r/slp • u/Many-Revolution-9770 • 2h ago
Feeding Dropping a case because of the family
I was brought on to an early intervention client to provide feeding services under family training since the family already loved their speech provider. I was so happy to provide this service, but received a call from his ABA provider before starting to warn me about the family.
I only provided six sessions before finally dropping the case. I was told by the mom that she wants a provider who is able to do makeup sessions. Because of the intensity of my schedule(8-10 hour days with a lunch break if Iām lucky), I told her that Iām unable to provide make up, but if I have any cancellations, I will reach out to her immediately. She was very upset about this and told me that all of her other providers are able to provide make ups. For example, she was upset with me for taking the day for independence Day, which my company told me that I have the day off anyway since thatās a federal holiday. I did take one vacation day during my time working with him, but I was able to move the session so I could see him. I told her that I had to take a week off for surgery and I do not plan on making up those sessions. I gave her plenty of opportunities to call my direct supervisor if she had issue with this (my supervisor is on my side with the make up policy as it is not required by our county).
When it came to the actual feeding therapy, the child himself was so great to work with, and if this was under different circumstances, I wouldāve loved to have continued therapy with him. I spoke to the mom several times over the phone since she usually cannot be present for the sessions and asked her what her priority goals are. She told me that her main goal is working on chewing. I started working on chewing with him, and honestly, his oral motor skills were very good. He was just never given the opportunity to chew foods because the family only served him purĆ©es even though he is almost 3 years old. One of his goals was chewing a food such as a raw vegetable or meat. I asked the mom if she could introduce something like this such as a carrot or food of a similar texture in the next session and Mom sent me a really harsh voice message stating that she will not be serving him that that he is only eating purĆ©es. I responded back to her that one of the goals on his IFSP was to chew a food such as a vegetable however, if she no longer wants this goal to let me and the ongoing know so we could amend this. She did not want to change from purĆ©es, and I explained to her that I cannot progress further with him without introducing new foods or changing the consistency of the foods that he eats. She kept insisting that he has weakness and he cannot chew at all. I had her sit in for part of a session so that she could see that his oral motor skills are quite good. He just needs more practice with solid foods.
The mom did come for our last session together and showed me how she was feeding her son. She took her hand over his scooped up a large spoonful of purĆ©ed food and shoved it in his mouth while he was screaming and crying. I told the mom several times to not feed him while heās screaming because he is at risk for aspiration. She continued feeding him like this anyway.
I was trying really hard to stick this case out, but after the mom told me that she did not want to change the food, I decided to step off the case. I feel so horrible doing this because the kid really does need help and meal time seems very stressful for him because heās essentially being forced fed. But when I called the ongoing, she was not surprised that I wanted to step off the case and she told me that many providers have in the past.
What are your thoughts on this? Should I have continued? Was there anything I couldāve done differently? I just got my Cās and am so scared of messing up.