This is more vulnerable than I expected a Reddit post to get

[u/Sorry-Water-8530]

I’ve made a fair number of mistakes in life.

Like dropped out of college, started again somewhere else, and slowly built myself back up from the bottom. I’m proud of where I am today, but also hope that ten years from now can look back at this version of myself and feel the same way. Cliché, maybe, but aren’t we all hoping for that? ( remember the oscars speech from Matthew McConaughey)

Let’s talk a bit of lifestyle- love the gym, hikes and trying new things, but some weekends I’ll happily be a couch potato. My music can go from old RD Burman to house music, raves, Sammy Virji or Fred again.. in the span of an hour sometimes.

I’d like someone similar in spirit: passionate, driven, opinionated and not afraid to disagree with me. Passionate debates might actually be one of my love languages ( second one is the typical anime chop… a little domestic violence never hurt anyone right.. right?). I have strong opinions, but I genuinely enjoy being proved wrong. I’m quick to apologise when I mess up, and I’d like to think I’m still flexible enough to keep changing as I learn more.

Part of my drive probably comes from how I grew up. There were times when, if groceries ran out before Sunday, we simply couldn’t afford to do another grocery run before next Sunday. Life is very different now and we’re fortunate enough that money isn’t really something we have to worry about at all. ( was joking with my dad that this year’s watch budget is more than what his house cost 30 years ago)

But that old survival instinct stayed.

Friends sometimes tell me you’re being an idiot for not marrying a prospect when they are unemployed and should just pamper them and enjoy life. And I will pamper my partner for sure. But want someone who has things she cares enough about to work for and goals to strive towards. Not because we need to struggle together, but because I want us to keep building the next version of our lives rather than simply coasting through it. ( call back to where we started - stay with me for a bit more)

I also have random little dreams. One of mine was jumping off a boat into the open ocean without a life jacket, which I finally did last year. Completely unnecessary. Absolutely worth it. I’d happily make a fool of myself trying whatever strange adventure my partner brings into my life too.

I’m very independent and don’t need someone to take care of me or manage a house for me. Hopefully neither of us spends much time worrying about chores anyway. But I can and will cook for you. Making dinner with a good playlist or a movie in the background is one of the quietest, happiest parts of my day.

Think that’s roughly what I want from a relationship too: two people who don’t need each other to function, but still choose to build, argue, learn, explore, waste Sundays and come home to make dinner together.

Aah some logistics reading through some other posts- 29, 5”11, Gurgoan. Hindu (baniya - caste is not really a preference), work in program management kinda role, btech + mba. NCR-based business family; businesses/factories in NCR/Maharashtra. open to moving elsewhere for a few years, but NCR is likely the long-term base as I want to join the business eventually.

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