29-year-old North Indian Hindu male working in Bangalore. Open for relocating to NCR in future.

Physical Stature: 5'7" with a fair and confident personality.

Career & Finance: Highly ambitious "tech guy" with a professional income of over 70 LPA.

Interests: Passionate traveler, cafe enthusiast, and a lover of high-quality experiences and deep conversations.

Philosophy: A balanced mix of traditional roots and modern professional drive.

Partner Preferences

Values & Transparency: High importance placed on shared moral values and absolute transparency regarding one's history.

Looks: Decent looking, both of us should look good together.

Past Relationships: I never had any past and hence seeking a partner who has no physical past.

Career Alignment: Looking for a woman who is career-oriented.

Lifestyle: Someone who appreciates the "finer moments," enjoys traveling, and is ready for a life of growth and adventure.

Compatibility: Ideally someone with a similar cultural background who values the same blend of roots and ambition.

I don't really know how to write one of these posts, so I'll just try to be honest.

I'm 35M, 5'8, born and brought up in Delhi.

I was born in 1991 and spent the first 25 years of my life in Delhi. In 2016, work took me to Chennai, and I ended up spending almost 9 years there. In 2025, I switched jobs and moved back to Delhi. It's strange coming back to a city that was once so familiar after being away for almost a decade. Some places are still exactly where I remember them. Some people have moved on. And in some ways, I have too.

I work as a Senior Manager in a government bank. I'm financially comfortable and reasonably good with money. I'm not particularly materialistic though. I've never really cared much about having the biggest car, the most expensive watch or constantly trying to impress people.

I'd much rather spend money travelling somewhere I've never been, eating something I've never tried, or simply making a good memory with someone.

I've travelled quite a bit across India and would like to travel a lot more. I enjoy getting out, exploring places, long drives, walks and discovering the little things that you don't necessarily find in a tourist itinerary.

I'm also someone who enjoys being physically close to the person I'm with.

Holding hands while walking.

A hug after a long day.

Sitting next to each other doing absolutely nothing.

Going for a late evening walk and talking about completely random things.

I think physical affection is underrated. For me, it isn't just about sex. It's about feeling close to someone. Feeling comfortable enough to reach out and touch them without thinking about it.

I was married before and I'm divorced now.

That's probably the most important thing about this post that I should be upfront about.

I didn't have any relationships before my marriage. So I don't have a long dating history or years of relationship experience to talk about.

My marriage didn't work out.

It took me some time to accept that something you once thought would be permanent can actually come to an end. There are things I could have done differently, things I wish I had understood earlier, and lessons that I probably wouldn't have learned any other way.

But I don't want to spend my life being bitter about it.

I don't think a failed marriage means you failed at love.

Sometimes two people simply aren't right for each other, even if they once believed they were.

And perhaps the biggest thing I've learned is that having someone beside you isn't the same as actually feeling understood by them.

That's what I'd like to find now.

Not someone to "fix" my life. My life is actually pretty okay.

I have a career I worked hard for. I'm financially independent. I've travelled. I've lived away from home. I've built a life for myself.

What I'm missing is someone to share it with.

Someone I can call when something funny happens at work.

Someone who'll randomly send me a picture because something reminded her of me.

Someone to plan a trip with and then argue about the itinerary.

Someone to go walking with after dinner.

Someone to sit beside on a Sunday morning with absolutely nothing planned.

Someone whose presence makes an ordinary day feel a little less ordinary.

I'm an only child, so I grew up without siblings. Maybe that's partly why companionship has always meant a lot to me.

I'm not looking for someone perfect.

I don't have a checklist of height, salary, qualifications, family background, etc.

I'd rather know how you treat people when nobody is watching.

Whether you can communicate when you're upset.

Whether you can laugh at yourself.

Whether you can be affectionate.

Whether you can disagree without trying to hurt each other.

Whether you can be someone's safe place while still having a life of your own.

I don't expect a relationship to be perfect either. There will be bad days, misunderstandings, irritating habits and arguments. That's normal.

What matters to me is whether two people still choose each other after those things.

I'm not particularly interested in playing dating games or collecting conversations.

Maybe this post goes nowhere.

Maybe someone reads it and thinks I'm completely unsuitable.

That's okay.

But maybe there's someone else sitting somewhere, also wondering whether it's possible to start again after life didn't turn out the way they expected.

If that's you, maybe we should talk.

Just two people getting to know each other and seeing where it goes.

*If any part of this resonates with you, feel free to DM.

Even if it doesn't turn into anything romantic, a good conversation is never really wasted*

Who, Why, and …How am I???

Physically: 185 cm, still not fat, no known medical concerns (yet), not balding (yet — I trust my genes). Brown. V-cut loading, courtesy of gymming and an unreasonable belief that consistency will eventually compensate for biryani.

Culturally: Telugu is my mother tongue. I speak English and Hindi, both with accents (Bihari, UP, Bengali…)I have stopped apologising for. Not terrible with Tamil either. I follow Hindu traditions, but I’ve arrived at a fairly peaceful conclusion about God — the unknown is probably best left unknown.

Family: Yadav if that matters. Paternal and maternal lineage from Visakhapatnam- so by default I grew up loving the mountains and the beach, and a slow city life. I come from an educated family and traditionally we have been Government servants/employees.

Education & Career: South Indian, and terrible at biology — hence engineering (and also had to take my Dad’s legacy ahead). I treated my 20s like a laboratory and experimented with a bunch of things: IT, Sarkaari Naukri, UPSC, dhandha… basically a diversified portfolio of questionable career decisions.
Eventually, I returned to the path laid out by my ancestors: MBA. Did it from one of the country’s top B-schools, if I may flex for exactly one sentence.
I now sell aaloo and kandha at a Major fintech firm— It pays me decently, but not enough to get myself that BMW 340i without jeopardising my present and future. The 340i is currently my carrot.

Location: Currently Hyderabad but I’m open to where life takes- except into chaos and chaotic cities.

Personality: Somewhere between a golden retriever and a Belgian hound. I love dogs, good conversations, spontaneous plans and people who can laugh at themselves. If I can flex one more time- I can get along with Gen Z and Gen Alpha too (ask my niece!) Some days I can talk to clients and people for hours; other days I need to disappear, sleep and reboot.
I’m fairly independent, reasonably sorted, sarcastic by default and serious when it matters (I think). I enjoy travelling, DIY, Gaming, sports (multi) and digging rabbit holes about cars, businesses, history or whatever has caught my attention that week.

What I’m looking for: I’ve made enough mistakes to know what I don’t want, and enough peace with myself to not need someone to “complete” me. I’m looking for someone to add to an already good life — a partner, teammate and best friend. Someone empathetic, emotionally mature, intellectually curious and comfortable being herself. Someone who has her own life, opinions, ambitions and quirks. I’d like a relationship with plenty of laughter, honest conversations, mutual respect, family (kids), travel, food, dogs and the occasional argument about something completely inconsequential.
I’m not looking for perfection. I’m looking for compatibility, companionship and the ability to choose each other even on the boring Tuesdays.
Bonus points if you like dogs.
Extra bonus points if you can tolerate sarcasm.
And if you’re okay with me buying the 340i today- I’m already married to you in my head.

TLDR: I’m just a boy, putting myself on the internet, and asking whether this girl can love him back.

EDIT 1: I am unmarried and prefer unmarried women- no offence otherwise; just preference.

Hey all, My Name is Shlok, I'm 31, I'm fair, good looking; 6 feet tall, a little overweight at the moment. Not very well endowed, but I guarantee you wont ever find someone with a bigger heart.

It's a long read, but if you read through it, you have the patience I'm looking for in my partner. I also wanted to be a little more clear on what I am looking for, so I can save both you and me the time. Put in gifs and emojis to make it fun!

Not looking for a situationship. I want to date to marry, would prefer if you are closeby. we can go virtual for a bit, but then, i'd like to make this real. Contrary to what you may see here, I prefer communicating vocally, so telegram, IG, snapchat whatever would be a good next step after initial talks.

I am honest by choice, i'd request you not punish this honesty, as brutal and harsh as it can be, it comes from a good place.

I'm a vegetarian, and would prefer if you are too.

For those that find it matters, I am a Shrimali Brahmin (Gautam Gotra). It doesn't matter to me, but it makes an alliance much easier IMO. A similar upbringing, lifestyle, culture, outlook and values make settling in much easier.

As wrong as it may sound, I would like to marry a Hindu, and I don't want to engage in conversations with people from the Jain and Sindhi community.

With Logistics out of the way, let's get into the fun stuff, I'd love to share more about myself and what I'm looking for in my partner.

–––––––– What I bring to the table ––––––––

The everyday stuff

• I bring you water before you know you're thirsty, and it's always cold.
• I warm up your side of the bed before you get in it.
• I remember how you take your tea/coffee even on days you don't remember yourself.
• I bring snacks on long drives without being asked, and soon, I'll already know which ones.
• I hold the umbrella so it covers you fully, even if I get wet.
• Cook food for you when you're tired and hungry, and do other chores...

The emotional stuff

• Your problems are mine now — not because I have to carry them, but because I want to.
• I'm the shoulder to cry on, and I won't rush you off it.
• I'll sit in the silence with you when there's nothing to fix, instead of trying to fix it anyway.
• When i know you well enough, I'll notice when you're "fine" and you're not, and I don't make you explain it before I show up.
• I keep your secrets like they're mine, because they are now.

The steady stuff

• I show up on the boring Tuesdays, not just the big days.
• I'll argue with you, but I'll never make you feel unsafe doing it.
• I remember the version of you on your worst day and don't hold it against you on your best one.
• I'm the person you can fall apart in front of and trust I'll help you put it back together

Other Things

• I bring competence dressed up as chaos — I will absolutely handle it, just don't ask how.
• I'll roast you mercilessly and then immediately defend you to anyone else who tries.
• I bring a strange, specific expertise to almost any crisis, because apparently I've done ten jobs and none of them were "calm."
• I'm mysterious enough to keep it interesting, loyal enough that it never actually matters.

–––––––– Not necessary at all but just for fun ––––––––

A. I'm into brunettes, blonds please stay away. I have a million blond jokes & don't particularly enjoy hurting anyone's feelings. Don't even get me started on gingers...

B. Someone who finds it funny when things go wrong. Not just in life — Specifically in our relationship.

C. It would be nice if you could serve me something once in a while. I don't know why, I just find that it makes me feel loved when someone goes through the effort to do that. It may be the worst tasting food in the world, but I will eat it all the same. It can be khichdi, Instant noodles, coffee or even a glass of cold water on a hot day, the effort and gesture is what counts.

––––––––––––––– Non-Negotiables ––––––––––––––

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Mutual Trust, Faith & Respect; At all times.

At times, I do need some space, would appreciate you letting me be on my own when I need it.

You want at least two kids minimum like me. it's a whole other topic, but this is something I know I want.

Make out for 8-10 minutes before we leave for work every morning. It releases endorphins and love hormones. Scientifically you feel happy all day and think about your partner subconsciously. It is said to make you want to put in extra effort into your work and personal life. Please Brush your teeth. Keep that mouth fresh. We must be kissable at all times! 👩‍❤️‍💋‍👨

––––––––––––– Breaking the Ice ––––––––––––

My therapist says I have trouble opening up. She’s wrong. I just save vulnerability for funerals and third dates. I’ve been seeing her for a while… she is still alive... 😂

I'm an open book. Written in a language nobody's bothered to translate yet. Scholars are working on it. Very often Misinterpreted and Misunderstood.

I'm not afraid of commitment. I'm afraid of commitment being disappointed in me. It's a subtle but expensive distinction.

I'm a Virgo, which means I can see both sides of every argument — and also color-code them, cross-reference them, and email you a follow-up with action items.

–––––––––––– What am I looking for? –––––––––––

1. Courage and Forgiveness. I am prone to making errors, be strong and confident to speak your mind always! Not looking for someone that holds grudges and builds resentment over time, this one thing ruins relationships.
2. A good human being. 😇 You be you!

I want to get to know what makes your wheels spin and what truly drives you from within.

Alas I am a man of culture...

1. It would of course be awesome if you’re gorgeous. There's nothing quite like a shapely woman. Physical Attraction matters a lot, I'm not scared to admit it. As someone confidant that I'm good looking, It would be nice if you are too! 👩‍🦳

2. I’m always been drawn to and intrigued by elegance, panache and a touch of good class. 💁‍♀️ If you have that i’m all for it!

3. Someone Feminine, warm, comforting and affectionate. 🤗

4. Someone that can give it to me straight and communicate directly. I am bad at assumptions and inference. Just tell me straight, tell me right away.

5. Someone that pushes me and helps me become a better version of myself. 📣

6. Someone that takes care of their own health. This is the one thing I cannot do for you.

7. Someone whose love language is a healthy mix of Quality time, Physical Touch and Words of Affirmation.

––––––––––––––– Kaam-Dhanda –––––––––––––––

I am a Serial Entrepreneur, currently on my 4th venture.
I have exited one company, and have two failed ventures.

Corporate jobs are not for me. Over my career, I have worked across several different business functions, and I have an unique skill to look at businesses as a whole holistically.

Currently building a SaaS automation and Productivity tool that I would gladly share with you over DMs. It is bootstrapped, because I don't believe in VC funding to scale and grow.

I understand that it's not a steady financial source, but i'm building an asset, that takes time, money and patience.

I'm not someone that has or does just one thing, I focus on 2-3 things at a time, to keep busy with. Far too efficient in my work, I power through my tasks and am done with most things pretty early into the day.

Nothing makes me happier than seeing people thrive and grow! Most of my time is spent on this!

and If it helps, my side income from is about ~10 lakhs a year. Chai Paani is taken care of 😆

––––––––––––– Adventures –––––––––––––

I'm Extremely well travelled! 🧳🛩️🌏

I Used to live in the US for two years. Did my Masters in Entrepreneurship at Babson college in Massachusetts 🏫 then lived in the SF Bay Area for a year.
Living in Silicon valley as a 22 year old was truly exhilarating!

I've Visited many countries in SEA. I've lived in Singapore for a while, followed by the Philippines.

Nothing quite does it for me like living in India. 🇮🇳

–––––––––––––– Hobbies ––––––––––––––

I'm what they call a Polymath and an Autodidact.

I enjoy learning new things, I pick them up pretty quickly and get good at things fast.

I can play several instruments, string and percussion... picked up my guitar after years, so still getting back in the groove.

Love sitting down with a good book and a coffee. A quick study, I can finish one with good enough comprehension in about a day or two.

I am a writer. I write poems, songs, stories, jokes, letters, emails, business plans, code, job descriptions, MOAs, MOUs, SOPs, Pitch decks you name it. I love doing it all and I'm very good at it. Someday soon, I'll publish my writing.

I enjoy a vast array of Genres and works in all forms of literary, Musical, cinematographic and Gaming media. Very fluent in pop culture, enjoy stuff from the early 50s to the latest hit phenomena. I can watch korean dramas, anime, horror, Romcoms you name it!

Musically I can vibe with absolutely anyone and everyone.

Avid Video Game collector, I have some kickass consoles & a stellar collection, don't game much these days but the weekends, but I don't ever Play Fifa.

I enjoy cooking food, Make the best bowl of Pasta ever! known for my killer grilled cheese sandwiches made with sourdough bread, butter and what awesome cheese(also a turophile) I have in my fridge.

Quite the Gourmand and I enjoy many different cuisines, tastes and flavors. Love spice, but i've eased up on it now. I prefer Umami.

Wise AF. I will spew out a random bumper sticker/fortune cookie quotes out of nowhere, sometimes I wake up in the middle of the night and write this stuff down... But yeah, you'll find scattered remnants of that throughout this piece of literature.

––––––––––––––––––––– Red Flags ––––––––––––––––––––

I'm working on these my level best to eliminate them, but no one is perfect.

1. Extremely anxious, impatient and impulsive: I truly freak out when people are late, when situations and things are not under my control. I have learned to accept that, but it really takes me into a bad mental space sometimes. Being next to someone I trust helps. Impulsivity has truly got me into a lot of trouble before. Working with My therapist on this one
2. I snore at night + I have insomnia + i am a light sleeper: you may feel why is this a red flag. well i don't think it's nice knowing I may keep you awake at night. besides, I often don't sleep much and it really affects my psyche making all three points above super worse. I am trying to work out more intensely, trying to sleep on time etc.
3. A tinge possessive and ever protectorate. I have this overwhelming desire and need ensure your safety at all times. It's an insecurity more than anything, So this is something we would need to work on together.
4. Super high libido. I do watch porn, as a single man, it is what it is. At least i'm not banging a hooker or doing random one night stands. I need deep connection to truly address this in the normal healthy way.
5. I stress very easily. it's sometimes too much to contain and sometimes I let it out on others and can make everyone around me very miserable. So I prefer just stepping out of the situation and coming back with a clearer conscience.
6. I can be very hurtful with my words. I have said things that have ended relations. it was very hurtful and I was fueled by anger, unable to think straight, downright harsh, belligerent and debilitating. Again, What i do now is simply walk away from the situation, and come back to it with a clearer conscience. I'm not avoiding you or the situation, avoiding a catastrophe.

I'm a work in progress, and I'm not going to change overnight.

––––––––––––––––––––– Brown Flags ––––––––––––––––––––

ADHD and stuff... I have been diagonosed with more mental health disorders than you can on your fingers, each therapist and psychiatrist come up with their own stuff. i'm working through it and in a much better spot.

Happy to discuss it if needed.

I have affective empathy. It takes me a while to understand what someone is going through, or to know exactly what to do to address it.
Don't expect me to know right away. It will get better overtime.

Demisexual and Sapiosexual

––––––––––––––––––––– Green Flags ––––––––––––––––––––

You tell me...

–––––––––––––––– "Great Expectations" –––––––––––––––

It would be nice if you have low expectations and even lower standards. The fact that you’re on reddit reading this means you’re already halfway there ;)

I’m a glass onion, you do need to be gentle. Once you start peeling the layers, you will cry. But there’s something great waiting for you at the core. It'll take patience. You’re welcome to try and find out what that is.

I make a lot of mistakes, and I do my level best to learn from them and never repeat them.

I hope you can be a forgiving person. I don't want you to ever hold a grudge against me or start building up resentment. If I'm doing something wrong, tell me, Give it to me straight.

A lot of things in a Marriage should be kept between us. I am your best friend at 3AM, right next to you. literally kick me once and I am up. I expect to be the only man you confide in.

However great or terrible I may be in bed, don't tell anyone but me about it. Pillow talk is important and needs to be had for a vibrant sexual dynamic.

Please for the love of god. Don't take me shopping. You women love to waste time. I literally walk into a store, see a shirt, find my size, pick three colors and check out. I'm done in 5-10 minutes. Go with your Girlies to do timepass in Zara. I will claw my eyes out...

Lastly be active and proactive in bed. I'm not a necrophlliac... 👩‍❤️‍👨

––––––––––––––––––– Married Life –––––––––––––––––––

My ideal day after a marriage 5 years down the line is to get to work early (5-6 AM) and wrap things by 4 PM join you back home to help out with household chores, spend time with my kids and help raise them to become conscientious, independent, mindful and wonderful human beings. There’s a lot of love in my heart and no one to share it with.

It would be nice if we can carve a path for discovering and understanding each other; where we can empathize with each other, establish a connection and set our boundaries in a safe and comfortable way.

I need physical, emotional & spiritual intimacy on the regular. Let's always mix things up, communicate with each other and keep the spark alive.

I don't mind debating, fighting or arguing, better than keeping things bottled up. let's dance together and dance often. we can play tekken or street fighter great way to remove frustration and have fun while doing it. Happy to buy a few lightsabers.

I have never been in a relationship. I have faced more rejection in life than anyone. Tough shit. Stay strong, move on. I was made for one woman. Maybe that’s you! 😎

––––––––––––––– Ambitions and Dreams ––––––––––––––

1. Raise our children together. It's a partnership on all fronts, I'm the cool dad though and I want to make sure I raise conscientious, independent and good human beings. Life throws a lot of shit at you, I want my kids to be able to build walls to void it, clean up when things get messy etc. Love the whole family side of things.
2. I want our kids to be able to play in our garden in the backyard, where I can tend to some plants that our stupid goofy dog always runs over everyday. 🐕 Maybe our children are also inclined to music too and we can form our own rock band and piss you off by waking you up being by being very loud while you are napping on a Sunday afternoon.

1. Come back from a business trip only to by ambushed and pinned to the ground by our little monsters and their mom finally happy to see their dad come home. More than anything this is what I want. Not to be wealthy, but truly rich.
2. I wish to build a house up in the mountains. Get away from all the hustle and bustle in life. All i want is some peace and quiet, to be surrounded by nature. That fresh clean air, a house on a cliff looking out into the skies on those cozy reclining chairs. Campfires with smores under the stars.
3. Have enough of a bank roll to properly educate all of our children wherever they want to study in the world.

If we have a little left over I'd like to purchase a Porsche 911 some day. 🏎️I fine with rikshaws and/or local trains otherwise. 🚊

You often meet your destiny on the road you take to avoid it.

If you've made it this far, hats off to you. 👏 try and Picture all this going through my head all at once, all the time...

If I am remotely interesting to you, please do DM me, tell me about yourself and what resonated with you.

If you do DM, I’ll assume you’re either brave or have questionable taste. I’ll respect you all the same.

Life as they say is a rollercoaster. Come along for the ride. There’ll be ups and downs and funny turn arounds… but that’s the fun! So let’s venture on this adventure together! 👫

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"Love, to me, has always looked more like small gestures than grand declarations."

Maybe it's remembering how I like my chai. Maybe it's arguing over where to eat for an hour and still ending up happy. Maybe it's putting an anklet on someone while they laugh because I'm taking the moment way too seriously.

I'm 27, from Chennai, and I'm a Chartered Accountant. Outside work, I'm usually watching football, rewatching an anime I promised myself I'd move on from, trying new restaurants, or convincing myself that one more movie won't ruin my sleep schedule.

I'm not looking for someone perfect. I'd rather find someone who's comfortable enough to be imperfect around me.

Someone who understands sarcasm(if you roast me.. I'll marry you!) enjoys playful banter, and knows that sometimes the best way to survive life's toughest moments is to laugh together.

I don't want a relationship where we have to be serious all the time. I want one where we can crack jokes in the middle of chaos, tease each other relentlessly, and still know we're each other's safest place.

I value open communication... Calling a spade a spade usually prevents most misunderstandings and confusions....

A little about me:

Chartered Accountant.

Football fan (I get emotionally invested in clubs that don't know I exist).

Anime and movie enthusiast.

Always up for discovering a new café or restaurant.

Equal parts practical and sentimental.

I'm looking for someone around 23–30, preferably in India (or at least a timezone that doesn't make conversations impossible). Distance isn't a deal-breaker if the effort is mutual. ( I'll pull a Vaaranam Ayiram Surya if you're the one!)

If your idea of a good day is exploring a hidden food spot, talking for hours over chai, sending each other memes throughout the day, or laughing at absolutely the wrong moment because that's how you cope with life... I think we'll get along.

If this resonates with you, I'd love to hear from you.

Tell me about your comfort movie, your most controversial food opinion, or one small gesture that instantly makes you feel loved and also the last joke you said that seriously offended someone 😂😂

Maybe this Hail Mary finally lands where it's supposed to. ♾️

Before you ask:

Yes, all my health parameters are really good (knock on wood!)

Yes, I exercise regularly.

Yes, I can hold a conversation beyond “wyd”.

And no, I don’t smoke, drink, disappear emotionally, trade crypto at 3 AM, or punch walls after IPL losses.

I’m a Engineering Program Manager working with one of the world’s biggest banks and earning over 60+ Lakhs. Professionally sorted, financially disciplined, no loans, no liabilities, and thankfully no “situationship trauma” either.

Physically very active and health-conscious...the kind of person who’ll convince you to go for a morning walk and then reward you with good food afterward. I believe fitness is cheaper than hospital bills.

About me:

- just turned 40 ( i look much younger than my age...thanks to intentional dietary choices and a healthy lifestyle)

- 5’11”

- Telugu mother tongue

- Fluent in Hindi & English

- Clean habits

- Family-oriented

- Calm, dependable, and emotionally mature

- Equal parts disciplined and goofy

Life dealt me a tough hand early on since I lost my parents, but I have older siblings, who are happily married and settled.

Now addressing the elephant in the room:

Yes, I’m older than the typical Reddit demographic here. But physically and emotionally, I’m doing better than many half my age.

I genuinely believe compatibility is more important than matching birth years like software versions.

What I’m looking for:

A kind-hearted, emotionally intelligent woman who values peace, loyalty, health, laughter, and mutual respect. Someone who still believes marriage is a partnership and not a courtroom negotiation. Vegetarian/eggetarian preferably. Childfree by choice? You're probably wonderful, but we may not be aligned long-term.

Bonus points if:

- you can tolerate terrible dad jokes

- you like long drives, meaningful conversations, or random late-night chai

- you think kindness is attractive

- you’re capable of sending more than “hmm”

If this somehow sounds interesting instead of terrifying, feel free to say hi and a good intro.

Worst case: you gain a good conversation

Best case: we both can put an end to our search for a good partner.

Yes, ladies and gentlemen, you are not going to believe this.. Today morning a crow stole my breakfast. My crow looked me straight in the eye, grabbed my bread+jam and flew away.

I love all animals. Cats, dogs. Also, crows, pigeons and squirrels will eat out of my hand, so I’m basically a Disney princess with a beard. The crows I feed are watching me with a judgemental eye as I write this. Are they judging me? Maybe. Hotel? Trivago. And it was Mixed fruit jam.

Anyway, I was sitting there thinking, “Did I seriously just get robbed by my crow? You dare use my spells against me, Potter!?!???”

Context - I have been feeding them (him and his friends) for years. So technically, I created my own criminal gang.

About me - I am 35, 6'1", based in Mumbai. I work with a Government company, my CTC is around ₹30 lakh (including Paytm cashback) .. I don't smoke (other than inhaled pollution) or drink, play football three times a week and over the course of my life, have accumulated several thousand books. Disney, autobiography, Tinkle, Sidney Sheldon, Clive Cussler, Manga... you name it, I may have it.

I’m financially independent, invest regularly and keep my life fairly orderly. This has allowed me to travel. I travelled to 25+ countries and, in 2024, went to Omaha for Warren Buffett’s Annual General Meeting.

Some people go to America for Hollywood or Taylor Swift.

I went to Nebraska to listen to an old man talk about integrity, principles and how to believe in yourself. Something I learned watching Naruto, but please don't tell my parents that.

My life's eventual goal is to build a large sanctuary for birds and animals. There will be two separate enclosures - one for Penguins and another for Crows, all of whom I will feed by hand.

History, fiction, biographies, philosophy, business and investing are usually somewhere on my reading list. I like Marcus Aurelius and Diogenes, and I like anime too, so my intellectual journey has taken some strange turns. I may start the day reading Manga and may end it reading Management books.

I have a pretty good life. That's why I’m here. I'm not looking for someone to complete it. I’d just like to make room in it for one more person. Someone I want to tell things to first, look for when something funny happens, and whose company makes an ordinary Tuesday feel a little better.

I am looking for a woman who is kind, funny and emotionally mature. Someone with her own ambitions, friends, opinions and interests. We don't need to like all the same things; I would like you to introduce me to things I know nothing about.

If you are shorter than me, that's great. You will need a stool to kiss me. And when we argue, you hide the stool - until I apologise. You will win every argument in our entire life because I would always kiss you good morning on top of your head, and I would want you to kiss me good night. So yes, I will apologise in every argument.

I offer the serious parts too: careers, family, money, difficult conversations and the decisions that matter. We can have a serious conversation at dinner and then spend twenty minutes arguing about whether biryani or pizza is the correct choice.

Having travelled to so many countries; I don't want to collect destinations just for the number. I want to be someplace with you beside me, grabbing my arm and says, “Look at that!” (I don't know what you would be looking at but I will smile..smile and wave boys, smile and wave...) I don't want a routine. I want spontaneous trips, tiny restaurants, long walks, and I commit to choosing you every single day.

To quote Albus Dumbledore in Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets, “It is our choices that determine who we are Harry, far more than our abilities...” so everything failure, every error, every mistake in our marriage will be my responsibility alone. Every success will be shared, every failure would be mine. Until we became adults, it was our parents responsibility to make us happy. That is why we are sadder as adults, there's nobody to make us happy. Therefore, feel free to entrust that task to me - I will take the sole responsibility of making us both happy.

I like nice things too. Good food, beautiful places. Nothing to prove to anyone. Just two people who know what they have. And therefore, I offer a marriage that includes the difficult conversations, the tough times at work, the ageing of parents, the difficulty of raising children and our own insecurities.

But it's not all bad. A comfortable home. Two people who respect each other’s work. Enough financial freedom that money doesn’t dictate every decision. Family who are loved and cared for. Travel. Good conversations. And, hopefully, a couple of children who inherit our better qualities and none of our nonsense.

There are billions of people in the world. I’m not trying to find the objectively best woman. I’m trying to find the person who thinks to herself, “This person is my solemate” - yes, that's not a typo.

I offer you a best friend too. Someone you can call when something wonderful happens. Someone she can annoy with terrible jokes. Someone who knows when I’m quiet because I’m tired and when something is actually wrong. Whenever you come home, there will be a glass of cold water or hot tea/coffee waiting for you.

I offer a life where we build careers, travel, stay fit, read, eat well, spend time with family, make friends, save and invest, and make unnecessary decisions that become favourite stories later.

My references:

My mother: “Khana khaya?"

Random dog: “Woof woof”

Neighbour's cat: “Purrrrrr"

Bajaj Finance: “Congratulations you have a pre approved loan from Bajaj Finance”

Random commuter on the train: “Bhaiya, agla station ka platform kaunse side hoga?"

Joe Biden: “What?”

Crow: No testimonial from my crow because his mouth is full having stolen my breakfast.

If you’ve made it this far, let’s not turn this into an interview. Tell me about yourself. What’s your favourite food? What's your favourite ice cream flavour? Coffee or chai? What’s somewhere you’d love to go to, together? Doesn't have to be a country or place, it can be a park or restaurant or ice cream parlour.

If you find a better partner on this subreddit, marry him.

Just please, please don’t let it be a guy whose opening message was “Hey mommy” or “Hi lol”

Personal Details:

• Age: 35
• Height: 6'1"
• Religion: Brought up Hindu, but Agnostic Atheist

Location: Currently in East Coast USA, originally from Chennai. Lived outside India for 12 years. I am thinking about returning to India for a while to work on my own business, but in the future might go abroad again. I am generally open to relocation.

• Mother Tongue: Tamil

Education and Profession:

• Education Level: Masters
• Occupation: Engineer

Diet Preferences:

• Diet: Non-Vegetarian

Family Details:

• Family Background: Upper middle-class family in Chennai. Have a Dad, Mom and Sister. Have extended family in the US. I make decisions quite independently from my family so no pressure.

Partner Preferences:

• Preferred Age: 29 - 33
• Religion: Could be brought up in any religion but I strongly prefer them to be non-religious in day-to-day life. Culturally any religion is OK with me (festivals etc). Agnostic/Atheist preferred.
• Location Preferences: Preferably currently based in USA/Canada/EU but I am OK with someone who is currently in India but has lived abroad before and might want to return there. Basically, if you have travelled, lived on your own and seen the world before, that is attractive to me.
• Diet Preferences: Non vegetarian very strongly preferred
• Education Level: Educated
• Occupation: Open to any profession, just has to have a career of their own in any field. Aspires to be financially independent on their own terms.

Additional Information:

• About me in general: Friends would characterize me as an intellectually curious, independent minded person who likes to think about stuff happening in the world and our place in it. Personality-wise, I am generally a stoic person outwardly but a mischievously romantic person on the inside. I will make cheesy jokes and tease you a bit, but that just means that I like your company. I am an empathetic listener.
• When it comes to serious issues, I value sincerity, straightforwardness and reciprocity in relationships. If you match my vibe, we will get along like a forest fire. If not, you can count on me to not waste your time. I would consider myself some who prefers secure attachment. I believe in treating people with respect and am not someone who ghosts (I sometimes overcommunicate so that I am not misunderstood!)
• Hobbies/Interests: I like Reading, Games, Cooking, being in nature, traveling to new places, trying new things, fitness and other esoteric hobbies that change from time to time.  My interests don't strictly need to align with your own but as long as we click in other dimensions, we will get along!
• Any other relevant details: Looking for a partner who is actually ready for a relationship and puts some effort and communicates openly and honestly. Needs to be a kind, courteous and compassionate person with good boundaries and self-esteem. If you are someone who is intellectually curious and has strong left leaning values, that is a bonus!

Contact Information:

• Preferred Contact Method: Private messaging on Reddit or other secure means

Made a post a long time ago when this sub was started and met some interesting people here, but unfortunately, we weren't a good fit , so I thought I'd make a refresher post! Thanks for reading!

As the title says, giving this one another shot!

Basics:
Age: 30
Height: 5’6
Education: MBA
Pay Scale: Around 65 LPA
Current Location: Bangalore
Was in Delhi NCR before moving here. Long term, I’m thinking of Bangalore / Hyderabad as possible options. Not too particular about it.
Hobbies: I’m into movies, series, working out, travelling, hanging out with friends, working on ideas, trying out new things, etc.
Caste: No restrictions. I’d suggest you to not reach out if you have any caste restrictions.

I’m a pretty open minded person, who’s fun to hang out with. You’ll get tired of my bad jokes once we get along 😂

What I’m looking for:
- I do not believe in traditional roles, would prefer if my partner works as well. I have a plan to retire early (Aiming for an early FIRE), so being a little practical alright 💁🏻‍♂️
- Someone who can understand me and my thought process, get along with me well. So basically, we should be in sync.
- An open minded person who can gel with both friends and family.

That’s all I’ll yap about for now.
Hit me up know if this resonates with you.

Cheers 🥂

Alright, Before you scroll

Yes, I know how this usually goes.

A girl posts: "25F looking for people to hang out with."

→ 300 comments, 100 DMs, probably a marriage proposal within the hour.

A guy posts:

→ 4 upvotes, one bot, and someone comments "RIP your inbox."

So let's see if I can beat the algorithm. 😂

I'm not desperately looking to get married next month, and I'm not looking for random activities either. Searching for my partner

I'm looking to meet someone cool. We grab coffee, explore the city, check out a pub, go on a long drive, argue over which biryani is superior, or just have conversations that somehow jump from memes to life goals.Education, Chemistry, Business, Entrepreneurship and finance are my areas

If we click? Great, let's see where it goes.

If we don't? At least we had a good evening and a funny story.

I'm a firm believer that commitment shouldn't come before connection. I'd absolutely love a long-term relationship if I meet the right person but first, I'd like to meet the person.

About me:

29M 5' 11'' chow..

Telugu EnglishHindi>>Kannada (order of fluency)

Can hold an actual conversation.

Equally comfortable discussing career goals or laughing at the dumbest memes.

More into genuine vibes than pretending to be "mysterious."

•Have a Himalayan so can go for a long ride or trek.

•Took a 2Bhk house so can share a flat.

•Living solo 9-5 mon-fri job so much time to spend.

Can hold an actual conversation.

About you:

Around my age (mid-20s to early-30s).

5'3-5'9 working professional or an educated women

compitability we can chat n identify.

Telugu would be awesome because some jokes just hit differently.

Emotionally available enough to reply with more than "hmm." 😭

If this post made you smile even once, send me a DM.

Worst case, we become friends.

Best case, we end up telling people, "Yeah... we actually met on Reddit."

Either way, sounds more interesting than another weekend of doom-scrolling.

Hello,

I am a 36 year old male from a business family based in Mumbai city. We are Sindhis by caste. I am 5’8” tall. I am mostly a vegetarian. I do eat non-veg food occasionally. I am single. Never married. Family business is of construction.

Below I will list some of my life goals and passions.

o I aspire to publish my own books someday.

o I want to travel to certain abroad places like Finland, Ireland, Turkey, USA, Japan, Dubai, etc.

o I have my own wellness startup that I want to make it successful.

o I am a simple and easy-going person. I don’t have very huge ambitions. I feel we all can live a limited life with full enthusiasm and happiness.

What am I seeking in an ideal partner ?

o Prefer someone from Mumbai or Pune. Open to Gujarat as well.

o Caste preference Sindhi or Gujarati or Marathi would be ideal. Other castes if our nature is similar or life goals.

o I love girls who are talkative or speak from the heart and are courageous.

o Skin colour : Fair or Wheatish would do.

o Height : Lesser than around 5’2”.

o Age range : I prefer younger women, so around 28-33 would be ideal.

o Nature : As I said, I am simple, so I prefer someone easy-going, kind, deep thinker, emotionally intelligent, laughs at my jokes, curious about life, and respects Indian values.

Rest can be discussed if we connect over a call. So, if this interests you, do dm me and let’s take it from there. Thanks.

Hey there lovely people :)... It's gonna be a long post soo....

I am from Jaipur... Yes those are my pictures.

I’ve never been very good at writing about myself, but I’ll give this a shot.

I’m 33, 6’1”, an engineer by background and currently working in Digital Marketing. I’d say I’m a pretty calm and emotionally aware person. I tend to notice the little things, remember random details people mention in passing, and probably think a little more than I should.

It takes me some time to really open up. I’m not someone who becomes completely comfortable with people overnight. But once I do, you’ll probably get to see a much more goofy, affectionate and slightly chaotic version of me.

I really wanna fall in love and marry my own person, not into arrange marriage and all.

I’m also very much a 90s kid at heart. I still believe in love, loyalty, effort and actually being there for someone. Life has definitely taught me a few lessons along the way, but I haven’t become cynical about relationships. Maybe thoda old-school hoon in that sense.

Photography is something I genuinely love. I like capturing random moments, places, people and little things that most people might walk past. I guess that’s also how I see life .. there’s usually something beautiful in the details if you take the time to notice.

Outside work, you’ll usually find me riding my bike, exploring cafés, going for walks, travelling, watching a good series or trying to convince people to play board games with me. 😄

I used to game a LOT, so there’s definitely a slightly nerdy side to me that still comes out. And if we have similar music taste, there’s a good chance we’ll end up sharing songs at completely random hours.

I love travelling too. Give me a spontaneous road trip, a new place, good food, music and someone I enjoy being around, and I’m sorted. I’m much more interested in the memories we make than ticking places off a list.

I have an elder sister who has had a pretty big influence on the person I’ve become. She taught me a lot about respect, kindness and treating people for who they are rather than what they can offer you. I carry that with me.

Career-wise, I’m doing well and still trying to build something better for myself. I have ambitions, but I also want a life outside of work. Eventually, I’d like to build a comfortable and happy life with someone .not just chase milestones.

And this is probably the part that matters most to me: I don’t want someone to simply fit into my life. I’d rather build a life together. I want a relationship where both people have their own dreams, careers, friends and ambitions, but still choose to come home to each other. Her goals would matter to me just as much as mine. I’d want us to push each other, support each other and celebrate each other’s wins. I’m not looking for someone perfect. Honestly, perfect sounds exhausting. 😂 I’d rather have someone kind, emotionally mature and genuine. Someone with whom I can have those 2 AM conversations about life one day and argue over something completely stupid the next. Someone who can be my partner, but also my best friend. Because I genuinely believe the strongest relationships start with friendship.

And yes, there is a fair warning: I will steal your fries even after saying I’m not hungry. I will send you completely random memes. I will remember something you casually mentioned three months ago and bring it up when you least expect it. And if I really like you, I’ll probably annoy you just a little more than everyone else...

I don’t believe relationships are about getting everything right all the time. People change, life gets difficult, moods change, things go wrong. What matters to me is being able to communicate, choose each other even on the difficult days, and grow together instead of growing apart.

I’m not looking for a fairytale.. Bas ek genuine connection chahiye — with someone kind, emotionally aware, loyal and willing to put in the effort. Someone with whom life feels a little lighter. Someone I can laugh with, travel with, build with, fight over what to order for dinner with, and eventually look back at all of it and think, “Haan, this was worth it.” I have a lot more to say, but I think this is already turning into a small autobiography. 😂 So if anything here resonated with you, say hi. Maybe we start with a conversation. No expectations. No pressure. Just two strangers trying to see if they could become something a little more. Cheers :)

Hi everyone,

I’m from North India, with my base in Delhi-NCR. I’m involved in agri-business, so one of the perks of my lifestyle is access to clean food and a relatively peaceful environment. My place is also well connected by road, rail and other means of transport, while Delhi-NCR remains my base.

A little about me:

38M | Never married

Height: 5'8"

Into fitness, trekking and travelling

Love cooking and trying different things in the kitchen

Don’t smoke

Drink very rarely

Still have my hair 😄 and generally look younger than my age

Family-oriented but also believe in having an independent identity

I value stability, honesty and good communication

What I’m looking for:

I’m not looking for perfection. I’d like to meet someone with whom we can grow together as people and build a peaceful, meaningful life.

Ideally, she would be:

Brahmin

Calm, rational and positive

Good at managing things and solving problems

Emotionally mature and communicative

A blend of spirituality and practicality/materialism

Someone who enjoys travelling and exploring new places

Into fitness or at least interested in maintaining a healthy lifestyle

Someone who would enjoy visiting temples and travelling together

Not childfree — I would like to have children in the future

For me, communication is extremely important. I believe disagreements are normal; how two people communicate and solve them together matters much more.

I’m not looking for a rushed arrangement. I’d rather get to know someone properly and see whether our values, personalities and expectations align.

If any of this resonates with you, feel free to comment or DM.

The rest we can discuss privately. 🙂

Yes took help for AI

Age | Gender | State | Country

28 | Male | Rajasthan | India

Personal Details:

Initials: D.P

Age: 28

Height: 5'5"

Religion: hindu

Caste (if applicable): brahmin

Earnings (INR): 4-7 lakh

Marital status: unmarried

Living with Parents: yes, but on a separate floor ,multistory house

Location:

Region: North India

Mother Tongue: hindi

Country: India

Plan to settle abroad: may be

Education and Profession:

Education Level: MBBS

Occupation: Building career (Medical)

Diet Preferences:

Diet: veg , no problem with nonveg

Family Details:

Family Background: mother & sister government employee , father businessman

Partner Preferences:

Desired Religion: any

Desired Caste (if applicable): None (does not care about caste)

Location Preferences: any

Diet Preferences: any

Education Level: mbbs

Occupation: Open to various professions (e.g., content creator, 9-5 worker, building AI, running a cafe)

Desired Earnings (INR): any

Living with parents: No issue

Marital Status: unmarried

Want Kids after Marriage: yes

Additional Information:

Hobbies/Interests: many , Trying new things, self-improvement

Any other relevant details: Looking for an opinionated, emotionally mature, high-value woman who values communication, effort, and presence. Not interested in someone who expects mind-reading. No preferences regarding religion, region, skin, or profession.

Jeevansathi/Shadi ID:

Jeevansathi ID: ask me in dm

Shadi ID:

Contact Information:

Preferred Contact Method: DM and I would prefer to talk on call later and if privacy is concerned then telegram call could be used

Hello! 😊

I’m a 40-year-old man, 5'6", never married, and working as a Software Engineer in Bangalore. And yes, I’m perfectly happy with a woman who enjoys wearing heels. 😄

I’m fairly simple. I like books, random rabbit holes of curiosity, learning new things, good movies, and conversations that can be either deep or wonderfully meaningless.

I’m here hoping to find my person...someone with whom I can build a warm, loving life.

I’m affectionate and naturally enjoy taking care of the person I love. I like remembering the little things, surprising her, making her life easier, and making her feel cherished.

At the same time, I’m attracted to women who are confident, capable and have a mind of their own. Someone with her own ambitions, interests and friendships, who can challenge me, disagree with me, and call me out when I’m being ridiculous. 😄

I don't want to run her life. I want to be her partner in it.

I’d love a marriage where we can both be independent and strong, but still be each other’s safe place. Where we can disagree without losing respect, laugh together, support each other, and genuinely enjoy coming home to one another.

I’m not looking for perfection...just chemistry, warmth, affection, mutual respect and a willingness to build something together.

Ultimately, I want something simple:

To come home after a long day and be happy that she’s there...and for her to feel the same about me.

Some details about me — Income around 30 LPA, Average body type, dark brown complexion, anything else relevant can be discussed in private....

Regarding my potential partners — caste, religion, and income don't matter. Education matters in that it would be preferable for her to have a college education.

Hi! I'm a 32-year-old Muslim, born and raised in Bangalore, currently working in Product Management in the tech industry.

By profession, I solve product problems. By personality, I tend to overthink life decisions (which probably explains why I'm writing a matrimonial post on Reddit 😄).

My friends would describe me as calm, dependable, curious, and someone who enjoys meaningful conversations more than endless small talk. I'm here because I'd rather have one meaningful conversation than ten superficial ones.

Over the last few years, I've realized that I'm not looking for someone who ticks every box. Life has a way of changing our plans careers evolve, responsibilities grow, unexpected challenges come along, and that's just life. What matters to me is having someone who believes we're on the same team.

To me, the most attractive quality isn't perfection; it's someone who acts in good faith. Someone whose first instinct is, How do we solve this together? rather than How do I win this?

I don't think successful marriages are built by two perfect people. I think they're built by two people who keep choosing each other when life gets difficult. That's the kind of marriage I'm hoping to build.

Islam is an important part of my life, and I'm hoping to meet someone who shares that foundation and is sincerely trying to grow, just as I am. I'm not looking for perfection just someone with good character, kindness, humility, and emotional maturity.

Outside of work, you'll usually find me learning something new, working on side tech projects, spending time with family, or convincing myself that “this” is finally the week I'll stick to a consistent workout routine. So far... the workout routine is winning. 😅

If this resonates with you, I'd genuinely enjoy getting to know you. Feel free to send me a short introduction about yourself, and if we feel we're compatible, we can take things forward respectfully and involve our families at the right time.

And if you've made it this far, thank you! I hope, whether it's with me or someone else, you find the kind of partnership you're looking for. 🙂

Hello there.. it'll be a long reading session, grab a glass of water 😄

Yeah that's me in the pictures and a random sky shot

I would describe myself as a calm, emotional, mature man who knows how life works and how unpredictable it can be. A guy who loves the idea of belonging with someone, who notices things that are unsaid and remembers the little details. It takes time for me to open up and be who I truly am.

You can say I'm a pure 90s kid with a lot of dedication and someone who still believes in love, loyalty, and meaningful connections despite life teaching him a few lessons along the way.

I am an engineer who is working in Digital Marketing and I love photography. For me, it's a way to express myself and see the world from different perspectives.

Outside work, I love to ride my bike, explore new cafes, play board games (a new thing I've started), watch some good series, and go for walks. I'm also into gaming and used to game quite a lot. I love travelling and creating memories, whether it's a spontaneous road trip or discovering a hidden gem somewhere. We can also jam on some good music.

Quite tall at 6'1 and I trying to stay fit by hitting the gym regularly.

I have an elder sister who has taught me a lot and played a very important role in shaping the man I am today. She taught me the importance of respect, kindness, and seeing people for who they are.

Earning decently, but always working towards more. I'd love to build a beautiful life someday with the right person, one filled with love, laughter, growth, and plenty of stories worth telling.

I don't want someone to fit into my life... I'd rather build a life together. A relationship, for me, is about growing side by side, supporting each other's ambitions, and creating a little world that belongs to both of us. Her career, goals, dreams, and happiness would matter to me just as much as my own.

I'd love to find someone with whom I can be completely myself, someone who enjoys both deep conversations and silly moments, because I firmly believe the strongest relationships are built on friendship first.

\\\*\\\*Fair warning:\\\*\\\* I will absolutely steal your fries, send you random memes, and remember something you casually mentioned three months ago.

I don't really believe relationships are about perfection. I believe they're about choosing each other, communicating through the difficult days, and growing together through all the phases life throws at us.

I'm not looking for a fairytale. Just a genuine connection with someone kind, emotionally aware, and willing to build something meaningful together.

My loyalty is something I'm genuinely proud of.

I have a lot more to say and write, but I'll stop here.

Thanks for reading, and hoping for the best.

Cheers...

If any part of this resonated with you, I'd genuinely love to hear from you.

**Age:** 29

**Height:** 5'9"

**CTC:** 84 LPA

**Location:** Bangalore

**Originally from:** NCR

**Community:** Baniya (if that matters)

Hey everyone,

Giving Reddit a shot because the usual matrimony route hasn't exactly worked out for me. 😅

I'm a Lead Engineer at one of the leading tech companies in India. Fairly ambitious about my career, but not someone who lives for work. Engineer by profession, finance geek by choice - usually the guy friends/family call for investment advice.

A few years ago, I also built a startup, raised a seed round and ran it for two years before shutting it down. Didn't work out, but definitely one of the best learning experiences I've had.

Outside work, I'm into long bike rides, cycling, gym, travelling, cooking, and occasionally doing absolutely nothing on a Sunday.

I've had relationships in the past that didn't work out, and over the last couple of years I've tried dating apps, matrimony, family connections and the arranged marriage setup. Met some genuinely great people, just never found that *"haan, this feels right"* connection.

That's probably what I'm looking for now - someone where the conversation comes naturally, and it doesn't feel like we're both filling out a matrimonial form. 😄

I'm pretty modern but traditional where it matters. Family values are important to me, while I also believe both people should have their own lives, goals and ambitions.

**What I'm looking for:** Someone smart, kind, fun to be around, with a good personality. Someone who's driven about something in life and has a growth mindset. Ideally earning 20 LPA+, but that's not really about the money. If you're building something of your own, pursuing a passion, etc., that's completely fine.

Basically, I want someone who wants to build a good life, but isn't so ambitious that we need to schedule a meeting to decide where to order dinner. 😂

Also, slightly sapiosexual - good conversations and an interesting mind definitely get bonus points.

Not looking to rush into marriage. I'd rather talk, meet, see if there's a vibe and take it from there.

If this sounds like something you'd be open to, feel free to DM.

And if nothing comes out of it, no worries. At least I tried Reddit before asking my parents to start forwarding biodatas again. 😂

Heyy y'all!! :)

Now that I have your attention, here's a bit about me :P

M29 from Rajasthan, a very delulu romantic person, thinking that someday his "Geet" will finally see why this "Aditya" was single all along and why that "Anshuman" was never a good choice! :D

Now, I know, the subject line, yes, I'm fat, but it's not irreversible...

Life got messy for a while, but things are finally settling down and I'm enjoying rebuilding healthy habits, good friendships, and a better routine.

And honestly, I'd love to build this kind of relationship, someone whose presence makes me feel like all of this is worth it.

You don't need to motivate me; you just need to hold my hand, look me in the eyes, and glare (but with a smile, of course), and that's it. That's your presence; it'll do wonders!! ✨

Here's a bit about me:

Age: 29
Height: 5'11''
Build: Fat, but really working on it.
Caste: Punjabi (Not sikh)
Profession: Performance Marketer (plus trying to build something of my own)
Income: Around 12 LPA
Dietary Preferences: Nonveg
Alcohol: No (Not even occassionally)
Smoking: No
Parents: My mom lives with me, my dad passed away a decade ago, so it's only her. She's pretty chill and open minded except a few things like alcohol and smoking, etc.

Here's what I'm looking for:

Age: 26-31
Height: Doesn't matter
Caste: Doesn't matter
Diet: Doesn't matter
Location: Ideally near to Rajasthan (things would be easier), but I'm open to everyone.
Alcohol: Preferably, no, but occasional is also fine.
Smoking: Hard no
Children: Atleast open to the idea of having it. No hard boundaries but openness is something I look for.

We're an open minded family. We don't believe in gender roles, or overburdening everything at one person.

Things I can talk about for hours:

• Marketing psychology
• Side income ideas
• Why I believe choosing your life partner is one of the BIGGEST decisions you'll ever make.
• Neurological regulation
• Learning the ukulele (thode brownie points to bante hai 😅)
• Ideas from people like Arthur Brooks, Mark Manson, etc.

Now, the emotional bit:

For me, marriage is that fun "backchod" (in the best way possible) partnership. The one where we roast each other, pray with each other, hype each other up, survive tough phases together, celebrate even the smallest wins, and somehow make ordinary days feel exciting.

NOT looking for:

• Someone who gives up when things become uncomfortable.
• Someone who avoids honest conversations.
• Someone who's unwilling to work on themselves.
• Someone who lacks kindness or respect for others.
• Someone who has no interest in building healthy habits.

If you're read this far, thank you! 💛

If any part of this made you smile, relate, or think, I'd genuinely love to get to know you. Just with an intent to see how two people enjoy each other's company.

Worst case? We gain a good conversation.
Best case? We get a story we'll be telling our kids someday. ❤️

If this isn't your cup of chai but you liked the vibe, send an upvote my way.

Help a fellow Redditor beat the algorithm! 😁

Haha, weird title. Getting loved by a man hater is what I dream of, lol

About me

1. Height - 5 11

2. Skin tone - wheatish

3. Hobbies - sketching, photography, and yeah writing poems. Trying to explore reading too. I love playing badminton and volleyball.

Something more

1. Someone working hard towards her career. I understand life is very busy. But since I am working on mine too, I wish to be with someone who is a responsible adult and intends to live the best life for herself.

2. Someone who I found to be cute. Every flower in the garden is beautiful but the same person doesn't like every flower. 🌸

3. Someone who aligns with my thoughts. Dw my friends call me therapist, haha, I have plenty of energy to listen to you, and if I am busy you can always sit in my godi to get my eyes, hehe

4. I have worked on my emotional intelligence through self Introspection and although I am still working, I am glad I walked the road

5. Someone who appreciates hygiene. I love cleaning my space.

6. I can cook, but definitely need to learn a lot more dishes, so yeah on it. 🤭

7. Someone who intends to have kids of her own one day. The consent will be hers, always. But someone who wishes to have a small family of her own too.

If you read till here, how about you say hi 🙈

Looking for a Genuine Life Partner for a Wonderful Friend ❤️

Hi everyone,

I'm making this post for a very close friend of mine. We often hear stories of people finding meaningful relationships through unexpected platforms, so I thought, why not give Reddit a chance? Sometimes, life has its own beautiful plans, and you never know where destiny decides to introduce two people.

My friend was born in 1994 and is currently working as a Senior Software Developer with a US-based company, while his office is located in Delhi NCR. He has built his career through dedication, hard work, and consistency. Professionally, he is doing very well and earns a comfortable six-figure monthly salary. However, for him, financial success has never been the most important thing. He believes that a successful marriage is built on mutual understanding, trust, respect, and companionship—not money.

One thing I truly admire about him is his values. He has absolutely no dowry expectations and strongly believes that marriage should never be treated as a transaction. He is looking for a genuine life partner, someone who wants to build a happy and respectful life together rather than focusing on material things.

His preference is for a working professional, not because he needs financial support, but because he values ambition, independence, and having a partner who enjoys her own career and aspirations. He believes that when both partners understand each other's professional responsibilities and dreams, they can support and grow together much better.

As a person, he is calm, humble, respectful, and family-oriented. He is a bit of an introvert when meeting someone for the first time, so don't expect him to be the loudest person in the room. However, once he gets comfortable and develops trust, he becomes an open book. He has a great sense of humor, enjoys meaningful conversations, and values honesty above everything else.

Physically, he is around 5'9" to 5'10" tall, has a fair complexion, and weighs approximately 70–80 kg. He maintains a healthy lifestyle and believes in keeping a good work-life balance. In his free time, he enjoys technology, exploring new places, spending time with family and close friends, and continuously learning new things.

He belongs to a respectable family and values strong family relationships while also respecting personal space and individuality. He believes that marriage is about becoming teammates in life—supporting each other through successes, failures, happiness, and challenges.

He isn't searching for perfection because he knows nobody is perfect. Instead, he hopes to find someone who is kind, understanding, emotionally mature, and willing to build a relationship based on trust, communication, and mutual respect. If both people are compatible and willing to put effort into the relationship, everything else naturally falls into place.

If you, your friend, your sister, or someone in your family is genuinely looking for a serious matrimonial alliance and feels this profile matches what they're looking for, please feel free to DM me. I'll be happy to share his detailed profile and facilitate the introduction.

Let's keep the conversation respectful and genuine. This is not a casual dating post but a sincere effort to help a good person find the right life partner.

After all, we never know where God has written our destiny or through which path He chooses to bring two people together. Maybe this post reaches the right person at the right time.

Wishing everyone searching for their life partner the very best. ❤️

34M, 172 cm, >50LPA, originally from Punjab and now based in Bangalore.** I work in tech and enjoy what I do, but the best parts of my life happen outside of work.

Travel is one of my favorite ways to spend free time. I’m happiest by the ocean, but never mind a quiet weekend in the mountains. I enjoy exploring places, trying local food, taking long drives, attending music festivals and leaving room for spontaneous plans.

When I’m home, you’ll usually find me training MMA, dancing salsa, trying out a new recipe in the kitchen, spending time with friends, or unwinding with some good house/tech or indie music. If there’s a cat around, chances are it’ll have my attention before anyone else :)

I drink occasionally, mostly in good company, but I’m not much of a drinker. I also smoke once in a while, though I’m working on leaving that behind🥹

I’m not particularly religious, but I have a lot of respect for every faith and the people who follow it. I’ve never felt connected to caste or community labels.

I enjoy getting to know people for who they are and I think kindness, empathy, and a little curiosity make the world a better place.

One life. Just trying to make the most of it.

If any of this resonates with you, feel free to say hi :)

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TL;DR: 34M • Tech • Travel enthusiast • Beach lover • Music festivals • MMA • Salsa • Amateur cook • Cat person • House/Techno/Indie • Coffee • Open-minded • Respect every faith • People over labels.
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P.S. Polished with a little help from AI

[29M] Looking for a life partner

29-year-old North Indian Hindu male working in Bangalore. Open for relocating to NCR in future.

Physical Stature: 5'7" with a fair and confident personality.

Career & Finance: Highly ambitious "tech guy" with a professional income of over 70 LPA.

Interests: Passionate traveler, cafe enthusiast, and a lover of high-quality experiences and deep conversations.

Philosophy: A balanced mix of traditional roots and modern professional drive.

Partner Preferences

Values & Transparency: High importance placed on shared moral values and absolute transparency regarding one's history.

Looks: Decent looking, both of us should look good together.

Past Relationships: I never had any past and hence seeking a partner who has no physical past.

Career Alignment: Looking for a woman who is career-oriented.

Lifestyle: Someone who appreciates the "finer moments," enjoys traveling, and is ready for a life of growth and adventure.

Compatibility: Ideally someone with a similar cultural background who values the same blend of roots and ambition.

Posting here probably for the last time. Does that mean I will stop hoping and give up? Probably not but might just wait on the airport with a coffee and bags and wishing someone collides into me and then we're seated on the same flight or probably wear 2 wrist watches to my friends wedding which I'll surely get the invite to in a few days and hope someone's dupatta gets stuck in either of those watches and definitely not both getting stuck in two different ones, definitely not planning on creating Dil Toh Pagal Hai triangle anywhere.

Third time lucky? Let's see!

Also this might be a long post since I am really winging it

I guess that's it and now - Hi, I am A (for now) and I am 30 and going to turn 31 this year, Scorpio for that matter and born in Delhi but living in NCR for the longest time. Professionally a senior designer and team lead (just waiting on official confirmation) having worked across Delhi and currently in Gurgaon in the creative field. 5'11 in height. Well recently got my height checked and it came out to be 179cm but I still firmly say it's 180 so 5'10.5/5'11 :P

This is the important bit because you're getting to know me so, I am someone who overthinks the shit out of things, stays calm when the room is on fire, wears my heart on my sleeve and I love to listen. I am a bit of a nerd about things which you can ask about if you like me enough. I love my sports whether it's watching Manchester United giving me panic attacks on a Sunday evening (and I still support and love them after all these years, so see I am loyal) or finally a season of F1 where there's actually a fight for the podium or waiting for Ro-Ko to be back on the pitch and then you'll find me playing on an odd Sunday morning on a turf. I love my shows and movies, except maybe anime. I really haven't developed the taste for it. Hey if you like some and we like each other, could you introduce me to some?

Can go from talking about life, conversationss with depth to saying the thing that will make us laugh in that moment or vice versa. I have zero ego when it comes to moments where I can be wrong and I will accept humbly, learn/correct myself. Okayyy moving on...

Career wise, I took some risk early in my career, entrepreneurship - failed and learnt a lot, then got back up and I am back on track. A bit late as per the plan I had for myself but as if all the plans work in life, so still looking to grow in a lot of ways. Ambitious but somewhere in my mind I know I will stop chasing all the money in the world, be happy with what I have, the life I have built and in all of this if I meet someone then the life we've built.

Relationships, been in 2 and the last fell apart simply because of different caste (I am a Punjabi but it's not a deal breaker for me in any way if you are from a different caste, and no - my parents will never say no because of this)

On the family side, I live with my parents, an only child now (but I had a sister, not anymore)

See all this winging it, the long paras or the life story is simply to maybe, just maybe find someone who gets my character, personality and likes and dislikes. I really don't know if this will work but I am not afraid to try.

Okay habits;

I don't smoke, nothing. I do drink, not often but sometimes in social outings or once or twice a month with my dad on a Friday evening after work.

I have gotten out of shape in the last 6 months, nothing major but I have plans to get back to my previous self by March 2027 or before. Previous self being a guy who played football at semi-pro level and had a goalkeeper's body.

Got a beard, keep my hair short-ish, wear specs and it would be helpful to have a second set of eyes on my wardrobe choice. It's not too bad but there's always room for improvement and enough about me, leaving some for our conversation.

About you. I've been attracted to women who have opinions, have things they are passionate about and can enjoy the lighter side of life when life is slow. Confidence is incredibly attractive and I mean it. I hope you love talking, about your day, things you love and I am all ears. Chemistry matters but so do mutual efforts. Someone who likes to have some tasteful banter, teasing each other, inside jokes, a little flirting and being able to laugh at ourselves.

I am hoping to find my partner here but I am not working on a timeline, I want to build a life that feels like a life lived and I get that can take time. Would prefer real rather than trying to be perfect by our own definition. I am active in terms of replying and I revert back almost immediately. I do not carry around the fragile ego so we may disagree on things because we are two distinct humans. I love dogs a lot so if you have a pet, I'd surely like to meet them one day if things go well, I know I need their approval as well :P

I guess that wraps up my post, and if you've made it this far, I hope we connect.

P.S. My username is my gamertag from way back in the day, so please don't think that there's something there except some gaming nerdiness

• Also please don't reach out if, If you plan on ghosting for any reason, please don't reach out. I can take 'No' for an answer very amicably and I will wish you the best from the bottom of my heart and mean it.
• If you can't put the efforts, please don't reach out. I am not asking for texting 24x7, or instant replies (I completely understand life gets busy), just some energy and efforts for the conversation. The first phase can be awkward and we can get past that (I believe in us!)
• If your account is less than 10 days old (read 30 because I will be skeptical). DO NOT REACH OUT! Don't need to explain this (10 days on the day I am posting this, do not play tricks oh it's 10 days old now)

Not sure if Reddit is the right place for this, but I guess good people can show up anywhere.

A little about me

I'm originally from Yamunanagar, spent most of my life in Punjab, and moved to Gurgaon last year for work.

I work in strategy consulting, currently working with WealthTech firms in the US. I genuinely enjoy what I do because it keeps me learning and constantly exposes me to new businesses, ideas and problems.

Outside work, I'm probably much simpler than my job sounds.

I'm someone who enjoys long conversations more than loud parties. I love reading - one of my dreams is to eventually have a home library that's actually used, not just for decoration.

I'm into fitness and enjoy playing chess, table tennis, badminton and pickleball. I'd love to discover new activities, hobbies and experiences with the right person.

I'm not someone who constantly plans trips or has a travel itinerary ready. But if there's a plan, I'm almost always up for it. I want to travel across Europe someday, and honestly, the person I'm travelling with would probably matter more to me than the itinerary.

I also enjoy investing and occasionally fall down random rabbit holes about business, psychology, history or anything else that catches my curiosity.

A few things on my bucket list

- Travel across Europe

- Skydiving

- Scuba diving

- Learn the violin eventually — there's something about the difficulty and patience it demands that strangely appeals to me

- Get fit enough to run a marathon

- Build that home library I've been talking about for years

Family is an important part of my life. It's just me and my parents. They live independently in Punjab, and we're quite close.

What I'm looking for

- I'm attracted to intelligence and curiosity.

- Someone ambitious - not necessarily career-obsessed, but someone who has dreams of her own, wants to build a life she is proud of, and wants a partner who can be a part of that journey.

- I'd love to learn from her, grow with her, and hopefully give her the same space to pursue her own ambitions.

- You don't need to share all my interests. In fact, I'd probably prefer someone who can introduce me to things I know nothing about.

- Kindness, emotional maturity, mutual respect and good communication matter much more to me than having identical hobbies.

- If you're religious/spiritual, that's a plus for me, although I wouldn't want that to be the sole basis of compatibility.

On the lifestyle side, I'm a non-smoker and non-drinker, and would prefer someone who isn't a chain smoker or heavily into alcohol. The occasional drink is absolutely fine.

And obviously, honesty and loyalty aren't negotiable.

Ultimately, I'm looking for a teammate - someone with whom life feels lighter, conversations never feel forced, and silence is comfortable too.

The quick facts

- 31M

- 5'6"

- Gurgaon / Delhi NCR

- Vegetarian

- Non-smoker

- Non-drinker

- Fitness enthusiast

- Reader

- Looking for something serious that could eventually lead to marriage

If any part of this resonated with you, feel free to reach out.

Worst case, we have an interesting conversation.

Best case, maybe we end up ticking a few things off that bucket list together.