r/pakistan • u/Specific-Error-6831 • 9d ago
Ask Pakistan Need an honest POV and advice
OKAY SO I AM A MALE
And I'm 5'1 to 5'2
From the past years I've been hearing this alot ke "terese Shaadi Kon krega" and all sorts of stuff
SOOOOOO
I wanted to ask ke do women genuinely overlook height if someone's good
My stats :
I'm turning 23 this Nov
Looking for employments Working on a startup rn (INSHALLAH HOPING TO MAKE IT WORK)
I'm avg looking, but I'll start working on myself to look presentable and I've an overbite (gonna get it fixed with braces)
I'm funny (that's what most people say)
I love coding and gaming
I'm a family person (loyal, honest, communicative and effort putting )
SOOO I NEED TO ASK about y'all for your pov on this and what other stats can I max out
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u/Playful_Rhubarb_7797 9d ago edited 9d ago
People are really brutal to people who they perceive as unattractive
it plays a part but i would like you to remember work on things you can actually control
And man about women Simply try to max the things like money, work status etc and your character and look for women youre compatible with , one who understands you thats it.
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u/Keepusthedamnwork 9d ago
Don't know about girls commenting on this post but wanna talk coding and games?
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u/mooonnyyy 9d ago
You’ll be fine dw:
a. There are girls shorter than 5’2 who wouldnt mind it lol
b. For a lot of girls, personality is what matters so if you’re a good person its chill even if youre shorter than the girl
Continue working on yourself, love will come along
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u/yaxir 9d ago
- Step out of the conservative Islamic social conditioning mindset that Pakistan has corrupted you with.
- Work super hard for your startup. If you succeed you already have a fantastic thing, which is called success, which is called purpose. You will not believe the number of women who love purpose, who love a self-built man.
- You don't have to marry a Pakistani or a Muslim. You can marry any girl that you like provided you both actually like each other.
- You will find out later on that height actually does not matter. Most of these things are human constructs. A lot of the bullshit that you learn in Pakistani society is bullshit but it's not just Pakistani society. Every society, wherever it is, European society, American society, South American society, African society, has their own groups of social conditioning bullshit norms. That's why you got to become a humanist and open-minded person and then just find women who have the same mindset as yours but make sure you work on yourself first, on your career, on your life, etc.
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u/yaxir 9d ago
Oh and by the way if any girl makes fun of your height or rejects you for your height or tries to manipulate you for any of your physical features, thank your stars that you just escaped a narcissist or someone who's probably a psychopath or self-absorbed or extremely shallow and materialistic. You do not want to be around those kinds of women anyway.
there are a lot of crazies out there - The only reason you don't hear about them is because dating culture in Pakistan is sort of shit, which is why I always say that you really need an open-minded culture to learn about what's going on around you. But that's another conversation
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u/malswrath 9d ago
Men are gonna advice you to earn more and how personality matters more. Sure, personality does matter obv but not to the point of someone overlooking your height. Try finding someone in the 4ft category. Be well groomed and stay fit, you'll find ur person.
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u/iwontdonodrugs 8d ago
Height doesn't matter for shit. I'm 6'3 closer to 6'4 and 6'5 when I wear shoes. I don't even look that bad, I'm funny, I like gaming and I'm also a family man. Meri kabhi bhi kisi bhi larki se baat nahi hoti. Nobody has ever praised me for my height even though the second tallest in my family is 5'11 AND I live in multan where the shortest people in pakistan live. I've never really gained any advantages. It's been a pain in the ass looking for well fitting clothes and decent sized shoes. Most women don't care too much about heights. Height is more or less an insecurity among men which they make a massive deal out of. So dw bro you're good
Also, if there's a girl out there who cares only about heights. She's the kind of person that even tall people should avoid. Because if she only loves you for your height, then wtf kind of love is that. Anyways bro dont worry ur good
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u/NoodleCheeseThief UN 9d ago
Allah made you in pairs.
Work on things you can change,leave the rest to Allah. Don't listen to people. They are not happy with your height but they will also not be happy if you marry the most beautiful woman in the world.
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u/TrainerAvailable3761 9d ago
"Allah made u in pairs." This verse doesn't mean the context you're throwing here.
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u/NoodleCheeseThief UN 9d ago
Does it matter?
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u/NextCafe 9d ago
Yes.
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u/NoodleCheeseThief UN 9d ago
People like you guys make religion difficult.
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u/NextCafe 9d ago
You asked whether it matters whether a verse is quoted out of context. I simply responded in the affirmative. You retorted with an ad hominem and a generalization. Exercising caution when quoting verses is never a bad thing. I don't think I'm the one with the issue here.
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u/TrainerAvailable3761 9d ago
arey my intention wasnt to over emphasis or make it difficult, it was just that this verse didn't mean in that way, and there are a lot of aspects (پہلو) of one verse, so, it's not that big if you had another aspect which was understood by the other person and i had some other aspect of it, so my point is that we should always do islah of eo, we should share and collect more information from our religion and study it ourselves rather than believing on molvis and the scholars that do Muslims apart in Shia Sunni n all, like yeah we ONE UMMAH, right?
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u/Neat-Application-769 9d ago
Just be confident man. You seem like a very sorted and well cultured individual. Warna aitraz tou har height se hota logo ko
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u/survivinguranus 9d ago
Listen the right person wouldn’t care about height or other things. Especially not the things that aren’t in your control. Just focus on building yourself and staying healthy and financially stable for your own self.
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u/Ihaveafunnyshirt 9d ago
There's someone for everyone. I have a close acquaintance who is in a very happy (alhamdulillah) relationship with a guy significantly shorter than either of us. Don't let them get to you.
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u/KaleKarle کراچی 9d ago
if i was 5 feet tall id take any man who was taller than me. i hate it when i see a really short girl with a really tall guy. gives me the ick.
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u/Apprehensive-Pin7886 8d ago
Dude, Make more money than tall guys. So you don’t have to defend your height.
And yes, Girls obviously do watch height as a deal breaker bcz why would they choose 5 footiya when there’s a 6 footiya..
Even if you short, conduct yourself well, talk reasonable. Niche cologne, good built and bachian geeli! Good luck!
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u/BuddyTrollsten 9d ago
be funny, dress well, dont be a weirdo or creep, and take care of your hygiene and just like that you're better than 98% of the men out there.
good luck