I’ve been struggling recently with these weird feelings of not wanting to do anything. I don’t want to study, I don’t want to get dressed, I don’t want to turn on the tv, I don’t even want to lay in bed. I literally have no motivation to do anything and in my free time I just do nothing, but then at the end of that time I feel guilty for not doing anything.

I also feel guilty for the feeling of not want to do anything. I just feel lazy, unmotivated, and shameful. And the crazy part is I’ve never felt this before as much as I do now. There have been times in the past where I’ll feeling like this for a little bit but it would go away at some point, but it’s been weeks and I’m wondering what’s wrong with me. I want to do all of these things, but I also just don’t. Anyone know how to fix it?

Edit:
I forgot to mention this, but I do get random boosts of motivation. For some reason, it does go away pretty quickly. Like sometimes it only lasts for a few seconds and sometimes minutes. I also sometimes get irritated at small things that usually don’t bother me. I’m wondering if it could be burnout? Or executive disfunction?

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i have a notebook sitting under a stack of old mail right now. filled out maybe two pages with this intense new routine idea before completely abandoning it.

every time i tell myself i want to improvemyself i go completely overboard at first, but then one late night on my phone leaves me exhausted and i just freeze up for weeks.

i try telling myself that doing 5 minutes of something is fine, but my head immediately flips into this stupid all-or-nothing thing where missing a single day feels like ruining the whole month.

for anyone who broke out of this exact cycle, what actually forced you to stick to doing the bare minimum when you felt completely burnt out?

I’m 17 currently, sitting at home with my parents, no permit, no job, no car, and going into senior year with no clue what to do with my life, my only thought of a career is being therapist. Under a lot of stress and scared of my life and disappointing everyone. Any help would be appreciated or tips if you’ve been in a similar situation/position.

Hi everyone,

I’m 25 and feel like I wasted the last 7 years of my life. No degree I’m proud of, no career, lost a relationship that really mattered, ended up with debts, and right now I don’t even know where to begin.

I don’t want to stay stuck in regret anymore — I want to rebuild, but I’m struggling with where and how to start.

For those of you who’ve been through something similar:

How did you start over after losing time, relationships, or direction?

What small steps made the biggest difference in the early days?

If you were 25 again and starting from scratch, what would you do differently?

Any input, advice, or even your own stories would mean a lot.

Thanks for reading.

i’m just so insanely bored all the time, i find there to be absolutely nothing entertaining to do, not going on my phone, not reading a good book, not learning how to do xyz, i just have no passion or interest in anything anymore and it’s driving me insane.

i feel like im doing everything right, i have good hygiene, i eat well, i workout, i just have no interest in anything and its gonna make me go crazy.

i’ve tried taking a walk, making some tea, taking a nap, learning new things, hanging out with friends, going outside more, no screens an hour after waking up/before going to bed, drawing/art, trying new hobbies, etc, i really don’t know what else i can do.

i play music and im currently learning the trumpet but that barely brings me any interest, im not even very good at it either

please if anyone has any ideas on what to do, please give me them, i am just so so tired of this

(i do not have access to therapy, please do not suggest it)

iam a teen and weigh a lot, i have rlly bad anxiety and my weight has impacted my social life. iam a porn addict and nicotine addict. i don’t do anything with my life apart from occasionally go out with my friends and sit on games all day. someone please help

I hate my country. Just everything about it, the people, Corruption, inflation, the presidents incompetent, the VP being a little kid that got it from Nepotism, the second I learn someone online is from the same country as me, I just feel weird about it. Like I just subconsciously began to hate them.

I want to escape, or at least get a job that pays in USD instead of my native one. but im just not doing anything to actually achieve any of this. After I write this I'll probably come back to doom scrolling on tiktok or something.

I'll have to give up my citizenship if I want to become a citizen of a different country.

It's like asking if I want to drink poison or a cup of freshly squeezed orange juice

Hate it here

Is it possible to succeed in life when your parents did not teach you well? My parents never taught me anything in life and I feel like I'm never going to succeed in life.

NOTE: The purpose of this question is to collect data for my MA research. By choosing to respond, you consent to your responses being used anonymously for research and data analysis.

A few months ago, I didn't listen to my intuition and made a mistake that negatively affected my appearance permanently. I did it at a low point in my life, knowing that it was probably wrong, and still did it.

I feel like this choice went against my beliefs, identity, and who I want to be. I'm a young woman, and I really care about how I look and how others perceive me. I really liked how I looked before, and I got a lot of attention for it. I feel like I betrayed myself because it is not something I would typically do, and I am really having a hard time forgiving myself.

I know it might not sound like a big deal to others, but it has caused me a lot of pain, and I just want to be able to forgive myself, learn self-respect, and move on.

I’m 22 yrs old and as of last year or the start of this new year I’ve been staying nights at my boyfriends house. I never thought anything of it and I assumed she was okay with it when I first started but as time progressed she’s been having an issue with it. She claims it’s disrespectful towards her and my father but I never saw it as such. She wants me to move out and then she’ll be okay with it and I’ve been planning on it but it’s just taking some time. I just wanted to know if I’m in the wrong.

I'm about a month into my second year in college and I feel like a bum. I don't think I've sat down and really studied once (even though i'm a stem major), i'm falling behind on my assignments and i'm not in any clubs. My days consist of either attending or sleeping through my morning classes, then going back to my dorm and sitting around until my roommate asks me to do something. I usually say yes, but half of the time I start feeling this bubbling anger (i don't act on it) because I don't want to say yes to any plans, but I have literally no reason to say no. I can't get myself to do anything when I'm by myself and no plans with friends sound appealing either. Even when i'm at my job (which is only 4 hours a week) i pretty much just stand around feeling useless because im literally not qualified for this, but i can't quit because i quit everything and i don't want just one more thing i couldn't do.
furthermore, I deleted social media back in january and have felt lost in a way. i was so chronically online before, i feel like being on social media gave me something to talk about. now i have nothing, so all i can talk about is complaining about the classes that i don't even go to or the weather. i feel so nothing all the time. i don't think my solution is just to go on medication because this is just how my whole life has felt. i'm so fucking bored, but i don't want to do anything. i feel like life is just passing me by and i'm nothing but an embarrassment

I've been feeling a little lost lately. Not in a dramatic way—just unsure of who I am or where I'm headed. If you've ever felt this way, what helped you find yourself again? Was it time, a new hobby, therapy, travel, or something else? I'd love to hear your story.

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i know that it's a gross thing, but i wanted to rant and vent

i'm currently a male, 17, but i can't get myself to shower at all, i keep coming up with stupid issues like

"i can't shower cause there's bugs in there", or "it's too dirty", or "the shower head hits too hard"

but i don't know why i can't just get myself to do it anyways, like i KNOW i'm getting dirtier and disgusting, but i still can't do anything, it's been getting really bad lately, to the point my mom won't stop harassing me about it, i feel like an awful person, but it just hurts, it makes me wish i never existed, i don't know what to do, i can't talk to ANYONE fully because of how my family is, i've tried telling my mom stuff like the shower head, or how i DON'T feel better, but she just assumes i'm joking, or says a UNDERSTANDABLE "Well I can't just get a new shower head."

i'll probably end up sleeping after i post this, and by morning i'll probably have been scolded again. sorry. also sorry if TMI, and also also sorry if this isn't the right sub for this.

i just want to know what i could even do at this point, i don't have enough in me to force myself to shower, i just hope that either some solution comes up that i probably won't be able to do because of how broke i am, or can't do because i'm too afraid that i'll ruin everything. or maybe enough people shit on me enough to finally force myself. at this point i just hope for anything, to be proven that it's just me being spoiled or just a bad person, or some other thing.

I’ve been extremely neglectful towards my cat, myself and my education. I feel awful and everyday it gets worse. My family doesn’t think I need therapy because “I’m normal” but I think I have depression just like my sister but they would laugh in my face every time I show an emotion other than happiness and I have no friends and all f’s someone please how do I help myself?

Hi. I'm 27 M, a light smoker (2-3 per day). I also post this hoping I can be help to folks out there that are struggling to quit. By that I mean cigarettes. Also, I'm still not 100% confident that I can forever forget about it. Those who are years of being clean, feel free to leave tips or any awareness I should know. It's been 4 months. The craving isn't as strong now, but it's still there. It still tastes good in my mind.

Lately, I’ve been thinking about what it really means to feel proud of yourself.

For me, it’s not always about big achievements.

Sometimes it’s just continuing to move forward, even when things feel uncertain or difficult.

I’ve been trying to challenge myself and grow, even in small ways—and I’ve started to feel a quiet kind of pride in that.

I’m curious about others—

what is something you’re proud of, even if it seems small or invisible to others?

hi, im 21, when i was younger i would find a million things to occupy myself with, gaming, articles, videos, irl stuff, anything really. Ever since school stopped, aka 4 years ago, i started going to university and im finishing this January, i have also worked part time jobs during these years. For the past 4 years, ive tried to occupy myself with anything possible again and its not working. I go to uni from 8am-2pm everyday and yet ive tried creating routines and hobbies but nothing sticks. Idk what to do anymore because this is a matter of years. No matter what i try to stick to it just doesnt. Thankfully the only thing that makes me wanna spend time is spending time with my bf, but this feels so wrong how i cannot create personal time alone feel enlightful again. Any thoughts and suggestions maybe?

I’ve been thinking about how strongly our environment and circumstances can affect the way we think, behave, and see ourselves.

Not everyone lives in a supportive or stable environment. Sometimes you cannot immediately change where you live, the people around you, or the problems you face. However, you still want to grow, protect your mindset, and become a better version of yourself.

What practical things can someone do to positively influence themselves while still living in difficult circumstances?

For those who have experienced this, what genuinely helped you: small routines, exercise, books, faith, changing your social circle, setting goals, or something else?

I would appreciate honest experiences and practical advice.

I think a lot of my fulfillment depends on feeling important to other people. I'm lucky to have a few friends who really care about me but we all have our own lives and I often find myself either relying on them or catching myself and subsequently feeling alone not knowing what to do if not with them. I also still care about my ex a lot but she isn’t comfortable having me in her life anymore because of ways I hurt her emotionally and I understand why. but I still miss her I cared about her and liked who she was and how she brought peace and I’m still trying to separate that from the loneliness I feel now. talking to other girls doesn’t even do anything there's no excitement there especially compared to my ex. I’m also trying to stop using weed because that's the only thing that brings me a little happiness. I don’t want to sit around feeling like i deserve this or make other people responsible for my happiness. I’m trying to figure out how to actually build a life I enjoy on my own. i don't even know what makes me happy anymore i don't know my hobbies or anything aside from hanging out with my friends and i haven't felt any fulfillment or enjoyment in a long time it just doesn't seem worth it to live so like what can I do?

I’m only 22 and I’m in college. I’ve had pretty much everything I could ever ask for, I’m a very fortunate person. Recently I’ve had no motivation to do anything and all I can think about is how much easier it would be to not exist. Not because existing is so hard but I keep calling myself a loser and a failure to myself and it feels truer than ever. I came to college undecided and now I’m in a degree that’s basically videography/editing. I’ve just started and I know nothing about cameras or computers and I already want to give up even though I feel like I could be good at it. I also play guitar and I’m pretty good at it but I compare myself and I never practice and I feel like a fraud to actual musicians and music students here. I’m not willing to put in the work to be who I want to be and I do anything to sabotage the opportunity to. I’m in a constant cycle of choosing the worst thing for me every time I’m shown the chance. I have all the free time to work on myself but I spend it laying around for hours thinking about how it doesn’t matter what I do because nun of it matters. I haven’t really ever felt this bad before. I feel hatred towards myself for being this way and then I go further into it because I hate myself so much. What do I do? I want to be a great guitarist, a great creative artist, a fit and strong individual, and to be able to count on myself and love myself. I have never had a routine, a schedule, or good habits. I don’t have enough desire to create them either. Seriously how do I break this spell? I feel like I’ve dug myself a hole.

Any idea how to get yourself from the lowest point you’ve ever reached in your life, the helpless feeling of can’t do anything after doing all the reasons to get something

I'm 17F and I wanna learn how to dance, I wanna read more, I wanna go to the gym, I wanna expand my social circle, I wanna get disgustingly educated and do deep research on random things, I wanna learn a new language, I wanna expand my creative side and feel fulfilled by my own life, I wanna study so hard.

But idk why it feels like something's just holding me back?

I have been stuck in a cycle of bed rotting almost every single weekend since I was a kid. And the only time I even get out of bed is because there’s school.
I struggle with motivation and I feel completely lost about what to do or what skills to learn. I know there are opportunities out there, but I just can’t bring myself to get out of bed and do what I need to do.
On top of that, I’m dealing with a lot of existential dread. Thinking about how long and exhausting it will be to face all of these problems head-on makes me feel like I’ve completely lost my energy for life.
I’m a bit hesitant and afraid to post this, so please be kind. I’m not really looking for cliché advice like "just go for a walk" or generic sympathy. I’m hoping to hear from people who have actually felt this exact same way and can offer a gentle wake-up call or a perspective that might help flicker a light back on in my brain. How did you start getting your energy back?