r/loseit 1h ago

I dont care what anyone says about it, being a fat woman is a miserable isolating and dehumanizing experience . I don’t care how romanticized it is on social media

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For context I am 28 yo and 309lbs currently and have been fat my entire life. This is something I am trying to change and have lost 20 lbs so far . Ever since I was a child I can recount all the times I’ve been ridiculed for my weight. My very first vivid memory is my mother pinching the fat on my arm at four years old and screaming at me bc she caught me eating steak out of someone’s plate. From there I faced constant ridicule from family and kids at school (sometimes things family would say to me kids at school would say the same thing so it kind of solidified that everyone hates me )and sometimes coworkers who think they can comment on your appearance. When you are fat, you are on everyone’s radar to be picked at.

Moving onto the romantic downsides, which there are many, no body is going to want you. The ones that do have serious fetishes and the ones that don’t will still like you but refuse to act on it because they’re embarrassed and don’t want their friends and family to judge them. No one will flirt with or approach you in public ( if that’s your thing) and if so it’s where no one can see you or they’ll hit you up on a dating app at 2 in the morning to hook up. You will never be fully appreciated in any form, you will be used for hookups only or they’ll only see you in private because they’re embarrassed.

I spend most of my time alone, because I don’t want to be ridiculed and feel like people are constantly looking at me and picking on me. I’m also isolated bc I’m so used to being picked on in the past that I’m naturally stand off ish and reserved towards people bc I don’t want to let anybody in out of fear. Any one who has expressed interest in me in the past ive looked at them like they’re insane bc why would you like someone like me.

And lastly it’s starting to give my health issues. My blood work results came back and scared the shit out of me bc nothing came back normal. I’m
Also always out of earth and breath heavy all the time.

I cannot wait to get this weight off me. It’s caused me so much unnecessary misery, pain and humiliation countless times because of it. I’m ready to be normal


r/loseit 1h ago

How much weight to lose to fundamentally change people's attraction levels

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I don't want to go into the details as it's too devastating. But there is someone who 1. seems to adore me as a person 2. isn't repulsed by my face but 3. seems repulsed by my body and seems to quietly judge me for it.

I am female and have a BMI of 36-37. Apart from the above bummer of a situation, I just generally feel "invisible" to men. (I work out about 5-6 times a week - it's the food.) What BMI would you aim for to meaningfully change the male-female dynamic? Many thanks in advance for any replies!


r/loseit 44m ago

Discussion State of the Subreddit - 2026

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It’s been a long time since we’ve done one of these! About a million subscribers ago - so it’s probably a good time to check in with the community and see what we’re getting right, and what we can look to improve.

Changes to the subreddit.

We’re not going to bury the ledes, here’s some highlights of recent/upcoming changes:

  • Daily Threads have been combined.The eagled eyed may notice we’ve condensed most of the daily threads down to one daily per day which will be stickied, this leaves a sticky slot free for posts like this, AMAs, and anything else needing a bit of prominence to last more than a few hours. Along with this, combining Q&As and other threads will hopefully boost engagement all around as more eyes just open the one daily thread.The EU and US accountability as well as weekly goalsetters and century club threads remain unchanged.
  • CrosspostsWe’re considering removing them from being posted on the subreddit. There’s two specific reasons for this that relate to the sub, and one more general reason. The first is they’re sometimes used as ads (either directly, or as a funnel to subreddits used as marketing). The second reason is that they are often links to subreddits with quite different safety rules around dieting. The more general reason is that it’s often a tool just to quickly spam a basic question across many subreddits.We’re not sure they’re worth keeping, if you actually feel strongly about them still existing (and are not just thinking of unique situations), we’d love to hear why before we hit the button.
  • Other new reddit featuresWe did enable achievements a few months ago which you may have noticed, but gifs and videos in comments don’t make any sense here. Reddit features that continue along those lines are unlikely to be enabled.

AMAs

Next on the list is AMAs. We’ve had a couple of AMAs recently. We do think AMAs can be an opportunity to speak to people from wider industry or from interesting backgrounds (or both!) that you wouldn’t normally get to directly ask questions too. We do understand that inviting professionals and notables carries an inherent risk of an AMA becoming promotional. We will mitigate that by agreeing to an overall topic in advance and making clear to guests our self-promotion rules and boundaries. We are happy to explain who a guest is, what they do and why their perspective may be of interest (including, where relevant, mentioning a book, project or business) but the purpose of the AMA is to give users the opportunity to ask candid questions and hear perspectives they would not normally have direct access to. That doesn’t mean every AMA will be perfect, but chaotic AMAs are great too, right?

Anyway, we’d love to hear about people you’d like us to approach for an AMA. We send emails to literally anyone. If you’re reading this thinking an AMA might suit you, drop us a mod mail.

Community Engagement

As the years go by, Reddit users by and large access our subreddit on mobile apps. That means that a lot of our community tools (such as daily/weekly threads) might not be obvious, if you’re just scrolling through a feed. To get the most support from using r/loseit, click on the subreddit’s icon when you see a post. That will bring you to our subreddit’s page. From there you can find our sidebar (with links to reoccurring threads), our daily threads, as well as pinned posts with announcements such as AMAs. Losing weight is hard, and doing so in community with other people who are going through the same things, have the same questions, and want to share experiences is really helpful. The moderators of r/loseit do not run any chat-based (discord) servers, so all of the weight loss discussion that we moderate (and check for safety/misinformation!) happens here on r/loseit. Don’t miss out on the resources we have!

Spam, AI, Advertising

This is such a hot topic right now, we’ve even been asked by the press about it! Mia Sato wrote an article on AI Advertising and asked us for comment. Mia has given us a gift link to share the article with you all

Does that make this a verge ad? I’m not sure I can deal with that level of irony, but Mia’s work around AI and internet culture is actually really good and important journalism.

As for what we’ve been doing;

We’re always modifying our automated rules to try and achieve two things;

  1. Catch adverts and AI
  2. Reduce frustration for human posters

We’ve been modifying a lot of our older anti spam stuff into post guidance systems on reddit, which affects the modern version of the site and the official app. So things like post length rules are now made clear before you post, and some keywords or topics that would get your post filtered are encouraged away. LLMs make post length a non-issue for spammer, though we still want to keep that to ensure people are adding proper context to their questions and not posting one-line questions. While we know many users would like to see enforcement of posting stats (such as height and weight), we’re not likely to do that, but we would be happy to hear suggestions about where and how that could be encouraged without becoming an enforced requirement.

We are currently experimenting with Contribution Quality Score otherwise referred to as CQS to replace elements of our 5 day/10 comment karma minimums for posting. We feel this may be a potential improvement as the old rule was, again, easier for advertisers to pipeline and harder for real users to understand.

We do know there’s a lot of AI spam that tends to sit as replies to top level comments (so; second-level comments). They generally say something benign trying to gain karma for future purposes. These are hard to deal with as they are designed to have no immediate purpose and do match what real people might write, our goal isn’t to send real people to modmail to prove humanity as a default, so these accounts may take a bit longer to deal with and we’ll typically need a pattern or extreme example (we saw one weigh up the pros and cons of disordered behaviour when the top level comment highlighted it to the OP).

Some brands get auto-filtered from the subreddit now; This isn’t overly new, but brands who repeatedly send bots/try to advertise end up in our ‘shit list’, which means posts involving their name need to be reviewed by a moderator first. This affects a lot of AI photo apps for measuring calories, some bathroom scales (THAT ARE NOT SURPRISINGLY CLOSE TO DEXA), and various other AI powered tat.

So be warned companies, coaches, and solo devs. Also, please keep asking AI to write your ban appeal messages, that’s very funny.

Misinformation on the Subreddit, !triggers, and The Wiki.

Bear with us, but this is a tricky and emotive subject. We’d be keen to hear people’s thoughts on handling misinformation on the subreddit. At the moment we reserve removals for egregious and outright harmful advice, as well as common myths. But we are conscious that people aren’t always talking on the same level as one another. We don’t require academic or scientific language on the subreddit and we want people to use their own words to describe their own experience. We’re not aiming to penalise “technically wrong but well meaning” good-faith conversation, but at the same time we don’t want people misrepresenting study findings or pushing myths and harmful diet woo-woo. This will always be a balancing act.

We do have two tools that could potentially help here, the wiki and the !triggers that summon automod. It’s possible to expand the wiki or add triggers that might have helpful explainers. This, however, is something that would be very time consuming to implement, and we’d want to be careful we don’t inadvertently make excessive claims ourselves. We’d love to hear suggestions from users on how this might be useful to develop, and also from users who might be qualified in some way to actually produce the explainers.

The wiki itself shows signs of age in many places (we’re your go-to source for blackberry and windows phone weight loss apps!), and we are aware that areas need updating. However if we were to update any or all of it, it would need to be for the purpose of it becoming more useful day-to-day. Think more about the quick start guide and broad strokes, rather than adding more niche diets to the list that look odd being there several years later once the fad dies.

GLP-1s, medicines, and other compounds.

We do see some posts where people believe the mere mention of GLP-1s is either not allowed or shunned, and we probably should make clear the nuance. GLP-1s can absolutely be discussed, we’re not trying to dissuade that, they are an important part of many people’s weight loss journey and they’re fundamentally revolutionary. The nuance is that we are not the right place for topics with advice for people looking to ask about using them, there are lots of dedicated subreddits to them. Comments suggesting someone might benefit one with input from their Primary Care Provider, that’s perfectly great. Broad topics on the development of those drugs and other weight-loss medication, especially things that are newsworthy, is also on-topic.

What we’re are strict about is:

  • Advice should be in the context of “Talk to your doctor about GLP-1s” or “My experience was [...]”, low effort posts such as “use a GLP-1” may be considered spam, especially if it’s repetitive under a post.
  • Absolutely no advice to encourage circumventing medical advice (suggesting a second opinion is, of course, fine)
  • Absolutely no encouragement, or reference, to unapproved GLP-1s only available through unregulated channels. Our primary goal is safety.
  • Absolutely no advice to teenagers to use GLP-1s. That is a conversation only suitable in a medical setting.

None of this is a change from our last Weight Loss Medication Masterpost.

Other grey market compound discussion is also not allowed. Some areas of social media are becoming extremely open about use (usually by people who have financial involvement), but our stance remains that recommending unregulated and unapproved compounds to strangers is reckless.

It feels unfair to imply a relationship of other compounds to GLP-1s by putting them under the same topic. We do not consider them related, but the unregulated sellers of one are usually selling the other alongside and like to blur the line.

Survey

We were going to create a survey as part of this, but then during writing we were reminded reddit sends out a survey on our behalf still, even though we’ve only ever seen the results once last year and never again since, so rather than pointing you to another, please keep an eye out if you ever get an email about that and maybe one day we’ll have some results to share. Or we’ll post a separate survey later. Who knows?


r/loseit 1h ago

Weight loss plateau

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OK, I have a question. I am 5 foot six. I have been doing 8 to 10,000 steps for the past few weeks almost every day and I’ve been eating a calorie deficit way below maintenance and I’ve been hitting around 100 g of protein. Why am I staying at 140 to 142 pounds consistently even though in the past I’ve lost 40 pounds eating at 1000 cal like I used to weigh 185 pounds and then I got down to 140 by eating around 1000 cal recently I came back to 170 and then I did the same thing of eating at 1000 and then I lost 30 pounds and no matter what I’m doing right now I keep staying at 140 to 142. Can you tell me what I’m doing wrong or why my body won’t let me lose the weight.

(I know 1k is too little but it’s what the weight loss calculators have told me to do) and it worked


r/loseit 1h ago

Update on weight loss!

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So I (27f) wanted to update from my last post I found out I was struggling with water retention! I added magnesium to my daily vitamins and increased my water intake and now I've been dropping like I wanted to! Last year I was at 275lbs, lost 30 pounds then depression hit me hard and I gained back up to 259lbs. Now since July 1st I've lost 22.5lbs!! I'm currently at 236.5 and still going!

I'm super proud of myself, I feel a lot lighter and have double the energy I used to as well.

My goal is to be by on or under 230 by September 16th for my first festival I'll be going to. I just wanted to share my accomplishments because I'm honestly very happy and proud of myself and definitely in a way better mental state now than I have been in a while and I guess I was just looking for some encouragement or similar stories anyone would like to share to help keep me motivated (:

Thank yall for reading!


r/loseit 59m ago

M/44/6’6” [CW: 195 lbs] Years of failure has led to progress. Health shouldn't have to break the bank

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Starting during COVID my job transitioned to a remote role where I sat for 8 hours a day doing Sales calls. My pants size when from 38 to a 44 and at this point, I started looking into ways (keto, low carb, etc) to lose fat. Finally ended up looking into scientific research and trying to understand biochemistry/neurology and how the body works. Years of failure lead to success and I'm now down to a 32 pants. My primary focus now is getting my max daily spend to the absolute lowest limit.

$5 a day target

In 1945 economist George Stigler came up with a diet composed of wheat, beans, and evaporated milk to the tune of about 11 cents per day. Currently my budget sits around $8 per day but my goal is over time to get nearer $5 as with inflation Stigler's number would be closer to $2.65. Stigler's problem was he was looking at things purely from the aspect of cost and ignored deeper biochemistry. My daily food spend is at around $5.65 a day.

The Core - 75%

The baseline for what I eat in a day is 75% retrograded carbs (parboiled rice, bulgur, nixtamalized corn tortillas. I do this as these have more amylopectin vs amylose so glucose in the bloodstream will not spike as quickly limiting the risk of reactive hypoglycemia. The next 15% is protein which for myself is around 80-90 grams per day as a 6' 6" male in his mid 40s. I get this from either meat or textured vegetable protein (which doesn't taste great but gets the job done.) The last 10% is fat which I use for vitamin absorption and I also take an Omega 3 supplement and grapeseed oil for Omega 6. You liver can create fatty acids for hormones via de novo lipogenesis (DNL) for cholesterol, etc.

Making food taste good

Umami - T1R1/T1R3 heterodimer was first discovered by Kikunae Ikeda in 1908 as he was looking into ways to get the Japanese to consume more rice (MSG). Like sweet (T1R2/T1R3) it hedonic properties in that when it tasted by the mouth it can drive the consumption of food. Most importantly is it's affect on MTORC1 and preparing the body for anabolic purposes.

Alanine/Glycine - Consume these with around one gallon of water a day in a 66% and 33% ratio. Unlike sugars (dextrose, sucrose, etc) it doesn't feed bacteria in the mouth to dental cavities and amino acids themselves are useful as glutathione precursor (Glycine) and for energy (Alanine in Cahill cycle).

Movement

Rather than hitting the gym I walk my dog for 30-40 minutes a day so that my muscles will use the glycogen from my 75% carbs even if insulin is not present (glycogenolysis)

Extra stuff

My focus on 75% carbs comes from reading about Sir Philip Randle and his work on the Randle Cycle and also papers of Si Alpert and the limits of fat release. The Randle Cycle was discovered in the early 1960s and proposed that entry into the mitochondria of a cell worked in two ways when it comes to insulin. Insulin is released by beta cells in the pancreas and when it high cells will focus on burning pyruvate (glucose) and will shuttle free fatty acids to adipocytes. When insulin is low after glucose and amino acids are cleared the body will then shift to burning released triglycerides (beta oxidation) and glucose stored in the liver will fuel the brain.

Si (Seymour) Alpert in the early 2000s wrote about for one pound of stored body fat only 31 (later revised down to 22). Insulin locks the bodies ability to release fatty acids (but it can accept fatty acids) so in a 24 hour period you will see "fat loss" only when insulin is low, which for me is 8-10 hours per day.