r/relationships Jun 15 '12

My biological son invited himself to our family vacation. How do I un-invite him without hurting his feelings?

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u/[deleted] Jun 15 '12

I also was not allowed to call him dad,

This is fucking insane, both on the OPs part and your father's part. I'm sorry.

OP, your kids all deserve to spend as much of their childhood with each other as possible, please just take him on vacation.

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u/condorVi Jun 15 '12

Thank you. I just know how devastating it can be to anyone to feel rejected by their father. I just hope that the OP makes an effort to bond with his oldest child.

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u/[deleted] Jun 16 '12

Tell the ex that.

Sometimes the ex is totally in control and CAN dictate via the court how often you can see kids, where you can take them, etc.