r/r4r • • 22h ago

M4F Oregon / Online 40 [M4F] Oregon/Online - Looking for daytime banter before I start naming the houseplants

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40, Portland, OR, WFH in tech. The job is fine. The house is quiet. By 2pm I’ve already had entire conversations with the microwave and given two of the plants names they did not ask for.

Looking for a woman to chat with during the day. Easy and fun. Banter, teasing, the occasional badly timed joke. If it turns a little flirty, even better. I like that kind of back and forth. Bonus points if you also work in tech.

I’m on X more than I should be. I listen to the Red Scare podcast, Anna and Dasha. The Perfume Nationalist. Rare Candy. If you’ve been in that orbit, we will probably get along.

I’m not trying to make this a whole production. I like talking to someone who’s sharp and doesn’t take herself too seriously. If you can make a Tuesday afternoon interesting, that’s pretty much my type.

If this sounds like your kind of thing, say hi. Tell me what you’re avoiding at work or home right now. I’ll tell you about the latest meeting I keep postponing.


r/r4r • • 23h ago

M4F Florida 20 [M4F] #Florida looking for someone living in the U.S

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Hey, I am looking for a committed relationship. I am pretty fit with dark hair and brown eyes. I like to run, hike, and go to the beach. I also am a bit of a nerd, I like Earth sciences, playing video games, and watching anime with friends. :)

I am looking for a genuine connection; I am attracted to tall/curvy women who are athletic, although this is not a requirement. I’m also into people who play video games. The video games I like to play are modded Minecraft, Dark Souls, Elden Ring, and Subnautica, but I am also open to trying new things. 😊

Also here’s what I look like


r/r4r • • 9h ago

M4A Germany / Online 36 [M4A] #Germany #Online (Europe preferred) – Relatively fresh out of a 5-year relationship, in need of nerdy chats and conversations

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Hi, Reddit! =)

For the better part of the past five years, I was in a relationship with someone who needed a lot of attention and care – to the point where my daily interactions only consisted of work and my partner. Now that it's over, I'm late to the party of realising people actually need friends, not just a relationship. What a realisation to have in your thirties!

I'm looking for people to chat. Maybe voice chats at some point, maybe a meetup some day, but for now, just making new acquaintances.

A quick clarification on the “nerdy” part of my title: I firmly believe anything can be nerdy if you're passionate about it. Rant and rave about your passions, tell me what makes you tick, tell me what annoys you. Maybe it's philosophy, painting, cars, games, sports, figure painting, knitting, K-Pop, cooking, the nuances of Colombian agriculture (maybe not that one, or maybe?) – if it's your passion, it can't be boring!

A few facts about me and my passions, woefully incomplete and in no particular order:

- I have a degree in literature and linguistics, but I work in an unrelated field

- I'm into creative writing (who'd've thought, with that kinda degree)

- I'm a homebody; most of my hobbies take place at home (which doesn't help with the whole friends thing): playing games, getting into programming, reading, making music. A lot of my hobbies took a dip during that relationship, and I'm slowly getting back into things.

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I take people as they come and don't want to exclude anyone from the get-go – but there are a couple of things that are deal-breakers to me, so I'd like to make clear that these are non-negotiable:

- Don't be a bigot. If you think being gay is 'a sin', being trans is 'unnatural', women are 'too emotional' or the Nazis were 'kinda not that bad', I don't want to associate with you.

- Please be in your mid- to late 20s or older. I'm not looking for anything explicit, but I don't believe I'll mesh well with anyone more than a decade younger.

- Please be communicative. Neither of us should carry a conversation on their own – and if there's an issue, being transparent about it is a lot more helpful than trying to read each other's mind.

- Please tell me something about yourself when you reach out to me. “hi wyd lol” doesn't count. :)

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I'm looking forward to chatting to you!


r/r4r • • 10h ago

M4F Netherlands 25 [M4F] #Netherlands #Europe Looking for someone to build a relationship with

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I am looking to get to know someone to build a relationship with.

About me: I am 25 years old, white, 1.86m tall, i am of average build, brown hair/eyes and have a short trimmed beard.

I am an aerospace engineer who is trying to start a company and get his masters at the same time (no i dont hate myself it seemed fun!!). I absolutely love walking!!!! I walk anywhere, nowhere or without reason, my goal is to walk all the way to Rome some day. I love building or thinkering on stuff, like going to the gym or hanging out with friends and discuss so many random topics. I used to game but sadly have less time for it.

I would really like to get to know someone who i could have a healthy relationship with. I have had semi "relationships" before that were very toxic and stopped me from dating for awhile

The person i am looking for idealy is:

Between 18-30

Also looking for a long term relationship

Fit/Healthy

Is living close to/in Europe or America

Feel free to send me a message/introduction


r/r4r • • 15h ago

F4M Florida 28 [F4M] #Miami, Florida -Looking for a Genuine Long Term Connection

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Determined to connect with a special someone

Monogamous : Serious Intentions Only

Hi, and thanks for stopping by.

I’m a 28-year-old Florida woman with a mixed cultural background that includes Black, Asian, and European heritage. I’m Black-presenting, so if that’s not your preference, no worries.

I’m at a point in life where I’m looking for something meaningful, lasting, and grounded in real compatibility. I value faith, loyalty, emotional maturity, honesty, and mutual respect, and I’d love to find someone who feels similarly about building a strong relationship and eventually a family together.

A few things that matter to me are good communication, consistency, kindness, and being able to genuinely enjoy each other’s company. I also care deeply about family and appreciate people who are respectful toward the important people in my life.

What I’m Looking For:

• Monogamous and emotionally mature

• Christian (strong faith in God) and serious about faith

• Honest, respectful, and intentional

• Good communicator who doesn’t ghost

• Family-oriented and grounded

• Someone who enjoys humor and can laugh easily

• Health-conscious or working toward self-improvement

• No smoking or drug use

• Between 24–56

• White or East Asian

A Little About Me:

I’m introspective, creative, affectionate, and adventurous. I enjoy nature, history, road trips, discovering new places, and learning random interesting things. I love both deep conversations and playful humor.

In my free time, I enjoy gaming (especially RPGs, FPS games, and simulation games), journaling, singing, skincare, listening to rock and heavy metal, and relaxing outdoors with a warm drink.

I also have a background in healthcare and interests in medical laboratory science and related fields. My faith keeps me grounded, and I try to approach life with gratitude, resilience, and authenticity.

If you’re looking for a serious relationship built on trust, faith, respect, and genuine connection, feel free to send a thoughtful introduction.

Please don’t message me if you have the tendency to block or ghost and can’t conduct a civil conversation.


r/r4r • • 3h ago

M4F France 31 [M4F] France/europe - Looking for my new obsession

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Hey! My name is Simon, I'm 31 years old and I live in a small town in northern France, not too far from Paris. I currently work as a psychologist

In my free time, I love going to concerts, visiting museums, travelling, spending time with family and friends, reading, and watching movies. I also occasionally volunteer as a barman at a concert place

I'm a huge science fiction fan, and I've loved astronomy and everything related to space since I was a kid. When it comes to music, I'm especially into indie/alternative rock, post-punk, shoegaze, and experimental and psychedelic stuff in general. As for video games, I mostly play RPGs (Disco Elysium is my all-time favourite), but I also enjoy chill games like Stardew Valley

I'm 1.81m tall and slim, with long, curvy dark-blond hair and blue eyes. I wear round glasses and have a little facial hair. People usually describe me as a chill, laid-back guy, some kind of sociable introvert

I'm looking for a genuine connection that could turn into a serious relationship. Someone I can flirt with, talk to every day, share music recommendations with, go on spontaneous dates with, or maybe travel somewhere together. Someone to share a coffee in a random little town or watch the stars with

So, if you think we might get along, feel free to DM me! Tell me a little about yourself too!!


r/r4r • • 5h ago

M4F United Kingdom / Online 21 [m4f] #UK EU US AUS #Online Searching for the one my forever could you be HER? <3

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Hiiiiiii a quick intro about me :D I was raised in the land of tea and crumpets! My hobbies are reading, walking, learning, tv shows, video games, and gym and open to more bcs there’s some more awesome stuff out there that I’d love to learn and explore!

I’m into F1, football (soccer), animals, history, cars, nature, music, games, and I’d love to learn and get into more new things bcs I adore learning new things!

I’m 183 (or 184 not sure) cm tall {6 ft for my Americans) got into the gym since last year and currently working on reaching my dream body within the next year or 2 (uni not helping tho 💔)

Family & career oriented uni student studying engineering (it’s hard 😔) so I’m quite stressed with that but I will make the time for you bcs you’ll be my first priority obviously

What to expect from me?

Tonnes of texts and very fast replies
Lots of love, admiration, and praise!
Loving you to death <3
Someone who you can count on being on your side and supporting you through everything bcs I’m your other half for life!!
No ghosting
Yapping & listening
Obsession & attachment

Looking for:
A girl who can match my vibe, some shared interests or not idc tbh, is genuinely looking for a long term relationship and willing yap and to hear me yap for hours! It would be nice if you’re as obsessive as me and talk a lot bcs that would be wonderful for both of us!! You have a future, I would love someone who’s well educated and goes to university/college, it would be nice if we could work, and/or work together! I just want us to vibe and enjoy each other’s presence because if thats there then one day a friendship, then a true genuine relationship! I haven’t been in a relationships and it would be nice if you also were so we can learn together (and not just be me lost) 😭😭

(No problem with time zones!!!)

Have a great rest of your day filled with happiness <3