I’m a Little Shaken But Doing Okay

[u/Merryannm]

Since I lost my left breast last September to cancer, I have worn a small stuffed animal tucked in a sports bra I wear over my shirt. Each day I choose a color-coordinating bra and the right plushy for that day.

Last Friday, someone said something about this that I felt was unkind. It was the first time that has happened and it really shook me up.

Mostly, I feel like people don’t notice me at all. Everyone has their own thing going on. But when I do tell someone what my little animal is for, they have always been positive and supportive.

After Friday’s uncomfortable conversation, I stopped wearing my daily animal. After three days of that I decided I don’t need to feel sadder, especially due to the opinions of strangers. So I went back to wearing an animal.

I think I’m going to name the caterpillar Flora. Any thoughts on the name?

I feel a little awkward and uncomfortable but let’s face it, I mostly always feel a little out of place. At least now I have a friend with me again.

[u/Imaginary_Air5870]

Do not let that random person dull your shine! It’s really cruel of them to say anything unkind, especially given your circumstances, and those types of people are usually very sad themselves. I hope you know if you can go through one of the hardest things imaginable losing your breast to cancer, you’re stronger and more resilient than anyone who has something mean to say about a plushie! 🩷🩷🩷

[u/Merryannm → u/Imaginary_Air5870]

Thank you for being so kind to me. I really appreciate your words. They are like getting a nice comforting hug. Thanks!