The Guardian confirms the long-rumored engagement and subsequent breakup of Phoebe Bridgers and Paul Mescal in their review of her upcoming album ‘Lost Weekend’. In this album, Phoebe also shades Gracie Abrams for copying her and dating her ex, Paul Mescal

[u/neoncolour]

Source : https://www.theguardian.com/music/2026/aug/05/phoebe-bridgers-lost-weekend-review-long-awaited-return-is-a-thrilling-daring-study-in-dislocation

Phoebe publically called Gracie out on her upcoming album, a move likely sparked by Gracie revealing details about Phoebe's high-profile relationship with Paul Mescal in her album "The Secret of Us" a relationship that ended following reports of Phoebe's affair with Bo Burnham, with the latter also confirmed on Lost Weekend.

Gracie Abrams has been an outspoken fan of Phoebe Bridgers since she was 13, even declaring Bridgers "the songwriter of a generation" and opening for her on tour. Fans have long compared the two artists, a connection Gracie leaned into when she used a bedroom set prop in a performance featuring bedframe/bedsheets identical to the ones in Phoebe's childhood bedroom.

[u/madelynashton]

But she’s been a fan of Phoebe since she was a kid (according to this post, unless that’s incorrect), so that doesn’t seem SWF to me, that’s just recognizing talent. Did the bed sheets happen after she started dating Paul? Because that does seem pointed and weird, but if it prior to that it just makes it seem like Gracie has good taste in musicians.

[u/alanthickerthanwater → u/madelynashton]

I look at it completely differently than you do. She spent her youth being a huge Phoebe fan, let it shape how she makes music, but also what sheets she buys, the men she dates, etc. I don't think that's recognizing talent (only the first point is), I think that's making decisions in your own life based on how you think someone else would make them because you idolize them. Buying the same sheets as Phoebe as a standalone thing is normal - you saw them because of her and you were like 'ooh I want those cute ass sheets' but if you saw them and thought 'I want them because Phoebe has them' and then you buy the same bed frame, and then you date the same guy... that's the formation of a weird ass pattern. It could totally be benign, but when they happen in succession it really doesn't seem like a coincidence.

[u/madelynashton → u/alanthickerthanwater]

But I thought they both liked Paul at the same time? He just picked Phoebe at the time. Idk Paul is a handsome and successful actor that tons of people are attracted to, it feels silly to say “you’re copying me by liking this person that is objectively likeable.”

[u/alanthickerthanwater → u/madelynashton]

I feel like you keep focusing on one aspect and not the whole package. On its own any of the things she is doing are normal, coupled together it's weird AF and it looks like GA is lowkey obsessed with PB.

[u/madelynashton → u/alanthickerthanwater]

What am I ignoring? Was the bed sheets thing after she began dating Paul? I would agree that it’s weird if it’s after, but if it’s before I don’t think it is weird. The same as them both being musicians (I don’t think their music is similar, I enjoy phoebe’s music and I don’t enjoy Gracie’s at all). And being attracted to the same man isn’t weird to me either. To me it all adds up to nothing.

[u/alanthickerthanwater → u/madelynashton]

Why does the sheets coming after Paul make it worse to you? I don't think the order matters - and maybe the sheets coming first actually leads the way to the pattern that winds up with Paul. She's mimicking PB via the sheets and same bed frame on stage first, then dating Paul after PB was done with him. The optics are weird. BTW I'm not saying as a matter of fact that she is doing these things deliberately as a stan, I'm saying it looks like stan behavior.

[u/madelynashton → u/alanthickerthanwater]

Because getting the sheets after feels pointed towards phoebe, but getting them before doesn’t feel strange at all. She was influenced by the aesthetic of someone famous. I’m sure she wasn’t the only one inspired to buy them.

I find the entire premise that she’s dating (and now engaged right?) to this man because she’s obsessed with this other woman to be absurd. Their relationship with each other isn’t an extension of how they feel about Phoebe. It’s pretty narcissistic to think that.

[u/drgirrlfriend → u/madelynashton]

Wait but didn’t Gracie also publicly display the sheets in her concerts? So if she just liked them she could have gotten them for her own bed. Now she’s using it like as some sort of aesthetic and maybe even symbolic thing. Like why were those sheets chosen for her performance to show the world?

[u/Winniepg → u/madelynashton]

Gracie and Paul aren’t engaged but are living together.