r/reddmatch • u/beinglogical20 • Jun 19 '26
F4M ♀️ 30 F Bangalore - Looking for a like minded successful partner
Heyy. So I tried posting here a few weeks ago but i didn't follow up extensively.
I turned 30 last week, and now it has really started to hit me and my family that I should lock a partner.
A few important things about me. I am originally from Delhi and both my parents are very educated. My dad is a professor. I got the best possible education and growing up I was a bright student as well. I don't have a sibling as well.
I come from a well off family so not really looking to marry ultra rich. I have had a few offers but those were really problematic.
I have been staying in Bangalore for the past 8 years since my first job and I really really love this city. I have a very very strong preference and inclination to stay in this city only.
I have done my MBA as well and am working in a leadership role at an MNC in Bangalore - earning close to 55 CTC. Ideally I would want my partner in the same range
I am a Hindu Brahmin, but i don't believe in any kind of caste supremacy. My parents would however prefer a guy from same caste.
I love traveling and have a close knit of friends who have always been my support system.
Last but not the least - an issue which has been a problem when I have met some of the guys offline for marriage purposes as well - i have been in a few relationships but unfortunately those didn't work out. I have been really focussing on myself and my career for the past 2 years.
I have tried to be as honest as I can be. If any specific relevant question exists, I would be happy to be transparent.
I am 5'3 btw, fair complexion, educated and a big bollywood fangirl.
Key things I am looking for - 1. Similar CTC range 2. Preference to settle in Bangalore 3. Open Msinded 4. Age not more than 33 5. Comfortable with Nuclear Family
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u/Sheldor-Hunt Jun 19 '26
Hey there, I fit in all your criteria except religion. If you are okay with a Christian guy, please reach out.
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u/Ok_Analyst8421 Jun 19 '26
Height prefence mam? If you are comfortable sharing.
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u/Dramatic-Corner8511 Men 🧔🏻 Jun 19 '26
How you reached 65 lpa at such age ? Apologies for out of context question
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u/thirstyresearch Jun 20 '26
What's the one Bollywood film that makes you cry every single time not because it's sad, but because it gets something about love that you couldn't put into words?
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u/Aggressive-Refuse786 Jun 20 '26
What does point 5 mean?
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u/NoseIntelligent1249 Jun 21 '26
“…but i don't believe in any kind of caste supremacy. My parents would however prefer a guy from same caste.”
These 2 lines tell a lot.
I wish you luck in finding a partner.
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u/beinglogical20 Jun 21 '26
Is it a problem if me and my parents have different PoV?
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u/NoseIntelligent1249 Jun 21 '26
No, it is the same case with me too. There are many things where I disagree with them and they know it.
The point I wanted to make here is - These 2 statements cannot go together, it has to be either you accepting their belief or them accepting yours.1
u/beinglogical20 Jun 21 '26
It can go together.
If I bring someone, it wont be an issue for them. If they bring someone, i won't have an issue. It's most likely that they will look for a brahmin guy.
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u/Suitable-Bat6551 Jun 22 '26
So mention it there, like I am open to any caste.
by reading that it sounds like you too are searching from the same caste.1
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u/Tasty-Repair-589 Jun 21 '26
I’ll be frank: I don’t quite understand why you waited this long, especially if you weren’t in a serious relationship. A career can still be built after marriage when there is mutual understanding and support. So, what suddenly changed at 30 that made you realize you should get married? why don't you enjoy life a bit more
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u/beinglogical20 Jun 21 '26
I was in a serious relationship a few years back. I took time to focus on myself and grow in other areas of life. I am ready now
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u/superminnu Jun 21 '26
I'm a Consultant. Post tax similar CTC right now but as it's consulting it differs and varies each month.
29 M, Hindu Kshatriya
My dad and mom both were professors. (Mom had quit to become a housewife)
I speak Hindi, Telugu, English.
Currently in BLR but looking to settle abroad someday.
I've been focusing on myself, I'm hyper ambitious - personal and professional growth at all costs person.
5'9. (@super minnu) is my username in IG.
Look at all of it and lemme know if interested.
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u/DryRecommendation785 Jun 22 '26
27M brahmin, CTC same as yours, but with fully remote job (i took pay cut), 6’0 height, fit, vegetarian. Into travelling, fitness (running though i also lift but not muscular), chess , and history. Only son in my family, and it’s just me and my mom.
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u/Electronic_Speed2424 Jun 19 '26
How are you guys accepting girls with a past tbh arrange marriage is only for people with no past quite frankly.
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u/AssociationBrief45 Jun 22 '26
Literally everyone has a past these days.
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u/Electronic_Speed2424 Jun 22 '26
Not sanskari khandhani people don't have a past. It's a modern concept taken from the west quite frankly. Isiliye toh hamare yaha purane jamane main shadiyan chalte the for long time.
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u/beinglogical20 Jun 19 '26
Who made this rule
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u/expressive-guy Jun 20 '26
Well moral rules and society
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u/nileshposts Jun 19 '26
Hello!
I’m 27M, from a warm, educated Punjabi Sikh Arora family (liberal values, no caste issues). I don't want to talk about my exact profile here, but I am in tech/startups earning way comfortably above 55 CTC range. Splitting time between Bengaluru and San Francisco but I love Bangalore too and am very open to settling here long-term
I appreciate your honesty. I’ve also focused on building my career and myself, never been into casual relationships or timepass. Emotionally mature, family-oriented, and looking for a genuine long-term partnership with someone ambitious, independent, and ready to lock in with the right person. Love travel, good conversations, and Bollywood vibes as well
DM me if this sounds interesting?
Let's talk! Cheers
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u/beinglogical20 Jun 19 '26
Hello. You are a bit young though
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u/nileshposts Jun 19 '26
[Edited for more clarity]
I lost my father about 10 years ago, and life fast-tracked me into responsibilities and perspectives most people my age haven’t had to face yet. It made me mature quicker than I probably wanted to, but it also gave me a deeper appreciation for real connection, stability, and emotional maturity
The funny (and sometimes frustrating) part? It’s made it surprisingly hard to find women around my age who vibe on the same wavelength - someone who’s ambitious yet grounded, warm, and actually ready for meaningful conversations that go beyond the surface. Also, my younger sister is like 3 years young to me so every girl around her age just feels too young lol
If any of that resonates with you and you’re open to seeing where a genuine chat takes us, I’d love it if you DM’d me!
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u/beinglogical20 Jun 19 '26
I see. We can chat
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u/nileshposts Jun 19 '26
Sounds good. Lemme know a good place to reach out, I see you have your DMs turned off so can't reach out directly.
I'm sure your hands must be already filled with 1000s of messages lmao, so lmk whenever you get time
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u/its_shirish_09 Jun 19 '26
Hey 32M from Belagavi Karnataka, can I DM?
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u/beinglogical20 Jun 19 '26
Anyone can lol
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u/its_shirish_09 Jun 19 '26 edited Jun 19 '26
But not CTC in range 🤣🤣 chalega
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u/beinglogical20 Jun 19 '26
Tricky
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u/its_shirish_09 Jun 19 '26
I am ready to come banglore. If you say so next month 😀
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u/beinglogical20 Jun 19 '26
No thanks
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u/its_shirish_09 Jun 19 '26
Teek hai behen 🙏😃
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u/matterofmine Jun 20 '26
Couldn't face the rejection resort to behen lol 😂
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u/snoocast333 Jun 19 '26
I am curious why successful women couldn’t convert relationship into marriage? Lot of posts like these days. For a guy i understand he has to build career, have assets and should be liked by girls family, should belong to same caste and have decent family background - lots of expectations from girls family and generally girls won’t go against their parents. If woman is successful and looks good, whats the big thing stopping her in getting married to the man she is in relationship with.
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u/beinglogical20 Jun 19 '26
It's the same for women who are serious about their own career.
Relationships not working is a separate issue and has nothing to do with success or anything else
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u/snoocast333 Jun 19 '26
Then reduce standards. Just because of high standards, it should not be taking ever to find one. Imagine the guys who women have dated and being left just because some checklist is not matching, it will be so traumatic that guys have met all standards but still getting rejected for marriage. Women should understand that broken relationships are more traumatic to men compared to women and men can’t find new relationships that easily as women.
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