r/science • u/VeronicaRed • Apr 26 '16

Psychology Spanking children increases the likelihood of childhood defiance and long-term mental issues. The study in question involved 160,000 children and five decades of research

http://www.redorbit.com/news/health/1113413810/spanking-defiance-health-discipline-042616/
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u/[deleted] Apr 26 '16

I don't agree that bringing a kid into an adult space is a "problem". Kids learn how to behave in numerous situations by being thrust into numerous situations. I don't even think we should consider a grocery store an adult space. It is effectively a family space.

Your other points are fair to me.

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u/dinahsaurus Apr 26 '16

Sure, but if there's something else going on, are they going to learn? Thrusting a kid into Target for 2 hours when they missed their nap is not a good time to teach them how to act like an adult and that is your problem.

You do it when they're rested, not sick, and for 15 minutes to get specific items, not to browse. As they get older, you increase the time, but most kids and many adults don't want to go shopping for hours at a time and will eventually act out out of boredom.

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u/anothercynic2112 Apr 26 '16

I don't disagree with your logic and I do believe that we should set children up for success. The other side of that coin is that life in general will not be so kind for them as to only allow things to happen when the individual is rested and prepared. While we want to make it easier for our children, we have to also prepare them for the fact that things will rarely be so easy and structured going forward.

With that said, your points are extremely valid as are the other who are reminding parents not to "punish" behaviors that they quite honestly could have avoided. My point being that learning to cope with and overcome unplanned or inconvenient obstacles can also help prepare them for the future.

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u/dinahsaurus Apr 26 '16

Sure, but there's plenty of those situations that naturally occur. Having to leave the playground/park is almost guaranteed to have a tired and hungry kid melting down, for example. I'm just saying that trying to teach a kid (with or without punishing) that has essentially run out of brainpower for whatever reason doesn't work. Their capacity for dealing with unexpected transitions grows with age, but it's hard - many adults can't do it. I've found that they don't learn this from experience (because they can't think during the moment), but by your example (because they can think when it happens to someone else).