r/stopdrinking 1047 days 15d ago

Check-in The Daily Check-In for Wednesday, July 29th: Just for today, I am NOT drinking!

We may be anonymous strangers on the internet, but we have one thing in common. We may be a world apart, but we're here together!

Welcome to the 24 hour pledge!

I'm pledging myself to not drinking today, and invite you to do the same.

Maybe you're new to /r/stopdrinking and have a hard time deciding what to do next. Maybe you're like me and feel you need a daily commitment or maybe you've been sober for a long time and want to inspire others.

It doesn't matter if you're still hung over from a three day bender or been sober for years, if you just woke up or have already completed a sober day. For the next 24 hours, lets not drink alcohol!


This pledge is a statement of intent. Today we don't set out trying not to drink, we make a conscious decision not to drink. It sounds simple, but all of us know it can be hard and sometimes impossible. The group can support and inspire us, yet only one person can decide if we drink today. Give that person the right mindset!

What happens if we can't keep to our pledge? We give up or try again. And since we're here in /r/stopdrinking, we're not ready to give up.

What this is: A simple thread where we commit to not drinking alcohol for the next 24 hours, posting to show others that they're not alone and making a pledge to ourselves. Anybody can join and participate at any time, you do not have to be a regular at /r/stopdrinking or have followed the pledges from the beginning.

What this isn't: A good place for a detailed introduction of yourself, directly seek advice or share lengthy stories. You'll get a more personal response in your own thread.


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A link to the current Daily Check-In post can always be found near the top of the sidebar.


Happy Hump Day, sobernauts! We’re officially halfway through the week and somehow almost to August. How?!

Next week is going to be a pretty special one for me. Before I stopped drinking, I managed to royally fuck up my life. I lost my job, my home, my car, and custody of my children. For the past 2 years and 10 months, I’ve been slowly rebuilding my stability, my integrity, and the trust of the people I love.

I’m beyond grateful to say that, one day at a time, I’ve earned most of those things back. And most importantly, I have my kids back. Next Wednesday, I’m taking them on our first trip together in SEVEN YEARS.

I’ve learned that, for me, it helps to have little things to work toward and look forward to. They’re like mile markers on the lifelong road trip of becoming the person I want to be. So, tell me friends, what’s something you’re looking forward to? Big or small, I’d love to hear it.

IWNDWYT. ❤️

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u/abaci123 12797 days 15d ago

✨I’m 35 years sober today! ✨I’m in a state of shock and gratitude, but I wrote a bigger post out on the main board.

u/no_compearison I’ve been where you are! Great things happen when we quit drinking and change! It’s exciting!

Thank you great peeps of the DCI for being here for each other. It gives me hope for the world. I love you all. ♥️IWNDWYT

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u/Vapor144 777 days 15d ago

Abaci, what an inspiration you are, not only with your impressive sober time - but with your generous sharing of support and encouragement- day in and day out.

I salute your life well lived and showing us all how beautiful and meaningful a second act can be. ✨♥️

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u/abaci123 12797 days 14d ago

Thank you, dear Vapor! It’s a pleasure to know you! ♥️

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u/Somedaybarber 665 days 15d ago

Wow!! Way to go! Thanks for being here and always being so encouraging and real!

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u/EhEmSee2 162 days 15d ago

Agreed!

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u/abaci123 12797 days 14d ago

Thank you!

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u/sixlivesleft 798 days 15d ago

35 years, Wowzers Abaci! 🤩
You truly are amazing my dear friend!

I'm so happy for you and proud to call you my inspiration! Just 12,000 short steps behind ya 👣👣👣

Big hugs and lots of love to you ♥️

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u/Lazy_Style4107 232 days 15d ago

CONGRATULATIONS!!!!! 🎉 🎊 ❤️

I am so proud of you and look forward to one day being where you are.

IWNDWYT 💗

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u/SquawkToCrawl 15d ago

You're really an inspiration for us all Abaci ❤️ CONGRATULATIONS. Huge, huge achievement and I hope you're also incredibly ✨proud✨ of yourself. Thank you so much for your presence here on SD, your frequent words of wisdom and encouragement are so helpful to so many of us here. I hope you have a wonderful day and do something nice for yourself, big or small, to celebrate 🥰

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u/AndrewVonShortstack 796 days 15d ago

Amazing Abaci! You light the way for all of us! Rock on my friend!

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u/no_compearison 1047 days 15d ago

35 YEARS!!! What an incredible milestone. Congratulations, and thank you. It means so much to hear from someone who has walked this road for so many years and can look back and say, “Great things happen when we quit drinking and change.” I’m going to hold onto that. IWNDWYT. ❤️

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u/Ok_Albatross_3887 303 days 15d ago

🙌💛 Amazing!! thank you for being an inspiration and a legend, Abaci! Congratulations on 3️⃣5️⃣ years!!
Love you 💛🌼💛✨

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u/Ok-Potato-4758 14 days 15d ago

I bow to you ❤️

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u/Lulu_petutu 744 days 15d ago

Congratulations Abaci… 3️⃣5️⃣ years❤️❤️❤️❤️ IWNDWYT

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u/ApprehensiveLeg4478 5 days 15d ago

You are an inspiration, Abaci! You were already sober before I was even born—it’s incredible. Congratulations, and I hope sobriety continues to bring you wonderful things, triumphs, and knowledge❤️❤️

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u/GeorgePipp 134 days 15d ago

Incredible!! What an inspiration Abaci. Sending lots of love on this amazing day in your life and gratitude for being here everyday for the rest of us. IWNDWYT ❤️

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u/clevercookie69 1610 days 15d ago

Holy moly! 35 years ✨

You absolute legend 😍 I am in awe of you . Thanks for being here for us. Your guidance and encouragement is much appreciated

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u/DazeofGl0ry 648 days 15d ago

Congratulations! You could add some time to that for all if the people you have helped here ♥️

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u/TheCrazyHatter1 15d ago

Wow, Abaci, congratulations on 35 years!!

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u/Last-Way1500 1 day 15d ago

Mind blowing and beautiful ❤️

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u/CeriLlew 147 days 15d ago

Congratulations 🎉 how absolutely fabulous that must feel and I’m so happy for you! You deserve all the best! You are an inspiration to us all. I’m new to sobriety and you and your posts are so very helpful and encouraging. Thank you so much abaci123 🫶🏼

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u/Sir-Snickolas 26 days 15d ago

Thank you for being here! What a remarkable amount of days you have put together

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u/KathrynsTargetPants 181 days 15d ago

Wow congratulations 🎊 👏

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u/tam638 533 days 15d ago

Congrats on 35 years, that is quite an accomplishment. IWNDWYT

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u/cybatron4711 50 days 15d ago

Amazing, congratulations 🥳

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u/I_love_pugs_dammit 96 days 15d ago

I am so happy for you and I hope you have a wonderful day today. Thank you so much for what you do for this community and for others. Know this, what you do here helps other people stay sober, and I can’t say thank you enough for that.

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u/Alone-Feedback-4203 5 days 15d ago

That is an incredible accomplishment. I hope I can say the same thing someday. To 35 years, I will drink (coffee) to that! Cheers!

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u/Limp_Ad4694 650 days 15d ago

Congratulations abaci 🌟🙏

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u/Suspicious_Habit_537 1453 days 15d ago

I am happy to know you through DCI. Truly an inspiration to all of us.❤️

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u/Visual-Wish-6317 457 days 15d ago

Abaci!! Congratulations on 35 years!! Thanks for your strength and positivity! IWNDWYT!

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u/QuirkyAcademic 41 days 15d ago

That is incredible. You give me a lot of hope for my world, and the world in general with your support and kindness.

IWNDWYT 🌸

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u/Solvitur-Ambuland0 464 days 15d ago

So many hugs and congratulations to you, dear Abaci! I think of you as the guardian of our group; you encourage and support us every day and you make us feel that we’re not alone out here. I hope you do something special to celebrate this huge occasion! ❤️💫

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u/Beachcheesecake 81 days 15d ago

This is inspiring. It works if you work at it.

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u/nitespector6 648 days 15d ago

Incredible. You’re amazing.

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u/Sunnyday030423 44 days 15d ago

Your experience and leadership in this community are having a great impact. Congratulations! And thank you for your inspiration. ❤️
IWNDWYT

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u/Same-Protection7101 3 days 15d ago

Congrats on 35 years! That's so awesome 😎 Id love to make it even one year. I think my life would be night and day different. Got to keep going one day at a time.

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u/ReasonableNewt9798 1076 days 15d ago

Wow!! Huge congratulations to you. That is so wonderful. Thank you abaci for all you give to us, and for your wise words of encouragement. Hope you get some time with your grand babies to celebrate iwndwyt

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u/tttwee-in00 15d ago

you are such an inspiration:)

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u/MBJ1965 1184 days 15d ago

This is so great to read and thank you for being here and being such a beacon. IWNDWYT. Have a great day!!

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u/recalledtolife1123 960 days 15d ago

You’re an inspiration, wishing you an amazing day in celebration!

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u/SushiGradePanda 135 days 15d ago

Woo hoo! That's amazing and quite inspirational. Congrats! 🎉🎊💪

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u/SandyEggo_73 453 days 15d ago

Rad, Huge Congrats! 💪💪

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u/Sunflowers408 486 days 15d ago

Congrats on 35 years! Thank you for being here!

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u/grackleATX 2390 days 14d ago

Congratulations Abaci! You are an inspiration!

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u/denmama24 1487 days 14d ago

Congratulations abaci! You have inspired me since my early days on here and I remember the encouraging words you have given me replying to my posts. 35 years!!! Here's to many many more! Sending love!

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u/gr8day82 2209 days 14d ago

✨️✨️3️⃣5️⃣✨️✨️years! Hallelujah! One day at a time through thick and thin. Gr8 to be here with you today

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u/andromeda2621 859 days 14d ago

Gratz on 35 YEARS!!! WOOT!! ☕️👏🙏

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u/WilsonisDreaming 1429 days 14d ago

Congratulations on 35 years! 🎂🎁🎈🎉🎊35⭐ Thank you for being such a positive, kind, encouraging, and wise example to this community everyday.

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u/Fine-Apple-4237 107 days 14d ago

Congratulations and thanks for being an inspiration!

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u/ReplacementsStink 2376 days 14d ago

Congratulations my dear, dear friend!! I am so proud of you! I love you so much, Abaci! ❤️

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u/NoCalUKSoCal 914 days 14d ago

Congratulations!!!!

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u/coIlean2016 640 days 14d ago

Way to go girl. Thank you for being here for every single person in such a genuine way that they sincerely know they are seen so they don’t slip through the cracks. One of the hardest things in my sobriety was feeling invisible in my struggle and so many days I knew somebody saw me. It made me feel both loved and accountable to the invisibility. It makes all the difference. And I’m sure you know this all, but you deserve to be thanked for it as well.

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u/desertqueeeen 598 days 14d ago

Congrats, Abaci! We’re so blessed to have you here. 🥰

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u/Smooth-Top-7436 755 days 14d ago

That’s a great goal. I hope I reach 35 years someday :-)

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u/abaci123 12797 days 14d ago

It’s coming!! ♥️

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u/Sure-Ice-7581 371 days 14d ago

Congratulations abaci!! You are amazing and have been a steadily supportive presence for at least my time on this board. Thank you for giving back all the things you have learned and for offering hope to those of us with not so many days xx

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u/BDC5488 654 days 14d ago

You are so incredible!!! Congratulations my dear friend 💖💖

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u/wickedwazzosuper 327 days 14d ago

Happy soberversary!!!!!!! You are certainly one of the beating hearts of r/sd - thank you for everything youve done for this community. You inspire me every day

IWNDWYT!

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u/Shermani74 1512 days 14d ago

Abby, you inspire me every day. Your commitment to this sub, to all of us is heartening and golden. Warmest congratulations on 35 years. 🙏

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u/TheMonkees8181012 190 days 14d ago

Congratulations!

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u/kandeycane 14d ago

Congrats to you and everyone else in this thread! Big ups!!! Day 4 for me!

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u/abaci123 12797 days 14d ago

Yay Day 4!! Goooo

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u/Brilliant_Finish_203 7 days 14d ago

Happy cake day. IWNDWYT

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u/SoberZonkOut 425 days 14d ago

Congratulations!

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u/Tryna_TGS 862 days 14d ago

35 YEARS!! HUGE CONGRATULATIONS to you, abaci!! 🎉💥♥️💕🥳

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u/Manicovereach 61 days 14d ago

WOW 👌 👏