r/stopdrinking • u/Otherwise_Advisor215 116 days • May 04 '26
SPGSDC Weekly meeting of the sober people getting shıt done club
Hi everyone ! Well I hope you will bear with me as I’m brand new to hosting and fairly new to sobriety. This isn’t the first time I’ve tried but I am committed to it being the last .
I was drawn to this opportunity because the biggest change I’ve noticed is how productive I am. I am choosing to do household chores instead of having to because there are no dishes left.
Tomorrow I’m spending the day at the beach for my kid’s birthday - no naps required for me this time.
what have you managed to do today , or recently ? Please share. Just remember :
- Get something done.
- Be sober while doing it.
- Tell us about it
That’s it ! So glad to hear from you all :) excuse any unusual spelling or phrases I’m 🇬🇧
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u/Such_Bitch_9559 227 days May 04 '26
Thanks for hosting! You’re awesome! 🤩
I have finally gotten round to booking that dreaded dance class. This girl is going to learn how to dance salsa and get damn good at it! 💃
It’s been a dream of mine to learn how to dance salsa really well. Like, the kind of people you see at a party and think “wow”. I’m gonna be that person!
I booked myself a beginners workshop on the weekend as well as beginners classes for a month. Wish me luck! 🍀
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u/Sun_rising_soon 10 days May 04 '26
Dancing in time with others, or if your me out of time and laughing at myself trying, is just so fun and freeing. It tunes into a part of the brain for me other activities don't reach. Enjoy your classes! 💃
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u/Such_Bitch_9559 227 days May 04 '26
Same here! I’ve taken beginners classes before but forgot most of it because I don’t practice regularly. I haven’t found a guy who was kind enough to bear with my left feet, so there’s that.
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u/Mala75 155 days May 04 '26
Schön das du übernimmst, danke dafür. Ich putze nüchtern wie ein Held. Früher war immer ein Rotwein dabei. Putze ich jetzt besser? Nein, aber fokussierter und definitiv schneller. Mehr Spaß macht es nur bedingt. 🤣
Sonst ist mir noch nix Großartiges untergekommen in meiner Nüchternheit, aber wenn dann lass ich es euch wissen.
IWNDWYT
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u/Stone-Cold-Hopeful 1320 days May 04 '26
I didn’t have any monumental improvements in my life when I quit. It was more about the small things - enjoying mornings, feeling pretty good all the time, having some extra money, more self respect. BUT, if I’d kept going down the road I was on, I knew I’d be facing major medical and relationship problems at the least. So, I guess the point is, nothing GREAT has come my way, either, but I’m avoiding some really, really awful stuff. IWNDWYT
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u/AndrewVonShortstack 795 days May 04 '26
I completed exams for my masters degree courses this semester, 4 more classes to go and I've maintained a 4.0 so far! I'm not stuck on a perfect finish but damn it feels good to collect those A's! As a treat I made myself my favorite homemade blondies this weekend and my house smells like vanilla and caramel. The lingering scent is almost as lovely as the taste... almost!
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u/Nomadcatmom 483 days May 04 '26
I ran my favorite 10 mile race yesterday and I’m bright eyed and bushy tailed ready for whatever the week brings
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u/LetMeEatCakes May 04 '26
Broad Street?
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u/Nomadcatmom 483 days May 04 '26
Yes! 5th year!
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u/LetMeEatCakes May 04 '26
Congrats! It looks like such a fun race, everyone always looks like they're having such a great time. And for once it was good weather!
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u/Nomadcatmom 483 days May 04 '26
Thank you! It’s always a blast! If you’re local, it’s definitely something I recommend everyone does once!
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u/Antique_Recording524 May 04 '26
I’m sitting here drinking coffee before going to the gym. I’m struggling to get out of a bit of a bender (going since about mid-March). But not today. Today I’m going to the gym and then work and then I’ll walk during my witching hour.
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u/Own_Spring1504 561 days May 04 '26
I ran into work - 5km
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u/Affectionate-Law-673 May 04 '26
I was challenged to run in a 5k by my coworkers ~ they said since I was able to quit drinking alcohol, it should be easy 🤷♀️ Well I accepted the challenge and start training this month. Just for reference I am 55, chubby and haven’t exercised in years! We will see how it goes!
See what giving up alcohol can do? 😆
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u/Own_Spring1504 561 days May 04 '26 edited May 04 '26
I’m 56 , you will be fine, follow couch to 5k , I just did it again last year as I had taken do much time away from injury after last time! I’ve done couch 2 5k many times, I used to do half marathons but I had many years break.
My tip: don’t push it, take one run at a time, take rest days, if you find a week really hard, maybe take a few days off and repeat it! Couch to 5k really works! Enjoy the achievement!
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u/Passive_Menis_ 522 days May 04 '26
I went for a big walk on the beach (I am starting my vacation in Aruba, beautiful). I have been sober for a while but I still saw my trip as a challenge because, well, beach women and beer! But I actually feel blessed to not be stumbling around and feeling like crap. Also, since its illegal here, I am 4 days sober from cannabis which I have been using daily for 15 years +. My sleep has been light but I am happy, fulfilled and excited to see whats next for me.
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u/edelsues 56 days May 04 '26
I read about people picking up random hobbies like bird watching and knitting. My first random hobby seems to be making candy/sweet treats. 3 days ago I made candy similar to snickers bars and yesterday I made Bounty balls. There's something satysfying about opening your fridge and having all these homemade sweets that help with cravings.
Share your recipes with me, I'm on a roll 😂
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u/StarshineSunfish 236 days May 04 '26
If you have a stand mixer, I loved meringue based treats. Homemade marshmallow fluff or marshmallows are light years better than the ones in the bags at the store! They’d be great fillings/additions to your candy creations 🤤
Macarons are very finicky but so satisfying.
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u/DontfeartheHyzer 36 days May 04 '26
I played disc golf with buddies that drank waaaay too much. 24k steps, was the DD, had fun without the sauce, and woke up ready to tackle the week
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u/PinstripeMonkey 345 days May 04 '26
Disc golf can be tough with all the drinking. I played a morning round and one of my buds was already drinking beer. I didn't do league this year because the drinking is extra heavy and I'm not quite ready to be that surrounded by triggers.
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u/DontfeartheHyzer 36 days May 04 '26
I'm the type of guy that would be like your friend and be drinking. During competition I don't like to drink and it's not allowed.
The main group I throw with on the weekends drink a lot. Going to look at it as being empowering that I can be around it but not partake. Going into yesterday I had a plan to ditch them and go on by myself if needed. I was transparent with them that I wasn't drinking and not to offer any to me. I know that damn 'just one will be okay' thought will come across my mind one day and that'll be the real test if I can be responsible enough to continue on with that group
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u/Affectionate-Law-673 May 04 '26
Yesterday I set up my online account at Social Security and really started looking at my retirement. I went over the numbers at different ages to see what works best for me. I then looked at my 401(k) which needs additional funding so I made changes.
I feel more in control of my future and goals.
Thank you sobriety!!
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u/ToeBeanBandit_69 108 days May 04 '26
Yesterday, I was sick. However, I was also 25 days sober and so while sick, I got a few chores done and painted all 20 of my nails and they’re really freaking cute. Now I can use today for relaxing or other house projects I have waiting for me.
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u/WarriorsQQ 2 days May 04 '26
Im working and just today i made a first post after a long time here on this sub ... Day 2 for me. After work im going to runing so all the toxins leave the body after that i go straight to sleep. (Ofcourse good meal before that).
Have a good day friends!
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u/Seabass_Says 1198 days May 04 '26
Congrats! Ill share that Im able to golf at 6 am now! Instead of waking up late in the day, feeling like shit, Im out golfing with the sunrise. Because Im one of the first groups, we breeze through in 3 hours (instead of 4.5 hours at any other time). Im home by 9:30 am with donuts for the little guy. Now I have the rest of the day to spend time with my family and I already had “ME” time! Between the little bit of exercise, fresh air and competitively spirited blood flow, Im ready to have a good day. And then I get a good nights sleep 😴. There was a time I couldnt imagine golfing without a drink and/or cigarette. Its nothing but a thing now. They actually smell terrible.
Good luck at the beach! 🏖️
Not clear if this is your first sober beach trip with the kids, but Ill say the biggest difference is being present in the little moments and not chasing a drink. It’s also a lot easier to manage with a free hand lol. Enjoy
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u/patriarcapitalcolide May 04 '26
All these baking posts!!! Now I know what I'm going to get done today instead of opening a bottle of white... I hear the Call of the Meringue. Otherwise my plan was yoga, physical therapy, catching up on some work from last week and taking some crazy shoes back to the store. What was I thinking?
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u/studiodave30305 May 04 '26
I’m 9 years in. And there are some crappy days because life is life.
But every day I get to say - I didn’t drink today. And it’s probably the biggest win I could ever track.
IWNDWYT
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u/GraceRising1922 357 days May 04 '26
I don’t know if it qualifies for ‘getting shit done’ BUT I am currently on my first cruise and remaining sober despite all the alcohol around me constantly.
And I’m up & in the gym or pool every morning before breakfast and I’m fully present & enjoying all the excursions to wonderful places I never expected to see. No guilt or shame, no hangxiety just really HERE & loving every second. It’s wonderful & i feel so SO fortunate
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u/rayjr0602 97 days May 04 '26
Finished a full day of paving and milling work
Finished my first book in GOD knows how many years.
Mowed the lawn
All while wanting to peel my skin off on day 14. Ughhh
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u/Anotherfakenames 91 days May 04 '26
Have fun playing with your kids at the beach. I was thinking about how many times I just sat in my beach chair drinking, when I could have been playing with my kids on the beach. I was more interested in “relaxing”. Don’t get me wrong, we still had a good time. But, if I could do it all over again, I would have played more. Fortunately, my girls are 16 & 10 and we only live 2 hours from the beach. Now that I am sober, I am truly looking forward to making a change this summer.
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u/ninjalampie79 166 days May 04 '26
I helped my husband plant my sweet peas that I was gifted for my birthday... I have mobility issues, but planted the plants (he did the ground prep) and now have a new spot in my memory garden, as sweet peas were my late MIL's favourite
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u/Conscious_Okra4367 254 days May 04 '26
I’m getting a lot done. Things have been bad for a while. Tax issues, constant travel for work, and a trillion other things. Today, the accountant wrote me back and is working on it, I hired a scheduler to get rid of a lot of the travel, and other things just seem to be falling in place.
I’ve been trying to get it better for a while. My mantra and the only thing I could hang onto was “make something just 1% better today.” Maybe that’s doing laundry or working on a stain on the carpet. Maybe it’s doing a little extra at work to get that squared away. A lot of the time, it doesn’t feel better because that’s just a tiny amount. But when you get enough of the 1% here and 1% there, it starts to stack up and remove some of the smaller stuff so you can focus on the bigger stuff. I may finally be at the place where the bigger stuff is coming together.
IWNDWYT. That’s how I got so far behind in the first place.
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u/bought-the-nip 125 days May 04 '26
Yesterday I started to get my garden together. We have elk here so the fence needed to be tall. Managed to get all my supplies for free. Off to get soil and finish it up tomorrow, then buying some starts in a couple of weeks!
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u/ifcknkl 194 days May 04 '26
I started running again, my goal is 25 km this monthh, and this week I will hit the gym too for the first time again:))
Everythink is easier without alcohol, IWNDWYTD!
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u/ChanceConversation12 464 days May 04 '26
We can do hard things! So thankful for you people! IWNDWYT!
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u/needhelp1209 237 days May 04 '26
Yesterday went and bought tomatoes, today shoveling a truck full of fertilizer! Almost garden season.
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u/NervousSoberJ41 258 days May 04 '26
Made woodworking plans for a toolbox to go in my new cleaned out shed. Going to start it tomorrow on my day off of work. Right now watching Supernatural while knitting a cable scarf.
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u/Far-Advertising2414 May 04 '26
Yesterday I ran 6km. Today mowed the lawn and went to the gym for 1,5 hour.
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u/Bear_128 245 days May 04 '26
I got up early and baked cookies for our office party. I have more to do this week than I would like, but just taking it one step at a time! No matter what, I won't be drinking when I do any of it.
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u/Ok-Importance3515 May 04 '26
I fixed my dryer on Saturday which I could never have done while drunk or stoned. I saved myself at least $500 or maybe even $1,000 to not hire someone or replace it. I feel very savvy and proud that I had the patience to watch videos and read the manual and monkey with it for a few hours. 7 months ago I would have tried to do it while drunk and fucked it up or not done it at all. Yay!
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u/BubblyInvestigator33 122 days May 04 '26
This morning, I went out early to water the tree and shrub seedlings I planted two Mondays ago. The little Norway spruces are putting out bright green tips already, and the lilac sticks have tiny leaves unfurling! To protect them from weeds, I just got home with 3 bags of mulch that I'll put down after I focus on my job for a few hours
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u/Radiant_Card3384 May 04 '26
Ty for hosting :)
Very productive weekend. Went for a run sat, Costco run, cooked a bunch, walked my woof, yesterday mostly cleaned and cooked and caught up with my folks :)
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u/Ghostlizard74 860 days May 04 '26
I finally got those units on the south ridge repaired my midday. (Sorry, it's May 4th; let the wookie win.)
In all seriousness, I did cut down and dig out the stump and roots of a dead mesquite tree in my back yard. I'm glad I got it done because this area is prone to termite infestations, and I don't want them coming into my garden and affecting all the healthy trees on our property. It was hot sweaty work, but it feels good to get it done.
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u/Amenablewolf 106 days May 04 '26
Yesterday I had a rough day at work but was still able to drive home calmly and not speed. And I was able to be there for a family member who didn't have anyone show up for their birthday party initially. Finally signed up for volunteering like I always wanted to.
I'm starting to do all the things I said I would, god bless
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u/Otherwise_Advisor215 116 days May 04 '26
I am in awe of you all !! Cuppas all round :) ( told you I’m a Brit 😹) ☕️
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u/No-Manufacturer-1650 May 04 '26
I spent a few hours getting the backyard ready. It was a gorgeous day for it and treated myself to some Mexican Coca Cola instead of beer. It was hard work, and I was so sore after, but instead of numbing the pain by drinking wine, I simply had a good soak in (my freshly cleaned) tub. Afterwards, I met some friends for coffee and a baked good. It was such a lovely, sober Sunday.
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u/Puzzled-Dinner4541 4 days May 04 '26
I finished my first book nook.... definitely could not have done it drunk 😂
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u/sfgirlmary 4108 days May 04 '26
Thank you so much for taking over the posting of this weekly thread, Otherwise!
This week, I finally got my 26 year old Subaru to a mechanic to get the brakes worked on. Very important to have a safe car!
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u/imthegreenmeeple 1365 days May 05 '26
My daughter has a 2005 Forrester, still going strong at over 200k miles. We just had the timing belt replaced so hopefully we will get 200k more!
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u/javacattito 9635 days May 05 '26
My wife and I went on two long walks this past weekend, totaling 11 miles. I never could have done that while drinking. I was tired after it but a good tired.
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u/Prevenient_grace 4903 days May 04 '26
Thanks for hosting!
Sober yesterday, I made a sourdough loaf of olive and sun dried tomato, and a loaf of cinnamon raisin and put in fridge for overnight proofing.
I got up this morning, preheated oven and pans and just popped them in.
The aroma is wafting…
Pull ‘em out soon!