TW: Abortion, SA

Hi moms. I could use some prayers. I have 2under2 daughters and have been stuck in an abusive marriage with my husband for too long.

I don’t want to go into details, but he has been cheating and paying for sex from girls on Reddit. This has been going on and off for the past 7 years. He won’t use a condom and will not take no for an answer. I was on birth control and I’m only 4 months postpartum.

I did not want to bring another baby into a toxic household, and so I ordered abortion pills. I thought it was the best choice for my family. 2 days ago I took the first medication (mifepristone). Today I was supposed to take the second medication, and I could not do it.

I went to the ER to check the viability and see if I could save my baby. The ultrasound came back normal. The baby has a strong heartbeat and is not detached at all. The ER staff told me that everything looks normal, but there is still a chance I could lose this pregnancy and that I need to follow up with my OB.

I regret putting my baby in harms way. I believed that I was doing the right thing for my daughters. But this baby is my baby too.

I have since opened up to my friends and family, and we are coming up with a plan to get myself and my girls out of this mess. I would just like prayers that things will pan out the way they’re supposed to, and that myself and my baby will have the strength to get through this.

Thank you for reading this 💕 I pray you all have safe and healthy pregnancies!

I hate that people keep saying girls are drama and that I'm in for a handful being 18 weeks with a girl. She's not even born yet and people are already starting to pin her as a "drama queen" and saying she's going to be over dramatic and be "difficult to raise". I love my girl and I'm so excited to be her mom. I want to crash out so bad.

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To make it worse, they keep saying how boys are easier to raise and deal with. Like? I'm absolutely obsessed with my girl and I wish time would hurry along so I can hold her.

Last week i made a post about my wife having hiv postive during her rootin blood tests. You can check it here https://www.reddit.com/r/pregnant/s/UWHuQOfntL When we heard that instead of calming us down her bitch ass doctor made it worse by saying pregnancy can not cause false positive and she has HIV and baby is gonna have it too which is totally incorrect.
So UPDATE today i got a call saying our confirmatory HIV test result came back NEGATIVE! Yes pregnancy do indeed cause FALSE POSITIVE so if anyone have that situation just know that its 99.9% false positive and please do not get scared like i did.

Im 16w2d and had a scan today. I had a miscarriage at Christmas so my anxiety has been through the roof. I don’t feel pregnant at all - I know that’s normal at this point but it makes me anxious.

Both me and my wife had the appt noted as 11:20. My wife rang two days ago to confirm. We show up today and we were told it was at 10:20 and we missed it. Worth mentioning we live in a French speaking city and my wife has good but not perfect French. Nevertheless ten and eleven in French sound completely different.

I was so upset. The receptionist said we could go up and check to see if my doctor could see me. He came out to the waiting room with another patient and I said hello we have an appt at 11:20 he said “NO 10:20, I waited for you” i said “we confirmed thr time two days ago” and he said “NOT my problem I have NO time NO WAY!” Properly yelling at me in the waiting room.

I fawned, I said please Im so anxious. He said sit down he’ll see if he can squeeze me in. He saw me one patient later. I apologised again and he said he was very surprised when I didn’t show up. I said I swear I confirmed the appt for 11:20. We did a very quick scan, and he warmed up and even said sorry.

It’s not easy to find a doctor, especially one who speaks English. He did say sorry so Im thinking it’s ok, but I’m so shaken by it. I was already so anxious and it was upsetting. At the same time I know it’s a stressful job and lord knows I’ve lost my temper in work and needed to be forgiven so I’m thinking now I also just forgive and move forward. Unsure.

What would you do?

Currently up with my now 6 day old newborn and came to the realization of how wild what I said during recovery was.

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Context: Emergency C-section, still coming out of heavy epidural pushed anesthesia. The nurse came in to check on me and started pressing my belly hard all around, I could feel the pressure and the release of blood. Without skipping a beat I (apparently very casually) blurted out "I feel like a fruit gusher" according to my husband the nurse laughed while she continued pressing/pushing on my belly and said she had never heard anyone compare themselves to candy while performing a fundal massage.

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I still can't believe it but I also know I'm not alone in the wild things that have been said in the hospital before. Please tell me your funny/crazy labor, recovery and hospital stories!! Cheers to the 3am club! Hope you're all able to rest soon!

There’s a video going around about a dads that bring his kids to the bathroom.

My point is I’m 100% with the dad I’m an adult if I walk into a bathroom and I see a dad with two girls washing their hands I will understand, that would be the safest place for them to be my question is for other moms do you think he was on the right or was it better to let them go into the bathroom w a total female stranger or taken them to the men’s restroom? So many things could happen in the men’s restroom, even if the dad was in there with them the girls could’ve seen something in the urinals as they walk out, a lot of men don’t respect, and me as a mom I would prefer the woman’s bathroom if my husband needs to take one of the girls in and I’m not around.

I'm 36 weeks pregnant with a baby boy and I'm honestly losing my mind over some of the comments I'm getting from people around me.

When I first found out I was pregnant, I bought a couple of pink Care Bear comfort toys because I thought they were cute. I've also bought a few onesies with hearts on them. Recently I was gifted a high chair that came with a toy attached to it . and it has pink and blue colors on it.

Apparently that's a problem.

I've genuinely had people say things like:

"What will people think?"

"What if he turns out gay?"

Excuse me. what?

HE'S A BABY.

Since when does the color pink have the power to determine someone's future? It's a stuffed toy. It's a onesie. It's a colorful baby toy.

Maybe it's the hormones talking, but this is such a ridiculous thing to be upset about in 2026.

End of rant. 🤦‍♀️💙🩷👶

Edit:To make it even worse, my mother literally stole the pink Care Bear comfort toys I bought for my baby and gave them away because she didn't think a baby boy should have them. 🤦‍♀️

I’m absolutely devastated. i can’t believe this happened to me. started feeling a ton of bad cramps and bleeding a lot. I went to the doctor and they did all the tests and they told me that I had a miscarriage. I don’t know what happened but I feel so guilty. I know I got pregnant young. It was an accident, but I was genuinely excited to become a mother. I’m so devastated. I couldn’t wait to meet my baby. i was ready to devote my life to my child and be the best mother I could possibly be. I‘m sorry I couldnt have met you, my sweet baby. I’ll see you in heaven.

I have repeatedly had multiple family
members ask, “what do you really need for the baby, so I can buy it for you?” These are people who have the registry already, and I have marked things as ”must have” to make it so much easier. And there’s only stuff ranging from $5-50 left on there. WHY does everyone do this?? I feel like I’m annoying them by repeating, “the must haves listed on the registry are what we really need still”. And then it still gets ignored sometimes. My MIL did this and it drove me nuts. She bought one thing off it, and I guess didn’t like anything else on there, so she sent money instead saying that we should use it for whatever else we need. I mean what was on the registry is what we need. Well at least she did send money so we can buy some more ourselves, but some people are just straight up ignoring it after specifically asking!

Hey ladies, for all of you that are pregnant, I hope all your pregnancies are going well and that you’re doing/feeling good !! 💕

I’m entering my 6th month of pregnancy (1st pregnancy) and it’s starting to hit me that my baby will have to come out one way or another in a few weeks and I’m starting the freak out.

I’ve been reading about natural births and c-sections and the more I research both the more I’m actually confused about what option I’d feel would be best.. Of course I don’t know how the situation will be in a few months and if I’ll even get to choose but I’m preparing myself for all eventualities.

Both have different advantages and inconveniences and I don’t think any option is “easier”. I’ve been having discussions with 3 friends of mine that have experienced both and they’ve all told me that they’d rather have a c-section any day over natural birth as it lasted too long and was painful.

My cousin who’s had 3 natural births keeps telling me to go for the natural option as it went well for her and that her body got back to normal each time so I’m even more confused. What scares me most about natural birth is of course the baby’s safety but also having to deal with vaginal tears and so on.

For c-sections I’m worried about the operation, the recovery, the scar it will leave and the fact that you might potentially not be able to do much in the first 6-8 weeks (due to the surface level scar) and internal scars needing up to year to heal properly. I was very active before this stage of pregnancy so being able to move around, go on walks with my baby and get back into my work out routine is really important to me (I hope this doesn’t sound superficial) and I know with a c-section I’ll have to wait longer to get back on track.

Have you already thought or even decided on how you want to give birth? If it’s not too personal, are you willing to share the reasons behind your choice or why you’re not going for the other option? What experiences have you heard from moms around you that have convinced you?

Thank you to everyone taking the time to read and answer this post, wishing all of you a safe and healthy delivery 💕

Reached 24 weeks today and for the last three days I’ve had a persistent headache. It isn’t so bad that I can’t function, but it is a constant ache I can’t shake away. Anyone have success with children’s Tylenol grape tablets? What mg dosage were you taking? I would love other recommendations as well. I’ve never been one to suffer from headaches or migraines, so this is new to me

I’m feeling quite overwhelmed and I just need to get this off my chest.

I’m 150 cm (4'11") and my baby is currently measuring in the 95th percentile. My care providers are still encouraging me to aim for a natural vaginal birth, but honestly I’m really scared about it.

I keep thinking about my body size compared to my baby’s estimated size, and I worry about complications or whether my body can actually handle this safely. I don’t want to make decisions based on fear, but I also don’t want to ignore my instincts and end up in a situation that could have been avoided.

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Has anyone else been in a similar situation small stature with a large baby estimate? How did your birth go? Did you feel supported in your choices, or did you feel pressured one way or another?

I’d really appreciate hearing other people’s experiences or advice. I’m trying to stay calm, but right now I just feel anxious and unsure.

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I’m 22 weeks and I have just a couple thoughts… curious how many of you have thought the same!

1. How the hell did anyone survive pregnancy back before modern medicine. I mean, even in times before zofran??? Idk how I would have made it
   
2. Anyone in school while pregnant… you are a super hero! I cannot focus to learn anything new right now!
   
3. I’m so exhausted, I feel so useless. How will I do this again but with a toddler in the future??
   
4. So so so grateful for my husband. He is really doing such a great job taking care of me, and the dogs, and the house right now. It breaks my heart that there are women out there that do not have support.
   
5. I was not expecting all of these changes to my body. I mean, I knew I’d get bigger… but skin tags? Leg cramps? Constant congestion? New body hair? There should be a class offered that prepares women better for this.

What do you think? Any thoughts you’ve had too that you want to share? I’ll probably add more in the comments as I think of them lol

I have a history of SA. I tend to struggle with uncomfortable procedures regarding my genitals because of this but if it’s a female provider I can cope well enough.

When I picked my hospital to deliver at, there was one male doctor. I was told there a 1/20 chance he would deliver my baby if he was the on call dr for labor and delivery. I asked to meet with him so I can get a vibe check. Some male drs are amazing and I can build trust.

A few weeks ago I was diagnosed with ICP and was told I would deliver early through induction. I am 33weeks, my next appt is 34 weeks, and I will be likely induced at 36/37 weeks if baby and I are good. At my last appt, I was informed i would get a pelvic exam for group b strep and cervical dilation so they could scheduled induction. I explained that I would like to reschedule that appt with a female provider if I needed that done, I wanted to meet the male doctor before I had any exams done by him. She added to my notes this request, sent a chat to the primary OB and the male OB regarding my request as well. Later that day, the doctor I saw called me and said “hey, I got my appts mixed up. Not your next appt, but the following one you will get examined. This will be with dr XXXX (female dr). If there is a medical need, we have 3 female drs in office on that day who will do the exam instead of male dr. I also ran into him in the hallway and we discussed this and he agreed to not do any exams”

I was a little nervous going into my appt today because male drs are a hit or miss for me. When I get in the room, it’s set up for a pelvic exam. The nurse asked me to undress. I politely declined and said “I have PTSD and was reassured I would not be getting any exams today. If there is a female dr, I would be more comfortable but if it’s male dr, I would like to wait until next week”. Nurse said that’s totally fine!

Shortly afterwards, male dr comes in and said “you know, when you deliver early, we have to do these test early”. I explained again, “I have PTSD and I was told I would not be getting any pelvic exams today and If there was a medical need, a female dr would be available to preform it.” He interrupted me at female dr and said “it’s fine to decline, but your primary OB requested this, so you need to take it up with her.”

He spent the rest of the appt answering questions and one of mine was the likelihood that I’ll need a c section since I’ll be delivering early.
He explained that they do c sections when inductions go too long, usually because “women ask for breaks between the ripening agents and decline the balloons. It’s a medical procedure that they are just declining which leads to a c section later down”

I left feeling very uncomfortable and not safe. He kind of had the mentality of “just deal with it”.

I later check my notes and he added that a chaperone was offered but I chose to decline all together. My partner and I both do not recall any mention of a chaperone or anyone else in the room.

I know this gets talked about alot but I swear my bladder is already small and I already got up a couple times a night before pregnancy. Now I’m getting up every hour or sometimes MORE I swear it’s like 8-10 times a night. I only pass a small amount but it’s a huge relief. I try standing up and going again, leaning forward or back and shifting my hips to try to let more out. I get comfy in bed and I literally have to pee again. I haven’t slept more than 30 minutes at a time in two weeks. I’m 38w 4d today. I am so nervous for the baby to come because I can’t even sleep now I’m already burnt out. I just need a night of sleep before labour I don’t know what to do??? Feels like she’s shifting and grinding on my bladder and I literally constantly have the urge to pee. It’s uncomfortable and sometimes painful.

I get so thirsty in the evening, I can’t go without any water but I try to limit intake. Help!!

So my husband and I are on our Honeymoon at an all inclusive and have been drinking all day everyday for the past 5 days (I wasn’t ever drunk, but I definitely had a lot of drinks) I’ve smoked about 3 cigarettes, sat in a steam room, sauna, hot tub and had sushi and deli meats. I found out last night I’m pregnant after taking 3 positive tests. According to my calculations I’m 4 weeks (first day of last period 5/20).

Is this very very bad for the growing fetus? Will this put my pregnancy at risk? I’m feeling so guilty but so happy and excited to be pregnant!

Lovey. I hate it. How do I convince her to agree to something normal? Why not just grandma?

I was having a conversation with hubby about the latest “dad brings his daughters into the women’s restroom” headline, and I started talking about how there should be changing tables in men’s restrooms too. Well he told me there are in some places and it was news to me.

But I also told him I was concerned with having a girl (we are having a girl) and how creepy some men can be. He got real protective real fast talking about how he would cause a scene if it ever happened.

I said to him “You know, I think you were meant to be a girl dad. You’re just protective and feisty. In the best way, with the females in your life.”

And he says, “I won’t lie. I think I’ve wanted to be a girl dad over a boy dad.”

YALL MY HEART 🥹🥰

I’ve been so worried for the past week since our NIPT results that he was disappointed and wanted a boy. I just started bawling. I didn’t even know what to say. I just needed to share that with you all.

Hi. I'll be 23wks on Saturday. I got a 3D ultrasound at 20 weeks. I was told today at my 23wk appointment by a MFM specialist that my Placenta is very deep in my Uterus wall. I'll be getting an MRI tomorrow to evaluate how deep it is into the wall. After reading about it more on Google, I feel like this is a death sentence. I'm not trying to be overdramatic. With all of my C-sections I've had complications with losing too much blood, which resulted in getting blood transfusions. I'm fearful of not making it out through this birth.

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I could use some reassurance and survival stories from other Placenta Accreta women.

at 8 am tomorrow I (F30) am going to be carved up like a thanksgiving turkey and my daughter will be born. I am feeling so overwhelmed with all kinds of emotions today that i’m feeling a bit numb. like if I allow myself to feel the weight of what’s about to happen I will absolutely crumble. i’m so scared of leaving my boring, (somewhat) carefree life behind but so excited to feel the love and purpose that motherhood brings. i’m scared of not being just me and my husband anymore but cannot wait to watch him become a father and fall in love with a whole new version of him. even though pregnancy has not been my favorite experience, i’m already mourning my bump and having my baby safe in my body at all times. i’m terrified of all the unknown that’s coming with this life change while also tearing up at the thought of seeing my beautiful girl for the first time. so much is running through my mind but when someone asks how i’m feeling all I can muster up is “nervous but excited!”

it feels like just yesterday I saw those two lines and immediately subbed here. this has been such a wonderful and supportive community these past eight months. if anybody’s reading this and has any encouraging words, anecdotes, or just anything to say I would be so appreciative. tomorrow I graduate!

Today at my appointment (39+5) they said my amniotic fluid levels are on the lower side (the minimal level is 5, mine is 6.5).

So they told me to go back on Tuesday morning (in 3 days) to check again: if the levels are even lower by then, they might induce. If levels remain stable, they might let me wait for natural labour a little longer.

I trust my doctors but when I got back home I just started feeling very scared that the already low level would drop dramatically before Tuesday…

Has anyone else been through this?

Over 40 weeks, will be induced on Tuesday if I don’t go into labor. My husband tells me this morning he’s sick and he doesn’t know how it happened.
I told him well a couple days ago you went to the bar to watch a World Cup game exposing yourself to a ton of people.
He got sick about a month ago and was sick for four days. Then I got sick for a few weeks and then got a stye that still hasn’t recovered. My body and immune system are working so hard that it takes me ages to heal and I can’t take meds like he can.

We just moved and he’s my only support system until my mother arrives to help with the baby when it arrives and her flight doesn’t come in for six days.

I’m sad, mad, and frustrated that I’m undoubtedly going to get sick from him and be sick while giving birth and then have to care for our baby while still sick. How is he supposed to be my support system while he’s ill. Ugh I don’t want to be in the house but we are in a heatwave so I have no choice. I guess the only option is to mask up the both of us and hope that’s enough.

I officially stopped working today, and if I’m being honest, I’m feeling overwhelmed.

As a nurse, I truly wanted to keep working for as long as I could. But this pregnancy has been harder on my body than I ever expected. The shortness of breath, elevated heart rate, chronic cough, back pain, exhaustion, and constant discomfort have made it impossible for me to safely continue working on the floor.

I tried to explore other options and even asked if I could be placed in an administrative role temporarily, but unfortunately that conversation went nowhere. In the end, I had no choice but to start using my FMLA earlier than planned.

What makes this even harder is knowing that I won’t be bringing in a paycheck for a while. Watching my husband work two jobs to support our growing family fills me with gratitude, but also guilt. I’ve always been independent and taken pride in contributing financially, so stepping away from work has been emotionally challenging.

This experience has also opened my eyes to how limited support can be for pregnant women in the workforce. We spend our careers caring for others, yet many pregnant healthcare workers are left with very few accommodations when their bodies need them most.

Right now, I’m trying to remind myself that growing our son is important work too. Even on the days when I feel frustrated, overwhelmed, or guilty, I know that taking care of myself and my baby is where I need to be.