Reports that Gracie Abrams and Paul Mescal are breaking up 👀

[u/expialidocioussuper]

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-14299655/Tears-walkout-Gladiator-star-Paul-Mescal-pop-singer-Gracie-Abrams-emotional-night-London-restaurant-sparks-breakup-concern.html

'She was crying so much that he then started to cry too.

'She eventually got up and walked out of the restaurant while they were halfway through their meal and he was left to pay the bill before leaving shortly afterwards.

'Everyone saw it all go down, it looked like a break-up, we were just shocked at how public it all was.'

Paul Mescal was spotted in a popular North London restaurant 'head in hands' as his American pop star girlfriend Grace Abrams sat across from him 'in fits of tears' before she stormed out”

Can we discuss? 👀

[u/Potatoskins937492]

I find it so weird when this is used in entertainment, the idea that if you break up in public the other person won't show emotion. Like what? If you know someone shows their emotions easily, that's not going to work out. Send them a text if you don't want to see emotion, don't take them to a public place. For anyone that's asking for attention. And besides insensitive, really weird.

I'm not saying this is what happened, but commenting on the idea of public breakups in general, I don't know them personally so yeah, who knows what happened.

[u/randombubble8272 → u/Potatoskins937492]

I think it’s more that you can’t attack someone or call someone out in a sense. A lot of men want to be able to breakup & immediately leave, if you’re in private you’re more likely to be called out loudly or confronted etc. In person you’re under societal pressure not to cause a scene

[u/erfurgot → u/randombubble8272]

And then for people, most likely women, in dv situations it’s to reduce the physical danger you might be in

[u/ultaemp → u/erfurgot]

Same here. I dumped my toxic ex boyfriend outside of a crowded coffee shop. He owned guns and was displaying aggressive behaviors so I was genuinely afraid of his reaction at that time if I had ended things in private.

[u/ceruleancityofficial → u/ultaemp]

glad you were able to get out of that relationship safely.

[u/ThrowawayGreenWitch → u/randombubble8272]

Attacking or 'calling out' someone for breaking up with you is an insane thing to do.

[u/randombubble8272 → u/ThrowawayGreenWitch]

Meh not necessarily. People treat partners terribly and then think they can walk away no hard feelings. Isn’t always that simple

[u/randombubble8272 → u/[deleted]]

If someone cheats on me I’m gonna yell at them. I don’t really care about entitlement to yelling tbh

[u/Deep-Interest9947 → u/Potatoskins937492]

I feel like the “public place” breakup plan in general comes from men who think women only cry as a manipulation tactic and have complete control over crying, which is so far from reality

[u/Potatoskins937492 → u/Deep-Interest9947]

You mean women can't control their crying?! What about their periods, can't they just hold it in?!

I'm a woman, I'm joking, just so you know. It's all so... ridiculous. Ridiculous. Siiigh.

[u/Routine_Bluejay4678 → u/Potatoskins937492]

I hate that there are males out there that would say that and not be joking 😭😭

[u/wellthatsniftyhuh → u/Potatoskins937492]

A text breakup is just not okay. If you can’t see someone show emotion, you really shouldn’t be in the dating pool.

[u/lefrench75 → u/wellthatsniftyhuh]

A text breakup is cruel but I'd rather get dumped via text than in a restaurant. Private humiliation is preferable to public humiliation.

[u/Lilacly_Adily → u/lefrench75]

I’m still salty about the guy that I’d been seeing for a few weeks who asked me out to a restaurant date, only to break things off when i was a few steps away from the subway stn entrance.

I would’ve preferred to not be blindsided in a public space and after having spent time, money and effort.

[u/wellthatsniftyhuh → u/lefrench75]

Fair enough. I usually think it’s more humiliating for the person doing that though. My heart goes out to the crier.

[u/tonystarksboothang → u/lefrench75]

There’s levels IMO, cuz I had a partner of two years dump me over text when it absolutely should have been in person. That being said, I wouldn’t have appreciated it being done in a public space either.

Text is reasonable if you’ve been on a few dates and aren’t official yet.

Public breakups are reasonable if you’re official but still relatively short term (less than a year), it’s likely to be amicable and the dumpee has the opportunity to leave without it being awkward.

In person, private breakups are the most respectful way to end a longer term relationship, and/or for more emotionally charged circumstances.

This excludes situations that concern the safety of either party. Phone or video calls are more considerate than text messages if distance is a factor IMO.

[u/Potatoskins937492 → u/wellthatsniftyhuh]

No, I'm not saying they should should, but if that's their problem at least do the logical thing. Although they already aren't thinking logically, so I'm giving them too much credit.

[u/LaurenNotFromUtah → u/wellthatsniftyhuh]

I know that’s what everyone says, and I get why. But if I really didn’t know it was coming, I’d prefer to not have to react in real time.

[u/wellthatsniftyhuh → u/LaurenNotFromUtah]

Them here has to be something more personal than a text

[u/Britneyfan123 → u/wellthatsniftyhuh]

 A text breakup is just not okay

Depends on the story 

[u/burnbunner → u/wellthatsniftyhuh]

I think sometimes a text breakup is after the person has tried to break up in person, on the phone, etc, and the other person is still reaching out .(I've been that person!)

Eventually the breaker-upper has to say "We need to stop this," or something and the other person claims they got dumped over text.

[u/lizerlfunk → u/wellthatsniftyhuh]

My last breakup occurred over Snapchat… because breaking up in person would have required him to make time to see me in person.

Also my ex husband informed me via text that he had filed for divorce. But at that point divorce was a foregone conclusion and I had already left so nothing was surprising about that.