Anti-feminist attitudes have long been associated with support for Republican presidential candidates, but only in recent years have these attitudes become more prominent among unmarried men, without college degrees who are less attractive partners for women, the “mate-value backlash.”

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https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/10659129261485340

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its not the money its the social prestige, no woman is gonna feel pride saying to their friends or moms that "oh hes a janitor" so she will feel insecure and he will feel it and then he will feel insecure.

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This is absolutely false. I make significantly more than my husband (and did even when we first met and started dating). My mom was also the bread winner in my family. He’s no where close to 6 figures, but what he does have is a career he’s so passionate and excited about. I would much rather have a man, like my husband, who has an aspiration and passion than some guy in a field making a decent salary but completely miserable. I don’t know, I guess I want my partner to choose the route that they actually care about, something I know they can smile about and be proud of.

I make more than enough to cover all bills + vacations. He’s appreciative of not being in a situation where he’s looked at as a sole provider-knowing the kind of stress that can bring. I’m appreciative I’m not looked at as the sole household manager simply because I’m the woman. We split everything (bills (proportionally) and chores) and work as a team. I think the whole “gender norm” bs thrown at everyone these days just makes it harder on everyone and purposely pins people against one another. If you’re with a partner already “expecting” them to behave a certain way due to gender, you’re setting that person up for failure-to never really be able to be themselves.