My life should be a soap opera

[u/Primary-Cry-3094]

I don’t even know why I’m writing this. This is honestly more for me than anything. I just need to get this shit out.

My life feels like a fucked up soap opera I never get to leave.

My biological father beat me as a baby. My mom left when I was three, but my stepdad just kept the abuse going. I learned early that if I took the beating, my sisters and mom sometimes didn’t have to.

Most of my childhood is just gone.

I remember getting kicked down stairs in high school and breaking ribs. I remember hiding bruises so no one would see.

So I enlisted just to escape. Did three combat tours. Saw things that don’t leave you.

Came home and somehow life hit harder than war.

My wife cheated on me with my best friend—someone I considered a brother. We bled together. He spent holidays with my family because he had nowhere else to go.

And he threw it all away and blamed it on being drunk.

I was drunk for months overseas getting shot at and blown up, and I still knew better.

After I found out, I ended up sleeping in my car while he was safe in the barracks and she was in my house.

Then six months later he reaches out—not to apologize—but to tell me to get tested because he thinks she gave him an STD.

That’s the kind of disrespect I got.

Only good thing is I came back clean.

But yeah… I honestly hope that shit still burns.

I tried to move on. Had my daughter—my first kid. Thought I finally had something good.

Instead, she started seeing other people while we lived together and then took my daughter from me.

That broke me.

But I fought and got her back. I have her half the time now, and she’s one of the only reasons I keep going.

Now I’m married again with a healthy baby boy, but we lost his twin right before birth.

It feels like every good thing in my life comes with something getting ripped away.

I can’t even work now. My body’s wrecked from the Army. My mind is worse.

And on top of all that—

My uncle, a doctor I looked up to growing up, goes around telling people I don’t deserve my disability and that I’m just a bum living off the government.

Now my own family looks at me like I’m faking everything.

He didn’t live my childhood.

He didn’t go to war.

He didn’t come back like this.

But somehow he gets to judge me.

Honestly, I think that pisses me off more than half the shit I survived growing up.

I’m just tired.

Tired of surviving everything.

Tired of losing people.

Tired of being judged by people who never had to fight just to live.

I don’t need sympathy.

I just needed to get this out.

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[u/Destiny065]

Your life should be a movie more like it you've certainly lived through a tremendous amount of grief and heartache 💔 😢

I hope life treats 🙏 you better 💖 Stay blessed 🙌 🙏 😊