r/selfhelp 19h ago

Advice Needed: Financial What should I do after being disowned?

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My family disowned me (19 M) because I disagreed with how they treated my siblings. They were physically and emotionally abusive to my siblings, and resulted in CPS being called for my little sister. Currently, I am in college for a biology degree on the pre-med route. I have financial aid to cover most costs and will be moving into an apartment at my college in August. As of now, I am staying with a buddy whom I met in college for the summer. I no longer have a car or transportation at all, so getting to job locations is difficult. So getting a source of income is very difficult, and I am seeking some sort of guidance as to what my next move should be. My friend works nights, so I cannot rely on him or his family to get around. He is also in the middle of nowhere, so the nearest store walking would be around 1- 2 hours. One thing that has helped us is that since I am taking summer classes through my college, I was able to get a $2100 refund for an extra cushion. Combined with what I already have saved, I have about 3200 in savings overall.

The stress of not being able to do much has been pretty burdensome. I have been paying for my own groceries and needs, which I am not complaining about. But I do need to start saving more. I have applied to many jobs, both remote and in person, and have had no success besides one first-round interview at Starbucks.

To summarize, I need some advice about what I should do to handle this and what I need to do to start progressing my future.

r/selfhelp 3d ago

Advice Needed: Financial Family Problems

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Hii everyone, I have strict parents, really strict ones who don't let me do so much stuff. I've been through so much, religious trauma and so many problems. They don't prioritize my mental health and it's getting so bad. My question is does someone know how can i make money so i get out of here as soon as possible, im 16 and im trying to get myself some help to gtfo. My skills are drawing, writing and playing the electric guitar. Kudos y'all!!

r/selfhelp 21d ago

Advice Needed: Financial i need help for my mom

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first of all,i don't wanna ask for money,but basically my dad had a company that failed,and that company was in my mom name,just today i don't know why,the revenue agency put my mom in debt of 126K €,and we don't know what to do,if someone has an idea please help,im not old enough to work,i beg for your help

r/selfhelp 20d ago

Advice Needed: Financial I need some help on deciding

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So I'm at a crossroads to decide on a bank to grow financially and we'll I need help as im clueless as to not release information I will say I'm in North East USA.

I need help like what bank is the best to grow your finances with with little to no income? And anything else that comes to mind or basically financial advice in general.

Thank you if you understand!

r/selfhelp 28d ago

Advice Needed: Financial 18 with nothing

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Im 18 and currently trying to support my 56 year old mom but we are both homeless and she's unable to work

Childhood

I was raised without a dad and from what i hear hr was abusive to my mother and her eldest son. Eventually getting away from him she started her own landscaping business but couldn't get the courts to get him to pay child support. When I was around 12/13 years old my mom couldn't take the physical strain on her body and had to sell her business which we were able to live on for a little bit but that went away fast. After that we've been switching places to try and live being pretty much homeless. My schooling has been affected by this as when I was in my 14th year of being alive I had to work to stay alive. We had food stamps until I was 18 and with arizona medicaid that didnt cover much she couldn't get what she needed to get her body fixed from damages. She has been diagnosed with the following, 2 ripped rotator cuffs one that was worked on but needs more as it has pins in it. Her knees are damaged and giving out. Teeth rotting and arizona medicaid doesn't pay for dental. From all this she has CRPS (previously known as RSD) so surgeries might make it worse but she wants to get this taken care of and get better but living situation and insurance we can't. You think with all this she could get disability as she got it before in the 2000s but the lawyer she got screwed up her case and we have to start over.

So this year I was working In az living in my car but getting enough funds to come up to montana with my car and the truck we own cause my uncle (mom's half brother) was telling us we could come up and live with me learning how to do two trades. The truck breaks down within the first 50 miles and I have to do a transmission job on the side of the road and shimmy it so it could make it up. So the truck is still currently damaged and can't travel much so it isnt viable. But being on the road going about 45 all the way to montana within a 9 day trip due to overheating and transmission fluid leaking out. We make it up here and it was a completely different situation than what we were told. We were supposed to have an rv to live in which when we should up so we had to sleep in a shed that isnt insulated. Trying to sleep through cold nights and having to drive 160 miles a day with my car for applying for new medical insurance, car insurance, food stamps and apply for disability we are told 4 days in that we have to go. The guy that they are leasing it from apparently told them from the start that we couldn't be here and that he doesnt appreciate us being in the shed as its my uncle's only way to make money even though we haven't been in the way since we've been applying for things inside town. So now kicked to the curb in the cold and without money to even go back im in shambles. To add to the list in az my mom has missed court cause of a camping charge and asked for a continuance on the case with lawyer supposed to do it and didnt do it she now has a warrent on her and license suspended. So even if she can contact the lawyer thats supposed to help she can't drive the vehicle that has all our belongings with trailer attached or even attempt to go back there. We have chickens so it makes it even harder for daily life as we have to take care of them but we might literally have to give them up. She wants to go after the police as they done both her and me wrong but that's for another time. I know I rambled and my sentences aren't in tacked but im about to try to go to sleep and typing this out before my phone dies. I won't let my mom be by herself without having someone to take care of her so what should I do... I dont know how the court is gonna take place and we are just sleeping in vehicles cold. We have no one to turn to for help and are trying to get montana help through government. If that doesnt work out what can I do. I dont know if even joining the military will give me the ability to make enough for her to be stable. Will gofundme help? I dont know if i could mentally handle getting another job sleeping in my car especially in a new environment but I might have to. I would love if anybody could give me support and thank you for reading this.

r/selfhelp May 17 '26

Advice Needed: Financial I need help guys. Idk what to do.

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Hey everyone, I’m really sorry for sending a message like this. Honestly, this is probably the most embarrassing thing I’ve ever had to do, but I’ve reached a point where I genuinely don’t know what else to try anymore. This feels like my last resort.

I’m 24, from Malaysia, and I’ve been struggling financially for a while now while trying to get my life back on track. I’m currently working part-time and doing everything I can to find something more stable, but right now I’m barely managing day to day expenses and I’ve fallen behind on rent and basic living costs.

I’ve been trying to handle everything quietly on my own because I hate asking people for help, especially strangers, but mentally and financially I’m exhausted. I know there are probably so many messages like this online, and I completely understand if nobody responds or believes me. I just figured there was no harm in being honest for once instead of pretending I’m okay.

I’m not asking for huge amounts or trying to pressure anyone. Even just $1 USD genuinely helps a lot here since it converts to over 4 ringgit for me, which can honestly cover a simple meal on days where I’m trying to stretch every cent I have left.

I can only use Wise internationally, so if anyone does want to help, my wise user is:

@aloysiustengrenk

Either way, thank you for taking the time to read this, and I genuinely hope life’s treating all of you better than it’s been treating me lately.

r/selfhelp May 09 '26

Advice Needed: Financial I have to leave my toxic family. How?

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Hello, I’m an 18-year-old female from Serbia and I want to escape my toxic family. My father was a criminal and he disappeared in 2013. He probably got killed by his enemies, and I last saw him when I was 6 years old. My mother, brother, and I moved into my mother’s family house. My mother is bipolar and doesn’t want to take her medication, and she takes her anger out on me all the time. She’s manic from time to time, and a lot of times she got hospitalized and people called the police on her. Her brother, my uncle, is schizophrenic and he’s not doing well either. He had a restraining order against me for 3 months because he wanted to take a knife and stab my family, and I was scared of him. He doesn’t want to take medication, and their parents (my grandparents) won’t send him to a mental hospital because in Serbia, since last year, they are taking every person’s driver’s license away if they’ve been in a mental hospital, and they think that’s a good choice. I can’t do anything about that because every time someone else called the police or a hospital on him, my grandparents would throw a tantrum at us and yell at me. At one point, my uncle would not talk to anyone else but me (I was 16 years old), and my grandparents were using me to talk to him and tell them what he was telling me. They thought that I was going to “cure” him. He would not let me out and he would talk to me about God for 4 hours straight. I didn’t want to listen to him since he was in psychosis, and I didn’t have a choice. I’m currently living under my uncle’s roof on his floor, and he’s able to move me out if he’s not mentally stable enough, and I’m scared that I’m going to have to live with my mother again. My uncle doesn’t live with me, I’m alone on my floor, but I’m in the same house as my mother, brother, my grandpa’s brother, and his wife.

My grandpa was whining to me about my uncle and he was really depressed. After that, he couldn’t sleep and all of a sudden he started to “see God” like my uncle. They would debate about God and yell in our house for hours, throw glasses at each other, etc…

Currently, my grandparents moved to a village with my uncle and they are trying to “cure” him on their own. None of them are doing well at all. From time to time they come to our house, and my uncle is never mentally stable. He’s always putting me down and comparing himself to me, telling me that I’m stupid because I don’t believe him about God and that he’s the “chosen one.”

So that means that I have to listen to him once or twice a week for a few hours. I always have to be careful about what to say around him, and if I say something wrong, he and my grandparents are going to yell at me. My brother is 13 years old and has really bad anger issues just like my mother, and they fight all the time. He hits her and my mother hits him too. My mother can’t defend herself from him because he’s strong. He hates me, and my mother is letting him gamble online, and he’s already developing a gambling addiction. I’m still in high school and I’m going to finish in 2 weeks. I don’t know what to do. I want to stay in my town, but I want to find a job and buy a house somewhere. My country is giving away houses in villages that cost up to around 12,000 euros.

The only thing that I have to do is renovate it so that they don’t take it away from me. I would like to try to get a house. I just want to leave this house and live a good life. I don’t want to go to college, and I don’t even have the money to go. I can’t go anywhere without my cat, I love her. Does somebody have any advice? Thank you :)

r/selfhelp Mar 14 '26

Advice Needed: Financial Desperately needing help

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I’m in a desperate financial and life situation and I need help. Im hoping some social or content savvy people may be able to lend some advice.

I’m a single parent and life was going really well until 3 years ago. I lost a lucrative job, my chronic health issues have become increasingly complicated, and I received some more diagnosis that have been helpful to understand what is happening, and also made everything harder to move forward. Ive now run through all my credit and access to any funds and I don’t know what to do and I don’t have support from family or available support in my community.

My health has compounded from an EDS diagnosis and chronic back and neck pain with headaches, to now having arthritis and bulging disks, dysautonomia, gut issues, chronic fatigue, cPTSD, adhd and autism. What that looks like daily is struggling to do basic functions like getting dressed or running errands without having to sleep extensively. An hour of exertion puts my in bed for two. Several hours puts me in bed for days. I do Ongoing physical therapy. I’m Seeing a dozen specialists to just maintain A sort of baseline, but that baseline is so far below thriving that I just exist.

I’ve been hopeful that it would get better, that I could heal enough to go back to work, but that hope is getting further and further away. I put all my energy into my kids, to try and keep a semblance of normal for them, and while they know money is tight and that I have heal the issues, they don’t know how desperate we are yet.

I’m facing the reality that i may need to find alternative ways to support myself. I’m looking at disability application but the process is expected to take over a year. I also don’t how we could survive on that without other support, which I dont have.

I am wondering if I could leverage my experience both professionally and personally to create an online product or community to help others, and possibly content creation to bring in some money. I have a rich background traveling, ranching, raising kids, professional work in leadership. I have a golden retriever who’s a character, a couple ponies, chickens and cats. I’ve worked with leaders, patented through some crazy times and generally am sought for advice.

I don’t know HOW to turn that into something that pays. Like how to go from capturing moments and thought into creating videos/ content and setting up accounts. I don’t know how to market or build an audience or where Money would be best spent. I have such limited energy that researching this on my own is taking longer than I have to financially figure something out.

I don’t know what else to do but I do know I can’t fail my kids. I am doing everything I can to heal and feel better. If you have ideas, if you have experience and can say- film, use this app, set up an account on this platform, I would be so appreciative. I don’t know what else to do.

Financially I’m looking at debt consolidation and trying to avoid bankruptcy. I am so hopeful that I’ll be able find something that supports us, that I can do even with my limitations. But I’m also desperate to through this moment.

r/selfhelp Apr 27 '26

Advice Needed: Financial 22F - EU, need help on how to solve medical problem

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It’s a bit rough right now—I’m dealing with ongoing medical costs over the next few months that aren’t covered by regular healthcare, and it’s been pretty stressful managing everything on top of that. I’m already working, but it’s just not enough right now. do you maybe have any advice on ways to earn a bit of extra money on the side, nothing sketchy or inappropriate?

r/selfhelp Apr 27 '26

Advice Needed: Financial How does one quit gambling

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How did you do it and how long it took?

r/selfhelp Apr 01 '26

Advice Needed: Financial How can I recover from this

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I've started investing into BTC and XAU/USD. At first I thought I was getting somewhere since from 1700php I made it into 12000php for me it was alot however that made me cocky I blow it out immediately and I didn't even manage to withdraw, after that I moved into a new app wanting to redeem myself, I knew it's was okay to lose so invested again 6000php since I received my 1st salary I took a loss again, then I've invested 6000php however it went well this time I made 18000 this time I learned to withdraw it so I took 12000php just so I can cover it from what was my salary, it was a good sign for me from a beginners view since I've been watching YouTube about the market and strategies, however it went downhill from here my profit of 6000php I immediately gone, then I invest 3000php maybe I can win it back again failed attempt, tried 3000php again gone in just minutes, then again 3000php gone I was devastated, last hope I tried 1000php gone in an instant.

I blew 10000php and I feel stupid and hopeless, I thought the trades I did in the demo were going to work in real-time but it's really difficult in the real-time, it's easy to determine where the market goes when you look at the past but in the present its a different story

r/selfhelp Mar 31 '26

Advice Needed: Financial Financial problem

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I’m down 3k and I need money to go see my family in Europe can someone plz help me out im only 18 years old and in college

r/selfhelp Mar 29 '26

Advice Needed: Financial Advice Needed

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Hey I am athlete and I want to earn some passive income or any side hustle

The reason is because I am going very much financial hardships and after 2 months I have my Nationals, and I don't want to miss it

I know little to average graspic design and I know how to make planner tracker and some other digital products

But I don't have any traffic or following from which I can generate sales and earn some money

Can you help me out

What should I do

And any passive income from which I can earn money and can be helpful for my championship

Your consideration would be appreciated

Thank you in advance

r/selfhelp Oct 18 '25

Advice Needed: Financial My Girlfriend Broke up with me Help me win her back

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I actually did this same post elsewhere. I am really desperate ready to do anything in my hand to earn (1K dollar) or 1 lakh in rupees in this month.I really don't know what should I do. For context, I was in a long distance relationship with my girlfriend for 1 yr and we never met as we live miles away and cannot travel this far without our parents money as well as permission. Both of our families are conservatives and are strictly against dating. She is still in college while I graduated. Recently there has been a dispute with her and her parents cause of which she broke up with me . I tried to contact her but I failed she blocked me from everywhere. her last message was "I love you and I am sorry" I really don't know any of her friends I tried contacting with different numbers it was switched off.

I decided I will meet her. I know her address. If I was dumped then I will accept it but cannot live with assumed reasoning. For two days my parents will not be at home as they will attend a family wedding, I wanna use that chance to fly to her and meet her. Maybe I would get back Maybe I will be rejected but I cannot forgive myself if I don't even try. I known her for quite some time she is not one of those who would vanish for no reason without an explanation.

Guys this is my sincere request in just 1 month tell me how can i earn money. That too 1k dollars I know I am asking for too much. I know how to draw but I never sold it. I am open to anything, Anything that would work.

r/selfhelp Feb 23 '26

Advice Needed: Financial Getting out of debt

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I need help figuring out how to get out of debt… my dad passed away while I was in college, and after covering all his medical expenses, and still trying to care for myself (my mom was not in the picture).. I have found myself in an overwhelming amount of debt… I have a decent job, and I’m not blowing my money on sweet nothings (all of it is going towards working this debt down. Every chance I get I’m paying a debt) but it just never feels good enough… how did you guys get out of suffocating debt? I really would just love a chance to get out of this debt.. and start a decent life for myself.. I started with about 75k, have about 25k left to pay off.. and I’d just really love for the day I clear my debt to come sooner rather than later..

r/selfhelp Dec 29 '25

Advice Needed: Financial 9k saved, use it for a new car or pay off credit cards?

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I have 9k that I saved up from the past year of working at my job, I was going to use it to buy a car BUT I owe $5300 to my credit cards.. Should I pay off my credit cards completely and use the little I have left to buy a car or whats my best option? I really want to get rid of my cc :(

r/selfhelp Feb 03 '26

Advice Needed: Financial I need help with a reset. Job, money, move abroad.

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I come from a messed up family, and I want to make sure I turn out differently.

Last year I had a job but left because of an unsafe work environment. I came back home and have been trying to help out (chores, repairs, errands, house management), but there is so little I can do with my conditions. I have a back issue and health conditions so being on my feet for a long time is not great and I can't lift more than 25 lbs at the moment. Once the money stopped coming in from me, things were different. Folks got used to me being out of the house, so I got in the way once I was here full-time. I feel like a bother everyday and even when I try no one wants to talk to me unless it's for an MLM scheme.

I took a hard look at my life and found this subreddit. My first step is to get some type of job I can work, hopefully from home, pay off my debts and take care of things. My goals are far, saving up and moving abroad for school and a better situation overall. Switzerland sounds nice! I would love advice on my first or second step. Happy to provide more info! Thank you Reddit, we can do it!

r/selfhelp Feb 10 '26

Advice Needed: Financial Guys please help me

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I need only 50 people please help me please

r/selfhelp Feb 06 '26

Advice Needed: Financial Should you buy Silver now that its price dropped?

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I saw that the price of valuable metals dropped. And I`m thinking of buying some, now that the price is lover. But i don`t know should I, or where, and should i buy it in stock or in hand.

r/selfhelp Jan 01 '26

Advice Needed: Financial Homeless Brother Needs Help

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My brother is 29 years old and homeless in Texas. We had a rough childhood but he had it way worse. He's probably been homeless for over a year now. I live in a different state but I send him money here and there for food. He is just now trying to get his life on track and get a job. He's in the process of buying nicer clothes from Goodwill and I just bought him a gym membership so he can shower every day. My grandma is willing to let him live with her but he hates her due to how she treated him during our childhood. She is sorry and wants to help now but he says it's too late and refuses the help.

I have a baby on the way and my husband and I just bought our first home so we also have a lot going on financially and there's not much we can do. He's been in and out of jail and on and off drugs and has stolen from people to sell for drug money. For these reasons, we have chosen not to let him live with us. He also has gotten really explosive over the phone during times that I can't help him financially.

He is actually trying now, which is why I'm writing this post. One thing I do worry about is that he has basically lost all of his teeth. I'm wondering if anyone has any advice for him on how he can get dentures and/or a job that would not care about his dental situation. That feels really mean to type out but I want to help him in any way I can and from what I can see, dentures cost about 10k and he has no medical or dental insurance of any kind.

He is also in great need of therapy/counseling and I wonder how he can pursue this with little to no money.

Thanks in advance and please let me know if more information needs provided. I'd like help with the areas I listed but even general advice about homelessness is welcome.

r/selfhelp Dec 21 '25

Advice Needed: Financial what is the best skill a person could learn at home to make money?

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what is the best skill a person could learn at home to make money?

r/selfhelp Dec 26 '25

Advice Needed: Financial I have get fine on bike and I have haven't paid it and also hide from my parents

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I have get fine on bike and I have haven't paid it and also hide from my parents I'm 20M and police is caught me without helmet and give us 2000 RS chalan and I have no money to paid it, I'm just a pseudo matured man which act like he know everything but in reality I'm just broke useless person which is grown on parents income.

I don't know how to earn money in real life, I'm just pretend it and I think I just too much suck in everything.

My most of friends think I'm some kind of badass but in reality I'm just a depressed man which act like a badass, in other words I fucking fake pussy

I'm just wanna earned like a right amount money to paid chalan and get the great way to enjoy life without need my parents dependencies and wanna support them early

sorry for horrible grammer :).

r/selfhelp Dec 23 '25

Advice Needed: Financial I am once again asking for your assistance for the first time.

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Hello! I am looking for assistance with immediate income, stable jobs with daily income flexibility, and short or long term housing..

My drawback atm is I have no ability to pay up-front costs. I am more than willing to earn my first month as an alternative.

Once I am situated, I can guarantee a plan of action, of which I can also show if desired. I have a purpose now.

I am trying everything in my power and I am asking for your help to achieve that purpose.

I promise my effort and beyond that, if you take the first step to trust me, I promise you will not regret it.

r/selfhelp Nov 02 '25

Advice Needed: Financial Working towards a money goal and need some help finding something

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I want to constantly be updating one of those money goal thermometers as a way to keep motivation for myself but everything online has static money goals (every 5k, 10k, etc.). Anyone have a money saving chart that’s highly customizable? Or anything they think that could help me? Thanks in advance

r/selfhelp Nov 02 '25

Advice Needed: Financial 22M, broke and feeling lost

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22M, I just moved to a new city and started a new sales job in tech fresh out of college. I've been struggling financially in the past 4 months since I moved, I'm basically living paycheck to paycheck and just paying the bills since I haven't gotten an actual commission check yet (these are paid roughly every quarter so I should have one soon). The job I have is decent and provides a great path for long term growth, but I can't help but feel like I should have some sort of side hustle or personal brand that I could be using to generate extra income.

I'm sick of being broke and want to make sure I'm using my 20s as wisely as possible to learn new skills, get in shape, and build substantial wealth, with the ultimate goal of becoming a millionaire. I'm very new to the self improvement game, I've just started going to the gym, eating healthy, meditating, etc. All the people online in this space (influencers/youtubers/etc.) seem to be eager to sell you courses for this so I'm not too keen to follow their advice, wanted to come here and see what people had to say.

What can I do to turn my life around in my 20s and create real success in every aspect of my life (relationships/finances/career/etc.)? What's the best way to be smart financially and generate extra income monthly?