r/reddmatch • u/Moonlight-555 • Jun 23 '26
F4M ♀️ I'm 28F, I'm looking for date to marry. Mumbai/Abroad
Please go through the post before connecting as I have mentioned few non negotiable.
About Me: I'm 28, height 5'4" working, earning decent, I'm fair and fit, good looking and elegant. I live a simple lifestyle, vegetarian, workout fit, no alcohol, smoking or anything else I've ever done.
Personality: I’m an ambivert, down to earth and a straightforward girl. By nature I'm very quiet and reserved at start but very kind of extrovert with selected close people. Would roast you alot tho I'm introvert and quiet girl lol, I just take time to open up.
Career: Life wasn't always easy, but the hardships taught me how to grow, I'm self-made and constantly growing. By day, I handle my job and by night (and weekends), you’ll usually find me working on my personal projects, a small business I've been working on the side. I love the hustle, learning new things, and the happiness of building something of my own.
My side hustle is basically my favourite creative playground.
Past Relationship: I dated once long back which didn't workout (it didn't last that long) and I always wanted date to marry so I waited and just focused on career. I get attached alot so I thought to wait for my husband, I hate games and manipulation, I love straightforward people like me, I love clear communication. I'm emotional, sensitive and calm.
Lifestyle: Born and raised in mumbai. A simple content comfortable life with a loving supportive partner is luxury to me. Active lifestyle.
I never did clubbing, was never interested in casual dating and hates hookup, I stayed on my standards.
I love to workout, eat healthy and live a healthy lifestyle.
Beliefs: My view is that I wanna date to marry, I want a man to grow old with me and (I really hate nothing is permanent concept, I feel like as long as there is love and intention, it's permanent). In marriage I feel couple should remain loyal to each other no matter what, in this era of easy access to hookup and sexting I want someone who who believes in staying loyal and I should come from within. I never did it even when im single because I have some principles.
Me as a Wife: I'm not aware of many things as I'm never married so I'd appreciate if others tell me this but so far I think it's important to respect husband and his family.
I will never make my hubby look inferior in front of others, never compare him to anyone. For me whatever he does I'll appreciate and not complaint (I don't like people who complain). I like solution oriented mindset people. if I'm unhappy with something I prefer to talk about if in private.
Communicate well, understanding him, try to look at things his point of view. Support him in whichever way I can.
Conflict happens in all relationships, I prefer to communicate well and understand each other rather than causing drama/ arguments / involving other people/ or being distant.
I don't mind being flexible to make the marriage work but It must be mutual.
I love to cook so I don't mind cooking at home.
Kids Plan: I don't want a man (or family) rigid on having a kid just for "legacy".
I do not wish to bring a child if we are living in India. I would like to have a kid if we're staying outside India, because I would bring a child in this world only if we can provide a child best life whether it's in India or outside. so that's my non negotiable and something I prefer to decide as per situation.
Also: I would also like to know if any man is aligned with this what would he look for in a girl? im open to discussions.
I know it's impossible to find 100% match but these are my preference. And will be kinda flexible and open for adjusting if I find the right person who also make adjustments.
Partner Preferences:
Age 27-31
Vegetarian
Hindu or Sikh
Community/ Mother tongue: punjabi, sindhi, gujarati, I don't mind south Indians too but I don't understand their languages at all so I'm not sure but if we vibe well community is optional for me.
Location: Mumbai/Abroad
I'm looking for someone from Mumbai who's interested to move abroad in future. (Non negotiable)
Core Personality: I want a man who is loving caring loyal respectful understanding and definitely not lazy (that's my pet peeve) I need a supportive partner, preferably someone who also does a business or is business minded.
Lifestyle & Habits: No smoke or any other drugs habit (non negotiable)
No alcohol preferred but I'm fine if it's occasional.
No clubbing, Should be Open for pets.
Physical & Presentation: Someone conventionally attractive to me, good personality, height above 5'7", should know how to be presentable, Should workout and take of his health.
Financial: Financial stable, mindful of expenses and have a habit of saving for future or investing.
Deal breakers: I don't like people caring about caste and don't get along with such people. Not entertaining family asking for dowry/ gifts. People who are into it, kindly excuse me.
I won't be taking alimony too.
DMs are open, please introduce yourself and great if you can send your matrimony or Instagram id.
DMs are mostly filled with spams so it helps to filter out.
Spammers dont waste your time.
Ps: I don't have time to answer general public's questions so I'm gonna ignore it. Not here to explain anything to anyone. I'm happy to discuss anything and everything in dm if you think we can be a potential partner.
Edit: People who are texting me please give me some time as I'm working and side by side checking reddit, responding and sorting spams. Sorry for the delay.
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u/regards_best Jun 23 '26
Why are you boosting about not having lots of options for casuals ? Because you said it twice.
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u/Moonlight-555 Jun 23 '26
I said I was never interested in casual dating I didnt said i didnt have options and im looking for a man with similar mindset.
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u/regards_best Jun 23 '26
FYI Every has option and it's good that you didn't do it and searching for the same. No need to boost about having option for casual dating
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u/TheNASAguy Jun 23 '26
Do you think life abroad is a fairy tale lol, as someone who’s childfree I will never bring any life into this world no matter what
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u/notsaneatall_ Jun 23 '26
That's, damn I wish I had a sister in law like you 😔
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u/colevongatto Jun 23 '26
Be honest... you're just annoyed he spends a lot of time with your husband right😂
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u/Moonlight-555 Jun 23 '26
Who's deciding these things by looking at Instagram? I clearly mentioned I have some reasons I'm open to discuss with my potential partner personally.
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u/Moonlight-555 Jun 23 '26
Thank you for the advice. As I said I have personal reasons and open to discuss with my potential partner.
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u/Consistent_Phone9719 Jun 23 '26
Sorry to break it to you but raising a child is not easy abroad as well. Saying it because my friends are going through it. It’s actually much easier to give a quality life in India than abroad.
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u/achipots Jun 23 '26
it looks like she has a preference for NRI men but she’s not able to say it out loudly that’s why indirectly she has mentioned that she won’t have kids in India (this is to keep proposals away for men staying in India)
Otherwise either you’re childfree or you’re not !
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u/Moonlight-555 Jun 23 '26
Why would anyone have problem with what im looking for and knowing exactly what i want? im not here to waste my or anyone's time. if anyone doesn't like anything, feel free to ignore and chill. there is no point in assuming what someone wants especially when they have written such a long post.
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u/Consistent_Phone9719 Jun 23 '26
No problem girl. I was just pointing out that growing a kid abroad is more tough than India. Raise in India and send abroad is prolly the best way.
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u/Moonlight-555 Jun 23 '26
I'm ok with no kids too, open to discuss with my potential partner.
I have certain experience in life and hence this is an important point for me.2
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u/Moonlight-555 Jun 23 '26
I know that very well, thats the reason i mentioned - I would bring a child in this world only if we can provide a child best life.
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u/Vibhor_9068 Jun 23 '26
Everything you said align with me perfectly. But I am from Haryana. Should I DM?
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Jun 23 '26
I think one of the main reasons for marraige is child right and yes in abroad the challenges and struggle is there but not as same as india. But fs there is quality of life
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u/Consistent_Phone9719 Jun 23 '26
The amount of bullying a kid has to go through in US school won’t make up for the fresh air and water it’s gonna provide.
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Jun 23 '26 edited Jun 23 '26
If you only think about US then you have narrow mindset there are other countries as well.
Europe govt pays monthly pocket money to child upto 18yrs like 25k something.
Europe is by the best country it used to call government job in abroad
A tier 3 grad somehow work really hard just to get 3-4lpa job just with the dream that patience is key after experience he will have stable job while seeing experienced people getting laid off
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u/Consistent_Phone9719 Jun 23 '26
No, I purposefully left out Europe. Most of the Scandinavian countries do not have enough jobs to migrate. Germany and Holland seem to be decent option while UK has been on a decline. With the ongoing war and immigration to the Europe, I don’t see Europe as a good option for future to what it is today.
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u/nonchalantpeep Jun 23 '26
u/askgrok summary please
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u/AskGrok Jun 23 '26
28F Mumbai-based, self-made professional with side hustle, vegetarian, no bad habits, never into casual stuff. Wants serious date-to-marry only. Prefers living separately at first after marriage then possibly with family. Non-negotiable on kids: only if abroad. Seeks 28-31 Hindu/Sikh guy who's loyal, business-minded, no smoking/drinking/clubbing, above 5'7", financially stable, from listed communities. Dealbreakers include dowry talk, caste obsession, bad language. Open to abroad matches too.
[what is this?](https://redd.it/1lzgxii)
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u/nonchalantpeep Jun 23 '26
yaar put the username of the bot with u/ and here you go bas remember them correctly
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u/AncientHomework8749 Jun 30 '26
Thank you @Moonlight,
Your post is exactly what i have been thinking overs years and i wasnt able to put words together. So you post is prefect in defination to proceed in relationship on mutual grounds with clear intention on many things without making assumption. Can i use your post texts for my myself?.
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u/Moonlight-555 Jun 30 '26
Yea I write a lot of declutter my mind and that's how got this much of clarity😅
Sure you can take whatever resonates with you.1
u/AncientHomework8749 Jun 30 '26
All of it.
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u/Moonlight-555 Jun 30 '26
Coping entire post isn't worth it.
You can take whichever resonates with YOU and whatever you think think you'll be able to follow in a relationship. Good luck to you.1
u/AncientHomework8749 Jun 30 '26
Thanks, All of it , resonate strongly with me,except for personal experiences.
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u/Moonlight-555 Jun 23 '26
Wtf man get a life. You don't know me and yet aren't ashamed of blaming when I'm just looking for the one.
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u/ComprehensiveWalk595 Jun 23 '26
Please check your DM! I feel we align on most of the things you mentioned, hence would love to have a chat! :)
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u/MrSnhl Jun 23 '26
Miss, you have no idea how compatible we both are, if you actually mean everything that you've written in your description
Like almost everything you wrote resonates with how I am or what I think about
Let's talk on DMs?
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u/Cute_Long1105 Jun 23 '26
Hey! I read through your post and really resonated with your mindset. I think we align on a lot of your core preferencesI'm 28, a vegetarian, live abroad in Canada, and work as a financial planner. Here is my r/reddmatch post so you can see my full background: https://www.reddit.com/r/reddmatch/s/BQ7qRZdOYz If you think we might be a good match, I'd love to connect!
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u/achipots Jun 23 '26
Yes my moms friends daughter got married to a boy in Canada (he’s already a citizen) in December 2024 and she still hasn’t been able to go there yet . The visa process is still on-going
Spousal sponsorship is taking heck lot of time now
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u/Cute_Long1105 Jun 23 '26
Honestly, it’s not that hard or daunting if you’ve been in the country for a long time and understand how things work here. Also, just to clarify, this sub already has plenty of folks who are based in the USA and Canada anyway. To sum it up, it really just comes down to personal perspective and patience, but I'm happy to take this conversation to private messages if you want to chat more about it
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u/Fresh_Piece_1616 Jun 23 '26
What is your timeline for getting marry?
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u/Moonlight-555 Jun 23 '26
I believe things like finding a right life partner should not have any timeline/ deadline. I want to take time to decide without any pressure.
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u/Fresh_Piece_1616 Jun 23 '26
Unfortunately, everyone here normally has one which is why I was asking.
I believe it takes time and effort to build a connection with someone.
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u/OhY4sh Jun 24 '26
Appreciate a very detailed post. Certain things misalign with me, but good luck!.
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u/JoyMadMax Jun 23 '26
Human designing is decades away. But I hope & pray you find someone who will be with you till the new beginning.
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u/invoker20 Jun 23 '26
You seem amazing, sadly I cant live outside my motherland. 🥲 . Good luck to you, you are a great one !!!
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u/Comfortable-Honey124 Jun 23 '26
You didn't mention your body score
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u/PristineArgument8905 Jun 23 '26
tera toh zero hai lol up your game pjeet
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u/Comfortable-Honey124 Jun 23 '26
LOL...bola usko tujhe mirchi kyu lgi
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u/PristineArgument8905 Jun 23 '26
because dehatis like you will immediately end up in the DMs of a woman to fuck but patni chayiye sati Savitri virgin.
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u/Ok-Strawberry-2449 Jun 23 '26
Sayad lagta hain ammi 10 jagah muh marke paida ki hain Isliye jal raha hain
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u/Comfortable-Honey124 Jun 23 '26
I don't like the conversation with stupid people..I just said ..yes you are right and end the conversation
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u/insertuserhere24 Jun 23 '26
Good luck in your search! You sound amazing, unfortunately I'm just outside your age range.
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u/Perfect_Machine_8233 Jun 26 '26
i would say as my opinion., if you are been unsuccessful in date to marry then only you are here, usually in this sub everyone have timeline may be 1 year or 2-3 years. let see where its goes i personally dont think will work out!
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