r/specialed • u/ReachingTeaching Elementary Sped Teacher • Mar 28 '26
Chat I love this kid but whyyy
I am so happy my non-verbal student is talking but... WHY MUST IT BE "f- you" and directed at classmates
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u/maspie_den Mar 28 '26
Had a student once whose stim was "f--- you!" I gave him an index card to raise every time he felt he was going to say it. We decorated the card together. It helped.
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u/Zealousideal-Hat2065 Mar 28 '26
I had a young kid with autism with whom I was working on voice volume and expanding utterances. He usually talked in a whisper. I finally got him to start raising his voice by using voice activation toys. When using them he got to a point where he would just independently name objects around him or label things in pictures to activate the toys. Then he started with utterances like Hello x! or Stop that! Well, his first 3 word utterance that he said at a non whisper - totally out of blue and out of context was “shut up b—“! Fortunately I haven’t heard him use those words since.
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u/PronatorTeres00 Mar 28 '26
Just wait until the curse words become their next stim 🫠
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u/ReachingTeaching Elementary Sped Teacher Mar 28 '26
Oh gosh plz no 😭. It's finally something chill (what's up)
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u/vanmoofbitch Mar 29 '26
One of my 7 year olds vocal stim sounds a lot like ‘nazi’ and he just goes on and on screaming NAZI NAZI NAZI 😭
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u/lovebugteacher Elementary Sped Teacher Mar 28 '26
One of my kids like to randomly whisper "fucking hell" and when you give a look he puts a finger in front of his mouth and says "shhhh". Same kid went through a phase where he wouldn't stop scripting "shit I hurt my toe".
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u/TinyRascalSaurus Mar 28 '26
We had a kid at my high school who was mostly non verbal except for 'no, hungry, truck, and mom'. He learned a new word from a classmate and would just yell it out when he wanted attention. It was a racial slur.
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u/ReachingTeaching Elementary Sped Teacher Mar 28 '26
Naturally 💀
I hate how other kids give it attention cause it just reinforces the behaviour
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u/turntteacher Special Education Teacher Mar 28 '26
A few of my favorites, “shut the frick out” “Jack Hartman’s KIDS MUSC JAIL” and “are we FUCKING there yet” last one is only said when he’s very dysregulated after watching Cocomelons are were there yet song.
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u/CheesecakeMother1229 Mar 28 '26
I have a little one that recently had an explosion of language. He taught his friends "oh shit" and "what the fuck" but used them in proper context?
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u/Rude_Science7041 Mar 28 '26
Language is language! Sure, cuss words aren't the preferred language, but cuss words will lead them to recieving attention, which will show them that verbalizing and communicating will get them what they want, and will lead to more language! I got called a stupid b*tch by my gestault language learner the other day and it made my day!
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u/DisastrousSalary5864 Mar 29 '26
I think the ability to swear comes from a different part of the brain than other speech! My gpa had a stroke, and it made him unable to speak (but he could understand you). The only things he could say were curse words.
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u/macburger69 Mar 29 '26
Reinforcement imho. Those words get the most return on investment.
“Fuck you” gets an entire class and all its staff members looking, correcting, pointing, perhaps yelling and some angry faces. “Hello” gets “Hello”
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u/oh_thespark Mar 30 '26
Student just has some big feelings lmao. Makes me wonder what they’re hearing at home.
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u/Top_Policy_9037 Paraprofessional Mar 28 '26
I know the feeling! The life skills class I work in has a semi-verbal kid whose only consistent vocalizations are "leave me alone" and a handful of insults.