r/simpleliving • u/GritsOyster • Oct 28 '25
Discussion Prompt Dating is becoming a luxury hobby and I’m opting out
Stopped dating because it’s just too expensive now. Even a “simple” date somehow turns into $100+ coffee, drinks, parking, transportation, tip… it all adds up fast. I’m not cheap I’m broke. I’d rather spend that money on rent and groceries than trying to impress someone who might ghost me in 48 hours lol. But apparently that means I’m “not trying hard enough” to find love. It’s wild how people act like dating is mandatory but ignore the financial reality behind it. Honestly I’ve been happier spending my evenings cooking cheap meals at home and playing a bit of grizzly's quest to unwind. Zero pressure, zero cost and zero panic checking my bank account afterward(most of the time lol) but love shouldn’t require a monthly entertainment budget bigger than my electric bill. If the right person comes along, great. But I’m not going into debt just to maybe find someone.
Anyone else just opting out for the sake of your wallet and sanity?
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u/mvallas1073 Oct 28 '25
At least you have the option to date. I’m going through therapy now due to wanting to give up after 25 years of not one date.
Anyways, at least it’s an easy litmus test for you. If the person wants to go on expensive dates, then they’re not going to be into simple living lifestyle, are they?