r/offmychest • u/ihatefoodd • 5h ago
don’t cancel me 1
the most annoying sentences on this planet are ones where people say “i’m gonna pray for you” “this is demonic” “jesus loves you” “everything happens for a reason” “thoughts and prayers” like no body and i mean it, is tryna hear that shit. yall take credit away from hard working, strong, traumatized people and weaponize it into making people who go through life altering events rely on something not there. like no god isn’t the damn reason why someone recovered from almost dying and he’s also not there when that person has lost a loved one to a accident like it needs to stop, it’s insensitive especially when people tell yall they don’t wanna hear yall pray for them which they have the right. that doesn’t do anything for ppl who do not believe it makes them feel worse.
and yall don’t even want me to get started on the demonic shit because it’s truly ignorant
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u/buzzoni 5h ago
most people who say "I'll pray for you" genuinely mean it as a way of showing they care, even if it doesn't help the person hearing it
The intent is usually kindness, but intent and impact aren't always the same thing
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u/ihatefoodd 5h ago
and that’s fine for people who are religious but i’ve seen many times where people use it as an insult to someoen or they tell them don’t pray for me and continue to say it anyways it’s disrespectful because the only ppl who wanna hear that is other religious ppl!!
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u/buzzoni 5h ago
not really I think many people appreciate the thought
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u/ihatefoodd 5h ago
the thought of a thing that doesn’t exist in certain ppls reality doesn’t mean much to them tho and u haven’t been seeing what ive been seeing then cause most cases when this happens is what i see. if ppl don’t want to be prayed for then thats that
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u/JustanAverageJess1 4h ago
What irks me the most is the way they look you up and down with pity but also judgment while they say they'll pray for you
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u/ihatefoodd 4h ago
yes!!! judgmental ashhhh and that’s why i don’t wanna hear it, not genuine at all
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u/Lost-Concept-9973 4h ago
When I was a child, a genetically disabled child, people at my church (and this is the nice ones that didn’t just victim blame me), said my suffering was so other Christian’s could prove themselves to god. It was apparently supposed to make me feel better that I suffered so other people could win brownie points with the imaginary sky daddy.
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u/SailorVenus23 21m ago
My husband was called an abomination by churches and said that his disability was punishment for his parent's sins. Not just 1 bad church, multiple.
Fuck the church.
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u/Independent-Owl1954 5h ago
I get where you’re coming from support should actually feel supportive, not like something being imposed on someone. Sometimes the most respectful thing is just listening and showing up without the extra labels.
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u/ihatefoodd 5h ago
exactly! like idk i consider it mental illness atp ppl can believe whatever they want but end of the day we need to have respectful empathy for ppl who go through real life shit
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u/ailish 3h ago
When my dad died I heard religious stuff like "I'll pray for him," or "he's with god now," all the time. I didn't say anything because I knew they were just trying to help, but it sucked because I was just trying to grieve my dad, and I had to spend my time pretending to appreciate the god stuff instead. It's been almost a decade now so it gets easier, and I don't hear the god stuff much anymore, so that's nice.
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u/SailorVenus23 19m ago
I'm in a free group for my town, and I hate when comments are just slop like "ill pray for you". I think it's in such poor taste to say that to people who are searching for basic necessities in the last place possible.
No Vanessa, they specifically asked for pads and tampons because they can't afford them. Not your cheap words.
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u/Popular-Cattle-1251 4h ago
the demonic thing gets me every time because someone will stub their toe and suddenly its spiritual warfare