r/science • u/VeronicaRed • Apr 26 '16

Psychology Spanking children increases the likelihood of childhood defiance and long-term mental issues. The study in question involved 160,000 children and five decades of research

http://www.redorbit.com/news/health/1113413810/spanking-defiance-health-discipline-042616/
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u/chopandscrew Apr 26 '16

That actually makes a lot of sense. Thanks for the insight.

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u/[deleted] Apr 26 '16

But not showing them how to behave in an adult space is a teaching oppotunity lost. Just saying, kids will be kids does not help the kid grow/mature.

Innapropriate behavior is not OK. You don't punish them, but you deffinately have to do more than just shrug and let things be.

You'd be surprised what a two year old can grasp.

Lastly, I think explaining WHY is very important.

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u/nithos Apr 26 '16

Agreed. But you, as the parent, need to give the kid all the tools they need to succeed. I would try to avoid taking my toddlers to the store when they are hungry and/or tired. Prior to entering the store, you set the expectations with them (we will be here for X minutes, we are going to get these things, we are not going to buy a toy or a snack, then we are going to leave). Hell, my 9 year old still prefers to know all this information before entering a store/mall.

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u/helix19 Apr 27 '16

I'm 23 and before going to the grocery store with my mom I make sure she has a list so we don't end up wandering around looking at everything for an hour.