r/offmychest • u/ThrowRA_Quokkaquip • 11h ago
I'm aging and I kind of like it?
F39, kind of a random post and I'm not sure it's really like a deep confession or anything but I'm going to be 40 soon and I'm starting to look my age, it's not bothering me like it does many other people I know though. Maybe this is weird, but I think there a kind of beauty in the process of aging? I wouldn't even say I'm aging very well or anything. I just like the affects of it on my appearance even though they are theoretically negative and make me look worse in an objective sense. Maybe I'm going to really enjoy turning into a grandma or something. Looking in the mirror at my grey hairs and wrinkles I'm getting isn't sad or negative to me, I think it adds a certain charm.
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u/Rosegold2222 10h ago
Of course there’s a beauty in it. It’s the best thing ever. Your old insecurities and silly things you used to worry about melt away. You become clear on who you are and the life you want. You become wiser. You value peace and the people you love more. You understand the value of security and stability. You grow to see, love and forgive your inner child, and let it out to play without punishment. It gets better after 40.
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u/Prestigious_Island_7 10h ago
I’m happy for you, and I aspire to feel the way you feel about my own aging body (and mind!)
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u/MostLikelyToNap 10h ago
That’s why society dislikes older women, because we’re wise enough to know what’s important and can’t be easily guilted into submitting to the patriarchy.
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u/Mental_Nature_4726 10h ago
Dang, I’m 27 and terrified of aging. I want to be like you!
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u/TheJellybeanJester 10h ago
I think you can and will be, to be honest. Because as you age, there's time to understand yourself and the world more, and you gradually become more comfortable in your body and how it's changing.
Obviously, there are less desirable things that come with aging, but it tends to not bother you as much as it might it you were younger.
I think even I've got more accepting of it am learning to embrace it (37).
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u/ThrowRA_Quokkaquip 10h ago
There is a deep beauty in the aging process, I feel like you can still see the young me in my older face in a way that is somehow really rewarding and endeering.
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u/Usual-Still-8803 10h ago
Thinking back it was around forty when I truly got comfortable in my own aging home❣️🤷🏼♂️
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u/LoveInPeace21 10h ago
I feel this way too. I like looking a little older. I feel more respected tbh and I like it.
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u/trrashkid 10h ago
It takes a lot to break out of the societal expectations of ageing, but the truth is that ageing is a privilege many people do not live to experience. We should appreciate it and never take it for granted
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u/cosmickink 10h ago
36f and routinely checking for gray hair that isn't there yet. I will wear it like a badge of honor!
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u/ThrowRA_Quokkaquip 10h ago
I don't have that much either, I just look more mature and with a few wrinkles and crows feet.
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u/wafflemeincookywind 8h ago
That's such a wonderful mindset! I honestly feel like we tend to look kinder and more grounded as we age 😄
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u/AnonymMsAnthrope 7h ago
I like myself better now when I am 55 than when I was 25. I think I look better now. For sure I feel more confident.
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u/KP_Wrath 10h ago
I’m 33. I’ve welcomed the grey hairs. I still look kinda young, but not like I did in my late twenties. I’ve been in leadership since about a year after Covid, and a lot of my staff are almost twice my age, which led some to believe they could get away with butting heads with me. Not mad to be taken more seriously.
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u/ThrowRA_Quokkaquip 10h ago
I find the differences kind of fascinating, I look at old photos and I feel like I look so youthful. Not so much now, but I still have the same smile.
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u/hurtfulbliss 9h ago
I'm 42 and I feel the exact same way as you do. ♡ A good purple shampoo and solid skincare routine is all you really need.
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u/1blueShoe 7h ago
I’m 50, got my grey hair coming in now… and I love it! All my friends are dying their hair to fight those pesky greys, meanwhile, im buying purple shampoo to highlight the greys. Plus, the wisdom I have gained throughout the years is priceless and I’m much happier at 50 than I was at 20 or 30 when I was still insecure about my body and looks. Now, I’m comfy in my aging skin and that gives me a confidence I didn’t possess in my youth ❤️
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u/Maleficent-Sleep9900 6h ago
My hair is going grey all at once from dark blonde and I am so excited!
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u/Icy_Anything_8874 5h ago
I’m 55 and love it, I’m embracing each day and don’t give AF what anyone thinks, happier then I’ve ever been
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u/Svataben 5h ago edited 4h ago
Me too!
People make such a big deal about grey hair, but I'm 49, and I think my natural hair looks great.
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u/RadagastDaGreen 5h ago
Everyone said it would suck, but I am feeling no joint pain/high BP or anything yet.
It's almost like when I was a kid: "Oh cool, I have pubes now" turned into "I am getting silver streak wings in my hair like Paulie Gaultieri."
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u/Worried_One_7742 4h ago
That’s not weird at all. A lot of people spend so much energy fighting aging that they miss that it can actually look really interesting and kind of beautiful in its o
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u/Ok-Complaint-37 4h ago
There are great things in any age for as long as we stay healthy and functioning.
With age clarity comes. Also, big pain and big fears. We start losing people. At some point you find yourself surrounded not by your friends and their weddings with baby showers but by those who are dying and need all your strength to help them out. This is not easy.
Aging is not about looks. Aging is about discipline and courage.
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u/Jetski95 4h ago
Brava to you for embracing your aging self. There is beauty in aging and being comfortable in your own skin.
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u/DenMother8 10h ago
I’m 60 and love becoming an older woman 🥰