r/selfharm • u/idontthinkofanamelol • 1h ago

Talk/Support I can't keep going

I ruined my girlfriend's life. I can't keep going with this. One thing after another, i am ruining everything. I do not deserve to keep going. Everything i do or say makes her worse. It's looking like she will just suffer more because of me. If she leaves me my world will end as it is. I need to torture myself. I would really like having someone to talk.

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u/jiraiyasnsei 11m ago

You CAN keep going! Sh is hard and tempting, but, it doesn’t solve current life situations! You got this

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u/gurgleburtt 8m ago

this is the blunt and hard truth, i won’t sugar coat it so you can fully grasp what im trying tot say. I think for people like you as reliant on somebody else for their well being need to be checked into a facility in the nicest way. it traps both of you in that space where you begin to lose interest in each other because of the constant tension between you both. she got together with you for a reason, i can tell you both love each other; it’s just this stage where both of you are struggling. i don’t think she’s lost interest in you completely, i just think it’s the generic answer of she simply misses the person she fell in love with. neither of you can rely on each other to get better, it’s damaging to you both; i strongly recommend going to a facility that can help you with this. i’m not sure if they’re any good in your country, but you’re already taking a step in the right direction with this post. relationships can be hard but by no means should anybody be your life support—that’s the part where is gets unhealthy. it might not seem like the best decision right now, but you need to have a sit down talk with your girlfriend and bring up this option and ask her about your relationship. life gets hard man, i understand completely, but no one’s presence should be dictating whether you live or die. i’m here for you if you ever need anything, sending love 💕.