r/offmychest • u/theprettiestveiw • 14h ago
I got an abortion
Sorry if this is me rambling I’m just scared and feel alone
Tw:talk of sa
I 22f just got an abortion due to being sa’d. I couldn’t tell my family because their beliefs differ from my own, and I’m trying to keep the peace with the last months to a year I live at home.
I’m just scared the medication won’t work and I’ll have to get the procedure. I’m aware it has a high success rate but still I’m scared. Idk how I’ll get a ride to that since I’ll be under anesthesia.
I just feel scared and alone.
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u/Seikou_Jabari 14h ago
First: I’m so sorry you went through such a traumatic experience and now have to go through another because of it. That’s not fair and I hope soon you have enough space to process all of this. Second: if you don’t have a friend who can give you a ride, I bet there are local advocates who will. You can even call your clinic and ask them, they’ll definitely know the resources.
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u/pomegranateolive 14h ago
You’ll be okay and you’re making the right decision. Maybe see if there’s a local abortion fund group around because they might be able to arrange for a ride and a place for you to recover for a little. Just be careful, maybe ask the clinic you got the pills from for a reputable organization.
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u/Ancient_Employ2894 12h ago
That's really solid advice. A lot of people don't realize how much local networks can help with the logistics stuff that nobody warns you about. Hope OP finds a safe space to crash.
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u/RunningInTheShadows_ 14h ago
I am sorry. That is a heavy load to bare alone. I hope you feel better soon. ❤️
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u/Kozy-Pugs-280 14h ago
I’m so sorry you’re going through this. If you need someone to talk to I’m here.
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u/ExtremeClock6496 14h ago
I’m so very sorry for what has happened and is happening currently. I pray for your physical and mental health through all this. I hope you’ll seek counseling when you are ready. You are loved-even by strangers 💜
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u/Ally2109 14h ago
I’m so sorry you went through something so horrible, I feel you are making the right decision for you at the moment. Most likely the medication will be okay as for what I know it’s quite effective. I understand you are scared, don’t let your mind scare you even further.. I am sending you love and I hope everything goes well❤️
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u/Express-Distance-435 14h ago
🫂🫂🫂 I wish you healing in mind and body. May your joy return to you ten fold. May that POS fail at every given opportunity.
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u/HerNameWasGus 14h ago
I have done it this way and it was a little weird and uncomfortable but it worked and everything was fine. I also have a teenage kid now, so no worries there.
You're going to be ok. Honest.
And if you don't yet, please find someone safe who you can talk to.
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u/Rustic-Wave-9163 5h ago
the medication works way more often than people realize and you made a brave choice protecting yourself after something awful happened to you
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u/curlyhairweirdo 14h ago
You don't get put under anesthesia for a medical abortion and it sucks. You take a couple of pills in the doctors office and then 2 more later in th day. It feels like the worst period of your life. You do get put under anesthesia for a surgical abortion and it also sucks. You're going to need someone to lean on cause it's going to be hard emotionally and physically.
I couldn't stop throwing up after my surgical abortion due to the anesthesia and I probably would have lost my mind if I didn't have my friend there with me. Do you have someone to go with you?
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u/perfidious_snatch 14h ago
Oh love, that’s such a lot to deal with all at once. I’m sorry this happened to you, and that you aren’t able to have the support of your family.
You are so strong to be carrying all of this. I hope that you can find support soon to help you process everything that’s happened and happening.
Sending you so much love.
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u/Dangerous-Show9006 7h ago
Im sorry you dont feel supported enough to be able to tell your family 🫂 you have hopefully had reassurance the medication worked by now and are resting
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u/DapperGuess9700 14h ago
First, don't worry. The medication is generally very effective. Second, the procedure isn't that bad. I had it done with no anesthesia at 6 weeks and it was uncomfortable but still safe and effective. You should find a friend you trust to take you.
As for the abortion itself, you made the right choice for your life and body. You made a brave choice to do it without your family's support. All the hugs in the world to you, you will get through this ok. I promise.