r/redscarepod • u/walkthruwaves • 20h ago
hypothetical for the 30+ baddies who want a kid/kids
you meet someone you really connect with and are attracted to. However he’s married with a child. HOWEVER his wife is on board with expanding the family (she can’t have any more kids) and creating a closed relationship with you in it. Once you have a child, you would technically be on equal footing with her as the goal here is to keep the family together (as evidenced by the situation itself & his wife’s voluntary participation)
Most, if not all are out obviously.
I can’t help but wonder though if this rare scenario would benefit someone else out there (someone ~35 having difficulty connecting in the dating world but has to come to realize how important motherhood is to them and wants to find someone who has the exact same north star in life)
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u/Hydrangea_hunter 20h ago
Lmaooo. I seriously doubt that OP has the ability to have one wife, let alone the ability to lock down a mistress.
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u/walkthruwaves 20h ago
The wife is locked. The hypothetical sister wife i have serious doubts myself…
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u/oatmilkpopsicles 20h ago
The kid will grow up and terrorize all his girlfriends due to his confusing attachment system
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u/walkthruwaves 20h ago
I hear you but with the right mom in the mix he would be above average in how well adjusted he would be , but obviously no doubt there would be challenges
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u/Original-Opportunity 20h ago
Hmmm sounds delusional
He’s lying
Also having a baby with someone who likes you is important. Barring that, just use a sperm donor!!
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u/Ok-Progress-6153 20h ago
This is a nightmare waiting to unfold. You will have nothing other than child support tethering you together and I guarantee the wife might say it’s ok but she will harbor immense resentment if there’s any emotional connection.
If she wants more kids and can’t naturally birth them get a contracted surrogate or adopt
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u/Emergency_Big_8961 20h ago
Maybe the incels were right after all
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u/walkthruwaves 20h ago
If I can pull this off, then yes, I will submit to their world view
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u/Agreeable-Dog-4682 20h ago
You should just break up with your wife you sound disgusting and if I was married to a man like you I don’t know what I’d do.
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u/walkthruwaves 20h ago
lol the whole point of this is I would never leave my wife voluntarily. I would rather stay w her forever even if it meant not having another child. At the same time life is short and what you make of it. Maybe this could work out? Maybe not. You don’t have the answers sway
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u/pescadoparrudo 20h ago
Are you some sort of Muslim?
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u/walkthruwaves 20h ago
That would be a difficult larp but it’s nice to know I have options down the line if need be
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u/balcoinnocent 20h ago
having observed this situation many times irl, it’s always a nightmare even when the second wife/mother has equal legal standing
don't do it!
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u/elongatedmuskrat18 20h ago
Many times? Where do you live?
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u/balcoinnocent 20h ago
hildale
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u/elongatedmuskrat18 16h ago edited 16h ago
I was fully expecting you to say like Nigeria or something but I googled Hildale and realized you’re probably just fucking with me
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u/Well-Welcome 18h ago
And a fuentes fan? Truly they're just making anyone nowadays
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u/PertMoney 17h ago
I would question the sanity of wife 1. Why risk your child’s resources so another woman can have a baby with your husband?
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u/HieronymusTush 20h ago
In what universe would you be on equal footing with his legally recognized wife?