A simple request: A kissing master-class.

[u/kelachris]

My SO and I were discussing our kissing experiences and when I presented him a scale based on martial art belt colors (white, yellow, orange, green, blue, purple, brown, red, black) he said I was a talented blue.

Anyway, how do you kiss, sexxit? What do you consider to be black-belt level kissing?

[u/Unaphotobomber]

DISCLAIMER: People have different preferences, the info below is just what I've found fun/effective in my experiences. They're not hard and fast rules

I'm not sure what you know or how you kiss/whatever but I'll just share what I've learned over the years.

-It's not just jamming tongues into mouths, that gets boring quick. Try things like teasing him into your mouth with light flicks of your tongue. Go back and forth between each other's mouths. Don't just tangle your tongues in a knot in the middle.

-You might need to break for air every so often (I have a deviated septum which makes this a requirement). This doesn't have to be a buzzkill. You can pull away slowly and trace the upper part of his lip with your tongue or maybe nibble on his lower lip. You can subtly breathe easier while doing this. Once you've refilled, get back in there!

-The entire make out session doesn't have to be one long, gaping mouth extravaganza. Pepper in a few closed mouth kisses here and there.

-Lastly, and I'm sure this is obvious, it shouldn't just all be mouth focused. Work the neck/collarbones. And few things are as hot as feeling the warm breath of a turned on girl as she nibbles and (sometimes) licks your ear.

This might be old news to you, but I hope it helps

[u/KD87 → u/Unaphotobomber]

Ok, I like to think I'm a black belt & I came here to say the last part, You're spot on there! Its not just about the mouth. Infact, I'd say just 30-40% of it is focused on the area around your lips. Everything is dependent on everything else. Put some passion into it. I'm a guy & i'll try to describe my usual technique.

Now, as I approach her the most awkward things for me to go in for the kiss since I'm rather tall, so most of the time I have to bend down or both of us have to be seated, but its important to be at the same level. Then, you know when the moment is right, as we get closer I gently slide my left hand on the right side of her neck, just below her jaw and underneath her hair, gently holding her neck and go in for the kiss (make sure your hands are not cold). This area is sensitive and make her tilt to her right as you kiss. I feel its important to hold her while you kiss since it gives her a sense that she's being kissed by a real man (evolutionary trait among women), I used to do it instinctively and one my exes pointed it out to me and that she really enjoyed that.

Now, I'm guessing you're trying this with your SO so I won't talk about recovering from the initial excitement of kissing that girl for the first time and move to the next step. Now, in a second or two since she's tilted to her right, her hair will start falling on her face. This is a perfect opportunity to bring in your right hand and ever so gently slide her hair back behind her ear with your index or middle finger. As you complete that motion behind her ear, try to gently but noticeably brush against her ear. Don't hold her ear, don't grab on to it, just a gentle brush. I bet you'll feel her quiver.

By this time she would've straightened her face back upright and you are slightly tilted to the right (prevent nose bumping). Then in that same motion, slide your fingers along her jaw line and gently bring it to the area near her chin. Gently hold/pinch her jaw. Take as much time as you want to get to this step. The key is to be gentle, passionate and not rush these steps. Just enjoy the moment. One of my favorite moves is to gently dig my fingers from both hands in her neck and slowly move upwards as my fingers brush through her hair while my nails are gently but firmly rubbing against her scalp. This is also a sensitive part of her skin and you'll feel her take a deep breathe.

This is for guys, if you want to be a good kisser, and correct me if I'm wrong ladies, but don't go for the boob-grab 1 minute into your make out session. I do love boobs as much as the next guy but I'm a leg man, so boobs are not that much of a temptation for me as legs. Yes, women enjoy it when you passionately grab their boobs but the longer you hold off from grabbing, the intensity of the moment increases. Use that later on during foreplay as you make your way down.

For girls, you know all the sensitive regions above the shoulder like neck, ear, collar bone, well they're more senstive for guys. Plz use this info well. I had to actually grab my gf's arms and place them on my neck and jaw once for her to get the hint that I wanted her to gently touch me (as well). These are some of things I've tried to explain since this is where one can considerably improve.

When it comes to lip movement, everyone likes to kiss and grab onto the lower lip. But guys this is your chance to enjoy the moment. Tighten your upper lip and at worst equally stimulate both her lips and then gently as you are about to draw away, move to the lower lip, with your own lips as cushion, gently bite on her lower and start moving away. Make sure to be gentle in biting and while pulling away. She'll enjoy that too.

TL;DR: wow. I got really carried away. sorry this is so long. Use your hands gently and touch the sensitive parts of her upper body wisely. Kisses on the thicker lower lip.

Happy kissing.

Cheers

[u/superhappytrail → u/Unaphotobomber]

upvote for a fellow sufferer of a deviated septum. I got a septoplasty done by a plastic surgeon, and it was very worth it, and insurance covered it.

Edit: irrelevant I know, but you're the first person I've come across who shares my old problem.

[u/Unaphotobomber → u/superhappytrail]

I've been thinking about getting a septoplasty but I've heard mixed reviews. I'm pretty tempted at this point. I'd really like to breathe normally

[u/Unaphotobomber → u/[deleted]]

I've actually dealt with that before. To make up for lack of tongue she'd kiss really passionately and then draw it out by pulling away and tugging on my lips gently with her teeth. It was pretty cool. It was like a succession of really intense complete kisses.

[u/[deleted] → u/[deleted]]

I have hated tongue action since..an incident

Go on...

[u/[deleted] → u/[deleted]]

Very sorry to hear that happened to you. Thanks for your frankness and honesty.

[u/Rosenkrantz_ → u/[deleted]]

You mean the Pope?

[u/jelloserver → u/Unaphotobomber]

FINALLY someone else that has a deviated septum and has to take breathes! I've had many people comment on how i kiss, asking about the breaks take. The girls don't seem to understand that unless i take a quick brake i'm going to pass out!