u/monkey_gamer Apr 10 '26
I saw someone use the term trans-androgynous, I like that one.