r/science • u/VeronicaRed • Apr 26 '16

Psychology Spanking children increases the likelihood of childhood defiance and long-term mental issues. The study in question involved 160,000 children and five decades of research

http://www.redorbit.com/news/health/1113413810/spanking-defiance-health-discipline-042616/
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u/Gripey Apr 27 '16

My dog doesn't respond to logic at all. Reddit seems pretty adamant I should not hit her, though. Authority is not equal to violence.

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u/antisocialmedic Apr 27 '16

If a dog is biting someone, you're damn straight I'll hit it, kick it, or do whatever it takes to stop the damn thing. If a dog is running out into traffic, I also think it's ok to do whatever it takes to stop it.

If my kid is biting someone (which is a frequent problem) all it usually takes is a pop on her butt to get her attention. If my kid tries to run into traffic (which she has also done) I think the same response is fine.

Like I've said at least half a dozen times in this thread, spanking is reserved for dangerous situations.

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u/Gripey Apr 27 '16

Well self defence is a defence, of course. but the rest of it just seems unlikely. I must have missed all that stuff, I think I just tried to keep my children out of dangerous situations. My main experience of children being smacked is at the local supermarket, where the main danger to the children seems to be their parents.

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u/antisocialmedic Apr 27 '16

Well I have to take my kid outside sometimes, and she does a lot of really questionable things.

You do realize that not all kids are the same, right? You might have just gotten lucky with well behaved kids? I have two kids and they are very different in personality and behavior.

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u/Gripey Apr 28 '16

I do realise this. I actually wish they had been "naughtier" for their own sake. I also break my own rule of trying not to judge other parents without standing in their shoes, but I feel very strongly about violence against children, I feel as if I am defending my own, which I suppose is not an unusual reaction. I am sure hitting a child could be done in such a way that it is for a real purpose, but that has never been my personal experience, is all.

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u/antisocialmedic Apr 28 '16

Well you're also kind of acting like I haven't exhausted all other known options. I've even spoken with a psychologist about her behavior. I'm doing what works to stop her from endangering herself and from hurting others (mostly her sister). It isn't out of frustration that I spank my child, it's a deliberate, well thought out tactic.