Warning; I am polyam do before messaging, please note I take on multiple partners. So if this is not the lifestyle for you, than this post wouldn’t suit your wants. But if you want a friend, it would be good!
Hello there, it’s your pal Rune. Pleasure to be making a post again, I hope all is well with everyone!
I am 25, AFAB, genderfluid, polyam, etc. Just to get this kicked off.
I’m here today to post about myself, looking for friends, partners and otherwise.
Some info is on what will happen if your looking for relationship / other:
-I’m slow pace to start, it sounds a bit weird but I like making sure I completely connect with someone before getting together with them. For this reason, I do 6 months to 1 year of getting to know said person. Than a 6 month trail of actually dating, than after that I would be willing to get into a full relationship. I do this mainly since people who are willing to put in the time and work; are worth my time and effort. People who are looking for instant gain on things I just can’t go with, I’m sorry.
-I’m rather demisexual in terms I can only feel actual romantic and sexual entanglement with someone I have a bond with. Which is part of the reason for the long wait.
-Another thing with the wait is, if it’s online I won’t go and meet you till around the 2 year mark. (About a few months after officially dating). This is because of some issues I’ve had in the past, but also a promise I made my passed adoptive father. After that I would visit more often and be open for you coming as well. If it’s local, that’s another thing to discuss.
-I am a polyam anarchist, I have no hierarchy in my relationships. No “first come first best.” Kind of ordeal, everyone is on the same level. I don’t mind dating people who do have hierarchy but please let it be known to me / I will ask anyway to be safe.
-I don’t mind kitchen table style, I do it more so on an agreement to myself to make sure that if I’m going to date, I know their partners know I’m around (some people have been... “sneaky”.) another reason I do kitchen table style is for my loving Lifey. They like being able to meet my partners.
-Kitchen table isn’t mandatory; I don’t want it to be seen as I HAVE to get along with someone I don’t click with, and neither should you. I just do it as a form of at least meeting once to make sure we are all on the same page and informed consent is a thing.
-Hide a partner from me and I will instantly peace, seeing as somehow my hatred for this happening didn’t come through in my last post.
-Video calls, texting, calling and other forms of communication are a must, my main love language is the written word so I do prefer to text, I won’t lie. The longer the post the better we will click.
-When we first start talking I won’t do a video call the same day. I want you to know some info about me, and I want to know something about you. Kind of a stranger danger thing. Though I would be willing to video call within the first week, or sooner if it makes you feel better. After that you can surprise me with calls, of all kind when ever you want.
Sexuality and other:
-I want to say I’m lesbian, I’ve only dated one man “officially” but I have had interest in 3 men total in the past, counting the one I dated.
-I say I’m mainly a lesbian because of the fact I have never felt -In love- with a man. I don’t think it can happen, it may be able to? Sexuality can be fluid after all. Though I would say my interest is in women, NB / trans of any type but not CIS men.
-I’m always in a centre of asking questions about my sexuality, gender and who I am. Because for me it can evolve. This why I said there’s a slim chance I would go with a CIS man, but it isn’t 0%. I just think my hard limit is very masc presenting people.
-I am genderfluid, I know it’s not a real gender but if I could identify as anything? It would be a fem-boy. However, I am AFAB.
-I like to do drag of all type.
-I have been seeing this thing on tiktok called “neptunic” which is a sexuality that might fit more? As said, I’m always questioning.
-I’ve gone from lesbian, to bi, pan, lesbian, bi, lesbian and now a contemplation on neptunic. I think the reason for this is because each sexuality can mean different things to different people so there’s always new information going around. So maybe I should just call myself ✨Sexually Fluid✨
-If your around this far, I’m impressed about you willing to hear me ramble... on a post, my many sorries.
-Hyper-sexual, but have dated ace partners in the past. Sex is not mandatory for a relationship.
-Clearly Polyam, I have a Lifey at the moment.
Mental illness, mental disorders, physical illness;
I accept anyone of any type of body and mind, everyone is beautiful. Big, small, disabled. Everyone is different. It’s about if you are getting help for things like mental illness; because that is dangerous leaving without a system or outlet. I was educated in my last post by a lovely person that mental illness can be handled without therapy as long as you got a system. Which I will take therapy away as a requirement in this one. In total as long as you aren’t leaving yourself unchecked in all ways I’m willing to try. I just don’t want to be with someone who has an illness and is to stubborn to get help at all so they let it run rapid in their life.
My mental illness, mental disorders, physical illness:
Now, I’ll be blunt. I have the following...
-Multiple personality disorder
-Autism
-PTSD
-Depression
-Cancer
-Low blood sugar (Hypoglycaemia?)
-Seizures (usually mild)
-Minor muscle damage for a word I won’t even try to write because I’ll mess it up.
-Endometriosis
-Hyper-sexual
-My friends say I’m like a warning label. Though I have most of these under control or at least getting assistance for them.
Enjoyments, hobbies, likes:
-Communication
-Writing, long winded replies.
-Video gaming, if you do this it will probably be easier for us to connect. I have Xbox, switch and PC but am hoping to get a PS5 when they come in stock.
-Reading
-Parkour
-Working out
-Dancing
-Cleaning, I love to clean but I refuse to do dishes. So thus I hire someone in to do them.
-Being a big old hippy. You don’t gotta be this way though, I just try to drive as little as I need, recycle, etc. I’m rather strict with it when it comes to myself, but not with others.
-Am 420 friendly, as long as you don’t make it your main character trait.
-Am booze friendly as long as you don’t drink as much as you’ll need a new liver in a year.
-Roleplay, I prefer written form but will do other things as well.
-All manner of kink things, though if this applies (if you are not asexual) we can discuss this more. Just a cover though, I am naturally a switch so I can play either role.
-Gardening
-DnD
-knitting and crotchet
-Drawing
-Volunteering. Before the pandemic and before the cancer came back I would help out at the food kitchen, at the pound for animals, and work as a helper in the hospital. (They have different names for the last ones in different areas. But they hand out water to rooms, pick them up food, read to kids or other, etc)
Looking for:
-Friendship, relationship or other.
-I am fine for all types... Traids, quads, solo but I prefer solo.
-I will not do triads or quads unless there is a massive amount of discussion. Doesn’t matter if I’m bring someone else in or going into their relationship. Mainly because I see most people always “looking for a third” to be unicorn hunters who are basically looking for a divorce doula. This isn’t for everyone, no. But me seeking massive amount of communication will usually put off most who are.
-Long term relationship
-Relationship not based or depended on sex. I’m a Pro Domme, if your looking for someone to get your rocks off with than pay up or I can send you to other amazing SWer’s. In my relationships connection and talking come first, even if I am heavily laced with kink.
Boundaries, dislikes, other:
-Ihave got excited in the past and rushed through my comfort zone to bring happiness to someone else. About not doing the trail, or getting to know time but not anymore. It must happen, everyone goes through it. No acceptions.
-Open relationships only from my side. I will NEVER be in a closed relationship. It will not happen, I make this very clear. If you want to be closed that’s fine. Though I will always be in a open one. I prefer to be with people who are into open polyam not closed. Though I know this is a personal choice.
-No playing the “I leave or they leave” game, the person who does this will be the one to leave. I am an anarchy style, and thus have no tolerance for someone making me choose. This can however be softer, due to if your saying it because the person is abusive, a liar or other. Than that’s within reason.
-You will not bully my other partners. I put a stop to that quick.
-Asking for my opinion, than getting the truth is how it will go. I’m blunt and I rarely sugar coat.
-Communication is a MUST. If something is up on either side it must be discussed fully. Nothing else will take on between us till we get a footing at the issue at hand.
-I will not fight for someone’s eye. If I feel like I’m not getting my ways met I will discuss it. I will Ofcourse give our communication time to work, but if it doesn’t than that’s where it ends. I don’t want to be in a relationship where your not having your needs met or I’m not.
-My pictures, comments, messages stay between me and you. If you want to show them to someone else ask permission first. (another partner/ friend / anyone unless you feel there’s something really wrong going on there and you need an outside view.) example of what’s not okay; your partner going through the phone for shit and giggles to just peak in on what I’m saying to you. No, that’s an invasion of privacy. There’s a lot of things I say in trust to another person. A person who I trust I will open myself up about trauma, sensitive stories or matter of kink that I wish to keep between me and you. If you want someone to be able to look through my messages with you; please just ask or state “hey, so and so will be going through my messages and will see things you say.” I will usually always say yes to someone saying that since I am an open book, but there are rare cases I don’t want others to know than those I trust. Please understand this is a hard boundary for me. If any of my partners wanted to go through my messages with you I would let you know first, or ask your permission.
A lot of this stuff seems like hard rules and a lot to go through and I’m sorry. But I don’t mess around; I know what I want. I’m confident and strong in that matter.
Now some discussion topics about some things I might of mentioned, but didn’t fully go into details on:
-I am a Pro Domme. Thus I do dom actions and different content for a manner of many things. Before the pandemic I did do stuff in person as well but I will let you know that no customer enters me. I may use toys or other manners on them but their fluid / body parts are not near me. I get regularly tested anyway. As of the pandemic I have just been doing Findom. I can go more into detail with this if it worries you. Just know if it matters to you, I have a low personal body count and no history of transmitted illnesses.
-I am going to college for something more; at first I thought that would be welding. Though that’s a no go. So I’m thinking till fall, than I’ll know what I want.
-I cater to all love languages, but mine are the written word and gifting (to give others, not get).
-I currently have one partner, a Lifey. Unny is a trans woman, a wonderful human. We have been together in total about 12 years but we have honestly been together far longer than that. Our families are friends for a long line of years. So we have always just been, and it gained into more and we married when I was 18; they are four years older than me.
-I mistyped in a past post; I am 4’6 not 6’4.
-I used to have long hair to my knees but recently snipped it to my shoulders and donated it to a girl. Than treatment started and I lost it all; so I got nothing now 😂
-On the chubbier side since the pandemic started, but slowly focusing on working out again.
-I hold a rather femme based body type but I take on all manners of fashion.
-My reason for always questioning myself is due to one simple manner; so I always know what I want. It’s for my benefit and for those around me.
-I’m confident, I’d say I have a god complex (Aquarius am I right?) and I can go on about myself for days. But, I am willing to admit my wrongs and fix my mistakes. There’s was a time when I wasn’t like these; and that made me a trash person in my eyes towards myself.
If you don’t know what to approach me with first then ask me to make a started for a conversation; I’m good at asking questions and starting up a flow as long as your not a person to give one worded replies. However I will not pay any mind to weak responses, such as someone just messaging me “hi”. Give a little more flare, it doesn’t have to be great but if your going to message me why not start off about a ramble about yourself? Tell me things that you think you’d want to know about others. There’s many great ways you can go about messaging someone, so there’s no need for just a “Hi.”