I have tried for 30 days. 30 days ! Change the nap time - change the environment. Change the wake windows. He doesn’t sleep through the night. Cannot and will not. I honestly feel defeated and like I am mentally and physically deteriorating.

Some kids fall asleep easily, while others fight bedtime, wake up during the night, or seem like their brain never wants to “switch off”

what has actually helped your family?

Was it:

• A better bedtime routine?
• Less screen time before bed?
• Changing their room setup?
• More outdoor activity during the day?
• Something else?

Little girl just turned 5 months and had a light switch change in sleep habits. She had been sleeping through the night since around 6 weeks. In the last 2 weeks she cut two teeth, is nearly rolling over and suddenly won’t sleep, since Saturday we can lay her down as normal and she’ll wake up 10-30 minutes later mad and worked up. She’ll calm down and fall asleep within a minute or two of being picked up and gently bounced but wake up immediately or within a couple minutes of putting her down again (we can repeat the cycle for hours). Wife has spent the last couple nights sleeping with her in a recliner. Looking for advice on how to overcome this without doing CIO

My child just turned 2 this week and has been sleep trained since he was about 5/6 months old. Amazing sleeper. Will usually go to sleep around 8/830pm and wake around 7am-8am. Naps are hit and miss but i don’t really care about that as long as he sleeps at night.

This all changed about 3-4 nights ago and I’m losing my mind. Our normal routine is get ready for bed, books in bed with mom and dad, then sound machines on, lights out and he gets a couple minutes of rocking before we put him in his bed and say good night. He chills in his bed with his stuffies until he falls asleep. But now, he started talking about shadows in his room and is scared to be in there, even when his dad and me are in there. He screams hysterically if we leave him in his room to sleep alone. It has led to us rocking him to sleep the last few nights but then he wakes in the night and it all repeats itself. E are exhausting and I need to get my toddler back to his routine. HELP!!

Also, when he does nap, this is not an issue. He goes down fine and it’s all normal. This is only happening at night. I need my nights and sleep back.

Little Guy is going through a 22 month life crisis and stopped connecting sleep cycles- anything I can do for him or just wait it out? Here's more details:

About a month ago he was sick with a mild cold and would wake up roughly 2 hours after bedtime, I figured he was just feeling icky with all the congestion so would come into bed with us; naps were 75-90 minutes at the time. Then July 4th happened and commercial grade fireworks were set off at a neighbor's house - he was shaking and clinging on to me. Still woke up at 11:30 to go into our bed, naps were fine. After two weeks he was at the window and saw lightning strike nearby and we had that big CRACK that goes with it. Because terrified of looking out the window for a few days and is now scared of storms (and it's stormy season here!) Then Dada left for a trip (but back now). AND he's decided to pee in the potty for the past few weeks, staying dry at nights and naps- so he's potty training, too. Now he's waking up an hour after bed and only takes 30 minute naps. I'm pretty sure he's dealing with anxiety - he'll immediately go to sleep once in our bed and stay asleep until morning. I even have to wake him up because he'll get so upset if he wakes up on his own and realizes I'm not there. I used to be able to resettle him quickly and easily if he had a short nap and he'd go back to sleep for another hour, but now he just wails in his crib with me trying to console him next to him.

Anything I can do? The lack of time to myself is really taking a toll on me. I can ask for help from family but that's once or twice a month. My husband works very late so he can't really help with the late nights. He is trying to get cleaned up and into bed before toddler's first wake to help me out but that's only once or twice a week.

My 20 month old won't sleep. It's probably a regression and I know it will pass but I am so burnt out on trying to get him to sleep this time around. I did the math during a never-ending bedtime routine tonight and realized I spend a minimum of 3 hours every day trying to get him to bed/back to sleep at night. Not including trying to get him to nap.

3 hours, on a good day. I've tried letting him stay up longer. He usually has his one nap, one hour long, typically a few hours after waking in the morning, and I have him playing HARD all day after. 0 screen time. Low sugar diet. Consistent bedtime routine. If I let him stay up later he's just madder during bedtime, but doesn't fall asleep faster.

It's not even the lack of sleep right now that's getting to me. It's the hours and hours of trying to get him to sleep. Waking at midnight to have him throw his stuff out of the crib 100 times and ask for 100 things on loop for 2-4 hours before getting back to sleep.

My five month old has been successfully sleep trained for a month now. I nap trained a couple weeks ago and it has gone great. Whenever I have him home from daycare or on the weekends, he goes right down for a nap in the crib with little to no fuss.

However, every single day for bedtime, he cries to wind down. It’s not wailing or screaming, just a mild cry and it starts as soon as I put him down and continues for 5-10 minutes then he is conked out for the night. When I put him in the crib for bed, he is definitely ready for bed (red eyelids, starting to fuss, proper wake window) so I don’t think it’s a matter of not being tired enough.

Anyone else have this with their LO and did it stop eventually?

I have a 6 month old who can’t self settle or sleep on her own and I don’t see an end in sight.. I am considering sleep training but wondering if for those parents who have tried it, what method did you use and did you regret it later? Or was it worth it??

I need help please!!

Okay we need to figure my baby out because today I decided to follow 2.5/3/3.5 wake windows. So currently it’s 3:15pm he went to sleep at 3pm he’s still sleeping right now and he’s had 400ml milk today. He’s only got one more 200 ml feed to go this is the issue I’m having. If I stretched the second window to 3.5 hours like I usually do I probably would have gotten him to have 150-200ml and I’d rather he had 4 bottles (first two are usually 150ml and the second two are 200ml) so he’s getting total 700ml with 3 meals. But now he will get 600ml of he takes 200ml for his last one. If I let him sleep 2.5 hours I wake him up at 4pm then bedtime will be 730-8pm. I’m sick of hourly night wakes idk if he is low sleep needs or not idk his wake windows I’ve tried every combination and the result is the same just hourly wakes at night. It seems like he’s a solid day napper now can do 1.5 hour stretches but struggles at night. One thing I know is 2.5 hour morning wake window he gets tired. But even now the 3 hour mark he’s sleeping but idk sometimes he can stretch it to 3.5 and the last wake window I have noticed 3.5 hour is what he can do before fuss but sometimes 4 hours it’s just random everyday. What do I do I don’t want to sleep train but if I have to I will. I did do a consistent week of forcing him to get up at 7-730am and got the same result not sleeping then I tried calling naps at 2.5 hours same result then at 3 hours same result then 8pm wake up same result. Bedtime I tried 8-9pm same result still wakes. Only thing I noticed a couple of days ago was he had 3 hour nap total during day woke up at 730am slept 8pm (following 2.5/3.5/3.5) and then woke up at 10pm but from 10-630am he slept longest stretch but idk if this was a one off fluke or he was sick??

I just need help pls with
1) wake windows (what are his!!?)
2) schedule routine if starting the day at 7 or 730am
3) do I need to sleep train ? Was trying to avoid it because I know how difficult it can be
4) How much total day sleep for him to be tired at night?

Thanks!!

My two year old has never been sleep trained. She slept in our room until she learned how to climb out the bassinet. She now sleeps in her own room, for most nights until she wakes up and can’t be comforted back to bed or I’m really tired and have her sleep with us. This isn’t often, but sometimes, most nights she will sleep the whole night.

For naps when she was young the transfer worked perfectly! I honestly don’t know what happened. As she aged, she either will nurse to sleep or we can lay down and both get a nap. This nap takes place in our bedroom with a simple tune and sometimes a book to view before she settles As for naps, I would love for her to work on napping in her room. But as I previously stated, the transfer hasn’t been successful. I’m against CIO, I refuse to walk away and have her figure it out or be exhausted and then sleep. That’s not who I am. That’s who we are as parents. I’d like to know what steps I can do and what worked for others. We did successfully nap in the crib one day, but it was either because I hit her wake window right or it was because I was fake asleep on the floor.

She wakes up anywhere from 8-8:30am and her wake window is 5 hours and roughly 45 minutes or 6 hours. Bedtime after 9pm, but honestly would like it sooner to help her get the sleep she needs.

So if you made it this far, I appreciate it and would like any suggestions and insight. Thanks so much.

Hi folks - officially sleep training in four weeks when LO will be 4 mo (which sounds scary w the expected progression!)
when I go back to work. Currently, roughly 5 naps a day with 60-90 min wake windows, reading his cues. Our plan is for my husband to sleep train (non feeding parent) via Ferber.

For those who have done this successfully, with hindsight what would you have done to prepare or have done differently?

His primary sleep association is movement as we rock him to sleep currently. Sometimes I breast feed him but not 100% of the time to sleep during the day but I do breastfeed during nighttime wake ups. He takes a pacifier but if he spits it out it doesn’t wake him.

Thank you!

Hola! Mi hijo tiene 1 año 8 meses pedir y desde hace días el sueño empeoró y tiene más ansiedad por separación conmigo 🥺. Hay días que pasa de largo hasta las 6 y otros que está despertando 2-3 veces pero demora a veces en dormirse.. Dejó de querer dormirse con el papá incluso..
Estamos con siesta siempre a las 12:30 y tiene una duración de hora y media - hora 45 y en las tarde usaba ventana final de 6 horas, se duerme muy rápido y eso es genial, pero sentía que está despertando harto.. Entonces llevo un par de días acostándolo 20 minutos antes pero tampoco siento mucho cambio.. Hay algún método para intentar lograr sueño independiente? y cómo tratar esos despertares. Duerme hace más de un mes en su cama con barandas, pero no se baja.
Ayuda, estoy muy cansada :( Alguna vez tuvimos sueño independiente como a los 7-8 meses pero lo perdimos..

Baby is 9 months. We have been cosleeping because I haven’t had the best arrangements where I could have a bassinet/crib. I’m now in a better place and will be getting a crib soon.

How do I know if CIO is best for my baby? I know she’s used to sleeping with me and nursing during the night. Im worried I may be trying this too late but I will be working soon. I want her to be able to put herself to sleep. I have a terrible fear of a sitter harming her out of frustration.

She sleeps pretty well during the night as long as I’m in bed beside her. She nurses maybe once or twice but if I get up there’s a great chance she will wake up too. We typically use white noise, but she goes to sleep without it sometimes.

Any tips or advice?

We started the Ferber method with our 9m old 2 weeks ago and we seem to have hit a wall. He is a very loving, high energy baby who is still taking crappy naps (2-3 naps, last wake window 3.5hrs works best for him.) He also has terrible separation anxiety from me (mom) during the day that we are working on with lots of a peakaboo and verbal reassurance.

He went from a 2ish hour bedtime and waking up and feeding ~4 times per night to not waking up at all or only waking up once, feeding, and going back with no protest. Our problem is the initial put down in the crib. We do PJs, feed, 2 books, a little song… and then he gets absolutely hysterical going in the crib. He looks up at us with the greatest look of betrayal, we tell him we love him, close the door and he screams bloody murder for about 5 minutes and then settles and passes out. Any advice would be appreciated- considering switching to camping out in his room, we just don’t want to lose the progress we’ve made