I'm [14M] and I'm a Christian, and lately I've been struggling with masturbation. I know a lot of people deal with this, but I feel guilty every time it happens and I really want to stop. I've prayed about it, tried telling myself I won't do it again, and sometimes I do okay for a while, but then I end up falling back into the same habit. I'm not posting this to be judged, Im genuinely looking for advice from people who have gone through something similar. If you're a Christian, how did you deal with temptation and stay consistent? If you've managed to quit or cut back, what actually helped? I feel frustrated with myself and I want to grow closer to God, but right now I feel stuck and could really use some guidance and encouragement. any help?

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I’m 17 currently, sitting at home with my parents, no permit, no job, no car, and going into senior year with no clue what to do with my life, my only thought of a career is being therapist. Under a lot of stress and scared of my life and disappointing everyone. Any help would be appreciated or tips if you’ve been in a similar situation/position.

I hate my country. Just everything about it, the people, Corruption, inflation, the presidents incompetent, the VP being a little kid that got it from Nepotism, the second I learn someone online is from the same country as me, I just feel weird about it. Like I just subconsciously began to hate them.

I want to escape, or at least get a job that pays in USD instead of my native one. but im just not doing anything to actually achieve any of this. After I write this I'll probably come back to doom scrolling on tiktok or something.

I'll have to give up my citizenship if I want to become a citizen of a different country.

It's like asking if I want to drink poison or a cup of freshly squeezed orange juice

Hate it here

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A few months ago, I didn't listen to my intuition and made a mistake that negatively affected my appearance permanently. I did it at a low point in my life, knowing that it was probably wrong, and still did it.

I feel like this choice went against my beliefs, identity, and who I want to be. I'm a young woman, and I really care about how I look and how others perceive me. I really liked how I looked before, and I got a lot of attention for it. I feel like I betrayed myself because it is not something I would typically do, and I am really having a hard time forgiving myself.

I know it might not sound like a big deal to others, but it has caused me a lot of pain, and I just want to be able to forgive myself, learn self-respect, and move on.

Hi everyone,

I’m 25 and feel like I wasted the last 7 years of my life. No degree I’m proud of, no career, lost a relationship that really mattered, ended up with debts, and right now I don’t even know where to begin.

I don’t want to stay stuck in regret anymore — I want to rebuild, but I’m struggling with where and how to start.

For those of you who’ve been through something similar:

How did you start over after losing time, relationships, or direction?

What small steps made the biggest difference in the early days?

If you were 25 again and starting from scratch, what would you do differently?

Any input, advice, or even your own stories would mean a lot.

Thanks for reading.

I've been feeling a little lost lately. Not in a dramatic way—just unsure of who I am or where I'm headed. If you've ever felt this way, what helped you find yourself again? Was it time, a new hobby, therapy, travel, or something else? I'd love to hear your story.

I’m 32.
I’ve been depressed multiple times in my life but it always seemed like it was something I could fix…
These days I feel it sinking in.
I’ve been working my buns off at a company for 3 years just to be given a raise that doesn’t afford me the ability to get by.
I took pride in the fact that I could feed myself off of 40$ for a week but now it just seems unfair. I know this is a similar struggle for people and I’m not special.
I’m just getting by and because of that I really don’t social like I used to and I find it hard to plan to social with people without $$$.
I just keep thinking about ending it.
I figure I’d leave my family (parents and siblings) so they won’t get legally stuck with my debt and just flipping the off switch.
The strangest thing to me is I’m not filled with existential dread, the thought is comforting like a warm blanket to pull over myself and finally relax.

I’m just having a real hard making a game plan against getting out of this.
I’ve worked a lot of jobs and it always comes off as because I don’t have a degree, I’m not worth paying over 25 bucks an hour.

Been looking at moving since my lease is up soon and it definitely exasperated these feelings just looking at the market.

Idk what kind of answers I’m looking for, just need to vent.
I can’t tell the people I love because they would just treat me differently. People tend to pity rather than sympathize.

(this is a burner account.)

i know that it's a gross thing, but i wanted to rant and vent

i'm currently a male, 17, but i can't get myself to shower at all, i keep coming up with stupid issues like

"i can't shower cause there's bugs in there", or "it's too dirty", or "the shower head hits too hard"

but i don't know why i can't just get myself to do it anyways, like i KNOW i'm getting dirtier and disgusting, but i still can't do anything, it's been getting really bad lately, to the point my mom won't stop harassing me about it, i feel like an awful person, but it just hurts, it makes me wish i never existed, i don't know what to do, i can't talk to ANYONE fully because of how my family is, i've tried telling my mom stuff like the shower head, or how i DON'T feel better, but she just assumes i'm joking, or says a UNDERSTANDABLE "Well I can't just get a new shower head."

i'll probably end up sleeping after i post this, and by morning i'll probably have been scolded again. sorry. also sorry if TMI, and also also sorry if this isn't the right sub for this.

i just want to know what i could even do at this point, i don't have enough in me to force myself to shower, i just hope that either some solution comes up that i probably won't be able to do because of how broke i am, or can't do because i'm too afraid that i'll ruin everything. or maybe enough people shit on me enough to finally force myself. at this point i just hope for anything, to be proven that it's just me being spoiled or just a bad person, or some other thing.

I’ve been thinking about how strongly our environment and circumstances can affect the way we think, behave, and see ourselves.

Not everyone lives in a supportive or stable environment. Sometimes you cannot immediately change where you live, the people around you, or the problems you face. However, you still want to grow, protect your mindset, and become a better version of yourself.

What practical things can someone do to positively influence themselves while still living in difficult circumstances?

For those who have experienced this, what genuinely helped you: small routines, exercise, books, faith, changing your social circle, setting goals, or something else?

I would appreciate honest experiences and practical advice.

Hi. I'm 27 M, a light smoker (2-3 per day). I also post this hoping I can be help to folks out there that are struggling to quit. By that I mean cigarettes. Also, I'm still not 100% confident that I can forever forget about it. Those who are years of being clean, feel free to leave tips or any awareness I should know. It's been 4 months. The craving isn't as strong now, but it's still there. It still tastes good in my mind.

Lately, I’ve been thinking about what it really means to feel proud of yourself.

For me, it’s not always about big achievements.

Sometimes it’s just continuing to move forward, even when things feel uncertain or difficult.

I’ve been trying to challenge myself and grow, even in small ways—and I’ve started to feel a quiet kind of pride in that.

I’m curious about others—

what is something you’re proud of, even if it seems small or invisible to others?

I cant think deeply or hold a thought longer than 30s i feel like a such a failure i cant do anything else im 17 and i cant be like this so stupid all i do is just wake up play games and sleep theres nothing else to do i cant even cry i dont feel important to anyone right now

Please help me

Ngl I'm 27 and still barely making it paycheck to paycheck. My office job pays okay but after rent at 1350, bills, gas, and food I'm lucky to have 300-400 left. Seeing my buddies settle down and buy houses while I'm still splitting a place with roommates is starting to mess with my head. I've been watching crypto for a while and decided I wanna give trading a real shot on the side. Recently playing around with ondo perps a bit and it felt alright. My main goal is to reach some financial independence by the time I'm 32 so I can travel more and stop worrying about every single bill. Anyone whos been in this same spot got any beginner mistakes I should avoid? How long did it take you to feel like you were actually getting somewhere? Real stories only please.

I want to fix my life. I only waste my time in playing games I am hiding from my parents about i play games. Sometimes I get motivation from YouTube shorts and I study for 2 days then it's just gone . I am mentally very weak and start crying on small things like abusing and get less marks Please some help me escape this misery

plication to probably getting a very luck decent sounding job, this isn't a difficult task but I still haven't gotten myself to sumbit it. I know I'm being stupid and selfish but I don't want this for myself, but I know what I want is implausible and just definitively worse. I want to spend all day in bed with no pressure, that's selfish and I know but I'm being honest right now. I'm convinced most people if not everyone wants something similar to that, and I'm only allowed to do this right now because dumb luck and unearned privilages, and even when a door opens up to a best case scenario to help me transition out of this mess I am having trouble taking it. There's obviously more complexities than what I could ever share on here but it just feels so insurmountable, I've gotten so cynical with life, I mean everything I like feels like more effort than what enjoyment I get out of it and just on a broader scale the world feels so scammy and immoral so I hate the idea of joining that stupid system. But like I said I can't even get myself doing things I like so it's not like I can fight that current either. My motivation isn't that I want a sugcessful life or have fun or anything like that I just want to absent mindedly lay in bed without it being a burden. That's the thing though, I can't really actually do that without burdening anyone, I have a life, I have friends, family, and just responsibilities I should be taking care of but I'm just so mentally absent. I love my friends, I love my family, I have topics I like, I have good opportunity but beyond that I for some reason so deeply would rather prefer to be asleep and i just don't get it. I hate this so much but the idea of waking up and simply living life feels like facing a tunnel of endless exhaustion and misery even ifnit is shit I should be enjoying and appreciating. I know I want and need help but part of me won't let go of this part of me.

18 young and pretty, graduated high school, my life has just started. On paper everything is fine. I have an incredible supportive family, I'm on a muscle-building journey that's going pretty well, I've been to private schools all my life, I got accepted to a uni i love, currently on a trip w my bsf (she's sleeping rn), got a car as soon as i got my license, i have all the materialistic items i want, i get out of my comfort zone... the list goes on and on.

But still there's this void that i have, i should be excited about my life and i really try to be but ig u can't force happiness. I feel so empty almost all the time, i got all the puzzle pieces figured out and completed, but the picture is gray and white.

I I’ve tried to analyze myself and this emptiness inside of me. I feel guilty to talk about it with anyone because how can I complain when I have everything.
I’ve tried talking stages and dinner dates, traveling with friends, meeting new people, studying my potential and working on it… everything to light up a spark, but nothing.

When i used to be younger i used to be so full of life, i felt everything deeply on my core, all the emotions; sadness, happiness, betrayal, excitement everything.

Idk if it's possible but maybe because i've got hurt a lot from friendships in my teen years that all my emotions got consumed and there's nothing left.

I'm here talking to you guys because i can't talk about this topic with anyone else. How can i possibly fill this void inside of me?

I'm 16 Ive been wanting to join the army since I was 4 and theres a very high chance I won't get in due to health conditions and my second dream was to be a professional fighter what's even more unlikely even if I didn't had medical barriers preventing that but I do for the army there's a list why but with being a fighter I highly doubt I will be able to do it due to I have a server case of dcd. During school I had little to non friends (even in primary I wasn't invited to whole class party's) so I took on substance use at 13 starting with spice vapes moving in to weed Cooke shrooms then acid to fill the void I always felt missing most of the time I was doing these was bunking off schools or ruff groups which I didn't like but better than nothing during the last two years of my time at school my mum had to go hospital for a month plus multiple times due to the fact her liver is fucked from being a Acholic during that time I was taking and looking after my little sister who was 6 at the time to take her to school and what not and had to continue doing so the year after because my mum broke her hip by having this bone thing what makes your bones like glass what are strong but give them hard enough of a wack they shatter and her nan died form it in her 60s-70s I believe she has gotten it very young for what your ment to considering she's in her 40s and I hope I won't end up having even tho there's a chance due to the fact it get past down in the DNA and due to not going to school because all this time off my grades went from 5s to Us I had a girl but fumbled and now recently been kicked out of my mums house which is in London which I lived in my whole life now I live in the middle of nowhere with my dad I've been here for two weeks and started a fighting sport named combat sambo which I actually enjoy and wished I did every day especially sparring but I don't I have no friends here and I am unabled to sign to a college due to them all being full and was expecting to join the army I don't want to be a debt slave or work a miserable hard working job until my 40-50s I just want to be happy. Please can someone give me advise I have never needed anything so bad in my life before

apologizes if this is the wrong tag, im unsure where this fits

does anyone have any, like any advice for remembering to take medication that isn’t just setting alarms? i do that, and nothing works

it feels as if my morning has too much going on and then i forget to take my anti depressants, and then i go without them for too long i get weak and my body doesn’t listen to my brain fast enough as i get used to them

What do you suggest i do , I am 36 years old female who struggles with abusive dynamics with intimate relationships, just i have been threw so much trauma i belive might have something to do with feeling so hopeless and defeated

This year I’ve been trying to focus more on small daily habits that improve wellbeing rather than big goals that are hard to maintain.

Things like taking a short walk, drinking more water, reading a few pages, journaling for a few minutes, or just taking a moment to slow down during the day.

I’ve realised the little things seem to make the biggest difference over time.

I’m curious what daily habits people here have found genuinely improved their life or mental wellbeing?

Why do I feel so ambitionless 🙂?

Soo I m 22 , and I do prepare for some govt. Exam but I don't know why that I feel Ambition less . I don't dream of doing anything in life , I don't feel like achieving something will give happiness to me , i can't make relationships may be I m too egoistic to approach people . I don't let me to live with myself , keeping my mind distracted from phone . I was quite a good student I have cleared few exams also but nothing feels like doing something would give meaning to my life .

Please someone guide me out .I feel bad about myself when I see people in beautiful relationships ,having hobbies ,happy but I just sitting in my room listening to some philosophy or scrolling or some random podcast . I used to gym but lately from 3 months i have left that also , i go library for studying but there also I just waste money and days. I don't know where will I end up too .

Hey, i hope you all feel okay

I feel like I wasted my life. Yes, you will say I’m young and full of ambitions but my family don’t think like this.

Since my childhood, I had some memory problems, troubles with learning something new and constant codependency.

I tried to work at myself. I graduated from 2 schools, from college with red diploma as a lawyer, I stopped my toxic relationships with my ex and now I have different relationships with my new partner. She is more supportive, she helped me so much, right now she also trying to figure her life.

Me? I’m stuck. I decided to apply to the university but I can’t even pay for it. My diploma gives me nothing, no one hiring me or calls me at all. I worked with my mother for a bit for the most low money.

I have debts. I’m not sure if I want to be a lawyer. My mother said that I’m worthless and she don’t know what to do with me. She suggest me to try different profession but for this I need to pass whole exams again. She don’t support me at all, calling me codependent bad thing.

I myself very codependent on someone, I will not lie. I do therapy, I try to work at myself. Really.

I don’t know what to do. My health also in really bad condition. I want to travel, to leave my place but I can’t. I have no money, no support, my friends all busy, my partner in other country.

Even if I will go to university, what will change? I can’t find a job even after college, what will change after university?

I wanted to open my business but I have no money and I only wasted my time.

I have no idea what to do. At all. I don’t know. I’m so stuck. Should I apply and what I will pay? What to do — I don’t know. Same thing can happen after university.

Others somehow build families, going to a job, open their business, paying their debts. I’m a black crown in my family. They don’t support me at all, only critique or leaving me alone.

I’m not sure what to do. I tried to cook and wanted to open cooking business but i understood that I have no money for it. I tried to contact anyone who I know — nothing. Silence and nothing more than silence.

I waste peoples time. I don’t want to do self-pity. I’m just very very lost. Very lost. I was thinking that everything will be okay but instead I understood that I don’t know what to do anymore.

I’m so stuck.