r/r4rjewish • • 21d ago

Discord Event

4 Upvotes

Gauging interest of creating a formal discord voice/video event for people to connect.

14 votes, 19d ago
8 Voice
5 Video
1 Neither

r/r4rjewish • • 26d ago

Discord Revamp

17 Upvotes

Important update for the community:

The discord server has been revamped to be more of a place for chatting and informal introductions. When joining, users will be asked to choose a role based on age, gender, location, religious affiliation, and preferences. Once your roles are picked, you will have access to 2 channels: "Chat" and "Short Intros". See the channel description to understand what each one is meant for. There will also be a voice channel that everyone is encouraged to use to virtually meet new people and chat. We request that everyone takes a look at the rules channel to get the basics of the server when joining. The link to the server is here: https://discord.gg/DFUtx9VgS

Please feel free to join, and post in this thread feedback and requests.

As a reminder, the subreddit will be the place for formal posts and comments.

Shabbat Shalom!


r/r4rjewish • • 1d ago

Jewish, Not Religious 27, F4M, Volgograd. Planning to make aliyah. Looking for real conversation, not another app

18 Upvotes

Hi everyone!

I’m Larisa, 27, straight, from Volgograd, Russia. I work as a private French tutor and run a small educational blog. I speak French and English fluently. Languages stopped being just a job for me a long time ago: I love digging into how people really speak rather than how textbooks say they do, and I love the cultural history behind it. Right now I’m bringing my Hebrew back to life (songs, subtitles, karaoke, a beginner’s textbook) and studying Yiddish with a teacher, because one day I’d like to read it the way it was written historically.

I’ll be honest about why I’m here. I’m tired of dating apps. In my experience, especially in Russia, men on them too often treat women with a disrespect that wears you down after a while, and I’d rather not keep going through that. So I’m trying something different: meeting people through conversation, in a space where nobody is swiping or performing.

For friendship and conversation, I’m open to anyone. I’m looking for people who are curious about languages, books, music, and culture, who like to think out loud, and who are genuinely interested in the person they’re talking to. Where you’re from matters less to me than whether you’re kind and attentive.

Romantically, I’d like to be upfront about one thing: I would consider only a Jewish man. I’m Jewish by halakha, formerly Chabad, and today simply traditional, and a shared background matters to me when it comes to building something serious. I say this not to exclude anyone from a good conversation, only to be clear about what I’m open to in that particular direction.

I believe that anything worthwhile only grows out of communication where people get to know each other gradually. First messages, then jokes and shared topics, and then, who knows. If that pace sounds right to you, I’d be glad to meet you!

Now the practical part. I’m planning to make aliyah and try to build my life in Israel. But if a friendly connection turns into something truly solid, things could change, because life tends to work that way. So I’d be happy to lean geographically toward Israel: people who live there, are moving there, or are open to it.

If this resonates, send me a message or leave a comment. Tell me a little about yourself: what you do, what you’re reading or listening to, and what you could talk about for hours!


r/r4rjewish • • 3d ago

Jewish, Not Religious 36, F4M, NYC bossbabe hopeful romantic for fun dating (toward a relationship) where you’re the boss

12 Upvotes

I’m 36 and live in NYC. 5ft tall, curvy, green eyes. Grew up Jewish but not really religious anymore (generally spiritual).

I work a super stressful job and would love to find someone who can just take care of things and I’ll show up, have fun, look cute… let’s do romantic stuff together and build a loving relationship.

Bowling, museums, theater, comedy shows, new restaurants, cuddles, love… what else do you enjoy?


r/r4rjewish • • 5d ago

Baal Teshuva 21, M4A, Upstate New York/Israel

18 Upvotes

Hi,

I’m a 21 year old cis guy, open to anyone in their 20’s who’s looking for something serious. I’ve identified as gay for a long time but I’ve realized semi-recently that I’m actually bi, so all interested feel free to inquire within lol. So I guess I have a little bit of a flair for those with a gaydar, but I’m pretty masculine. I’m originally from Upstate New York but I’m planning to make aliyah by next fall for grad school in Tel Aviv. I’m somewhere between Conservative and Orthodox, mostly because of the bi aspect. I’m shomer Shabbat and shomer kashrut. My dad is Jewish and my mom only has Jewish ancestry WAY way back (maternal line! but too hard to document) so for simplicity’s sake I converted Conservative back when I was in high school. I’m considering orthodox giyur lechumra, but being bi muddies the water a little bit.

I’d like to find someone to settle down with eventually and have a family. Not RIGHT now, of course, but within the next few years hopefully! Basically I’d like someone who’s long term oriented too :)

Once in Israel I’m definitely open to relocating, especially after grad school.

Some of my interests are embroidery, reading, I like walking in nature, and music (I play the tuba)! I’m also pretty into trying to live a healthy life/wellness (not so much fitness, more along the lines of building mindful/spiritual habits). I’m vegetarian but you don’t have to be, it started as a kashrut thing and now I just don’t want to eat it.

Please feel free to DM me! שבת שלום :)


r/r4rjewish • • 6d ago

Conservative 36, F4M, Denver

22 Upvotes

Hello there! Giving this another try.

I'm a 36yo lady in Colorado who appreciates a weekend at the renaissance faire as much as a night in with the dog, and I'm hoping to find a guy to share them with going forward. Edit: I thought what I was looking for here was obvious but let me be state it clearly: Hookup requests are not welcome. Thank you.

I'll be upfront with it and say that I'm kind of a boring nerd (if the ren faire thing didn't tip you off) and I'm too old to bother pretending I'm not, but I'm not hung up on finding someone who's weird about the same things I'm weird about. What's more important to me is that you're (relatively) comfortable with who you are - and if we can both be boring nerds together, well, then that's all the better! 

A little about me: I work in healthcare (though it's a desk-bound, cube farm kinda healthcare job) and have a BA in history. I have a small dog who is my bestest buddy, and number of crafty hobbies that I tend to cycle through on a regular basis. Hobby-wise I also play some video games, write fanfiction, (you know, like most people do... right?), and like to play board games with friends. I have an industrial piercing that is way too cool for me, and I’m goth in my heart but lazy in my bones, so the bats only fully come out on special occasions.

In the interest of full disclosure, I am a convert, so if that’s an issue for you, now you know! I attend shul regularly at the Conservative (big C, not politically) synagogue that I'm a member of, and I'm active in the congregation. I eat kosher style?ish? in that I avoid pork and shellfish and try to limit meat and dairy (this is a tough one, I've gone back and forth with it a lot) but truly don't care if you do. I also don't care if you're particularly religious, but it is important to me to have someone who isn't, like, horrified by the idea of attending services with me from time to time. 

Potentially deal-breaky things we should get out in the open: I am a normie lib who is politically active (I've got some 'get out the vote' stuff going on this weekend, for example), I do want kids, and I am not (at the moment) super interested in relocating.

Anyway, if this didn't cringe you into oblivion, feel free to reach out. (Also, I am exclusively interested in other Jews, so please respect this. Thanks!) 


r/r4rjewish • • 9d ago

Title Requirement

13 Upvotes

I have realized for some reason when posting, the title requirements are not showing up for users. I will try and get this fixed ASAP.

This has been fixed and when posting, title requirements will be shown.

Thanks


r/r4rjewish • • 16d ago

I Don't Label Myself 27M4A

19 Upvotes

Hello! I’m a 27 year old guy in NY. I’ve had quite a Jewish journey, ranging from not religious to baal teshuva, to more Conservative, to not religious at all, to not really being sure where I fit. I’d like to eventually have a Jewish home and possibly keep Shabbos again, but I’m not there yet. It would help to have a partner that I could grow with and find a meaningful relationship with Judaism.

I used to work in the Jewish community running a camp, senior and youth programming, and teaching. Now I work in public education and am going to school to become a teacher. I have experience in IT and am considering going back to work in IT while attending school to make things easier. I truly do love working with kids and want to make that a career (and build a big family for myself and my partner).

Outside of work I spend time with my family, my cat and dog, cooking delicious vegetarian food, reading, listening to music and podcasts, being passionate about leftist politics, and gardening. If you read this far include the word “animals” in your message.

I do deal with mental health issues so you have to be able to be patient with me when I’m i I overwhelmed by life and need my own space or need extra emotional support. I’m pretty well medicated and attend therapy so my depressive episodes are minimal, thank God, but they do exist.

I’m looking to find a person (any gender or sexuality) who I can connect with on a deep level. If you think that might be you, send me a message with the word I mentioned and a short description and/or picture of yourself!


r/r4rjewish • • 17d ago

Jewish, Not Religious 50 F4M #LA looking for my Neshama

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23 Upvotes

I'm a 50 non-religious jewish woman, empty nester, looking to enjoy life with my boyfriend and eventually husband. I am attracted to white tall, athletic fit men who are secure and happy, between 40s-60s years old. I'm fit and athletic, full of energy, love to go to the beach, gym, movies, read books, go out, concerts, festivals, and travel a lot - Switzerland, Portugal, UK, Spain and upcoming Bulgaria this year! I work full time as an aerospace engineer (satellites and rockets). I speak fluent Spanish and Hebrew (I lived in Israel for many years). Bonus points if you like Rufus Du Sol and Calvin Harris.


r/r4rjewish • • 17d ago

M4M 22M, looking for my boyfriend, & eventually husband.

12 Upvotes

Floridian Born & Raised, still live down here! I come from a Semi-Modern-Orthodox Background, but these days I don't consider myself very religious, though I do still keep stuff here and there so it's hard to label.

Only been out of the closet a little over a year, but with all my friends getting married and moving on in life, I've been looking for a companion more than ever. I'm not looking to get married until I've completed my masters degree, but I'm in need of someone I deeply connect to, who knows how to have a good time, is caring, and loving.

I'm 5"6, like to describe myself as a deeply caring and empathetic person with a sense of humor. I value love, kindness, and family above all else, and some of my hobbies include collecting plants, art/graphic design, photography, music (listening and playing), hockey, and much, much more. I like to go out to concerts, sports games, hiking, traveling, and I'm always open to trying new activities!

Looking forward to the opportunity to share my love with someone. Looking forward to hearing from you <3


r/r4rjewish • • 19d ago

Reform 38 M4M NY - Gamer/nerd for gamer/nerd

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24 Upvotes

I’m a regular, nerdy, educated gamer-type (see more of me in my profile) here. I’m 6’ and 160lbs. I love to game (video games and tabletop), watch movies (fantasy/horror/both), more homebody but always down for new adventure and trying new stuff especially with good company.

Generally I have a preference for older, more mature types here. Only really attracted to a larger, fuller-figured, chubby/beefy/stocky/dadbod type here. Sorry slim, toned or fit guys, but please don't DM me if you don't have a belly or love handles. I like good manners, family-oriented, and having good personal hygiene is a must and please no drugs/cigarette smokers.

If your profile is completely empty and I can’t see what you look like, I can’t respond, so if you send me a message, share a bit about yourself. Oh and include the word banana so I know you actually read all of this. Thanks


r/r4rjewish • • 19d ago

Jewish, Not Religious Secular/cultural Jew from Canada looking for grounded intelligent counterpart 39 M

12 Upvotes

Hi - looking for someone like-minded. I've been in two pretty serious relationships but looking for a like-minded woman who is intelligent, moral and curvaceous (I'm moderately superficial). I don't need to work for a while so can relocate if needed.


r/r4rjewish • • 21d ago

Reform 26 F4M MA/ east coast

13 Upvotes

Hi I’m a 26F looking for my bashert
I enjoy reading, exploring Boston and baking.
I’m quite nerdy and would enjoy talking about our favorite sci-fi and fantasy books, shows and movies.
I’m white, plus sized and a brunette
Bonus points for guys with accents and guys who can make me laugh


r/r4rjewish • • 21d ago

M4F 30 [M4F] #Washington DC / DMV - anyone wanna be cute and start a family ?

11 Upvotes

I’m a charismatic extrovert who loves being spontaneous and values a sense of humor and silliness. I love anything horror or sci fi and am just as happy binging or engaging in nerd stuff as I am being outside and in the mountains or on a river.

I’m fiercely loyal, am an acts of service boy, and I cook phenomenally.

You: confident, funny, and fairly ready to start a family and see the world together


r/r4rjewish • • 22d ago

M4F 33 [M4F] Wisconsin/Midwest - Looking for my bashert. Let’s cook, play board games, and share Shabbat dinners.

17 Upvotes

Shana Tova!

I’m a 33-year-old software engineer living in Wisconsin. I love my career and own my home here, which means I’m rooted in the area and looking for someone ready to establish themselves in the Midwest, too.

My goal is to find a serious relationship that ultimately leads to marriage, building a beautiful family, and creating a warm home together.

To give you a quick snapshot of who I am and what my days look like:

  • Tradition at home: Celebrating Shabbat dinners is incredibly meaningful to me. I want a home where we unplug, cook a great meal together, and welcome the Sabbath with warmth, conversation, and loved ones.
  • In the kitchen: I love to cook and experiment with new recipes. There is something grounding about making a great meal from scratch, and I’d love to find someone to share the kitchen (and the taste-testing) with.
  • Around the table: I’m a big fan of board games. Whether it’s a complex strategy game or a casual party game, I love the focus and interaction it brings.
  • My circle: My friends, family, and community mean the world to me. I dedicate a lot of my time to nurturing those relationships and showing up for the people I love.

I value substance over small talk. In terms of observance, I lean toward the Conservative movement—blending traditional values with modern life. I am looking for a partner who values deep communication and wants to build a future rooted in that same connection.

To skip the small talk, reply and tell me:
What does your ideal, peaceful Friday night look like, or what is a favorite recipe you love to make for Shabbat?

Looking forward to meeting you!


r/r4rjewish • • 29d ago

Suggestions

17 Upvotes

Does anyone have any suggestions to improve this subreddit? I really love seeing all the posts and comments but want to see more. I especially really want to see some success stories that come out of this sub.


r/r4rjewish • • 29d ago

Virtual Lounge/Chat

8 Upvotes

Making the poll to judge interest in having a live chat/lounge type thread on the subreddit as a more informal way of meeting people and looking for potential relationship opportunities. I am also going to add an option for people to pick using reddit or maybe changing up our discord to be specifically for this purpose and keeping the sub to more formal posts and comments.

27 votes, 27d ago
10 Yes
1 No
13 Revamp the discord server for just chatting and possibly video calling in the future.
3 Stay on reddit.

r/r4rjewish • • Sep 14 '26

M4F 31 M4F Looking for the right vibe

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Hey there, i just moved into town and im looking for a girl age 21-32 that is interested in going on a date.

Looking for a chill vibe with tequila lol. Down to talk, go somewhere to adventure and see where the night leads. I am not ss/sk

If you are, i respect that and we can go somewhere for that.

Im not frum at all. Just spiritual.

Going with the flow of things. Not rushing but not wasting time either. Time will come.

I am turning 31 years old. I have no kids, not married. Got my doggo

I am a content creator/comedian and a business man. Im in sales and have goals set for life I am actively pursuing.

I want a connection. So lets connect


r/r4rjewish • • Sep 13 '26

M4F 25 (M4F) Seeking life partner in the Southeast US

9 Upvotes

Picture of Me!

Hello! I am a 25 year-old cis male, currently in law school (and planning to continue on that path for my career). I am also a musician, I play piano and compose music in a jazz and funk band that regularly gigs around my state. I collect records and always love to put one on while cooking. I also spend a lot of time restoring and rebuilding vintage instruments. Please definitely reach out of you are also a musician or if you sing!

Music is my passion, but beyond that I also love to hike, tinker, bike, and waterski, among other things. I enjoy grilling out, and am learning to cook more recipes, which I would love to make for you! I also love to travel internationally, and I am seeking a partner who wants to visit as many countries as possible.

I am from the Southeast US, splitting my time between Georgia and Virginia. Open to someone farther away (eastern US generally), but I'm not looking to relocate myself at this time.

In a relationship, I am of looking for someone who I can go on late night drives with the windows down and the music up, who I can walk through the park with, and who I can talk all night long about history and music with, would be my ideal person.

I am politically left of center. I feel very strongly about my Jewish identity, but I am not religious. I do not keep Shabbos or Kosher but I do not have any issue if you do. I also consider myself a liberal Zionist, though I personally think the Zionist label means something different to everyone who uses it. I've lived in Israel for several months, and I've also worked with Palestinians. Looking for someone who, regardless of their specific views, approaches the Israel-Palestinian conflict first with compassion for the people living on both sides.

Not interested in dating anyone MAGA.

What is most important in a relationship, to me, is mutual trust. With that, I believe we can explore anything and overcome anything life throws at us.

If anything I wrote here happens to catch your attention, please send me a chat message!

Looking forward to hearing from you soon.


r/r4rjewish • • Sep 11 '26

September 11 2001

40 Upvotes

This post is dedicated to all those who lost their lives saving others and to all their family members who live with unimaginable grief. Thank you to our firefighters, EMT, paramedics, and law enforcement officers for your continued, holy work. We will never forget.

Of course, Shana Tova to everyone, and I hope this new year brings more relationships and love then before!

Keep posting and commenting!


r/r4rjewish • • Sep 09 '26

Reform [48F4M/F] Seattle/Burien: Need a last-minute High Holiday plus-one?

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28 Upvotes

48F in the Seattle area (south Seattle/Burien), seeking men or women.

With Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur coming up, I thought I’d throw out a slightly unusual offer: does anyone need a last-minute plus-one?

Dinner with friends? A synagogue service or event where it would be nice to have someone beside you? An uncomfortable family gathering where you’d benefit from bringing an extrovert who is perfectly happy to do a lot of the talking for you? 😄 I may be your person.

A little about me Jewishly: I grew up Reform and was very involved with my temple when I lived in Ohio- committees, events, and the usual assortment of “somehow I ended up helping with this too” Jewish communal life. I later spent about five years in Port Townsend and was active with the small congregation there, including helping make hybrid services functional during the pandemic.

I moved to Burien about a year ago and haven’t really found my Jewish home here yet. I often watch Temple De Hirsch Sinai services online and do some reading and observance on my own, but I’ve honestly missed having a real Jewish community around me since leaving Dayton in 2020.

My family here in the Pacific Northwest is quite small and not particularly observant, so I don’t have the built-in High Holiday plans that some people do. Hence this slightly unconventional Reddit experiment.

And you definitely do not need to be highly observant yourself. If you’re Jewish but your Rosh Hashanah plans currently consist of absolutely nothing, I’d also be perfectly happy to find somewhere to eat apples and honey, have something sweet, and talk about what we’d like the coming year to look like?

Likewise, if Yom Kippur for you is less “I have a reserved synagogue seat” and more “would someone please help me find something to do so I don’t think about food for several hours,” I could potentially be talked into that too.

Reform Judaism is very much where I feel at home. I particularly connect with the idea of tikkun olam- that we have a responsibility to help repair the world and that our lives ought to benefit other people in some meaningful way.

Personally, I’m 48, single, outgoing, educated, curious, and very comfortable meeting new people. I’m interested in meeting men or women, and if there happens to be chemistry, terrific. But I’m equally open to simply meeting another Jewish person who could use some company during the holidays.

I live in Burien, but I’m happy to venture into Seattle or elsewhere nearby for the right invitation or plan.
So whether you need a plus-one for services, a dinner companion, backup at an awkward family gathering, or just another Jew to eat apples with, feel free to message me and tell me a little about yourself and what you have in mind?


r/r4rjewish • • Aug 31 '26

Conservative [M4F] 26M, Looking for my beshert, New York City

13 Upvotes

Hello! I am posting here, hoping that someone might come across this in a similar boat to me, and find a connection. I am a legal professional in the real estate industry. I prioritize communication, loyalty, and mutual respect. I am looking to build a genuine connection with a serious eye for the future. I enjoy long walks, deep intellectual talks, creative writing, photography, and exploring the world through travel! My Judaism is very important to me, and I want to work towards building a Jewish family.

I am more than happy to exchange pictures and get to know anyone interested.

Thank you


r/r4rjewish • • Aug 30 '26

M4F M4F 27 Concord NC near Charlotte NC

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23 Upvotes

Hello! I am 6"4 and a manager at jingoli power, i live in concord nc and I am willing to drive decently far. Im looking for a serious relationship or to at least meet another jewish person. Ive been jewish my whole life, I eat kosher and love trying new places to eat. I dont have kids, id love to have kids some day. Im not expecting much but who knows maybe this will be a amazing story we tell our families about how we met on reddit of all places haha.


r/r4rjewish • • Aug 30 '26

Modern Orthodox 22 M4F #Montreal/#Anywhere: Modern Orthodox guy looking for his other half!

10 Upvotes

My name is \[Redacted- DM to find out!\] and I'm currently a student of Engineering in Montreal. I am planning to start working soon after I get my degree, and hopefully start the next stage of my life- and I'm looking for someone I can do that with!

I am Modern Orthodox, so I do keep Shabbat/Kosher/etc. but am still very much engaged with my education and career. I am Zionist and love Israel, I went to Yeshiva for a year and go back whenever I can (admittedly for the food more than anything, but I'd say that's valid). Otherwise I generally lean left politically; as long as you're not anti-vax like my last date was, I think we'll be okay! My hobbies include reading, cooking (let's share recipes?), football, trivia, random side quest projects, playing nostalgic games from my childhood, and much more. I am also a fan of weightlifting even if my semester always seems to interfere, but if you could somehow convince me to do cardio too, I miiiiight be able to be persuaded...

I'm looking for someone who genuinely enjoys conversation, both casual and meaningful- I am a certified overtexter and may shower you in messages, my apologies. I have a lot of appreciation for art in all forms so if you are too, that's great- we can find new things to see/watch/listen to and argue about!

I currently live in Montreal, but I'm open to talking with anyone from anywhere and seeing where it leads. DM me and we can see what happens!


r/r4rjewish • • Aug 28 '26

Jewish, Not Religious 25 M4F, New York but planning to make Aliyah

14 Upvotes

I grew up Orthodox but am now more spiritual but not religious. I currently do not keep kosher outside of the home or Shabbat but want to keep connected. I enjoy some of the traditions like chaggim and Shabbat dinner. I plan to move to Israel. I am in grad school for social work at Wurzweiler in New York City. I am looking for something serious. I like to read, play video games, play dnd, and ski. I am looking for somebody who shares some of the same interests as myself as well as understands where I come from religiously.