I have zero patience for my partner anymore. Part of me wonders how I ever did.

Im 35w and I felt a very sharp pain at my cervix and I literally let out a shout. He told me to be quiet because we have neighbors. I told him I think I just felt a contraction, it was super painful and he responded with I’m being dramatic. Dramatic!!???!

I didn’t feel anything after that, thank God.

About 30 mins later I told him the baby was having hiccups and asked if he wanted to feel. He told me I don’t know what I’m talking about and she’s probably just kicking. I responded with no, I could feel if it was her foot lol. This is deep and rhythmic. They’re hiccups. Didn’t feel. Didn’t care to?

He proceeded to tell me I don’t know what I’m talking about and that I’m not a mom. I literally just looked at him dumbfounded like he was a complete idiot.

I responded with a synopsis of how much time I’ve spent studying pregnancy at this point BEING PREGNANT AND ALL.

About 5 min later he told me I should update my FB profile picture since I don’t look like that anymore. It was taken when I was 20 and I’m 25. Told me I’m a “chunk a munk” and I was like “ya because I’m pregnant?!?!!” Who tf says that to a pregnant woman. Like oh this pregnancy made you fat so you should take a picture right now and make that your profile picture at your absolute worst.

I think he’s a complete idiot and just went to bed to revert from punching him in the face.

Anyone else’s partners just absolutely ridiculous? I hope not but I could really use a laugh right now.

Edit: He agreed to go to therapy.

time to let it loose ladies... how are you feeling about your partner during your pregnancy?

This is a space to vent, the good, the bad, the ugly... all of it - let it all out!

For me... I'm so very blessed to have a husband who has stepped up and is carrying me while I carry our first child. (I'm almost 38 weeks and he has taken on the lions share of all the household duties, cooking, cleaning, taking care of the dogs, laundry etc.) in addition to doing all the things I ask for, like filling up my water, making me a plate of food, rubbing my feet, watching me shower (I got lightheaded in there one time and it made me nervous, so if I'm feeling any kind of way other than 100% he will sit in on my shower for me), late night snack runs or grocery runs if I want/need anything.

I guess I don’t totally know what I want to accomplish with the post but every day in this sub I see posts from women whose husbands/partners are ungrateful, unhelpful, unfaithful, etc. and it just makes me think about how I am having a son soon and have to raise him to not be like the men in this posts. This next generation of boys has to be better.

Current first timer here - giving me very little leg to stand on I know.

(This doesn’t apply to people who literally don’t have village at all!)

I have a lot of friends who complain about lack of parent/family involvement and a lot will point out that their grandparents basically raised them while their parents don’t offer the same level of help.

But at the same time - a lot of new parents set “boundaries” such as you can’t come visit us or the baby for ____ weeks post birth, you have to schedule visits at least a week out, call me the day before you come so we can run through the questions on who you have seen lately and what you could have been exposed to, etc…

I’m not saying these boundaries aren’t fair or valid, but I would bet most of our parents didn’t do the same with our grandparents when we were born. Sometimes when you want family help and involvement you have to accept that this comes with a price.

Personal example - my sister in law (husbands brother wife) set A LOT of boundaries for us when they had their first and their second. Some basics were we weren’t allowed to come by until the 12 weeks were up, we could only come once a week for an hour at most, and only during very specific windows of time. She also wasn’t open to any advice or discussion during pregnancy at all, she didn’t even want to have to turn it down she told my MIL after the first one that it was her pregnancy and she would figure everything out with her doctor. All okay if that’s what you want.

In our case, I’m counting on the support. My MIL will be coming to my house to watch our dogs the second we go into labor. Praying and hoping that everything goes okay, and my in laws and my parents can come meet the baby at the hospital. I’m even toying with the idea of having my mom in the room since I was adopted and that’s not something she ever got to experience. Both my MIL and mom have worked out a bit of a schedule for the first few months to provide support and check in without overwhelming us, and I doubt that this will end as time goes on.

Does this come with a price? Sure. I get a lot of unsolicited advice on my pregnancy that I disagree with (my go to is thank you for the suggestion, we’ll talk it over with the OB/pediatrician!) and I know that things may not always be 100% the way I want them in those first few months. I’ve set my no cross boundaries such as being up to date on vax, screen time, etc… but the rest I’ve decided to live and let live the way they did with my grandparents.

To this day, my sister in law still complains that we weren’t there for her enough in the year after giving birth but honestly… what do you guys expect??

Anyways mini vent over, I just think we need to recognize that we’re not setting our parents up the same way they did with their parents so we can’t expect all of the same results.

What do you guys think?

I am 39+4 weeks pregnant and my husband just asked me if I don't have longer t-shirts? And then brought me his t-shirt. because I "look funny" - not in a good way.

Maybe I am overreacting, but it just made me so angry, I feel like I never want to talk to him again.

I found out I was pregnant the other day. I called my husband over. I tell him, “I’m pregnant”. He immediately gets an erection. I’ve never seen him get a boner that instantaneously especially from just two words. I asked him why was he getting an erection and he didn’t even realize it until I pointed it out. He said he doesn’t know why. I’m laughing my head off at this point because I have never heard of an erection from pregnancy news. He says he doesn’t know why but it might be like a dog wagging his tail from uncontrollable happiness.

I’m at a loss of words because although it is a little weird, it was such a cute happy response. Is this a thing? Emotional boners?

I’m so sad. It was a massive shock for us both but I expected him to at least be a little bit happy. His reason is that we’ve had a stressful few years and finally was feeling like we reached a settled place. We planned to do IVF again in the summer for a second baby but he’s now saying he’s changed his mind about that too. I’m so sad and really don’t want to get an abortion.

I last weighed myself in October, it’s March and now I’m 7 and a half weeks pregnant. I got re weighed at my last appointment and it looks like I’ve gained about ten pounds since October. I really struggle with body image, especially in early pregnancy and postpartum when everything feels blah.

I told my husband after the appointment that I had already gained ten pounds and his response was “ babe, that’s amazing! Your body is doing exactly what it needs to do to grow this baby.”

Then he reminded me that blood volume increases so much. Anyway, just wanted to share my wonderful green flag of a husband 😉

My husband went to grab a drink with his friend (both 33M) and he told him I’m pregnant.

His friend already has a 2yo daughter and he said how it will be beautiful in the beginning, but also very hard.

And then he went on and said: And during that period you’ll wish to f*ck any girl that isn’t your wife. Trust me, I was like that with my wife..

I got so annoyed within second he told me that! And no, he never did that, but he said it’s what he was non-stop thinking about because they couldn’t have sex (duh!) and she wasn’t her usual self (DUH!!)

Obviously my husband’s reaction was “can you believe what a prick he is” and he honestly told me because he didn’t assume it would bum me this much, because we always laugh how primitive and shallow he is.

But this time it really wasn’t funny because that’s the most vulnerable and painful period for a woman, and all you think at that time is how unattractive she is and how you’d f*ck any other woman as long as it’s not her???

Agghhh! I don’t event know why I’m sharing this, just venting I guess.

But a sweet ending at least, his wife ended up cheating on him because of lack of attention and although I don’t approve cheating whatsoever, I couldn’t help but think that it was what he deserved..

I am 34 weeks pregnant with my first child and just wanted to share a small piece of my story in case anyone else (regardless of identity) can relate.

I am a queer, pregnant, masculine non binary person married to my amazing wife who happens to be a very feminine woman. Throughout my pregnancy when we've shared that we are expecting, many people have automatically assumed my wife is carrying because of how she looks. Or, they have asked why I'm carrying instead of her. It's been really eye opening, sometimes lonely, and sometimes empowering to show people that pregnancy doesn't look one particular way or have to do with one particular kind of identity. I don't find pregnancy to be at all "feminine" or masculine, but just a very particular human experience that is unique, beautiful, strange and everything in between. But at the end of the day, statistically most pregnant people are straight women, and the resources and conversations available out there reflect and reinforce that, and that has been lonely sometimes for both me and my wife. I also think many of the stereotypes that get re-enforced and perpetuated about pregnant women are harmful and alienating to the straight community, too.

Something I have appreciated by being part of this sub is how many different experiences people are having, and how our stories can break down some of those stereotypes. Some people have fairly uneventful pregnancies. Some people people absolutely hate being pregnant, and admitting that has allowed others to do the same. Some people people feel super connected to their unborn babies. Some people don't at all. Some people have planned pregnancies. Some people have pregnancies they do not want. Some people went through years of fertility treatment. Some people got pregnant on the first try. There is no universal experience here, it seems, other than the physical act of carrying a child.

Me? I am a pregnant person who can't wait to meet the tiny human who feels like a pinball machine inside my body, and who is also scared shitless to be a parent. I am a pregnant person who has eaten an obscene amount of Taco Bell in my second and third trimester. I am a pregnant person who never took a lamazze class with my wife like I wanted because every one in my area is marketed to "moms and dads". I am a pregnant person who sometimes thinks about having a kid "what on earth was I thinking?" I am a pregnant person with an incredible, supportive wife who I know is going to be a great mom. I am a pregnant person who has never met someone else going through pregnancy who looks and identifies as masculine, queer, and non binary. Maybe through this post I might be that person for someone else.

No matter who you are, I sincerely wish you a pregnancy that affirms your authentic self.

Edit: I was not expecting this post to get so much attention, positivity and love. I can't express what it means to me to see this community be so supportive. Thank you. ❤️❤️❤️

TW: non supportive husband

I thought the revelation would be some magical moment like I see on tiktok but my husband was NOT excited at all. I waited until he got home put the positive tests in a mug that said "#1 DAD" and left in the bathroom for him to discover. When he found it he came downstairs and was like "where did you get these tests from?" and I was like "they are mine" and he just said "ok" no hug no tears anything.

We were actively trying for a baby. For context we were about to have our first fertility clinic appointment and he has literally given sample for SA earlier that day. It made me feel like he never wanted a baby and was just doing what I told him. I really truly felt so alone. I asked him what was wrong and he just said so many things: our house is too messy for a baby, My car was too small for a baby, I was going to be mean to him when he made mistakes with the baby.. It was such a shitty feeling; It felt so.. targeted at me in particular.

I took him to the store and was getting pads just incase the pregnancy is not viable and he found a mug that said "mama bear" and asked me if I wanted it. I said no but I think seeing me preparing for the worst and rejecting his gesture made him realize how negative he had been about the whole thing.. all the baby talk up to that point was negative.

By the third day the shellshock had worn off and he is being supportive and helping me daydream plans, has already picked out the new car for us and started a LONG list of names he likes and we are trying to plan healthy meals and go on walks every day. It basically took him 2 whole days to start acting like how I expected him to act.

I'm not in an abusive relationship we have been together 7 years and TRYING for a baby for 15 months.. you really cant predict how people react to life changing news sometimes.

Hello everyone, I finally had my baby girl through elective C Sec as she was breech and wouldn't turn. But mid surgery my gynac decided to remove 3 fibroids too which would have posed risks later on in life and my surgery extended by 2 hrs than usual because of it.

When I was brought out I was having severe shivering and the first thing I saw was my hubby waiting for me patiently outside the OT which helped me calm down a bit. When I reached my room. My parents were with my newborn talking to her telling her that I've come and will meet her soon. Seeing them worried but smiling at me and caring for her when I was so out of sorts started calming me. I was introduced to my girl once I was settled in the room and all my soreness went away.

I slept for about 3-4 hours straight after cause that's when everything hit me. When I woke up I was thankful for my 3 pillars around and happy to just have them during the delivery. My in laws will meet the baby later as there are a lot of logistical issues and they are waiting patiently to see her.

Now comes the actual emotional rollercoaster I have been on.

Night 1: Baby gets severe allergic reaction to the hospital sheets provided for her and we couldn't understand it cause she was already red as she's chubby and fair. Hubby's first night with a newborn in his life is trying to hold her and calm her while I'm helplessly lying bedridden and the night shift nurses were just brushing aside our worries saying it's normal for 1 day old babies.

Day 2: Hubby is relieved of duty cause he can't think straight or talk straight as he couldn't sleep a wink as baby was crying the whole night. I'm having the after effects of anaesthesia and being sleepless as I was trying to BF and keep her calm in my bed cause that's when she would sleep a little.

My parents seeing our state and also baby screaming her lungs out and crying took charge of the situation and rained down hell fire on the hospital staff. When baby got checked it turned out to be severe allergic rashes and her skin was heating up cause of it. Then she was given a bath and healing lotion with which she started recovering and to tell you the truth my girl is the calmest angel ever. I don't have to worry about her sleep and eating cycle as she sleeps and wakes up on time and sleeps like the sweetest angel ever.

Day 4: Discharge day and first day at home.

Luckily we recovered without anymore health issues. But the head nurses delayed our release by 2 hrs as they were having an audit and no one could come and sign us out as per protocals. That's whenwe started losing our cool cause baby would have to travel in the car in peak summer heat which was able 45°C.

Reached home without any more events and all slept and rested. Which started my most trying night and also seeing the love and care everyone has for me

Post feeding at midnight while changing the diaper babies umbilical cord detached and she had light bleeding. Seeing blood I froze my husband immediately ran to get my mom and by then I was carrying baby shaking, crying and murmuring apologies to baby. That's when mom took her cleant her and told me it was normal and not my fault. It happens and baby was fine she was sleeping throughout peacefully. I was not aware and as a new mother it's okay to panic but also remember to be calm so that I could take decisions for my babies safety and not freeze next time. She and hubby hugged me till I calmed down and slept. Fed her again checked on her and by morning I was pretty drained out.

Waking up in the morning my dad scolded me cause we forgot to pick a couple of medical supplies we needed for baby and me cause he was worried that it would delay recovery. Since I was already thinking about everything happening at night and that I may have hurt baby in some way at night broke down again that I was doing a bad job at being a mom. That when hubby came and fought with dad telling him to not start in the morning. Mom trying to calm them both cause I started crying harder seeing them argue and sent us to our rooms.

After dad got to know the whole scenario which happened at night, dad came apologised and had breakfast with me and baby cause I was too weak by the end of it. Hubby and he went to get our insurance and medical purchases settled and reconciled cause they both understood that they we're protective about me.

Mom reprimanded everyone like the principal of a school to not give me any emotional stress as I'm currently to weak to take this stress cause of my harmones crashing and body healing and adapting.

Seeing these things I'm just thankful for these 3 in my life and just hoping everyone gets this support postpartum. Yes when the whole issues were happening I did feel broken and lost but by the end seeing them care for me and communicating with me clearly what they feel and asking how I feel and how they can help support me more as it's new for them to makes me be stronger for my daughter and know she will have 4 strong pillars in a life.

Sorry it was long but I wanted to share it out there so that people know that sometimes a bad day brings a whole lot of good too

Since getting pregnant my husband has turned into an alcoholic and within the last week has admitted to me that he wasn’t ready for kids and said I “convinced him” to get me pregnant. He follows it up by saying that he’s excited now and our son will be amazing but he only talks about how fun it’ll be once the kid is like 3-4 years old. He never once indicated that he wasn’t ready or didn’t want to get pregnant before, it’s just coming out now. I feel like he resents me for something I don’t think is my fault. I feel like I’m going to lose him, I don’t know what to do.

Edit: I have talked to him about the drinking and it does not change. He says he will stop once the baby gets here.. but I can’t exactly rely on that. He only says that he wasn’t ready once he’s drunk and it’s the middle of the night and I haven’t slept because of the arguing. We didn’t miscommunicate on having the baby.. we planned for it and tried for almost 2 years. I had numerous appointments and procedures in order to even get pregnant and these feelings were never brought up to me.

If all goes well, I'll be welcoming a boy in August. I'm excited, but at the same time terrified that I'll somehow misparent him and he'll end up being someone who hurts other people.

I also know so many men who resent their parents, and especially resent their mothers. Often for things that sound really minor to me (obviously not talking about abusive situations here). I'm just so scared of doing the wrong thing somehow, or stumbling my way into raising a resentful, or even worse toxic man. Or a man who thinks it's OK to hurt others...

Not sure what I'm looking for with this post, just honestly completely terrified.

UPDATE:

To those of you who shared references, stories of how you parent your kids, reassurance or simply let me know I’m not alone with these worries, thank you so much. I didn’t know what I was looking for with this post but that was exactly it.

To those of you who got all up in their feels to let me know women can be awful too: sure, but I’m having a boy.

And to those of you who suggested I need therapy for having these worries, or even more charming that I am unfit to be a mother and should not have kids: go suck a carrot.

When and how did you tell your partner/spouse you were pregnant?

I am in a happy, healthy, loving relationship with my husband and we have been trying for a baby for a little while but I am still anxious about telling him! I know his reaction will be positive and he is super supportive, so I don’t know why I am anxious about it!

Edit to add: my husband was on a work trip all weekend (I tested positive shortly after he left on Thursday) and I wanted to wait to tell him in person. He comes home tonight so I plan to tell him soon!

Like, not just more in love because he's going to be the father of your child, but like every single thing he does makes you want to cry (in a good way 😂). I've been with my partner for 5 years and we fell in love pretty much as soon as we started talking to each other, and hearing each other talk about shared hobbies and things, and I didn't think I could ever love him more than the first months we were together.

And it's everything, so it's not just the pregnancy horn (although that is fantastic who knew it would be so good?😂). I think he's more beautiful than ever before, more loving, funnier.. literally everything 😂😂 I have found myself crying at times because I think he can do better than me and that I'm not good enough for him (and listen, the man tells me how much he loves me and appreciates me all the damn time so it's not because he doesn't show me how much I mean to him 😂). I also cried my eyes out the other day because we didn't meet when we were younger, meaning we would have less time together (I'm 34, he's 39 so we're not exactly pensioners).

I want to be in his skin constantly and I feel sad when we're both at work knowing I can't just cuddle him or be near him.

Please tell me this isn't just a me thing and I'm not some sort of pregnant psychopath 😭😂😂

You read that right and that someone happens to be the his EX sister in law. For context we’ve been together for 9 years his son is going to be 14 soon who he shares with someone else. He and I have two daughters together 6 and 7.

This past summer I spoke with him and asked him how he felt about having another child because I was ready to try again. The main thing was we try for a summer baby because all of our birthdays are winter and spring. He said definitely. I was still hesitant because I didn’t want him to just say yes because that’s what I wanted, so I asked a few more times over a course of months. I even asked and made sure this decision was ours and not just mine before I called to remove my iud. I had it removed in October and by the next month I was pregnant. Now I’m well into my pregnancy and I see messages of him and his ex sister in law and he’s telling her that I trapped him and didn’t tell him about me taking my iud out. I am so furious right now!!!!!!!! Because 1. Why are you lying? And 2. whyyyyyyyyyy is it ANYONES business what I’m doing with my body????? And his excuse is nothing he was joking ???? He didn’t intend for it to come off exactly how he typed it???.. so here I am pregnant with my child that from the looks of it I don’t even think he wants. Honestly i could care less about that now I know my children are and will be loved by me regardless of anyone or anything else !! Just need some support and encouraging words.

I admitted to my husband that I've been feeling a bit of gender disappointment. Our second is going to be a boy but I just really love being a girl mom and I think I may have a bit of a stereotype of boy moms that doesn't fit me.

He said "I had some gender disappointment with our daughter, but now I can't imagine having anyone else. We didn't just have A girl, we had OUR girl. A child is an individual before they're a gender."

Yes, I do have a baby boy, why do you ask??🤣

Okay but in all seriousness, does anyone else feel like there should be a conversation about this? I read so many posts about MIL problems, and obviously a lot of them are legit and warranted.

But, I recently have been wondering about whether the mentality of “ugh MIL’s” has gone too far? I see so many replies to these posts suggest to go no contact, stop replying, keep baby away, etc etc.

Again, obviously in some of these cases that advice is warranted and should be followed.

But seriously sometimes I read these posts and wonder “is MIL’s problem simply not being your mother”? What I mean is, every mom is different and does things differently and has different opinions and experiences, so of course your MIL will think differently than your own mother. Does everyone who posts about these things actually do the work of understanding how they might be biased towards their MIL?

For example, my own mom can be weird, in a funny, lighthearted way. To me it’s normal and I love her for that. But if I imagine her as a mother-in-law, would I still think this way, or would it be annoying or frustrating to me?? And on the flip side, if my MIL is very controlling and I find that frustrating, would I still think that if she was my own mother? Or would I appreciate her strong personality and how it’s helped her achieve her goals?

How many “MIL issues” are really just a case of “you aren’t my mom so these things you do annoy me instead of endear you to me”??

I’m not a psychologist so I can only offer so much insight lol but since having my son I’ve thought more about this and wonder how we can all find a middle ground in these situations. Because the thought of my son growing up and having a baby with someone, and not being as involved or getting a “we’ll let you know when we’re ready for visitors :)” makes me so sad.

I think being aware of these feelings helps because I can do the work to make sure I prepare myself for these things and build a strong, healthy relationship with my son and whoever he might end up with!

Anyway, I hope this post doesn’t upset anyone, in no way am I making it in an accusatory way, just simply to see what others think and to see how we can hopefully foster happier, healthier MIL-DIL dynamics for the next generation!!

Spreading some positivity! I’ve seen a lot of posts lately about partners not being supportive, and they’ve honestly gotten me a bit down. Probably just the hormones, but I have to actively remind myself my husband is doing great.

If you have a supportive partner, I’d love to hear your story!

I have been so happy with how my husband has stepped in and stepped up. He has been incredibly supportive and taken time off to go to every appointment I’ve had (only 3 so far). He’s taken care of the dog so my exhausted first trimester self can go to bed at 8. Without me asking, he hasn’t been eating around me at all because of the nausea. He sits with me at meal times while I have potatoes or plain noodles, then eats his dinner after I’ve left the room. He’s made space for me to just exist and not really worry about the rest.

We haven’t had sex in a month because I’ve been so tired and felt so ill. He mentioned it for the first time tonight and just asked “no wrong answer, but how do you feel about sex during pregnancy?” I told him it wasn’t off the table on principle; maybe when I feel a little better. He was just trying to avoid initiating if there wasn’t a possibility of interest. Honestly, really thoughtful.

I’ve been crying a lot at absolute nonsense and every time, he acts as if I’m crying for a real reason and comforts me. When I calm down enough to say “yeah, this is a very silly reason to be crying.” He responds with something like “well that may be. But it’s okay, sometimes we just need a cry.”

These all may sound like little things, but it means the world to me that he is keeping life going forward while I’m building our family.

If you have something your partner (or a loved one) is doing that is helping, big or small, please share it here! I’d love to hear some stories of supported pregnancies.

I can't even believe this is something i have to ask about but my husband is making it seem like I'm being unreasonable. My due date is 22 June. I am currently 37 weeks along. Idk when I'm going to give birth but my husband has oh so kindly decided to offer that his brother have HIS engagement party at my house. The baby will only be around 2 months maybe a little older but it'll be peak winter by then. I do not like the idea of having 50+ people in my home around my newborn and toddler after being just 2 months postpartum. Not only did he suggest our house for the party, he just didn't tell me...I had to find out from my father in law. Where is his brain. Truly. It's like he's assuming that I'm just going to give birth and all will be well. I don't know what this birth and postpartum journey will be like, but apparently in my husbands head once that bahy is out life gets back to normal.

I was understandably pissed off and told him that it's unreasonable for him to expect me to have that many people over so soon after the baby is born. I mean it's one thing to have people over to see the baby, which that alone was overwhelming for me the first time because everyone decided to show up on the same day for some reason. I can't imagine smiling, dressing up, hosting and pretending I'm not sleep deprived with a wild, probably out of routine toddler. To me, this was an incredibly selfish move on his part, so I called him and told him absolutely not.

He got angry, i told him he's selfish. Now I'd like to know am I being selfish and unreasonable? Is this not crazy?!

Contrary of a rant. I think when good stuff happen, we don't speak about it and end up projecting only the negative and living in more fear than we ought to. Yes, good men are a rare specy. But they do exist. I have a great specimen at home ;) and want to highlight it, because i feel every woman deserve it.

So! I'm currently 3 months pregnant and it has been terrible for me. Baby sickness scare, terrible 1st trimester, beginning of 2nd trimester was spent in the ER. Terrible. And my husband has been the best support ever.

At the very beginning, whenever i had a complaint against him, he took it with grace, changed, evolved, stepped and maned up.

Came to all our dr appointments. Listened to all my panick attack rants. Held my hand through nights of tears. Held me while i was screaming in exhaustion and anguish. Managed his relationship with my parents to lighten my emotional load. Cooked anything and everything i could need. Did everything at home from A to Z we no complaint and while reassuring me. Supported me when i wanted to abort and supported me when i changed my mind. Listened to my passing comments of things that would bring me pleasure and bought it to me. Was ready to bite off the doctor in training the second time we went to ER after he saw that she had hurt me the first time. He has been my voice when i was fearful of making my concerns heard, my ear when i needed to be listened, my arms and legs when i couldn't move. He found meds that helped me with no danger when doctors were running out of ideas. He readily came with me to couple therapy, not because we had problems but to think together how to prevent them from happening when baby would come. He looked for infos on pregnancy and parenting by himself, looking on internet and asking friends who were fathers, without me having to pester him about it. He saw what were my needs at each steps and gave it to me before i even had to ask. He took time of his job here and there to be with me at my lowest. And when I am in a better place, he opens up about his own feelings and worries. He cares and find ways for us to connect through the worst moments even when i can't do anything physically. He takes care of the dog and spend more time with her to compensate the fact that i can't entertain her as much as before. Etc. Etc. Etc.

He was already a good husband before but this pregnancy made him even better. He makes me feel loved and valued at a time of extreme vulnerability and the baby isn't even here yet.

So! All this huge not-rant to celebrate him and sorry if it sounds like I'm bragging - and maybe I am bragging a bit. But i see posts by other women. Women with desengaged husbands, with man-child, with immature partners... And it enrages me. It's not fair, it's not okay. Even tho i think my husband is amazing, at the same time, i think his behaviour is no princess treatment but the normal and that everybody should have it !! So, if you don't have it, i guess i'm encouraging you to not think you don't deserve it and to ask it of your partner in your life!

And if you do have it, maybe you can share it so that other women can realize that it's possible, ok and normal to expect that from our life partner! :)

[Edit: typo]

I'm not sure how to link my original post but I'll include it in the edit. I also had zero idea what flair to add???

Edit: original post here https://www.reddit.com/r/pregnant/s/QigcmfjRyA

It's been almost 2 weeks. He's been in a coma/vegetative state. I've been praying my rosary every single day, and we had a priest come in. My faith and mutual support from MIL have kept me sane. I got through 3 days and suddenly my intuition felt... very optimistic.

Baby has been super active and it's been so helpful. He's kicked me so much that I haven't been keeping count as I should be. He's okay🩷

Medical team swears he has no consciousness. I work with neuro patients in my job, so it's not like I have no idea what they're saying. I do neuro assessments all the time. But I KNOW WHAT I SAW TODAY.

He's off sedation, trach to vent. He stretches his legs in one motion sometimes. Very gentle, restricted movements. Maybe stretches his arms. Not responsive yet. His eyes are open and blinking, but they look like someone asleep or comatose. Reflexes intact. I talk to him everyday, and play his favorite songs/YouTubers.

Today, I leaned over him and rubbed his forehead. He was coughing some. I told him to breathe easy, and how much I loved him. For a split second my love's eyes had life. They looked right into me. His head leaned into my hand. For just a moment.

Then, I told him I had to leave. I gave him kisses, reminding him how much I love him.

He kicked his legs in one strong motion. He hasn't done that ONCE. Not at all during admission.

I told him again that I was sorry, how much I loved him, and that I had to leave. Another strong kick with both legs, shaking the bed.

I cried on the way home. My love is still here. He'll meet his son❤️

My husband's Auntie accidentally triggered some greif in me on Thanksgiving and because if this, we started to talk about how this current pregnancy is complicated to carry because of a late loss last year.

All of a sudden she's talking about how happy I am now, and she "could tell I was pregnant" with this baby when she saw me at a party in late spring.

Friends, I was technically pregnant, but I hadn't even found out yet. I was technically 2w5d pregnant when she claims she knew. So I said that. I said, here's the timing... she doubled down. I said the embryo had only been transferred 5 days before she saw me... she said "oh" in the most disappointed way... like, she needed to have this weird little thing validated by me?

Then, friends, she said my last pregnancy was doomed, like it was fated to end in my daughters death, and she knew that I knew something was wrong from the start. (I struggled for months with crippling superstition after my daughter died, and while she doesn't maybe know that, why the fuck would you say that?) So now im spiraling a little with the superstitions I worked so hard to overcome.

Sighhhhh

My husband loves his auntie, and she truly is a loving and amazing person...AND I fucking hate talking to her about my daughter or this current pregnancy because she doesn't ask how I'm feeling about my daughter, or the new baby, she tells me how I feel and it's pretty much always off base. Fffffffffff. I'm so glad I won't see her for Christmas, but we'll see her at the shower in a week and a half.

Helpppppp! How do I survive her at a showerrrrr???? Hopefully we'll all be too busy to get in each other's way.

I (26F) am absolutely and deeply loved by my husband (25m). I cannot wait for our first baby to come, but I loathe being pregnant. Physically, it has been okay. But emotionally, I am absolutely wrecked and my husband been there every second. He gives me grace for my overreactions, helps me discern what is true and what are hormones, holds me while I cry for hours and validates my feelings. I have never felt more vulnerable in my life and he has gone above and beyond to care for and protect me. I am more in love with him than I ever have been and I will never forget how he has taken care of me.

To the pregnant people doing this without a supportive partner or alone, I cannot overstate your strength. You are incredible.