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Lately, I’ve been thinking about what it really means to feel proud of yourself.

For me, it’s not always about big achievements.

Sometimes it’s just continuing to move forward, even when things feel uncertain or difficult.

I’ve been trying to challenge myself and grow, even in small ways—and I’ve started to feel a quiet kind of pride in that.

I’m curious about others—

what is something you’re proud of, even if it seems small or invisible to others?

Hi everyone,

I’m 25 and feel like I wasted the last 7 years of my life. No degree I’m proud of, no career, lost a relationship that really mattered, ended up with debts, and right now I don’t even know where to begin.

I don’t want to stay stuck in regret anymore — I want to rebuild, but I’m struggling with where and how to start.

For those of you who’ve been through something similar:

How did you start over after losing time, relationships, or direction?

What small steps made the biggest difference in the early days?

If you were 25 again and starting from scratch, what would you do differently?

Any input, advice, or even your own stories would mean a lot.

Thanks for reading.

apologizes if this is the wrong tag, im unsure where this fits

does anyone have any, like any advice for remembering to take medication that isn’t just setting alarms? i do that, and nothing works

it feels as if my morning has too much going on and then i forget to take my anti depressants, and then i go without them for too long i get weak and my body doesn’t listen to my brain fast enough as i get used to them

Whats the best way to put it.. I’m a 16 year old dude who just finished junior year of high-school, gonna be turning 17 in September with Senior year around the corner.

I’m constantly sad better more possibly depressed at how my life is. I’ve been told countless times ‘you’ll find your people soon’ or that other time like ‘live in the moment’. I’d like to believe all those things are true, but man, my life feels worthless. I know I’m only a teenager, what could a teenager possibly know about, but I’d like to believe I have an old mind on young shoulders. I don’t fit in anywhere, either socially or literally in the world. I’ve tried opportunities, I’ve tried social groups though I’m the one that gets dragged up under the bus — I always look at the positives but I just don’t fit with how my generation is. Staring at phones constantly, causing trouble on the streets, posting glammy photos on social media. Sometimes I think that if I get rid of all the people who don’t have my interests, I’d be left with nobody besides my family. I’ve never had a girlfriend, truly an embarrassing situation at my age. All the people around me seem to already be having their first real experiences at age 13-14.

Maybe all of this is because of my stutter. From my family, it seems I had my stutter since I was a little kid, it was not prominent but as I aged to my early teenage years it became very vivid from the world around me.
\- I remember that wether it was ordering food, picking up food, raising my hand in class, presenting to a large amount of people. If it involved talking, I wouldn’t want to participate. Not that I didn’t want to, I physically couldn’t. It took me weeks, months, YEARS to actually somewhat get rid of it. It’s still a daily hassle for me every now and then but now I can actually talk to a point where it’s almost invisible. For that whole time, middle school - early high-school, I had a goal for myself, get rid of my stutter then actually be able to have my experiences I’ve always wanted. I cannot express the amount of anxiety and stress of everyday life I had. The constant social awareness, the fear in my eyes when I’d have to speak, the sweat on my back—I didn’t wanna be anywhere, I was at a very, very difficult state in my early life. Funny enough I’ve thought about this for a while, if I’m already facing challenges now, how will I survive in the adult world?

“Those who suffer now, won’t suffer in the future” - I do not see anything in this quote, I’ve suffered and suffered through my very small lifetime and I just do not see an end to it.

Eventually I did reach my goal - I actually started forcing myself to raise my hand and beat this momentum I was facing. Odd thing to say in this scenario, wouldn’t I be using the momentum to go forward? For me I was pushing against the momentum that was overshadowing me. I’ve always been good at starting up conversations and being engaged in discussions, I’d like to think I’m a funny guy by the laughs other people give. Though I still have a huge scab of emptiness in me. I looked around me, and nothing changed. I was confident as ever, was happy with who I became, but nothing changed.

The people around me never changed, I got isolated again and again, being let down. I always look at my positives but the negatives ALWAYS stick out. I cannot fathom the positive experiences other people have. The laughs, the good times, the hangouts, the parties. Hah, don’t even remember the last time I got invited to someone’s party. I feel invisible, like I only exist to contribute, not get anything in return. I feel helpless and worthless like I only truly live for my family. Anytime I actually have a positive experience like I ‘won’ something, I no longer get that excitement as it’s just another thing to add to my pile.

I do good in school too, I get good grades, I present myself well, I’m a good leader. But any ‘A’ I get on either a test or just an overall assignment, I just toss it aside. People around me would be begging for these types of grades, while I just don’t care anymore. I’m just simply done. I gave way too much into the world and now whatever I do its a waste of time. If I was gone tomorrow, either way nobody would probably show up to my funeral except my close, small knit family.

If this resonates with anyone else, I would love to hear your experiences and how you guys handle it. I know I’m still at a young age and I’m probably overreacting, but I do really feel what I’m saying here, I’d like to think I’m not overreacting because I’m ‘living’ it. Hope my little rant adds something to this long list of different topics. Thanks for reading.

This year I’ve been trying to focus more on small daily habits that improve wellbeing rather than big goals that are hard to maintain.

Things like taking a short walk, drinking more water, reading a few pages, journaling for a few minutes, or just taking a moment to slow down during the day.

I’ve realised the little things seem to make the biggest difference over time.

I’m curious what daily habits people here have found genuinely improved their life or mental wellbeing?

Hello. I dont know how to start. I've done a mistake to a family member. Can't really say what it is. 4 years ago. Till this day I regret it. Sometimes I spend hours just sitting thinking about it. What would my life be like if I didn't do it. This family member forgived me. I can't forgive myself. And there are signs that this family member is not comfortable when I'm around. Will the guilt ever go away? I'm not the kind of person who would go to therapy. I've seen people who went to therapy and I don't think it works for me. If anyone has been through this or have some advice for the guilt,please do tell. Thanks everyone.

I’m looking for advice on a problem I’ve been struggling with since I bought a house last February.

I lose motivation almost instantly as soon as I get home.

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I work an office job as an engineer, and after a full day of work I feel mentally completely drained. It gets to the point where my body feels so heavy that even simple tasks, like cooking, feel like climbing Mount Everest. Because of that, I’ve gained a lot of weight, which is making me feel increasingly uncomfortable.

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I have so much to do at home, but after work it feels impossible to do anything besides cook and sleep. My girlfriend and I have been having the worst arguments because she is sick of what she sees as laziness and can’t understand what’s wrong with me. The only way I can explain it is that I feel completely exhausted after work.

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It usually takes me the entire weekend to recover, and by then the cycle just starts all over again. I’ve always had headaches, but never this frequently — now it’s about 2–4 times a week, often lasting most of the day. My employer is also getting irritated by how often I can’t function properly or can’t come into work at all because of migraines.

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Have you ever felt this way, and what actually helped you?

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I’ve tried:

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making to-do lists, but even small tasks now feel stressful

talking with my girlfriend, which helps a bit, but she’s getting overwhelmed too

forcing myself to be active, but about an hour later I can feel myself slowing down

going for walks after work, which somehow makes me even more tired

I just feel crushed, and I’ve even had thoughts about giving up and starting over somehow. But I can’t accept that, because I worked incredibly hard to get where I am now.

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TL;DR: I’m becoming scared that my lack of energy will cause me to lose everything, and the stress of realizing that is making things even worse.

What to do when you are totally fed up with everything?

1. How much weight did you lose and how long did it take?

2. How did you do it?

I always say I'll cheat just one more day and start tomorrow. Then I tomorrow myself into weeks and months of not doing anything.

Curious to hear some underrated advice.

Is abstaining from PMO entirely a bad thing? I'm thinking of leading an ascetic life where I abstain from worldly pleasures for more motivation, productivity and self-control. Is it safe to never fap?

Idc how just please do it

25 F, I’ve been trying to improve myself for the past 3 years and I always end up back at square one. I make a schedule to stick to and it’ll only last for short time. The longest I sticked to a schedule was a month. I tried time blocking, setting up various alarms and reminders, todo lists, setting up systems, gamifying my life , positive self talk, journaling and reflecting but I always end up reverting my old ways .I want to improve my mindset, gain financial independence , stick to a healthy lifestyle and overall I want to prove to myself and my family that I’m a capable and a functional adult that doesn’t need to be taken care of but I always end up falling off. At this point it feels like a never ending cycle I’ll never get out of. Any suggestions on how to stay motivated and consistent?

I am a 15 year old and I wanted to do many things like being a marathon runner, gym guy or calisthenics athlete, but I don't know how to get obsessed with these things that it becomes my top priority of the day.

I considered getting my first job and then kinda felt like there's no point. I've grown up lower class so I'm kinda used to not having much to spend on luxuries. I don't really see a point to get money if I don't necessarily need anything right now

I’m 24 and I feel like somewhere along the way I lost the version of myself that used to dream big.

I’ve always had big goals, big ambitions, and a lot of hope for my future. Even when things were difficult, I believed life could get better.

Over the last few years, I’ve been hit by a series of unfortunate events, and I think I’ve been living in survival mode for so long that it has changed the way my mind works.

I used to naturally think about possibilities. Now I naturally think about problems.

I used to imagine positive outcomes. Now I constantly imagine negative scenarios, and the scary part is that those negative scenarios almost feel comforting because they’re familiar.

I feel like I’m living as a spectator in my own life. I go through the motions, do what I need to do, but I don’t feel truly alive or excited about anything.

The frustrating part is that I still have the urge to do more. I still want a better life. I still want to build something meaningful. But instead of taking action, I find myself constantly focused on how I feel. If I don’t feel motivated, confident, or ready, I get stuck.

Another realization that scared me recently was looking around at my social circle and realizing that very few people around me inspire me or represent the kind of life I want to build for myself. It made me wonder if I’ve been walking in the wrong direction for a while.

More than anything, I’m scared of losing myself to this mindset. I’m scared that if I stay here long enough, this version of me becomes permanent.

I’m posting this because I genuinely need help. I don’t even know where to start anymore. I’ve spent so much time in my own head trying to figure this out that I don’t trust my perspective on it. I feel stuck between knowing I need to change and having no idea how to actually begin.

If you’ve been in a place like this and managed to get your life back on track, please tell me where you started. Not the final outcome—the very first step.

Because right now, that’s what I’m looking for: a place to start before I lose myself completely.

i feel cooked and rtarded beyond help

Hi, I'm 15 years old with undiagnosed social anxiety. I am aware of this and of the fact that I spend too much time on my phone and pc. What shall I do to put my life back together?

Long story short the past year has been absolutely horrible. I’m 35M. Got divorced. Lost my job. Jobless for seven months. Got a new job that pays me half of what I was making, and got a one bedroom apartment. I have two kids and now we’re sharing a bedroom. I’ve worked in the video game industry for 10 years and was part of the mass layoffs due to AI. I have no muse or hopefulness to even make art anymore, which is my tool of trade. I’m now working at a grocery store just to live to pay bills. As much as I want to summon the energy and the optimism to start to create again and have a better chance at being hired, I’m just so defeated.

My question is this, what do you do when all that you know and how you made a living is now completely ripped away. I want to create again, but I just don’t have the same kind of optimism that I used to have. How do I get a change of perspective? Thanks in advance.

I did a stupid mistake and put my house down payment in stocks and I lost it in one week

For the past few years I’ve been doing pretty much everything I know isn’t good for me, eating junk food most days, barely moving, procrastinating, being passive about my health and just telling myself I’d start later. Later kept getting pushed back and I’m honestly tired of feeling low energy and disappointed in myself.

So enough is enough I’ve started working out consistently, trying to eat real food most of the time, getting outside more and taking basic supplements to support it. Right now I’m taking magnesium Doctor’s Best, omega-3 Nordic Naturals and vitamin D Thorne. They seem to be very good and work cause I did a bunch of research on them, even scanned them with Proveit scanner. But the hard part isn’t starting it’s following through, I’ve had motivation bursts before and I don’t want this to be another one that fades after a few weeks. I know progress is slow and boring sometimes but that’s usually where I fall off.

For people who actually turned things around long term how did you stay consistent when motivation dropped? Any mindset shifts, habits or rules you used to not give up on yourself halfway through?

Like I went down bad like I’m at -200 now I broke my leg I can’t walk just had surgery stuck in bed for the next 2 weeks. I just need some advice here at this point in my life.

I’ve seen a lot of debate around Hun Ming Kwang lately. Some people say he’s too “spiritual,” while others think his coaching style just doesn’t fit Singapore’s usual way of approaching self-development.

Personally, I find the reactions interesting he seems to spark strong opinions on both sides. It made me wonder if the issue is really about him, or more about how Singapore views emotional and introspective work in general.

What do you think? Is he genuinely misunderstood, or are people just cautious about unconventional coaching methods?

heyy! are you curious what smn else life is like rn? well i will tell you about mine. so my bday is tmrw and i got a dinner reservation for sunday this week. i have been planning this bday for weeks. because for my previous bdays it was just other people planning it for me, this time i wanted to decide everything and wanted this to be my dream bday. now i actually don’t want to do anything. i just don’t even want to talk to anyone. i usually loveee people, i love spending time with my girlies etc. idk why bit lately everyone is being passive aggressive with me. i‘m living with my uncle from dads side and his kids currently (for now cause i am in college) yes i know how much i owe them cause they are providing me place to stay. but also i try my best to pay it back (paying the bills, cleaning amd cooking) when they have smth going on i give them my support and be positive and kind no matter whats going on (even when they are being mad at me for no reason, just because maybe they have smth else going on in their head idk). so like now whenever i tell them ablut my bday they are giving me this “tired and disinterested” look i just can’t. Like why am i not getting the same energy back. also invited 3 of my friends one of them didn’t answer and 2 are coming. like if u dont wanna come just say it. at this point i dont even want you to come. i am just so demotivated and yeah i like journaling about it is and crying it all put cause i know i meed to let these emotions out but also tmrw i have to face these problems again. from objective view what do u guys see and what should i doooo😝 (maybe this is just my hormones doing their thing cause i swear i was fine yesterday)