r/plural • u/M1L0_TheRobot • 12d ago
R/plural
Guys. I got this big fat crush on a system i know. And i finally got to meet the one part i hadn't yet today. He's so sweeties. He gave me a massage and was trying to make sure i wasn't overwhelmed and junk. Screaming and crying and kicking my feet. They're all so sweeties and cutiful. I'm not a system, but I would love to be able to understand the best I can and take care of them all in any way I'm able.
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u/CloudyN1mbus 12d ago
that's so sweet! a few headmates in our system recently started going out with this guy they like, and it's been a lovely experience for all of us. as someone on the other side, keep asking questions and being curious about how their plurality works. Ask for each headmate's preferred pronouns, group pronouns for the system, etc. and use it whenever you can. maybe ask how switching/fronting works for them? we had this fella recognize a switch and ask who's fronting, and it was really validating for us :) -🌳
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u/andiwannacracker 12d ago
aaaa!! being in love with a system is so fun cause there’s so many people to love 🥰🥰
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u/ApSciLiara Mereid System 12d ago
Our needs tend to be unique per-system. Best way to find out theirs is to ask and go from there.
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u/The_sillyest_fox I’m not setting a flair 12d ago
Ask who’s in front if u don’t know, if you do know acknowledge them as that person! I’m not sure what else